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im jus a girl tryin to live life, id love to help, and give advice about any subject, ummm and i think thats about it, if ya wanna know more about me ask me!!

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pretty soon i know my boyfriend and i are going to have sex. OF COURSE we would use a condom, but i am still overly scared of the chance of getting pregnant if the condom breaks. i am trying to figure out what time of the cycle is the best time to Not get pregnant. i know ovulation is the worst time, but what about before, during, and after my period - which is the best time and which is a risky time? i cant find it on any websites and some people tell me different things... please help, im a spaz

well first of all, there is no safe time of the month. second of all, use a condom, and if he isnt using one ive actually seen one in like a magazine or somin that a women actualy uses, and inserts it in herself. use birth control as well. but pulling out does nothin, u can still get pregnant. but of course the only way to have 100% safe sex, is to no have sex at all. and if hes just your boy friend. why have sex with him? is he really worth the risk? hope i helped
~Linds

I like this boy in my school who used to like me. He also asked me out but i rejected him even though i liked him. Now im not sure who he likes I havnt talked to him in 3 months or more. Hes not a virgin anymore and if i do like him and we ever go out i think he will give me higher expectations and i havnt gotten anywhere near losing my virginity so i dont know what to do about talking to him more and going out with him.

dont lower your expectations for any guy!!! no matter what! sodont go loosing your virginity to someguy who who has gone farther then you. wether or not you like him. dont lower your standards. hope i helped,
~Linds

14/m,
Theres a girl in my school that i went out with last year only for a short time though. she broke up with me. now im starting to like her again because we have become more close. we talk alot online. i havent told her anything about me liking her and im scared she wouldnt like me. i doubt she would like me. wat do i do to get her to like me and try n hint i like her (without actually saying it) o and i only c her on occasion in skool. like once a day. Thnx

its this thing called flirting.......

~me~

i asked this girl out several times and her answer has been "i dont know because i dont know you that well" and so i have tried to get her to know me better and we have hung out a couple of times but "not enough" still and every time i try to do something with her so that she could get to know me she bails or cant do anything at all. what should i do?

hmm, well, lets see,maybe she is uncomfertable being alone with you, so why not try doing something along the lines of doing a group date like bowling with some of her friends, then if she says no you can talk to her friends, and her friends can help you, also it helps in puttin you on the upper hand because one, your getting to know her friends, two us girls, we tend to be more comfertable around people we know and trust, like for example, if a guy asked me out, i might be uncomfertable in the sense that i dont know him that well to begin with, so who says i should trust him (just a theory, im not saying your not trustworthy) but anyway, going alone is kind of weird, so when you go with her friends, she tends to be more of her natural self...if that makes sense, and then you can really get to know her in her natural environment, and how she really acts. so it helps and then once she gets to know you, and she really starts to see you and who you asre it shouldnt be that bad. oh and FYI somewtimes when a girl says i need to get to know you better, they have few reasons...1. they seriously need to get to know you better
how do you get to know her better if you cant go out on a date?
call her! talk to her on AIM, something, text her for all i care, other forms of communication are in this world besides speaking face to face, although it is sometimes better
2. she might not like you, not to hurt your feelings at all, but sometimes when a girl is like well i dont know u that well balh blah blah, it means they really just dont wanna go out.
how do you figure this out?
TALK TO HER ABOUT IT!!, be honest with her! something along the lines of you now i like you, id like to get to know you better, but i want to know if you feel the same way...
sometimes all it takes is a nice starbucks coffee talk! i know i know, its girly, but she would appreciate it...if she likes coffee, or tea lol hope i helped!

me and my bf have been together for a long time now. we haven't gone very far at all. he loves me and i love him but he is pressuring me into going further. i know for sure i don't want to because im not ready. im 14. i love him tho and i want to make him happy... what do i do? he respects me and everything so its not like he is like DO IT OR I WILL BREAK UP W/ YOU i can just tell he really wants to and he asks me if i will and stuff. sometimes he tries to do stuff and i tell him to stop but he keeps trying. later i talk to him about it and he says he jsut cant help it. ill rate

hun, your 14 years old, you have your whole life ahead of you. do you really want to give your gift of virginity to a guy at the age of 14? because once you give it away, you cant ever get it back. its a special gift that should be saved for that one special person who you intend on spending the rest of your life with. and if he respects you he will respect your boundries, and i think its good that you dont want to have sex yet, because your right, your not ready, unless you think your ready to deal with the possibility of becoming pregnant, or getting an STD, and dont let him use the line, if you love me you will, there are plenty of other ways of making him happy ( not involving sexual contact) your right to know your not ready, now you just need to set your boundries, and tell him, he cant cross them other wise, he cant have you. because respecting you is respecting EVERYTHING about you, not just you in "general" but everything, including your body, your boundaries, and everything else!

