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Hey my name's Hayley, I'm 15 years old and i love to give advice and help! :) Don't be afraid to ask me anything ;) Thank you and I hope you enjoy everything.

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Are these shoes still in becasue I bought them..and Ill wear them anyway..but are they in style?? http://www.gojane.com/13572.html Thanks I rate highh Caitt

Hey girl! yea i like those shoes- they're in! I always think of 'whats in' and whats not... but most of all, you're wearing them, so its up to you!

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I have a pet monkey. I also have an awesome girlfriend who I plan to ask for her hand in marrage. I love her a lot and she means the world to me. However.. I had alredy bought a very expensive white gold and diamond encrusted engagement ring. But.. I know this is going to sound stupid and made up.. but my monkey ate it. He seriously honest to god te it! I dont have enough money to buy her a new one.. so what to I do?

Well there.. thats a problem, but a funny story you'll have to tell your wife after marriage! But is there a way you can get the ring out of his stomache? If not... this may sound gross, but wait until the monkey goes to the bathroom, it has to come out sometime... :x
Haha, if not, i guess buy a new not expensive one and you wife will understand (althought thats not the best idea). But i suggets calling a veterainerian ! good luck with everything hope i helped

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were can i find music for free besides launch.com?

http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=XaNgA_MuSiC
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netscape music, just go to the netscape web site, and you'll find the music i think under Radio or somthing, Hope i helped

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So, I'm in 8th grade (im a girl) and recently I geuss I have begun to be really good friends with a 5th grader (boy) (i go to a SMALL Catholic school in the middle of no where). Now I like him much more than a friend, but i dont know if it's wrong to like him more, or what i can do about it?.

Hunni, not at all! don't be ashamed of who you have feelings for. If you care about him, and you think you too could be good for eachother, then the next step is letting him know. Become a little more flirty around him and mabye he feels the same way! think about your parents, are they close in age? a lot of people arent, and especially if you go to a school like that, so go for it! don't be ashamed, its not bad at all , good luck hope i helped

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theres this girl that i was close friends with named amanda so i asked her out and she rejected me. we werent that close for a while after that, but now were friends again and i cant stop thinkin about her but i dont have the guts to ask her out. plus, i heard she liked me not too long ago during a time when i was messing around with one of her friends. i need some advice on how i should go about this before i go crazy about this girl

Well don't worry, typical love problems.. Just go with your heart. If you think this girl is right for you, and you care about her a lot, and you like her, then do somthing about it . Tell her how you feel at the right time, and be more flirty to get her going too, good luck babe

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is it bad to leave your cell phone on while you are charging it?

nope :)

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SRY THIS IS LONG ILL RATE A 5 TO ANY1 WHO ANSWERS IT!!!

okay..im really confused and have no idea what to do...im stuck between 2 guys...the one guy i went out with for about 8 months and we recently broke up about a month and a half ago...well all of a sudden after a month of not talking to me he calls me and says he misses me and wants to get back together with me...the other guy i went out with about a year and a half ago...we have been good friends ever since we broke up...and he recently had a gf but broke up with her bc he liked me and wants to go out with me...i dont know what to do bc i like both of them sooo much and it's so hard...i thought it was going to b easy bc the one guy i thought we werent going to talk to again...SOMEONE HELP PLEASE!!

Hey hunn, don't worry, everyone goes throught these type of love problems. :) Well i went out with a boy for 8 months and we broke up, and yeah we both ended up calling eachother back.. we missed eachother- but thats just what happens. You can't expect to go out with someone for so long and get so attched, and then just forget about them. And the other boy sounds like a really good friend. He also went out with anyother girl and when they break up, the boy usually goes back to the girl before.. because he misses her also. But i understand that you can't pick which one but all you need to do is play it smart- think about going out with them both, and kissing them and being close to him. Then hangout with them both at different times and see how you are with him. Go with your heart, but also mind too becuase you don't want to get hurt. When you pick one of them (if you do) then have a talk with the otehr one becuase tehre going to want to know what happened, and just be honest. Goodluck with everything, let me know what happens please! hope i helped

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Ive got a really bad obsession with the drink coca cola! and its not good for you to drink it everday of the week. Anyone give me advice on how to stop drinking so much coke?!?

