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Q: ok this guy at my skool has a gurlfriend..hes beeen with her for 9months...but he TOTALLY flirts me with me...i flirt back because i really like him...we sat next to eachother in english and we recently moved seats...he sits like 2 rows away from me and when he walks in he always comes over to my desk and plays with my hand or something...he always gives me candy and stuff and he just does little stuff like that and today i gave him a hug after class bc i wont se him for 2 weeks and he like kept his hand on my waist for soo long....he tells me im pretty and stuff to....he does more stuff but yea...what do i do about it??

Well don't interfer with his relationship, he's taken, you have to accept the fact. but you should sill be friends and be flirty and stuff thats always good to have! __((~*JULiA*~))

Q: Hey I recently dyed my hair black and I was wondering if it will look good with red highlights. I have brown skin. if you have anyother colors that might look good please tell me. not blonde everyone has blonde i wand something different.

That'd look hawt! My friend has brown hair then in the middle its blond and the tips are red and its the coolest ever, i think it'd look awesome! ___((~*JULiA*~))

Q: What can you do with a 7 yr old boy when your babysitting him? Thanx in advance!

Depends, ask him what he likes to play with. and next time you should word you question differently, uhm i have a sick mind lmao ((~*JULiA*~))

Q: I have a myspace account and I want to add a background, I have the code which is and when I put it in the About Me section it doesn't work. So my question is what section do I put it in to make it work and do i need a completly seperate code like is there a special one for myspaces?? thanx for the help

okay all you need to do is get the link and then go to colun settings and where it says put a premad backgroung type in just the link. ___((~*JULiA*~))

Q: is tehre any programs to make somthing moving into a smaller size and still have be a moving image in the smaller size

try downloading Animation Shop 3, i make my aim icons with it, go to jasc.com to download it. ___((~*JULiA*~))

Q: me and my bf have been together for a long time now. we haven't gone very far at all. he loves me and i love him but he is pressuring me into going further. i know for sure i don't want to because im not ready. im 14. i love him tho and i want to make him happy... what do i do? he respects me and everything so its not like he is like DO IT OR I WILL BREAK UP W/ YOU i can just tell he really wants to and he asks me if i will and stuff. sometimes he tries to do stuff and i tell him to stop but he keeps trying. later i talk to him about it and he says he jsut cant help it. ill rate

He needs to respect your time like you said, tell him that you feel like he is pressuring you, if you're not ready, you're not ready. ___((~*JULiA*~))

Q: ok so i am 13 years old and i have been since november 16. I am really self concious about my breasts because like all my friends are a size A and i dont even think if i am a size AA (i've never tried one though) I mean when you read this you might think that i actually have breasts but they are small. But i acutally really dont. I have only 2 small like bumps when i look at myself in the mirror. and when i look at myself from the side in a mirror it is literally flat. nothing sticking out. And i have had my period since July. please help!

It's going to take a while for you to like finish the stages of puberty, you will keep maturing until about 16-18 so you don't have to worry. ___((~*JULiA*~))

Q: 'i'm being sexually harrassed by this guy i know, and so is every other girl in myclass except for two. His sexual harrassment is getting me in troubel with some of my teachers. It's cometothe point that i'm afarid to be alone with him because i'm afaird of what he'll do to me. He's grabbed by breast slappmy ass, rubbed on my crotch and other things. he's messedwith other girls in my class but he seems to dothst tome the most.Lately he's stop but i'm afarid he might start up and do it again. I tell him what he's doingis wrong but he doesn't care.Iused to think of himas my friend untill it all started.Now i don'tknow what to do.

Talk to someone you trust, like councilor, teacher, parent, etc. Just tell them that you feel uncomfortable. What this guy is doing is bad and it can get much worse if you don't do anything about it. So I would advise you to stay away from him, that would help and also talk to somebody __((~*JULiA*~))

Q: I have this guy friend that i have liked more than a friend for a while. I thought he kept dropping hints such as putting his hand around my waist, talking to me alot and gointo the movies. But when I asked him to go to homecoming with me he said i dont know. he still talks to me in the hall after that but it took a while. Should I keep flirting with him or just leave us as good friends?
~*Confused*~

