My Name is Sean, and it's nice to meet you!
I am a genuine, sincere, down to earth young adult with many good things to say.
I can help you out with almost any situation, and I pride myself on doing just that.
I am a high school senior and plan to attend a TX 4 year university in the fall of 2008.
I plan to get my PHD in Psychology and become a therapist to young teens :)
Oh, and just an FYI all the questions asked on my profile before July of 07 were when I did this thing for fun, and I was much less mature than I am now. So please, kindly disregard all advice prior to July of 2007. :)
So without further delay, think up those questions and fire at will! :)
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Alright this is probably the most random format I've ever gone about choosing to try and fucking get some help from an oustider who may actually see the situation more clearly then I do.
My first love and I dated for a year and he has a pretty serious drug problem and recently he moved away to Egypt to live with his dad and go through rehab and such, and so I was under the impression we were over atleast while he was gone (even though we've been strained for a long time and the relationship hasnt gotten any easier I'm still very much so in love of him, or I LOVE him maybe not in love.)
So anyone when I was driving him to the airport he made it clear that he knew i was going to want to live my life the way I would if he wasn't a part of my life because its easier that way while hes gone, and so I thought we had an understanding and I agreed to do so but to be completly honest.
So hes been gone for about a week or so and I'm already "hanging out" and getting relatively close to this other guy, hes totally the opposite of my prior boyfriend. He doesnt do drugs, is very goal oriented and follows through..although I'm not overwhelmingly interested in what he has to say alot of the time but he does make me feel good and he obviously wants to help me with my fucked up shit. He seems like someone who could take care of me which is really what I need, and he was clear from the beginning he didnt nessesarily want a "relationship" so is it so wrong that in some respects he feels like a space holder for my ex and i'm just waiting for my ex to get back. I dont honestly think thats how I'm going to go about things and in some ways I dont think my ex is coming back so I'm just trying to ease the blow when I finally find out.
I dont know.
Fuck. (link)
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Well my dear, that most certianlly sounds like a delimea.
I'm sorry to hear about your boyfriend, I imagine that has to be really hard for both you and him alike. I know this might sound extremely out of place but I think right now, that might be the best postion for both of you.
Think about it, he's in a more conservative environment receiving the help he needs (because people involved with drugs do need it, trust me, I have friends who have gone through rehab and it does work). Drugs are no good to anyone. They hurt not only himself but the people around him as well. Plus, this gives you some time to clear your head, see other people, and live a life free of that problem for awhile. :)
Now, in the matter of your new boyfriend. From an outside perspective, this guy does seem very genuine. It takes alot of mental patience to tackle a new relationship, especially one involving a previous history of drugs. He sounds very admirable, and you should feel lucky to have a guy like that around to keep your ahead above water.
Now, does it seem like this guy is a new love interest? It depends on what you want it to be. Think about it. Do you honestely feel your ready to start a new relationship already? Unless you really didn't want to be with your old boyfriend, I think not. It sounds to me like your not quite ready to let him go, and just using this new guy to help get through this time a little easier.
Is that ultimatley a bad thing? No. Because at lesat its giving you a positive outlet to release your thoughts and emotions. You also said he initially said that he wasn't looking for a rel, which is good because it means you 2 are on the same page. He isn't wanting you in that way, and you don't either. So as of now, its perfectly alright!
Now what the future holds can be a different story. I think what needs to happend is for you 2 to sit down and ask yourselves, how far do we want this to go? Tell him your not ready to move on just yet, and would prefer him just as a good friend until your ready (if you ever do decide to pick him over your ex), that way he knows how you feel and you can decide how to move forward together.
:) Hope that helped!
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Sean, my dilemma is so:
Brilliant I am, but unadaptable to any sort of structural situation.
I've been to about 15 highschools and have done about 15 assignments in the amount of time. With a typical teenage outlook enhanced by savante creative capabilities, I am unsure of what to do..
My thoughts are to drop out and start a band, idyllicly with success.
The school I'm going to now is the eppitimy of structure.
I already blew my chance at a charter school.