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Hey hun, oh man i love coke too! :-p
Well coca cola has cafene (sorry im horrible at spelling) , whish is very addicting.. thats what probably makes you want it everyday, and of course the taste. No its not good to drink it everyday, i mean it probably wont hurt you or anything but i wouldnt say its good haha. Try stichting everyother day to start with another really good drink you like, prefibly not soda. Or just hide it from yourself lol. Good luck, and don't be so worried, its not like its alcohol or anything bad :) Hope i helped

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ok, i'm am in love with this one girl. and we've went out before but she said that she wasn't ready. (that was about a year ago)ok lately i've been hearin that she hates my guts and that she likes one of my friends.and me and her haven't talked since last year. so wat do i do? (rate very well)

thanks

Well You need to talk to her yourself about it. You can't have a relationship over what other people say, and you know people talk a lot of sh*t somtimes. Also, be honest with her, and tell her how you feel. Just talk on the phone, or hangout if you want somtime and descuss everything. But since you said you havet talked for a year, then maybe she has moved on- but that shouldnt stop you from wanting to know whats up and talking with her. You should always be agresive with a relationship- Well of course i mean like don't just sit there and watch some1 you like, fall in love with some1 else. You could miss a lot of oppertunities if you do that. And if you find out that if the rumors are true, then you just need to move on babe. Never get cought up on one person. If she doesnt like you anymore, then find another girl, and maybe some time later on you too could have a relationship, who knows. But if you really like her still then just have a talk with her- no big deal. Good luck! Let me know what happens, or ask me a quesiotn anytime* hope i helped

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This morning, I woke up and I noticed there was a tiny white dot/ball on my upper eyelid. It kind of hurts when I move my eye. Does anyone know what it is and how it got there? How do I get rid of it?

Most likely its a Sty. I had one a few weeks ago, and there irritating but they go away within a few days. TO get rid of them you need to put warm compressed on them. Like a hot face cloth on it, and it clears right up within the next day or so. Its what the doctor will tell you. Hope i helped

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Okay, my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 1/2 months now. Anyway, at the beginning ont the relationship we'd be so eager to talk to eachother, and talk on the phone every night, and ditch friends for eachother, etc.

Now, we don't talk on the phone for periods of time. (Right now it's been 11 days since I've talked to him on the phone) And we hang out amazingly less, and I don't feel the urge anymore to check the computer every 5 minutes to see if he's online. When I do get to talk to him, I feel so uninterested. I could honestly go days without talking to him, and it wouldn't bug my anymore. Sometimes I cry because I don't understand what's happening, and it really upsets me. Could it be that I'm just losing interest/we both are in eachother? :(

Tuesday night on AIM I told him that I felt I was losing interest in him, and he repsonded, "Geez, I like you a lot, I can't just stop." Then he put up an away message that said, "I fucking screwed up somehow." And signed off. We eventually resolved the problem, but I feel I lied. I told him I still did like him, and I was stupid to say that. But really, I feel EXACTLY like that. I'm not as interested. What's happening? Do I WANT to get over him or something..?

Thank you.

Well hunn I know what you mean. If you want to continue your relationship then all you have to do is spice it up- your bored. Relationships always have their up's and down's and you too just need somthing interesting. Maybe hangout for a day and go on a hike in the woods or somthing, maybe go to the beach, or just do somthing that you too both like and that is different.
If you feel that you are really loosing interest .. then take a break for a while, you want to feel comfortable with everything and when you too are apart, you will really know if you should be together, depending on how you are apart.
But take things as they go and i suggest doing somthing interesting soon and see how it goes. I feel that he really loves and cares about you a lot. You too have been together for a good amount of time now and its probably really just that your bored. Also, don't feel like you have to talk to eachother every night. Hunn this is really normall, don't get worried or depressed over it. Hangout with your friends and when you do see your boyfriend, try new things. Maybe you could try somthing new like sexually.. haha i dont know, but it does make you closer to him. So goodluck with everything, leave one in my imbox or ask a question anytime.. Hope I helped

