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hey guys. i'm here to help because i feel i'm good at this stuff. i'll try my best with problems because i have probably faced them too :]. yeh, so anyway don't be afraid to ask. any smart aleck questions will get smart aleck answerss ;]. ask awayyyyyy!!
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Okay , well I have this friend . And me and her have been hanging out for quite awhile and getting along and everything . But , then all of a sudden she starts talking to her more than me . And now we're all going to kennywood together and it seems like she wants to be around the other girl more than me. =[ I don't know how to ask her whats up with that w/o getting her to freak out on me . what do I do ?
Please help . I really really need it .
thanks
sorry. i kinda got rid of this so i dont really update. but i'll help you, i know it's late. but you should try to like make the best of a bad situation by like hanging with other people, not just her. but if you really want her back, then ask, but don't be obsessively annoying or anything. if she throws a fit on you, ignore it and have fun with everyone else. don't just let one person ruin your fun
hey i went out wit thise kid for 9 MONTHZ !! nd we broke up for some stupid shyt i forgot whut lol .. but he cut me =/ nd he has been havin all these new grl friends and he knows hes hurtin me real bad =[ he styll says he styll loves me and all this stuff .. when i see him he alwayz gives me hugz nd shyt like thatt .. but if he loved me he wouldnt be with her right ? =/ i love him so much im soo lostt .. he says he styll loves me and i love him so much idk whut to do .. whut should i do?? xo i love him so much
DEAR MISS SHAWTEY,
well you should seriously consider that he's hurting you and maybe you shouldn't be treated like that. i know it's hard to break up for a long term relationship, but it sounds like he's trying to play you and other girls like dangling them in your face to get you to beg for him back. you should talk to him and like seriously ask him why he loves you when he's going out with someone else bc you don't want a player for a boyfriend.
don't worry,
HEREtoHELPx3
ok soo..
me and my bf have been goin out for like a month.. but we dont talk that much or hang out a lot, and when we do hang out we still dont talk that much. i know that hes kind of shy and prude but i am too. i dont know how to make this relationship more open and what to say or talk with.. with him. and how to be less shy around him :/ please help me..!!
xox shy girl
DEAR XOX SHY GIRL,
i think maybe you should start making conversation with him instead of waiting for him to talk to you. it might be hard but laugh and be a little more flirtacious with him maybe he'll come around. you should also talk to him about how the realtionship is heading. you might want to consider taking a break if you're not happy.
see if it works,
HEREtoHELPx3
dear heretohelpx3,
i've been going out with this guy for like 2 weeks and he's hooked up w. girls before, but i haven't really had a boyfriend and i'm terrified to do it, but i really want to. He's trying not to pressure me, but i feel horrible for not hanging out with him enough and not doing that. I don't really know who he's friends with because we never really hung out after school a lot. I'm not allowed to have guys over my house. I don't have many friends who i hang out after school either. By the way, i'm in seventh grade.
Do you have any advice?
xo bad girlfriend
DEAR BAD GIRLFRIEND,
aw. first i think its really sweet that your boyfriend accepts that your not ready and isnt really forcing you to hook up with him even if he IS sending you hints. but anyway, i never h/u either bc i havent had a boyfriend in a few years but i could care less - i enjoy being single :). but anyways, i know im soon gna have one and i know the time will come where hes gna wna kiss me and im scared too so i asked a lot of my friends. its natural to feel scared. i would wna do it too when i have a b/f but im freaking out too lol. a lot of my friends say the guys usually know what to do and you just gotta go with the flow supposedly and after a while you get the hang of it and it gets easier. but my advice to you is even if you wna do it, dont feel pressured at all to do it - if you wna wait 15 years than do it!! but dont let him pressure you for something that you arent ready for. if he loves you then he'll understand but guys that age are very into that kinda stuff, so maybe just procrastinate (hold off) on doing it by distracting him, like maybe kissing or hugging or talking or like flirting or just lay on top of him lol. anything you feel you wna do. and you have to let him know so he doesnt feel like that you dont like him. also i would say the best time to do it is at a party or a hang-out.
did i help?,
HEREtoHELPx3
heyy i am reallly upset. i am always left out by me friends and i dont know what to do about it. When my best friend hangs out with my other friend she doesn't pay any attention to me and i am like not there. I kinda get mad and upset. When my best friend and i ahng out alone together we are like talking and having fun. All my friends are soo nice and i love them but i kinda feel left. Please can i have your help!!