What should this unconventional girl do, future shrink? (link)
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Future shrink indeed with that vocabulary of yours missy! :P
I have a friend who's like you, very intelligent but dosen't do too well with regular public schooling.
Have you thought to try an alternative, work at your own pace type of school? Or is that what a charter is, i'm not sure of the difference.
Or perhaps sought out the help of a tutor to get you up to speed? Or being put in some sort of speciality class for people with the same issues as yourself?
Or even perhaps obtaining your GED? That way at lesat you have some sort of backing going out of high school, instead of just dropping out with nothing saving you in the future.
Just a couple of thoughts. I can identify with the band thing, believe me I would love nothing more than to just drop everything and tour with a band, we all would I think. But the reality is that the likeleyhood of this happening is slim to none. Play it safe, and finish high school any way you can.
Hope that helped :)
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So I have this friend who I might possibly have feelings for, but I don't really know how to tell him. But also, if he doesn't feel the same, I don't want things to be weird whenever we hang out.
How would you recomend to tell him? (link)
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Excellent question!
Alot of us go through somewhat of the same thing all the time. Trust me when I say, i've been in your position before, many a times. So fourtunatley for this topic, I do have some prior experience.
First off, we need to establish how good of friends you are. Is he a good friend? If so, do you personally think that in some form or fashion there might be some sort of connection? This is important to understand because how good of frineds you are can be a big factor in how this whole thing plays out.
If he's a pretty good friend, I would suggest you do this. Call him one night and start up a conversation, anything at all. Just something to get the blood flowing.
Then, causually bring up the topic of his love life. I might suggest something to the nature of "So *name*, who you got your eye on these days?" or "So *name* anyone in particular you've been interested in lately?" See how he reacts. If its shaky or no one, then your in good shape. That means he's open to anything at the moment. If he brings up that there is someone in particular, poke some gentle fun at it. See if you can't pry it out of him without being to forceful.
If he's not so good a frined, more an aqquatiance, I would suggest something slightly different. Wait it out a bit, let life run its course and see if things don't happend on their own. If the chemistry is there, it will as long as you do your part right. And your part is this, be interested but not too interested. Show him you are a great gal to be around, ask about his life whenever the oppurtunity arises, but dont under any circumstance be clingy. Guys hate that, trust me.
So bottom line is this, be yourself and let things happend on their own if its someone you don't know to well.
If it is, gently try to pry a little info out of his head, then work from their.
:)
Hope that helped!
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I have these 2 guy "friends" that i hang out with and talk to and got to know pretty well through the year. (they are both going into college and are called "players" by alot of people). I don't like either of them, i just think they are really cool and fun to be around, but i dont really think they like hanging out with me. One of them likes to text and we text all the time, and the other is my neighbor and he comes over alot to hangout. When we are in person they are really nice, but when ever i ask to go hang out at the movies or something, they usually dont reply the text after i ask, or something. Are they really my friends or are they just bored and hanging out with me to be nice? Or am i jumping to conclusions? (link)
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I think what seems to be going on here from an outsider perspective is that the two guys are simply bored, simple minded guys who want nothing more than another girl they can be seen with to look good, or to make themselves feel god. From what you've told me, it seems like they really don't care a whole lot about you, there just a couple of guys who want nothing more than simple friendship, no strings attacthed.
Not to say thats a bad thing by any means, most people don't look for that deep friendship connection right off the bat anyways. Give it some time to develop perhaps, let the test of time itself determine if their your true friends or not. :)
Hope that helped :)
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aight so sean, there's this girl that likes me. well, actually there's 5 . let's start with girl 1. girl 1 rrrrrreeeeeeaaaallllllly likes me, and the thing is... since i didn't know noone else liked me... i told her i liked her back. a lot. and i've been saying stuff liike aaaggghhh i miss you and i wanna be with you. but i don't like her and i don't really wanna get to know her cuz she's kinda weird and chubby and not my type at all. girl 2, i just hung out with and she likes me... i don't know if i like her but i'm having strange feelings for her. and since i "hung out" with her, i feel really guilty for doing that to girl 1 although i don't like her. girls 3 and 4 both like me but girl 3 likes my best friend, and girls 3 and 4 are best friends and kinda my best friends too... girl 5 likes me but i don't know if anything would ever happen, so umm scratch that. but, whenever i find out that a girl likes me, i freak out and i'm like oohhh i like you too... just because i don't wanna deny them and say like, i don't like you at all!!! i just can't live with that guilt. what the hell do i do?????