does anyone know any ways to cover up cuts?

if your "cutting", the best way to cover the cuts is to stop, and get help, because thats not good, at all,and you need to seriously think about getting some sort of help from a school counsler, or a friend, and even if you dont want to talk to your parents, no one deserves that kind of pain, at all!!! but if its just like a scrape, makeup works.

I've been going out with this guy for about 1 month and a half. He cusses me out every once in a while for stupid reasons. 3 of my friends say I should break up with him, but I love him a lot. Today, when school was out, he seen me and stayed like 50 feet from me and wouldn't even come over and talk to me. It's like he always trys to ignore me. What should I do? Should I listen to my friends? Or stay with him?? I really love this guy though!! 14/f/tn

is he really worth your time if he ignores you? probably not, and you gotta realize that even though u think u might "really love this guy", it probably isnt love, and it definitly isnt love if he ignores you, because if you "love" someone, there is this thing called communication involved, and it usually doesnt involove cussing the other person out!
can i ask you something!?!
do you expect the man that you 'love' to cuss you out? or even ignore you!?!, if he has the same feelings for you as you do for him, then he would treat you with respect, and would value you as a person. if i were you,i would re-evaluate the relationship, and maybe listen to what your friends have to say, because even though you think your right, sometimes it takes someone else on the outside watching everything, to tell you if he is really worth your time, and your energy. ( would you let your friend be with a boyfriend who treats her like this?, would you even allow your best friend to treat you this way?)

Alright, my girlfriend just ended her period and we were thinking of sex. I tried to get a condom but with no luck. Now I checked up on it and people say after a period, there is no egg. So I thought, even without a condom, if we had sex and I,"Pulled out early." If there is a chance of pregnancy.

there is ALWAYS A CHANCE OF PRGNANCY, IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT TIME OF MONTH IT IS, and "pulling out early" still leaves a HUGE risk, but like i said, you HAVE TO HAVE PROTECTION unless you want the risk of your girl friend becoming pregnant. ( im assuming your a teenager, only cuz there are mostly teens on this site, so all of the stats, or most of them are for teens.) ( if your not,sorry, but you can still search the internet for unplanned pregnancies)
~Eight hundred-twenty thousand (820,000) teen girls get pregnant each year.
~Thirty-four percent of young women get pregnant at least once before they turn 20 (http://www.teenpregnancy.org/resources/teens/facts/fact1.asp)
~Thirty-four percent of young women become pregnant at least once before they reach the age of 20 -- about 820,000 a year. Eight in ten of these pregnancies are unintended and 79 percent are to unmarried teens.(http://www.teenpregnancy.org/resources/data/genlfact.asp)
~Most people say teens should remain abstinent but should have access to contraception. Ninety-four percent of adults in the United States-and 91 percent of teenagers-think it important that school-aged children and teenagers be given a strong message from society that they should abstain from sex until they are out of high school.(http://www.teenpregnancy.org/resources/data/genlfact.asp)
~Contraceptive use among sexually active teens has increased but remains inconsistent. Three-quarters of teens use some method of contraception (usually a condom) the first time they have sex. A sexually active teen who does not use contraception has a 90 percent chance of pregnancy within one year(http://www.teenpregnancy.org/resources/data/genlfact.asp)
~Yes. A majority of both girls and boys who are sexually active wish they had waited. Eight in ten girls and six in ten boys say they wish they had waited until they were older to have sex.(http://www.teenpregnancy.org/resources/data/genlfact.asp)
~Teen mothers are less likely to complete high school, (only one-third receive a high school diploma) and more likely to end up on welfare (nearly 80 percent of unmarried teen mothers end up on welfare).(http://www.theodora.com/teddy/newyork/teenage.html)
~The sons of teen mothers are 13 percent more likely to end up in prison while teen daughters are 22 percent more likely to become teen mothers themselves(http://www.theodora.com/teddy/newyork/teenage.html)
~78% of teen pregnancies are unplanned.(http://womensissues.about.com/od/statistics/a/teenpregstats.htm)
~80% of the decrease in pregnancy rate among sexually active teens is due to effective contraceptive use.(http://womensissues.about.com/od/statistics/a/teenpregstats.htm)
~If a teen does not use contraceptives, she has a 90% chance of becoming pregnant within one year of becoming sexually active..(http://womensissues.about.com/od/statistics/a/teenpregstats.htm)
~41% of teen moms complete high school.
(http://womensissues.about.com/od/statistics/a/teenpregstats.htm)
~Nearly 40% of teen pregnancies end in abortion.(http://womensissues.about.com/od/statistics/a/teenpregstats.htm)