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ok um im gonna put this very bluntly....my mom only has only about 1 month and a half left to live and i love her and im tryin to deal wit it the best way I can may not be the best way to everyone else but even my counseler said ppl react to this shit differently and this is just how im dealin wit it....there are a few girls in my skool who keep callin me slut and shit because i had sex twice wit a guy ive been datin for 5 months and sayin how i only try to get attention when im in skool and shit and they said no one feels bad for me and my little issues at home. That fukin hurt me like hell but im not gona say anything to them or cry bout it bc i dont want to show them that what they said got to me...how do i deal with this how do i get them to understand without fukin TALKING to them (because we all kno that dont work wit junior high bitches) or without literally holdin a gun to each one of there temples and scarin the shit out of them til they respect me what the hell do i do im offically screwy now...idk what to do. plz help

Babe, try really hard to get the little bitches out of your head, you don't need them right now what so ever. You have much more important things ging oon then that, don't let them waste your time, you be the one to be like 'Oh okay, thankyou for you comment, shove it up your ass next time' or somthing, i dno.. just think that your the better one to not be sayin somthing. If they keep up with it, slap her or somthing. But forget about them, be with your mom & friends, they dont need your time. Hey goodluck with your mom, sorry to hear about it.. these things happen, keep your head up, be with your friends, keep doing the things you loove to do and try to give your mom the last few amazing days of her life.. show her you care and make her feel as special as possible and stay strong hunn :) hope i helped

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Ok, I'm really good friends with this kid mike. And he just broke up with his girlfriend and lately he's been really flirty with me. And he asked me out the other day and I'm kind of nervous about going out with him because if it doesn't work out I'm worried about if our friendship will still last. Should I take a chance and go out with him or just tell him that we should stay really good friends?

Take it easy with everything babe, do what your heart tells you to do.. if you feel like you guys could have a relationship then go for it! but if your shacky about it and are worried, then no big deal- stay as friends. But you never want to loose an opertunity that you could never get again ... keep that in mind. Hangout with him- just you too, and see how things go, you'll know your answer. If you want, talk about it with him, it will make it better for the both of you, good luck babe, rate me :) hope i helped

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i play basketball and i was the third leading scorer last year on my team. number one rebounder and number one all around defensive player. but my dilema is i really want to play golf which means i cant play bbal couse htye over lap. i cant make a decision.

I had to make a decision like this too, dance or softball. I have been dacing for 11 years and I Love it. And softball for 6, and it was such a hard decistion, but i chose dance because its just what i wanted to do the best. You have to decide... Pictures yourself giving up each one.. pictures yourself playing each one, you'll get your answer soon enough. And remember, its not like the sport is leavig you forever, you can always play a little bbal outside in your free tim eiwth friends, or go to the courts and swing at some when you please. Talk to your friends and mom too, they mite help :) good luck

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im back with my boyfriend james, we went out for 9 months and broke up a month ago but now we're goin out again, he cheated on me with my bestfriend and this really dirty chick. but i coudlnt help the things he says to me hes so nice. is it wrong that im back with him? this boy scotty who has been my friend always was so mad and punched him in the face when he saw me cryin when i found out. he said hed never treat a girl like that and if he does it again he'll rip him apart because he loves me.. he told me he has major feelings too and i think i like him, what should i do