Guys are confusing like that lol, but if you want him, keep flirting! Maybe he's just shy and was shocked that you asked him nd he didn't know what to say. But ig your out there and you want him keep flirting, if you just wanna be friends then just keep it the way it is. Also try to talk to him to see how he feels about you. ((~*JULiA*~))

Q: I love volleyball... but i fucking hate my coaches... they are such dush bags... should i quit or should i stick with it? if i quit i would def. play soccer... HELP!!

join a different team or do another sport you may like. there are lots of other activities you can get yourself into so just keep looking for something that you will enjoy ((~*JULiA*~))

Q: I have a rat and my brother gave me another one and put them in the same cage and they started fighting and one of them has cuts under his chin so I was wondering if I should just let them heal or do something about it.Thanks

Well first off take the rats out of the same cage, seperate them...then yes just let the wounds heal themseves, if they don't get better within a week you should try seeing a vet or someone. ((~*JULiA*~))

Q: Ok so I have this bf. Here's a sophomore and I'm a freshman. Some days he treats me good by talkin to me, holding my hand, walking me to class, and all that cute stuff that gurls like guyz to do. Then other days hes a total dick. Sometimes he wont even say hi to me and if i do get the chance to talk to him he juss walks away cuz he doesnt like to hang out with my freshman friends. I've learned how to blow it off but it still pisses me off. A couple weeks ago one of my closest friends said she saw him totally flirting with my worst enemy. I confronted him bout it and he totally denied it. I really want to beleive that hes telling me the truth but alot of people have told me that hes always all over other gurls. The people that tell me this are some of my closest friends and I know that they wuld never lie to me. All of my friends say that I should break up with him because he doesnt treat me good and I'm starting to beleive them. I still kinda have feelings for him but I'm not shure if I still wanna be with him. Plz help!!!

And you are still going out with him why? You need to find someone better who won't act like complete strangers in the hall. You need to get over him and move on ((~*JULiA*~))

Q: My boyfriend and i have been goin out for about 11 months and between the first day until maybe th 6th month mark he was the sweetest guy in the world he sang me the dumb cute little love songs and he'd lay on the couch and like wrap his arms around me and say the sweetest things and lately i ask him if he's lost intrest and hes like no baby i love you but i just dont get it, how he doesn do or say the sweet things any more. whats going on??

Talk to him. You need to know what is going on with him. If its a serious relationship, you should know what your bf is doing. If he doesn't want to talk then screw him, find someone better. ((~*JULiA*~))

Q: 13/M and i don't get what girls mean when they say he's guy friend material? Does this mean that girls won't like to go out with them? I have a lot of girls friends and some of them even consider me their best friend but no gf for awhile does this mean im a "guy friend" not a boyfriend?

No it doesn't mean girls won't go out with you, its just saying you are a great friend to have. There are probably plenty of people that would go out with you, everybody has and like different personalities, so don't just judge based on one friends comment. You may be a guy friend to one person but to another a boy friend. ((~*JULiA*~))

Q: Does piercing your belly button hurt?! and on a scale 1 to 10 ..10 being the most painful and 1 being the least please hurry!!!!

Well my friend got her's pierced a few months ago. I'd say about a 5 or 6, its not that bad she said. Just make sure that when you get it done, you have a place that cleans the tools correctly or uses disposable ones just so you don't get infected. ((*~Julia*~))

Q: Okay here's the deal I'm a freshman in high school. I know, I know ugh freshman. Anyway this's the deal I like a guy, and he's kind of a senior. He's taller than me and we... sort of get along. We argue about almost everything, I love it. Only thing, he has a girlfriend and there's a three year age difference. Now I know some of you are going to tell me to move on and try to find someone my age, but I really like him. =(

And I don't want to tell him I like him at least not yet, I love him and his friends, and I like his girlfriend too. So if I say something then they're all going to act ackwardly around me.

Well just try IMing them if they have aim, if you all get along so well they will care about your feelings. And a freshman with a senoir is not the best idea. lol But you are right the best thing is to move on so just try to!! lol *hope i helped*

Q: I have this friend and me and her decided to try a new style for christmas and summer.its kinda 80ish.We want to cut pantyhose knee length and wear a cute abercrombie skirt over it.This is for summer by the way. But then we want to wear a colorful tanktop. For shoes we want flipflops or converse. Can anyone tell me if this sounds cute?