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me and my bf
me and my bf have been together for a long time now. we haven't gone very far at all. he loves me and i love him but he is pressuring me into going further. i know for sure i don't want to because im not ready. im 14. i love him tho and i want to make him happy... what do i do? he respects me and everything so its not like he is like DO IT OR I WILL BREAK UP W/ YOU i can just tell he really wants to and he asks me if i will and stuff. sometimes he tries to do stuff and i tell him to stop but he keeps trying. later i talk to him about it and he says he jsut cant help it. ill rate
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He needs to respect your time like you said, tell him that you feel like he is pressuring you, if you're not ready, you're not ready. ___((~*JULiA*~))
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look you really do have to sit down and talk to him about it, you say he said he respects you so if you tell him you are not ready he sould be ok with that. If he keeps trying to do stuff ater you have talked to him i rekon you should ditch him - i know you have been with him a long time, and that he says he loves and respects you but if he does not love you enough to listen to you he really isnt worth it.
Just plz dont do anything untill your ready, and do it because you want to, not beacasue he does. You will seriously regret it if you do xxxx hope i helped ya hun
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Well ok. I can se you and your bf are really into each other. But you moght wanna be very cautous. He can say its a guy thing but iif you not readdy the he needs to learn no. Also ..... be careful bc one day he moght not listen at all and he could rape you or do worse. But if you do something please please be protected!!!!
hope I helped
QUEENBIANCA2004
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Just because bf wants you to do something that your not ready for that doesn't mean you have to. Try telling him that your not ready for that yet, but you love him and you hope he'll understand.
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well if your not comfortable with somet things that he wants to do, just take time out and tell him that you dont want to do it and that you mean it. theres other ways to get around with pressure and stuff.. you can always try? but thats all up to you hun. but just talk to him, that would be the best thing to do. x0
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Well first since its not a Do it or its over thing just wait till your ready and if he really loves you he'll understand
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You have to do what you want to do. If you dont want to do what he wants to, you have all the right to stop him. If he respected you he wouldnt continue to advance on your when you tell him no. If I was in your situation, I would have a one on one talk with him about the situation. Tell him he's starting to make you feel uncomfortable and that you like the speed you are going at and dont feel ready to advance any further. If this is a problem for him, then I think it would be best for your own well being to break it off with him. :) I hope this helped.
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i dunno wut to tell u but my ex did the same thing to me and i ended up letting him do acouple things then i jus told him no i aint ready for this yet and he tryed again and i told him no so he dumped me.. lol ..well jus tlk to him if yins r in luv he will understand!
shaina
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Well first of all...never let anyone pressure you into doing something you really dont want to. It jus brings a ton of regret afterwards!But if you decide to have sex make shurr you use protection!Also if you are going to...make shurr before you do it that you both talk about it *&* realize what could happen with this decision. Althought protection is the second best option other than abstinence it doesnt always work!
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You should never do something that you really don't want to do! If your bf truly loves you, I think he would understand that. I think you should sit him down and tell him that you don't want to take the relationship to that level yet, and that you just want to take things slower. You're only 14, so make sure you don't do something that you're gonna regret later!
Good Luck!
MysteryGirl
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If he really respects you then he will wait until you are ready. you have to let him know that the more he is pushing you into going further he is actually pushing you away and making you unhappy. You are still young and the worst thing you can do is do something you are not ready to do just because your boyfriend want s you to. You will feel used by doing so and will DEFINITELY regret it. He obviously really cares for you and finds you really attractive and that compilation will make him want to go further-you have to explain to him that just because you aren't going further with him doesn't mean you feel any less for him-tell him he is the one you want to be with and no one else and by being patient and waiting til you are ready will mean a lot to you. Good luck, and don't worry
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tell him if he really loves you and respects you as a person that he will listen to you and just back off. also tell him that you are still very young and do not need to lose your virginity or even rush things like "that" at all.you still have a vast future ahead and you need to really respect and truly love a person b4 doing things like that!
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If he really loves you and respects you like you say he do he will accept it when you tell him your not ready. If he continues to pressure you even after you have told him no he truly does not respect you. You should give him a final warning and tell him to not try to entice you to do something that you are not ready for. If he contineues to persist you should drop him like a bad habit and find someone who truly respects you. Always remember you have to respect yourself first if you expect anyone else to respect you. Continue to stick to your guns you are truly making the right decision. I'm sure you want have any problems finding another friend because you sound like a very level headed young lady. Good Luck!