DEAR LEFT OUT KINDA FRIEND,
well as you can see, if you want a lot of help, i had a situation like this so you can view that info if you need bc i dont feel like saying it all over again lol. but i will give you knew adivce. idk why but a lot of this friend stuff relates to my sister like i used for someone else lol. but anyways, my sister and this girl alone like by themselves are very compatible i mean they seem inseperable. but everyone knows that the girl has a best friend so that no one can take this other girls spot - even my sister. so anyway when the girl and my sister are together they're fine. but when the girl and HER BEST FRIEND get together, they act really mean to my sister and are mean online too. so my sister gets hurt. and also its like that for me. okay theres this girl (lets name her Kayla). kayla and i are bffl - not best friends but like friends forever. so anyway we've never hung out with just the two of us, but in a small group of 3 or 4, shes really nice and we get along great. but in a bigger group - she acts different and i totally feel the same way you do. i would just say confront her and also, try to be social like try to force yourself into having her like you. you gotta find what your best friend is looking for in a buddy, and then become that without like fully changing who you really are. but like be outgoing if she likes funny, or be caring if she needs attention - like that sorta thing.
comment back with questions,
HEREtoHELPx3
hey :) i went out with this guy last summer and on and off 3 times before then and when our relationship ended for the 4th time he said he still likes me but he needs time and from then till now he has on and off tried to get back together with me and then wouldnt talk to me and tell me he likes this girl anamaria. now this summer we're working together at camp and im afraid that its gonna be akward and hes gonna try and ask me back out and i know i like him enough where im not gonna be able to help saying yes. how should i handle this?
xox boys suck
DEAR BOYS SUCK,
yeh, these are always difficult to deal with. um in my opinion, i dont think you should go back out with him because he keeps breaking your heart and you guys are always on and off and he's being a player saying he likes more than 2 people. but then again, it's your choice. crushes are always hard to get around. but maybe you should try to really think - "if i break up with him again, do i wna go through this awkwardness again? do i wna loose our friendship just because he wants to take a break? or do i really want someone better for me?" i dont exactly know how much you like him because maybe you gotta move on. this reminds of my kid sister. she's in 6th and she's liked this boy (lets name him Jacob) since like 2nd grade and they went out once but he dumped her for her worst enemy. lets name the enemy Katherine. but anyway - heres the story: Katherine and Jacob went out in the beginning of the year and my sister was mad. but katherine's parents didnt approve of a boyfriend so she had to dump jacob. so like in november, jacob asked my sister out and they went out for a couple months and then he dumped my sister for katherine again. katherine and jacob went out again but katherine didnt let her parents know. but a few weeks later, katherine dumped jacob and had a thousand crushes; a new one each day. but jacob always flirted with my sister. he went to all of her sport games and smiled at her in school and would always run in the hallways to catch up to her to listen to her talking to her friends. but now just today katherine and jacob are back out again but just yesterday katherine said she liked this kid (lets name him) Pete. yeh sorry i know a lot of people but its kinda like your situation. so you can kinda see how annoying katherine is with all the dumping and liking. and you can see how my sister just wont stop liking jacob. think about the questions i told you and see how you feel about it.
sorry i was rambling,
HEREtoHELPx3
ok
umm... well thak you for that information so i dont feel like im the only one in the school with this problem and i feel better but i just want to say screw you all those gurls who ruin my life
thnx
ex. friends or no?
DEAR FRIENDS OR NO,
no problem. don't worry. almost everyone feels that way.
glad we met,
HEREtoHELPx3
this girl named steph like sucks @ comp-WHAT SHOULD I DO?
DEAR WHAT SHOULD I DO,
im sorry. i dont really understand what you're trying to ask. now when you say comp - do you mean competition? if so, what kind?
let me know,
HEREtoHELPx3
yeah,
thank you! you made me relize whta is right infront of me and i wanna now wat happened to you
friends or no?
DEAR FRIENDS OR NO,
well i used to be really close with this girl lets name her Mary and we were like best friends and everything but around this year she got closer to this other girl lets call her Jane who is my bffl too. and now we dont really hang out just the two of us anymore (me and mary). shes still my bffl and the other girl (jane) is too, but i really dont have a best friend anymore and i like it like that because now i met other girls from other schools who i love so frikken much. i WOULD DiE FOR MY GiRLS!!! and thats what friendship is - love and care. and now im happy that i met new ones! and we may have our differences but the only way to find your true friends is to screw up and see who's still there :)
glad i helped,
HEREtoHELPx3
Yupp its mee!,
i get what u are saying but these ppl even at parties only say hi and stuff. i love my new friedns but when i think of wat happend over these years it upsets me and sometimes i think it is my fault and that im too ugly or fat and feel like i dont deserve to live and i never did but think about cutting myself and suicide but im too chiken to do that!!! it is sad and stuff but i just cry sometimes!
idk anymore my life sux
friends or no?