but please please remember, that the best way to keep from having an unplanned pregnancy, is to abstain from sex, honestly it might be hard, but its always for the better, there are far to many risks, STS, AIDS, and of course an unplanned pregnancy, and it happens more often than not, so dont think that oh, if i "pull out early" that it wont happen, or the common line " we used contraception", that it wont happen. I think its good that u dont want an unplanned pregnancy, but i also think that sex should be abstained until marriage, 1 because sex is something special, that should be saved for your wife, 2 if you do have an unplanned pregnancy, how are you going to pay for the baby? if your a teen, will you be able to finish school? , its hard enough to support yourself, let alone another person, most unmarried couples who have an unplanned pregnancy either end up getting an abortion, having the baby and putting it up for adoption, or keeping the baby and breaking up, which usually leaves the girl with the baby, trying to support herself and the baby, while trying to maintain a job, and not to mention, you loose your social life, when you have a baby, you loose everything to dedicate your time to the baby. if you think your ready and mature enough for sex, than you should be mature enough to not only talk to your parents and take nescessary precautions.
hope i helped , and please , like i said, remember the best way to not get pregnant, is to abstain!!!

Hi
if im like a good girl and i want to be bad how can i?
*confused*

umm, lets see, change your whole entire personalty, become a slut/punk, who still has "morals", sneak outta the house every once in a while, learn to cuss, oh and find some of the drug dealers in the school im sure they could help....(sarcastic voice implied)

How do you update microsoft word? Because i have 97 and i want 2000...dont tell me to search google either i tried that...thanks

ok...so theres this thing called a store....some of them usually have names like best buy, comp USA , circut city....ect...ok, so what you do is go to one of those things called a "store" and, you walk inside, as one of the worker guys to dirct you tword the word processing cd's or, microsoft word cd's, and they will direct you tword them, you but it, take it home, load it onto your comp, and presto...its updated!!

I have a bf but it seems like all he wants to do is hug,kiss,and hold hands, and cudle. I am just scared bc my last relationship didint workout and all my ex wanted 2 do was hug,kiss,hold hands ,and cudle. so i just dont want 2 hurt anyone or even get hurt wat do i do?

well, you enjoy hugging kissing cuddling...ect, but i also think a good relationship needs communication, so talk to him for christ sake! tell him how you feel and if you have and he hasnt done anything about it, he is not worth your time!!!

QUICK!! does anyone know what the two little theater masks are called?

Comedy and tragedy masks

Is there a way that you can makeout wrong?

umm, if you end up getting ur saliva like all over ur partners chin, then obvisly ur doin somin wrong...cuz thats not sapasto happen

k..my friend is out of town right now and i like her boyfriend..the other day we madeout in his truck when he drove me home..and we've been hanging out a lot since she left for thanksgiving..i feel really guilty but i just cant get him off of my mind..i like him way too much..and i dunno what to do!..i swear im gunna end up going crazy..what should i do??

hes your FRIENDS BOYFRIEND!!!!!!!! that means stay away, off limits, never touch w/ out permission from her!!!!, like no joke, you have to tell her, and if you dont she will find out eventually, and it will hurt your friendship even more!

there is this girl that almost everyday wears the same thing I do(this girl is my x-best friend)how do you think she finds out what i am going to wear Do you think that she has a camera in my room or something
java 22

...i highly doubt she has a camera hidden in your room, and for it to get there, she would have to of put it there, and if shes your ex best friend, how could she have gotten into your house with out you knowing...!?!, i think y'all jus probably have the same fashion style, my advice, if its really bothering you, wear somin to school and bring an extra outfit, and if she is wearin the first outfit, change into the other outfit that you brought....or you could hide a camera in her room, and make sure you dont wear the same thing she does!