Heyy sweetie, lets start out with i know exactly what your talking about. The same thing happened with me. I went out with this boy for 9 months and I absolutly loved him, he was my everything, i gave my virginity to him, and i was so attached. Well of course after we broke up, he told me he cheated on me with his best friend (girl). Well anyways i was soo depressed and devistated and i thought i could never love any1 again and blah blah blah.. it was bad haha. WELL it took me a while but i moved on and i'm with this AMAZING guy right now.. i love him so much, he treats me sooo good and i'm so happy... of course i still think about my ex cuz he was my first love but you need to move on. You can't be stuck on som1 forever because *you'll miss out on somthing that could be amazing* - which is what you really should do babe. I totally understand your feelings for james and 9 months is a pretty long time... But hunn, he cheated on you! That should make you walk away, butttt i know how you feel once again, i felt the same way- i didnt care. So you really need to think what is best for you, it takes a while to get over some1 probably like James. And i strongly highly suggest you and your guy friend need to be together.. The way he cares about you, and how you guys are probably so close... He's good for you! My boyfriend now is so amazing to me and my ex was horrible.. He told my dad i wasnt a virgin, he made me lose my best friend, he cheated on me... It just goes on lol. And the problem was, i was in love with him at the time. So you need to really think about everything, and i think you reallllly need to get with your guy friend. It sounds so cute. Tell you ex exaclty how you feel.. and the same with your guy friend. He cares so much about you, and you like him too, and belive me, you'll find its so much better when you know the person would never ever want to hurt you. So get with him! Loose the jerk sweetie.. good luck, hope i helped, drop one in my imbox, and tell me how things go!! or ask another question any time you want :)

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Hi, well my names Jen and im 15 and a freshman. In gym class i noticed this boy Matt and he went to my middle school but we never actually talked. But today in gym he said "Hey Jen!" and i dont know i was kind of happy about it. I saw him alot that day and i tried to say hi and smile alot but i know he is extremely shy and everything but he kind of smiled but looked down saying hi. Hes sort of geeky, but i dont think i really care about that but im not sure what to do? Thank you so muchhhh

Well its kinda hard to say, cuz i'm not too sure what YOU want to do lol. If you sort of like him a little then say hi to him tomorrow and talk and progress with everything! It sounds really cute, i think you should be agressive and talk to him. Good luck

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i asked about the talkin to my ex boyfriend .. well have you talked to your ex since then? and how long did it take you to get over him? i really do love him, and i have since the first time i met him 2 years ago ... and ever since we broke up, i have been depressed. Like 2 of his friends asked me out, but i just dont want no body but him. One of his friends liks me now, and i kinda like him, but no where near as much as i do josh. i am so confused!!!

Hey, well i talk to my ex probably once a month... its sorta weird though. To tell you the truth, it took forever to get over him. I do still think about him, somtimes i get a tiny bit worried i do too much, and that when we Do talk i get nervous n stuff, but its normall i think. You never get over your first love. Im 15 and we were eachothers first love, i lost my virginity to him (somtimes im not sure if that was a mistake or not) but it defintily made me so attached to him.. :/ Well I told myself that he was bad for me, and i needed to move on, and it took a long time, i was really depressed too. It was probably the hardest thing i've had to do. But in the end, things work out, they always do. I understand about his friends, and that "no1 comparres to Josh" and thats the same exact way i felt. but you have to try to open your mind a little, and heart, but still have josh if you have that mmany feelings for him still. I would talk to josh though, definitly. But also hangout with his friends, and try a little bit. I did that, and after a while i fell in love with Nick (current boyfriend) and its amazing, i love him. But i know exactly how you feel, i seriously thought i was never going to love the same again or anything, but there are other people out there, BELEIVE me.. Anyways, talk to josh! whats holding you back? if you feel this many feelings for him still then you should go at it! For his friend that asked you out, either tell him the truth (which mite help, cuz he could talk to josh-- but not sure) or just say that your not ready for a boyfriend right now, can we be friends for now. but also you shouldnt X out boys because of 1 of them.. even though i did that too, but it can come back to you, try to flirt with others a little. But i understand how strong feelings can be when your in love, so comefront him and be open and honest... I really want to know what happens haha.. :) but goodluck with everything, let me know what happens please, this sounds cute and interesting. Hope i helped again, best of luck babe.. follow your heart

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there is this guy and i have liked him for 2 years now. We went out last summer but the day before school started back we broke up. My dad found out some stuff we did and talked to josh and told him not to talk to me ever again. josh has a girlfriend now but i still want him so bad. My dad told me the other day i could talk to josh again. And i really want to but we havent talked in so long and i dont know what to say. I dont even know if he wants to talk to me anymore. Any ideas on what to do? i'll rate high for answers!!!

