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im 18 i have a son and im still with his dad but we fight alot the problem is i have a crush on this guy i grew up with he has a kid too and brings his son to my moms daycare i know he likes me but he has a girlfreind they fight sometimes , i want to tell him how i fell but i think that would be tottaly out of place and wrong what do u think ? thanks
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If you two are having serious problems staying together then maybe you need to consider splitting up with the father, and giving the child up for adoption.
Try and act as mature as possible, because you have a kid now. If you can't do that then you need to give up the kid for adoption.
You're only 18, and you don't seem fit to be raising the kid yourself, and I can only assume that the father is the same, seeing how you're both young. You have to decide what's best for the kid in your own judgment.
Can you really maintain a relationship with the father that supports the child with a strong parent-son/daughter relationship? You don't want to have to make the kid live a crappy life.
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First of all, if your going to tell this guy you like him, you should let your son's dad know you dont want to be with him anymore. And second, if you know the guy you like has a girlfriend...then I dont know if it'd be the wisest decision to come in between them, I mean yeah if he loves her he'll tell you but if he says he likes you too make sure you tell him to talk to her bout it all n den get bak to you. good luk
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Having a son makes you an adult now. I think you need to stop worring about what boys you like best, and figure out what you are going to do with you and your son's life.
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I think you should come down and stop thinking about boys so much. Your a KID but now your a MOTHER, so settle down and think about what your going to do with you life. IF you continue like this, YOU will go from one GUY to the other and end up 25yrs. A COUPLE of kids and no DECENT GUY that may WANT YOU.
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re-read the first six words of what you typed and ask yourself the question again... You're 18 years old. You have a son. Your responsibility is to your kid - once you had him, your life is forever changed. That means putting teen-aged drama crap behind you. To think about behaving that way is unfair to you and to your son.
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Do you want things to work out with your boyfriend? Just because you have a child together doesn't mean you have to stay together. But if this other guy wasn't around would you want to try and make things work with your boyfriend? Perhaps take some time out away from them both to decide what you really want. Ask him to think about waht he really wants (your boyfriend that is) ask him why you think you are fighting. How old is your son. People say that the first 18 months after your first child is born is the toughest part of any relationship.
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That must be a kind of hard situation :-/. Well I think that's great that you both have a child because it can let you two relate more. I think that if you really think that it's worth risking your relationship with your current boyfriend, then go for it. But if you cherish your relationship too much, I would let it pass because there's nothing worse than loosing the one you truely love. You have to think hard and decide what you really want. If you are having feelings for someone else, then maybe it shows that your relationship right now is questionable?
love kristin
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i think you should do what ever you think is best...think about your son and if this other guy would be there for him and think about how it would be if you and this other guy got together...think about your son befor makeing any sudden moves u know...and if i were going through what your going through then i would talk to the guy and tell him how i felt and ask him if he felt the same, i hope i helped and i hope everything works out for you!
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