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Wow, sounds like someone's mister popular! :P
My advice is just to go with your gut feeling on this one, it sounds like your more partial to girl 2 then the rest with the whole strange feelings thing, plus its not a good idea to date your best friends, trust me i've learned from experience and nothing good comes out of it.
While it is best to date someone you have a good connection with, you don't want to be too close before the relationship actually begins. This can cause for much un needed drama.
But in any case trust your own decison in this one, Think long and hard about what you truly want.
:) Hope that helped
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14/f__ i was just asked out last night by the guy i liked...who obviously likes me back. he asked me 'wanna go to the movies on sunday?' i said sure. and you kno how everyone puts like 'guys name 1/2' - something like that to signify that they're going out. well, my question is: what would i put in my profile? like do i put the day he asked me, the day of the actual date, or do i wait until more dates? like i dont kno since...well...its my first. yes u can laugh. hahahaha.....and also if we stay together for a few months or what ever...how do you kno what day the '# month anniversary' is? i would ask my friends..but i dont really want to. haha
ok. thnx soo much.
ur rock my sox (link)
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Make sure you clarify early wether or not the date was intended to be just that, a "date".
Some guys see things much differently than girls do. While the girl may think its a date, the guy may think its nothing more than going to a movie with a friend. Make sure this is cleared up before going any further dear.
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why do girls think that because i talk to alot of girls im a player? (link)
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It's normal for guys to have alot of frineds that are girls. They should be understanding enough to realize that, and if their not, then their naiive.
Also, it depends on how you approach and communicate with the girls themselves. Do YOU think you act like a player, or just any other guy?
:) Hope I helped
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hi
how are you doing?
i'm fine, thanks
its raining
i wanna go run outside. now
you should come, too.
we'll probably fall
or slip
on the slippery road
so wear your best outfit
and we'll make it
i'm sure of it
and if we dont
someone will come
to claim your body
because
i wont be that person
or will i ?
♥ (link)
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lo whats that?
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hey sean. well. i'm 14. i like a guy & there's about 4 years of a difference in our age. he gives me more hints that he's intrested then those of which he's not. then one day we were sitting in the hallway and he had a few of his friends while i had some of mine. and he asks me a question & i answer it & he cracks one of his odd jokes & one of his friends but in and say 'is that the girl u were going on to me about?' and at the same moment one of my friends told me she was leaving (we were all waiting for rides home). the guy i like said 'yea..' & said some other thing i didnt hear, back to his friend. then he laughed..and his friend started cracking up too. so.... idk if they were making fun of me or what.....i also have my eye on another guy who's a year older than me..so....i'm not sure if i should stick with the guy 4 years older than me...or...if i should start getting to kno the guy who's a year older than me instead....but i also wanna kno if the 4yr older guy may have intrest....because honestly i'm not too sure of this whole sitch
thnx!
love YoU oooo0ooDdles!! muah!!!!!!!!! ♥ (link)
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honestly i think youd be better off wiht someone with only a year on you
the less age difference, the better trust me
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Hey..
You see, during the begining of the school year and the end of summer, I started talking to this kid..we'll call him "Tim". Well, Tim and I would stay on the phone for hours at a time, and he told me he liked me.I asked him out, but he had broken up with his girlfriend a week or so after we started talking in the summer. So, he wasn't ready for another elationship. After that, we still talked, and I got hugs everyday in school from him whenever we saw eachother. I asked him if he still liked me once, but he said not as much as he did before.
My friend liked this one kid, "George." He happened to be Tim's best friend. I started talking to George and now I like him.
He likes me, well, that's what I think, and we hang out every so-often.
But the thing is, is he hurt me twice- emotionally - by dating these girls. I asked him out once, as a joke though, and he said "i'm not ready for a relationship." It makes me so mad, because he went out with two girls after he said that.