Hey babe ! well its kinda funny because this same exact thing happened to me! I went out with my ex over the summer and when school started we broke up. (he was my first love) and yeah my dad also found stuff out we did (bad things) lol and so i never got to talk to him again. Now he has a girlfriend too. So eventaully i had to move on and i did and now i have this amazing guy who i love and its great. So to let you know, if you think theres no1 else out there, its just a stage every1 goes through, BELEIVE ME. i thought i was going to die lol. But anyways, If Josh is worth it, then you need to make a move! don't be afraid to call him. Never by shy for love, if you are then you could wake up the next day and he could have another girlfriend or somthing could change, so just tell him how you feel. I agree you mite think it could be weird, i mean at first when he see's your calling him he mite be like 'ummm..' but who knows?- maybe when your dad told him not to talk to you anymore, he was so sad and he could still have feelings for you that didn't go away... So i would defintily do somthing if you still really like him. You'll always want to talk to him again right? so just do it. And when you do, explain that maybe its weird that your calling him again, but you just wanted to for some reason, and maybe you can hangout with him again and he could come back to you since its been a while without you. So good luck, hope i helped

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Like any other annoying question...here it goes..

There's this guy..Scott..wow what a hottie..I've liked him since forever..7th grade..he gave me my first kiss..It wasn't even a kiss..more like a makeout session..but hey, that's even better! ..Turns out, I was just a stupid bet he won against the other guys..He said he was sorry..I accepted..we went out...broke up..went out, broke up..All this time while we broke up, I still had feelings for him...He said he still liked me, too...A couple of months ago, we went out..and this time, my feelings were even stronger..It felt like love..(I'm in 9th grade now) but he broke up with me because he said we weren't spending enough time together and that we were just "friends with benefits" I still like him..I really do. I am jealous when I know he's hanging out with other girls..I become depressed. I don't know what to do though...I live so far away from him and we don't even go to the same school...What do i do?

I would suggest a long talk about everything so you too both know eachother's feelings. REMEMBER guy's are assholes (not all the time, they are great,i do love them) but they don't understand feelings as much as girls do unless there gay or somthing. But anyways, tell him how you feel and before you call him, know what you want to say. Then hangout possibly and do the things you want. When he says he thinks you guys are just friends with benifits, then hold back on the sexual play. Its good to not do that stuff a lot because when you do its a specialer (no matter what it is) and its not just like an everyday thing, you'll want it more when you don't do it as much. Also, if you guys live far away then it is sorta harder to see him lol, so i think your maybe right on that one, and if he's giving yoou problems try to be like 'well its sorta hard seeing you a lot, i mean i Love to, but its hard' . Sence you too have gone out and broken up twice and have had some things in the past, you could look at it 2 ways- 1. its not worth all this stuff, and breaking my heart with the stop go stuff Or 2. the reason we keep going out is becuase we still have those feelings that keep us coming back. .. soo its tough but you need to also think- is he worth it? I mean i went out witha boy for 9 months and i was in love with him, but shit happened and now we have other boyfriends and girl friends because we had to move on. It was so hard but trust me- there are other people out there. I DIDnt think so at alll, it took me a long time to get over it, but it happed. You have all of high school to look forward to. But anyways, talk to him, hangout with him. tell him you get jealous of other girls becuase you still have feelings. But hangout with your girlfriends and try not to get caught up on this guy. Good luck, hope i helped

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hey i love your advice column! ok i have a huge question...what are somethings that i can do(actions) to make my bf want to kiss me more?

aw thanks so much babe! Well first, always make sure for a good kiss:
· have a nice minty fresh breath ;)
· maybe some chap stick on your lips or somthing so there beautiful haha
· and maybe the right time for it
For some actions your could do, are just hugging, cuddleing some more, whisper in his ear cute things, tell him you love him, smile, be sexy and have fun, you could put your hand from his hair (you could play with it for a little) then down the his cheeck to his chest, on his hip lol, and to his thigh if you were laying down.-It makes the boys a little more *into it* i guess you could say.. just maybe a fun thing to do
If he doesnt kiss you, then maybe kiss him first to let him know you want to, he will follow
Have fun! I hope i helped, ask me a question anytime, good luck

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