My boyfriend, Matt and I have been going out for 9 months. We get along great, and I love him more than anything in the world. The day that he asked me out though another boy, Kevin was going to ask me out (ironic, right?). About 4 months ago I started talking to Kevin after me and Matt had a big fight. I realized that it was so much easier talking to Kevin then Matt, so I started hanging out with Kevin a lot. This summer Matt and I had a huge argument and broke up for about two weeks. I called Kevin crying and ended up going over to his house (he lives in my naiborhood). We talked and ended up kissing, which led to making out. After the incident Matt and I got back together, I told him what happened, and Kevin and I stopped talking. About September I ended up calling Kevin again. I went over to his house and we talked, he gave me a hug and I went home. A week later he calls me and I sneak out to see him. We talk, watch a movie, and end up making out. Matt and I are still strong, but lately I have been spending a lot of time with Kevin. I have such strong feelings for Matt, but at the same time I can't stand the thought of not being close to Kevin. They are both wonderful guys, each having thier own particular trait that draws me to them. To add the problem is that Matt and Kevin know each other and HATE each other. I'm just really confused right now and would like a little advice. Thank you for anything. -Confused

so let me get this strait, u broke up w/ matt, and within that same week time period u made-out with kevin, but then ended up getting back togeather with matt!?!?!...ok, first i see somin wrong with this and then, you and matt are still togeather, and u make -out with kevin agian...so you cheat on matt....hmm...oh and with the guy he hates the most....am i missing something here, because this seems very wrong!! and i think that if you have such strong feelings for matt, you shouldnt be cheating on him with kevin, or any other guy, for that matter, and if you cheat on matt to be with kevin, i think you have already made your choice

I'm about 5'2 and weigh around 95 lbs..but everyone tells me im really skinny. How much should i weigh if im 5'2?

im 5'2 and i weigh 111 lbs, and i believe the normal weight is 99-115 lbs. with 99 being extremly lean and 115 being healthy, me, im lean healthy cuz im like inbetween both ( we did all of this in pe just 2 days ago, thats how i know lol)...but it also depends on ur muscle to fat to bone somethin like that ratio, its weird, so if i were you id go to a health site, or even ask the doctor the next time you have a physical.

hi im gunna be a freshman next year and im thinkin of goin to either an all girls school, a private school or the public school in my small town. i've never had a bf and the private school has the guys outnumbering the girls in a 1-3 ratio. haha neways has neone ever switched schools and what wud u reccomend?

im assuming your a girl, because of the all girls school, but i say, PRIVATE!!!...when guys out # girls 1-3 ratio, go to the private school! hehehe

I have been with my boyfriend for about 6 months. He is everything i want..almost. we have a great physical realtaionship, but the mental/emotional stinks. How can i make it better because i nee him to be there for me in both

you sound like one of my really good friends. shes been with this guy for like 2 months, and she really likes him, she thinks they have a pretty good "physical" relationship, but the guy CAN NOT COMMUNICATE to save his life! and i think that in order to have a good relationship, you have to have communication, so try to really talk to him, go to starbucks, or a public place, where physical isnt much of an option and you can just talk, and hang out. it might be difficult at first, but you will break the ice sooner or later, and both of you will open up

ok there are two girls... there is this one kind of a teensy bit cute girl at my school who likes me...but every1 thinks she is butt ugly.
there is also this hot girl who everyone thinks is ugly but i think she is rly nice and cute. i liked her in 5th grade but she didnt like me.
who should i like???

you cant "choose" who to like, you have follow your heart, but you cant choose, just listen to your heart, dont follow the trends that everyone is setting, dont go by a girls looks either...thats just WRONG!, like, most girls want to be dated because of their personality, and yes all girls like the affirmation that you think their pretty, but dont just like someone because of their looks

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