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Telling someone you like them?
So I have this friend who I might possibly have feelings for, but I don't really know how to tell him. But also, if he doesn't feel the same, I don't want things to be weird whenever we hang out.
How would you recomend to tell him?
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Excellent question!
Alot of us go through somewhat of the same thing all the time. Trust me when I say, i've been in your position before, many a times. So fourtunatley for this topic, I do have some prior experience.
First off, we need to establish how good of friends you are. Is he a good friend? If so, do you personally think that in some form or fashion there might be some sort of connection? This is important to understand because how good of frineds you are can be a big factor in how this whole thing plays out.
If he's a pretty good friend, I would suggest you do this. Call him one night and start up a conversation, anything at all. Just something to get the blood flowing.
Then, causually bring up the topic of his love life. I might suggest something to the nature of "So *name*, who you got your eye on these days?" or "So *name* anyone in particular you've been interested in lately?" See how he reacts. If its shaky or no one, then your in good shape. That means he's open to anything at the moment. If he brings up that there is someone in particular, poke some gentle fun at it. See if you can't pry it out of him without being to forceful.
If he's not so good a frined, more an aqquatiance, I would suggest something slightly different. Wait it out a bit, let life run its course and see if things don't happend on their own. If the chemistry is there, it will as long as you do your part right. And your part is this, be interested but not too interested. Show him you are a great gal to be around, ask about his life whenever the oppurtunity arises, but dont under any circumstance be clingy. Guys hate that, trust me.
So bottom line is this, be yourself and let things happend on their own if its someone you don't know to well.
If it is, gently try to pry a little info out of his head, then work from their.
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Hope that helped!
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