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Wells maybe he loves you that much to want to go further but if you don't want to N ur not ready then he should respect your desisions! I've been thru it too...one of my exes wanted to do it N kept pressuring me but I told him Bout my morals N he respected them but I still dumped him because I felt Nomore for him cuz from time to time he'd try to go on for further!
hoped I helped PLEASE RATE Me
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you really have to decide for yourself how far you want to go. i an 14 also and some of my old boyfriends tried to make moves on me. moves that i wasnt ready for. so i know how you feel. but just remember, that no matter how much you think you love eachother, you are only 14 and if he really loves you, he will wait a while.
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He does love you, but guys are diffrent from girls rite now. it seems like you to respect each other and love each other which i know every girl would do anything to have, your a lucky girl. yet if he is doing something you dont like allow him till your breaking point, but dont let him get to far or you will lose your respect and he mite think he could do anything. put maybe you should bend a little to, not to much but enough to show him " i love you so much i will do this for you" but rember if its to far DONT DO IT no matter what, the last thing you want to do is make a mistake that will keep with you for a while, be independent and stand for yourself
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Well he sounds like the kind of guy who would understand...so maybe you just need to talk to him...because if you can't talk to him, then he is not really that good of a boyfriend. I was in the same situation once, and talking to him worked...you just have to make it sound serious, dont just mention it, talk about it!!!
-Hope I helped *Banna*
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Hey, yah that must be a kind of hard situation to be in...What I would do, is everytime you two start messing around, right when you start to feel uncomfortable, make it OBVIOUS, like you have been. I know you want to make him happy, etc, but you always need to make sure that you, YOURSELF, feel happy and content. After you feel happy and comfortable with doing whatever, then you can start trying to make him feel happy by doing whatever you want to do [sexually]
hope this helps =]
love kristin
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its good he respects you, but you've really got to lay down the line here. when he asks to do stuff with you, explain how important it is to you that you wait until you're ready. be firm about this so he understands. guys' hormones are crazy sometimes, but they can be controlled. you really have to be strong because what if you break up? then the special bond between you will be broken. you would have already given away something that should be given to the person you are truly in love with. i can't make your decision, but i hope you choose waht's best for yourself. if he keeps trying to do things with you after all you've done to stop it, this may signify a break up. its nice to know hes respecting you, but by pressuring you like that he is not being respectful. i hope it works out for the best! =)
..laura..
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hey girl, im 14 too and when me and my b/f get together he trys to do things too but hes never talked about sex. but if he respects you then he'll understand. Be strong and dont give in! He will never respect you if you let him do anything he wants. Dont give yourself up to him cause once its gone you can never get it back, and he might end up breaking up with you if u give him what he wants. just talk to him, and if he doesnt understand then you'll know what you need to do. G/L and let me know how it goes.
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hun, your 14 years old, you have your whole life ahead of you. do you really want to give your gift of virginity to a guy at the age of 14? because once you give it away, you cant ever get it back. its a special gift that should be saved for that one special person who you intend on spending the rest of your life with. and if he respects you he will respect your boundries, and i think its good that you dont want to have sex yet, because your right, your not ready, unless you think your ready to deal with the possibility of becoming pregnant, or getting an STD, and dont let him use the line, if you love me you will, there are plenty of other ways of making him happy ( not involving sexual contact) your right to know your not ready, now you just need to set your boundries, and tell him, he cant cross them other wise, he cant have you. because respecting you is respecting EVERYTHING about you, not just you in "general" but everything, including your body, your boundaries, and everything else!
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hey sweetheart~ your boyfriend cant help it, he is at the age where his hormones are raging. it is good that he respects you! but sweetie your only 14, you dont need to be going any farther then you are comfortable with. if you do something that your not ready for, you will regret it. i know, i made that mistake. you say that you know for sure, so why are you asking now? what you need to do, is tell him how you feel. i know you say you do but just be honest with him. be open and truthful! you can make him happy without having to put yourself into a situation that you're not ready for. if you ask me i would say to wait and just talk to him agian. i know that it might be hard cuz you want to make sure that he knows that you love him. but dont do babe. i guess all i can do now, is wish you luck and hope that everything works out for you! xoxo- Jena
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When ever he does try to do something get pissed off and be like STOP IT! and then explain how important it is to you that you dont want to do anything yet. Sorry i didnt help much
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definately don't do anything that you are not comfortable with. As you said he respects you and won't force you to do anthing you don't want him to do. He will be happy with what choice you make. If he forces u again you need to be strong about it and stand up for urslef and then he will really get it. He will probably force you less if he gets the point that ur just not ready right now. I hope this helps you
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You said it yourself, your not ready. Since he's not the type to break up with you, then just dont do it. I think you need to make it clear to him that their wont be sex until you say so and to stop asking for it. Hope I helped!!
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