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to have sex or not to have sex
if you had the opportunity to have sex with someone you weren't dating but have hooked up with a lot over the past few months would you? i guess im just wondering because everyone says sex is supposed to be a "special" thing you share with someone you love. I think i'm ready but i'm not even dating the guy let alone love him-so if i think he is the right guy to have sex with is he worth the risk? My friend told me, "if you like him don't do it, if you don't like him then go for it"
also on a side note-if you were my friend would you lose respect for me if i made the decision to have sex?
thanks a lot yall :)
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I mean sex is sex and peopel bang, have sex all you can and get with this guy its alright.
P.S- for the last question-HELL NAW
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is he the one you think you would give yourself to. because if he isnt than dont because if i were your friend i would think you were a whore. im srry i bet you didnt want to hear that but do it for the right reasons
hope it works out stay safe
Luv Britt
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sex is a special thing. all i really have to say is if you are questioning weather or not u should have sex with this guy then you arnt ready. you just know when u are ready and when you arnt ready. if you ask the question then you arnt ready. i wouldnt just go and have sex with a guy that i messed around with. i mean if you think about it he could only be your friend because he knows that your going to have sex with him and after you have sex then he is going to never talk to you or he is just going to use you. what your friend said isnt good but itsnt bad. if i was you i wouldnt listen to what they said.
if i was your friend i wouldnt ever loose respect for you if you had sex. true friends dont do that. well i hope you make the right desision
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i thnk you should love the person that you have sex with because you don't want ot get hurt with this. but if you do have sex, the be safe and make sure you knw the guy well enough!
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i believe you should have sex with the person you love. It is suppossed to be special. Don't do it. lol. If I was a friend, if you had sex and didn't really love him, i would probley lose a bit of respect, but if you loved them i wouldn't.
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I would lose respect for you. If you don't love him and you're just doing it because you're horny, then I guess it's your choice. I understand her theory and think it's good that she said don't have sex with someone your serious about because you'd get attached and you might not stay with that person.The only thing is sex is supposed to connect people so no matter who you have it with your always going to remember it especially if it's your first time. For your first time have it with someone special, from there maybe decide if you'll do the random hook up thing even though I don't agree with it. I think if you do it with some random guy, it will be worthless and you'll regret it later on. I can't really say though because I've never had sex so you might not want to listen to me. I just know as a friend I would wonder about your morals if you were willing to have sex with some random guy just to have sex.
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well if i was your friend i wouldent loose respect but i would feel kinda weird cuz if u are gonna have sex with some1 then you schould love him first well thats all i half to say bye
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save your virginity for someone you actually love. sex is very special, therefore you should share it with the one you love and think you'll be with forever... <3kim
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lol wow... your friend obviously... has that wrong... you want to have sex with someone that you like because it means that you guys share a special bond that no one else has... and yeah I probably would considering your age... i mean you think you're ready but you're not... because a lot of things can go wrong.. such as STDS and pregnancy... you definitly won't be able to handle that if it happens...
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I don't believe in having sex with random people. Sex should be something you do with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. If you dont love the guy, then don't have sex with him. Thats my opinion anyway. I cant tell you what to do, only give you my insight on the issue. I believe you should just wait until you find mr. right, get to know him and if you two feel like it's going to last then by all means go for it. But dont have sex just to have sex. I hope this helped ^_^
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no if i was your friend i wouldnt lose respect for you because a lot of my friends are having sex too. what your friend told you is nasty and thats why people start to say shit like shes a slut and she gets around and all that mess. i think that you should wait to have sex wit someone that you care about and cares about you because if you dont you are jus goin to feel stupid when you lose your virginity to a guy and there were no real feelings between the two of you. good luck wit whatever you decide to do. ~$alexis$~
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Sex is not a light thing. If you should become pregnant, and you can, you will need that person's support in taking care of the child. You could end up with a complete idiot for a father or one that doesn't even show up. Plus the STDs you can get even if you do have a condom. And it is much better if you do love the person you are sleeping with. Sex is not the end all be all of a relationship. A good relationship should never require sex to keep it alive.
Now if you had sex with someone you didn't like, I would not be very happy with you. Plus you are going to feel like a creep. I would not stop being your friend, but I probably give you hell about it. I would worry about you and what you are doing to yourself emotionally and physically.
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You have to think about how you would feel if you did sleep with this guy. Have you spoken to himm about it? Do you know any other girls who have been in your situation and the reaction they got from others? Your friend is right in the sense that if you really like him and do sleep with him then you will end up liking him even more and want to be with and see him more and if he doesn't want to go out with you then you will feel crushed. Would you like to go out with him? Does he want to go out with you? Yes I would respect you if you were my friend especially as I have spoken to her about it and you have obviously given it a lot of thought. but in the end it is your decision. Go for it if you are happy your fellings won't get in the way afterwards and you know he isn't going to be awkward with you afterwards.
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Well I thing the opposite of your friend
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If you think it's right and want to- then go for it! Do whatever you want to do, because if you dont do what you think you should- you regret whatever decision you make. Good luck!
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You will regret it if you have sex with him and dont even like him. It is something special, and wouldnt it suck if you ended up w/ a disease from this guy since condems arent 100% GL
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yes, your right. sex is a special thing you should share with the one person you truly love. right now you might think you're ready, and you may be, but think about this. what are your chances of getting pregnant? Also, if this guy has had sex before he could be carrying STD's he might not even know about. people say sex takes relationships up to the next level, it's the greatest thing, etc. but really it can hurt a relationship. sex seems like a new and exciting idea for you, but if you have it you're gonna think okay, that was it? this is why i believe you should wait for the person you really love. it will be something very precious, but if you have it now it will not be the same. if i were your friend i would not lose respect in you, but simply your decision. it's your choice, but that's my honest opinion. i hope you make the right choice =)
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ok i'm going to try not to answer this as a friend, but as an advicenator, so bare with me. first of all, i would not lose any respect for you if you made the decision to have sex, and that person that said they would lose all respect for you if you were their friend is a jackass. but your not their friend, your my friend, and i wouldn't even look at you differently. i would just want to make sure that you made the right decision, and that you were 100% comfortable with the decision you made. crap im being a friend. ok advicenator action here...you say you don't love the guy, and you aren't even dating. many people say that sex is supposed to be "special", but that isn't necessarily true. from experience, sex (or the first time at least), isn't this mind blowing experience that people think it is. i mean a lot of people say that you should definitely not do it until your in love, but honestly, i think that if you're emotionally and physically ready for it, and you truely think he's the right person, then there's no harm in it, as long as you KNOW you won't get attached again like last time...which i think is a big possibility, but i'm not you, so i dont know. anywho, just be sure that you are 100% ready. and honestly, i don't think he's a bad choice for your first...you can do better, but he's definitely not bad-considering how much he's changed. and i'll always love you no matter what, just be smart, k kid? haha i said kid...i don't say kid...be smart babe.
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If you ask me, you would lose all the respect i had for you. That's all i have to say. Hope i helped!
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