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I need help!
Ok, there's this guy at my school (i live in Vermont) who everyone thinks is gay. Even though the rumors are most likely not true, no one wants to be his friend because of rumors, and neither do my friends. I really think it's terrible how people treat him, and I want to be his friend; I don't believe sexual orientation should affect friendship. How should I be his friend without making my friends mad, or making him feel uncomfortable when my friends want to hang out with me?
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You should earnestly get to know everyone, sticking to your morals, and only avoid the people you deam to have bad character.
In junior high, I befriended this new kid that nobody liked because people thought he was gay too. It turned out, that we had a whole lot in common and he became my best friend. He was not gay, and even if he was, it wouldn't change the fact we had a lot in common.
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Don't care what your friends or any other people think. If you want to be his friend go right ahead. It sounds to me that he needs more friends as it is. It's so stupid how people are all against racism and segregation and separtion and everything but yet they still rule out the gays and lesbians. So wat if they are gay?? They are still human beings with feelings and emotions. They are no diffrent from anyone else. If your friends cant respect taht you want to be freinds with this guy then they arent your true freinds. Just because you are freinds with this guy doesnt mean they have to be. But they should at least have the decency to respect that you want to be nice to him.
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If you really believe what you say, then you shouldn't care what your friends think. I guess it's between what you think is right and having everything ok with your friends. I don't think there is a way to have both. You just need to choose between the two. Sorry if that didn't help.
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You should be his friend. If your friends get mad because he's your friend tell him what you told us here. It really doesn't matter if he's gay or not and it's probably just a rumor. I hope I helped!
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You are probably right that the rumors aren't true. and you shouldn't judge a friendship of if they r straight or something... Just be his friend. You shouldn't care about what other people think... soo I think you should just be friends with the guy! good luck
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Stand up for what you think is right, even if you stand alone. It doesn't matter what other people think!!! If he's a cool guy, hang out with him! They might not show it on the outside, but people will secretly admire you for having the courage to not follow the "what's cool" and "what's not cool" rules.
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i think you should tell your friends straight that you dont care. And if they leave you then there not your real friends.
xoxo
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Meet with him and talk about what hes like and see if you have any similarities. Then if you think he's a really good friend tell you friends that hes actually not that bad of a guy, and that they shouldnt listen to rumors.
H.I.H.
simone
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Yeah, sexual orientation should not affect friendship. Talk to your friends about your thoughts, and they should respect your wishes to be friends with the guy. Maybe if they see you being friends with him it will influence them to try it out. But yeah, the people at your school are pretty ignorant, most people are though.
-Farren
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That's OK my friend Justin is changing genders and it's a tough tiem for him. you have to support him and be his friends now matter what. It's not wierd, i have a friend Nick but now everyoen calls him Nicol
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i cannot believe in 2004 people are still behaving this way towards homosexuals..What a great person You are for caring about him. It is hard enough to be whomever you regardless of what person you prefer...so just say hi to him..start a conversation..it may turn out that he is not..but in the end..what we do in our bedrooms is not one's business but upirs.
way to go for caring!
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well you need to be clear with your friends that sexuaL ORIENTATION should not affect friendship
maybe he's gay maybe he's not ,rumors don't just spread around it comes from something.but what I should suggest is face your friends when they understandtell them what you really feel you'll be releived and the guy will know that what the rumors says doesn't bother you.It's the best way I know.after that you know what to do to make a new friend.I hope I helped take care.
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Aww thats so awsome! Just when you too are hanging out and your friend see you guys hanging out.. Tell your friends "You guys, you know its really really mean what your doing and its also really stupid..So if you have a problem with me hanging out with him sometimes your going to have to deal with it" I think thats so awsome that you want to be his friend! But ya just be his friend and if your friends dont accept it then thats to bad. No one should be mean to someone just because of a little thing like that! your awsome hun! Hope i helped!
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If he is gay hes gay, if he isnt someone started a very dumb rumor. If you wanna be his friend...beautiful. If your friends are mad at you, make it clear that you can be friends with whoever you wish. You CAN have other friends besides them.
As for making him feel comfortable around your friends...I would wait to ease him into the social setting, until your friends have gotten used to you socializing with him or when he is comfortable being around your friends.
That boy is a person and doesnt need to be pestered about petty things like sexuality. Good for you for wanting to be friends with him.
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I would talk to your consoler and have them drag you all into some kind of theatre or whatever you have at your school and have them talk about that because they do that sort of stuff at our school and it really gave a new perspective. Plus i no this guy named vlad and he is sooo awesome! I would have them meet someone and see what they think of them and later tell them that he is gay.. or she is whatever.. but yeah.. thats what i would do plus people need to grow up
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Just tell both him and your friends your situation and if their TRUE friends then they'll understand where your coming from! I think it's nce that you look past poeples homosexualities!
~*~KiSsEs~*~
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I think that's really nice of you to want to be his friend. If you're going to do this, you are actually testing your friends at the same time. You are testing how true they are. Explain to them that it doesn't matter what sexual preference someone has, because that doesn't define them as a person. If they still stick to your side through this, then they are good friends. If they leave you out, then they aren't worth your time. You don't have to hang out with him all the time, maybe you could chat with him in the hall or catch him after school. You could also get his number to talk out of school. This way it won't seem so weird. You're a really great person for doing this, so don't let anyone put you down. =)
//laura
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