I still like him..a lot.
But i don't know if I should?
And I'm starting to like Tim again, but I don't want to...
Sorry it's so long..but thanks for the advice. (link)
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hmm
well ok, i know this sounds jerky, but when a guy tells you "i dont want a rel"., and then goes out with someoone else, it means they dont like you :\
sorry to say i dont think the george things gonna happend the way you talk about it, and tim doesnt sound to much more of a great catch, but if you really REALLY like george stick it out, other than that keep it with tim
see what happends :)
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ok so i have this friend, and he's like my best friend. but the thing is... i like his sister. we've been talking on aim for about a week now and i like her and she likes me. but i don't wanna go behind my best friend's back and go out with his sister. my friend is in 8th grade and his sister is a junior and i'm a sophomore. we haven't told my friend that we have a "thing" going on... should i tell him? should i keep liking his sister? what do i do?!? (link)
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keep liking her dude, but be sure to tell him wahts going on
best do it up front and before hand, i know from expereince trust me
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my mom's pregnant and has been for the past 3 or so months. she i already have a 2yr old half sister...and i "strongly dislike" her. and here comes another one. woot. i havent told any of my friends that shes pregnant, and i havent verbally refered to my mom being pregnant. almost as if im denying the fact that she is. but anyways, being pregnant and all, shes all hormonal. and everything that goes wrong = my fauly. she takes everything out on me. god forbid my sister get yelled at. hell no, its all MY fault...and its really getting me down....i mean, i doubt its depression (but i could just be denying im depressed, like im denying my moms pregnant) but im really down...i dont cut or anything (well at least i dont draw blood. most of the time) and i havent told anyone. im good at pretending things are okay (now i'm denying things are wrong with my life?)any my moms a perfectionist...so if i do something wrong, shes nagging me to a stub. seeing as shes pregnant and all...shes even worse. its horrible. i cant take it. and on top of that, i have school work and stuff. i do karate, thank god, so i release alot of my "negative energy" there...and we do bag-work. and a couple days ago i was hitting the bags so hard that my primary knuckles were badly bruised, and made my hand bleed in various places. my lifes getting out of control. its a lot to ask for, i know, but do you have any advice? any ideas of how to help me? please... (link)
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wow sounds really complicated
look, being hormonal duinrg pregrnacy is unfourntly, somehting unavoidable. you should be accepting of your new sibiling, its one of the most beautiful parts of life. try and find some common ground wiht your mom, tell her your realy happy shes having another kid and you love her very much.
when she blames things on you, just say your sorry and shrug it off, fighting and yelling only makes thigns worse ya know? just give her lots of hugs and be suporitive, chances are shes going thru alot of the same thigns becuase she's just as stressed, and thats why shes getting that way
just try your best to be posisitve and acceptings, and things should turn around for u i promise :)
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my friend likes this one guy.
and i like that guys brother...
question: would u consider that weird? (link)
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not at all
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what about being 5' 4"-5' 5" and being around 127-130lbs? i mean i dont look fat...but i dont think i should weigh that much. i'm not fat, and not extremely muscular. and being 5'4"ish isnt too tall, either...what do you think i should do to lose some weight? do you think i even need to lose weight? (link)
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my advice no, you dont need to
it only leads to depression, and eating disorders
just go with the flow, im sure you look great :)
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15/f
the guy i've liked for about 4months now, gave me the biggest & longest hug i've ever gotten from any guy in my life. he held on tight and put his head on my shoulder (i'm 5'2 & he's 6'). he had this look on his face that said 'i never wanna let go.' and then he gave me a really sweet smile. but i have a feeling he likes this other girl that's actaully his own age. he's 17 and she's going to turn 17 in 3 months. when he hugs her its only a quick one..every time. they used to be long but now they're..well..not. haha
he & i talk a lot about w/e we're thinking about. and hang out every now & then.
but anyways would u consider that hug a sign of some-sort? (link)
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hm, ya it sounds like it meant somehting like hes trying to tell you he's intrested
talk to him about it, see where he stands
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I have a guy friend that I've known my entire life (he's my neigbor) and I've always had this want to maybe be more than friends.
