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My boyfriend & I.
Okay, my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 1/2 months now. Anyway, at the beginning ont the relationship we'd be so eager to talk to eachother, and talk on the phone every night, and ditch friends for eachother, etc.
Now, we don't talk on the phone for periods of time. (Right now it's been 11 days since I've talked to him on the phone) And we hang out amazingly less, and I don't feel the urge anymore to check the computer every 5 minutes to see if he's online. When I do get to talk to him, I feel so uninterested. I could honestly go days without talking to him, and it wouldn't bug my anymore. Sometimes I cry because I don't understand what's happening, and it really upsets me. Could it be that I'm just losing interest/we both are in eachother? :(
Tuesday night on AIM I told him that I felt I was losing interest in him, and he repsonded, "Geez, I like you a lot, I can't just stop." Then he put up an away message that said, "I fucking screwed up somehow." And signed off. We eventually resolved the problem, but I feel I lied. I told him I still did like him, and I was stupid to say that. But really, I feel EXACTLY like that. I'm not as interested. What's happening? Do I WANT to get over him or something..?
Thank you.
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AHH THE SAME THING HAPPEND TO ME! except i just broke up with him after delaying it for like 3 weeks. Well...if you are really losing intrest in him, then break up with him. simple as that. tell him your sorry and you feel he's a nice guy, but you just don't feel the same way as before. And tell him that its nothing that he did, but you just aren't the same person and don't feel the same way. (even if thats not true lol...it lets him down easy..) it allll goes back to the "its not me..its you!" lol...LAME LAME LAME...but its soo true sometimes! alright well..good luck
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hi dont worry ask him if he wants to go out somwhere on a date and if you want to tell me more can you give me your email address and i tell you more aswell
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FRom the way you've descRibed it, it *does* seem like the two of you have lost inteRest in one anotheR. It's impoRtant to RemembeR that moving on and gRowing apaRt happens to many many people in a Relationship, so it's definitely not uncommon. And yes, I would assume that you do want to move on. If you didn't, you would have been up his ass calling him foR those 11 days in which you have not spoken. I'd say the two of you need to sit down and calmly spill youR honest feelings. PeRhaps togetheR the two of you can come up with an appRopRiate solution to the pRoblem. HoweveR, if you ask me, it doesn't seem like the Relationship is salvagable, because fRankly... if theRe's no inteRest... theRe's just no inteRest.. I wish you the best of luck! Hopefully I've helped!!
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It sounds like you've lost interest. He says he hasn't but he's not called in 11 days either. I think you probably need a break from each other. It isn't a fun thing to do but, you have to be honest with him about your feelings. :)
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the same thing happened to me. i liked this boy for over a year, almost secretly obsessed. when he finally asked me out i was so happy. i thought it was the best thing that could ever happen to me.the same thing happened: spent a lot of time on the phone together and spent a lot of time on the weekends together. then i started to feel like i didnt want to be around him anymore. when he didnt call, i didnt care. i was glad. when i tried to talk to him about the "me not liking him" situation he said some things like, "ooohhh but i like you SO much. i've NEVER felt like this before." he just wanted me to feel sorry for him so i wouldnt break up with him. but i did anyways and we aren't even friends now. it's completely normal. people change, things change, it's the human way we just have to deal with it. whatever you do, please talk it out with him first, you never know, maybe he can say something to change your mind.
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well i dont know how old you are, but usually before like college or the end of high school - we're not REALLY in love. we just have strong feelings towards one another. we just have the urge to be wanted because we may be going through emotional trouble at home or with friends or school and that we want a partner to know who will always be on your side and help you with everything. crushes aren't as powerful as love. but like i said, i don't know but only for 5 1/2 months sounds like a crush. so i say you shouldn't just stay with him just because he feels or he THINKS he feels that he needs you. guys also want a girl to call their own. maybe you should take a break for a while and see how things go. if you're happy - keep it that way, but if you're miserable - talk to him and maybe you can get back together. don't just stay with him just for the sake of having a boyfriend.
hope i helped,
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ii have a great idea. ok maybe you guys haven't done something fun for so long. since summer is coming up you 2 could go to a fun amusemnt park and if that doesn't work spend a day together talking at the park. maybe you're just tired of our relationship and need some excitement.
leave me a message on my inbox anytime and i will be happy to help.
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Hey,
It's like so obvious you don't like the guy anymore.
Do him a favour and nicely tell him.Don't lie that you like him....it's stupid because you're gonna be hurting yourself and him.You guys should stay frends though,just simply say ur sorry but your feelings for him have changed and you dont find him that much interesting anymore, or you can just tell him that you haven't been feeling much interest for him and u wanna fix it so you gys should hang out more and do the fun stuff you guys used to do.I hope my advice helps,o ye i think you should also appologise for just burstin out on aim that you wer losing interest in him and then tell him you wanna try to work it out or tell him that you want some time off or sumthing.
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It does not seem to me that you like this guy anymore. You said it yourself, your not interested. So, I dont think it is fair to him for you to keep leading him on just because you dont want to hurt him. If you want to be with him, good for you, GO FOR IT. But, if like you say, your losing interest, then it will only hurt him more in the long run. Its not fair to him at all. I say that you should either end it or find a way to stay happy with him if thats what you want. Hope it gets better!
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Well i dont really think you like him anymore, you just want to like him because he's the perfect guy for you and he's great.. but the best thing to do is either break up with him.. or go on a break for a certain amount of time to see if the feelings come back..just be straight out honest to him and maybe he will understand.. or start to hang out with him.. or take a step foward in the relationship, spice things up :]
Kate♥
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Well hunn I know what you mean. If you want to continue your relationship then all you have to do is spice it up- your bored. Relationships always have their up's and down's and you too just need somthing interesting. Maybe hangout for a day and go on a hike in the woods or somthing, maybe go to the beach, or just do somthing that you too both like and that is different.
If you feel that you are really loosing interest .. then take a break for a while, you want to feel comfortable with everything and when you too are apart, you will really know if you should be together, depending on how you are apart.
But take things as they go and i suggest doing somthing interesting soon and see how it goes. I feel that he really loves and cares about you a lot. You too have been together for a good amount of time now and its probably really just that your bored. Also, don't feel like you have to talk to eachother every night. Hunn this is really normall, don't get worried or depressed over it. Hangout with your friends and when you do see your boyfriend, try new things. Maybe you could try somthing new like sexually.. haha i dont know, but it does make you closer to him. So goodluck with everything, leave one in my imbox or ask a question anytime.. Hope I helped
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Don't keep going on like this is you don't feel the same way. He may be crazy about you, but it's not fair to him if you don't feel the same way. Now, I don't know for sure, but it looks to me like you have lost interest in him. I don't think you WANT to get over him, but relationships fade. The first weeks (or months) are usually exciting and fun. You're lying to your self by saying you still like him. I would slowly let him down, saying you think he's a great person (after all, he wouldn't be your boyfriend if you didn't think so, right?) but you don't want to go on like this. He might be devastated, so try to help him as much as you can. But it's not fair to him if you keep giving in. I hope this helps!
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