For a while I thought I had a crush on him...but I told him and he said we have known each other too long, so I figured that maybe I didn't really have a crush on him. Soon after he got a girlfriend.
That was one year ago...they're broken up now. He asked me just as a random question if I would date him and told him I probably would...but his response was "I'm flattered, and I would probably date you too if I had the chance, but it would probably be too awkward. We've known each other too long..."
Ugh, I don't know what to think anymore. My friends say they see sparks between us, and I have questioned it myself...but I don't know if he'll ever give it a chance.
Maybe we're not made for each other...but I wish he would give it a chance and see if there ARE sparks...Yet, at the same time I don't want to ruin what he have.
What should I do?
P.S. Sorry it's long. (link)
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hmmmm, well it sounds like your very close wiht this guy
but sometimes, things are better left at friendship, rather than trying to take it up a notch. but, if youve got feelings for this guy then why not right?
i guess the closeness you have alreay could actualy even help, give it a shot and see what comes out of it, hes only a few steps away away :)
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okay. i'm a female, about 5'2-5'3 and 95-100 lbs. i know this is bad, i'm severly overweight. so i was wondering -- how much weight do i need to lose to be healthy? what kind of diet do i need to go on? i'm willing to try ANYTHING. excercise..extreme dieting...ANYTHING! i just need HELP!
please & thank you. (link)
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wait wait wait wait
5"3 and 100 lbs? thats NOT overweight my dear! i mean if your my age (14-17) defintly, its not!
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i met this really nice guy on myspace. he's a junior in high school and i'm a freshman. we both live in jersey..about 2 hours from each other's town. we're both pretty much obsessed with music, are both hispanic =) & talk to each other on aim until about 1 or 2am. haha... we are trying to plan on meeting in person at a show but are having a tough time trying to get to
a) a good show so we dont have to explain to our parents wuts going on. haha
& b) a show thats not to far from either of us. it always ends up being like 20 minutes away from him and an hour and a half from me. or vise-versa.
....my problem is..if we succeed in finding a show that works out. should i go? cuz i still dont kno him THAT well. and even worse is he has a twin that'll probably go with him and i've seen pictures of them together. and i cant really tell the difference. so it'll be really weird. what should i do? (link)
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hmm
best advice?
NEVER meet anyone in person that you met online unless your 110 percent sure its them
becuase you just never know, ya know?
take the time to be sure your talking to the right person, manbey on the phone some too
you know? just be very careful
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my name's jess, im 14, and my best friend is just like me, but better. by a lot.
she's prettier then me, smarter than me, nicer than me, better at sports, better at art and singing, her parents are more flexible, if she does something wrong she gets away with it, she has more friends than me, she has whatever she wants to be pierced pierced, and more.
i cant even come up with any down-sides for her. and it drives me crazy because just when i forget about how perfect she is, i find out something else about her to make her even more perfect, or she does something that i've always wanted to do but never could do. what the heck should i do? its really lowering my self confidence or pride or whatever. i know that if i ever try to do something, she'll just come in and do it quicker than me and overall better than me. help? (link)
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lol everyones got that kind of friend, the one we all envy or wish you could be like
look dont stress about it, its not somehting in your control or something fixable, if you really feel THAT uncomfortable around her than dont hang out wiht her, but if your a good enough frined you should look past those thigns and enjoy what you have in common wiht her
thats what makes good friends
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i met this kid on a cruise. we've kept in touch since then.. the cruise was in july. i talk to him everynight before i go to bed. only one problem: he lives in california. and i dont know if im ever going to see him again. ayway the thing is i havent talked to him in 3 days and i dont know what to do or think. cause like he has family problems and im hopin gnothing is wrong but i keep trying to get in contact with him to see if everythings alright but i never get a response. got any ideas?
thanks.your a pretty cool kid=] (link)
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hmm, well it depends what u want out of this relashonip you have with him, do you want to just be frineds? or more?
because if hes having family problems i say let it be for a little while than try to talk to him again, it can be a very personal thing and he probably just needs some space, dont worry i think its ok
:)
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