DEAR FRIENDS OR NO,
well you know whats funny? (not really but its a coincidence). i never really understoof why people would want to kill themselves or cut themselves. but its weird how i was telling people last week about why. and i said because of friend issues and other problems that they want solved. but dont ever do it - its a permanent solution to a temporary problem (lol i learned it from my health teacher) but seriously dont. if you love your new friends - keep it that way, maybe its better off. its not because your fat and ugly that they dont like you, they've just moved on and found different interests in other people. i know its hard to think on the past thinking it was a better life - but you gotta look into the future seeing yourself even MORE happier with your new friends. i always cry about my friends; im emotional like that. i wish my life was the same when i had my elementary school friends back, but in middle school i met soooo many new people that i've grown to love. im not being mean but you cant just cling onto the same people.. you gotta expand your options. sure, i've lost a few best friends too, but i have gained so many and no one deserves to be treated badly just when they're trying to be nice. like i said..dont think so much into the past and try to think about the future. its kinda like when a pet dies, you want it back but sometimes you just cant and you may cry but it just helps if you remember the good times that you had had instead of increasing the hurt. comment back with more questions..i really wna help you! x3
comment back,
HEREtoHELPx3
imm back,
well i sortof cant do that becuas they cut me out of evertyhting wat am i suppsosed to do i mean i love my new friends but i would like to hang out with the others too you know wat happened to u?
friends or no?
DEAR FRIENDS OR NO,
sorry that i didn't help the first time around. its really diffiuclt sorting out friends problems. well i guess its up to you to decide whether you have more fun with your new ones or if you remember better time with the old. i mean a true friend is always supposed to be there for you and if your old friends are treating you wrong, then i guess they aren't the right friends for you. but like i said maybe have like a party or a big hangout of your new and old friends. i mean if that's going to cause problems than probably better off to refrain from doing that. i know its hard switching to another group of friends - but thats what happens, you meet new people which adds to your social life and people change and it happens to everyone. maybe its better off you forget about your old friends for a while; even if you don't want to..but if they're not treating you right, then its not fair for you to be taken advantage of and be treated like garbage. but like i said - whoever you felt more happy with than try to hang out with them more. if not, stay with your new ones.
so sorry for not helping,
HEREtoHELPx3
What things make your face break out or makes you get pimples?
your diet. like dont eat a lot of sugar. and chocolate is a biggie too.
you. you gotta stop touching your face. our hands are full of oil and they get deep down into your skin and get clotted.
sweat. if you sweat a lot especially on your forehead it clogs your pores.
your body develpoing. as you start to develop, the body changes and a lot of people get acne just from the cause of growing older. you can't stop that though..
HERE ARE TIPS TO HELP PREVENT AND GET RIDS OF PIMPLES:
-stridex pads. they are pads that dry up your face that get rid of the dirt that causes pimples.
-cream. go to a dermotologist and he/she can get you cream to daily rub on your face.
-soap. you can use regular soap or there are some soaps just for pimples. wash your face daily.
-hot compress. get a REALLY hot washcloth and just press it where you have the pimples. that will open up your pores and get rid of it.
-DO NOT POP THE PIMPLES! i know it might be tempting and it'll get rid of the pimples you have but it'll just keep coming back bc i dont mean to be graphic but when you pop it, the puss from it like smears kinda on your face or wherever you have it and forms another pimple and the cycle continues. so try to restrain from it.
hope you become clear soon :),
HEREtoHELPx3
heyy
well i am really confused with my friends!! I was really pop but then no on enew how neglected i felt and now im like total blocked form them. they talk to me in school but it is like they never liked me. I have fridns now and i like but sometimes idk if it is the same.
friends or no?
DEAR FRIENDS OR NO,
i went through the same thing. idk how old you are but it could be where the girls start to go their period of time when they develop and get all emotional. here are some tips:
1)confront them. tell them how you feel. acutaully ask if they like you or not. but dont ask too much - i did and people get annoyed; believe me :\
2)invite them more to places. one way to show you still love them as friends is to invite them to your house. have more fun with them so you can become reconnected with them
3)make new friends. making new friends is scary but it's a great way to show off your true self. show people that you aren't afraid to be daring and show that you are a social butterfly.
4)be more social. the more you get involved in conversations at parties or in school - the more attention you'll get. but dont be a stuck up center of attention. no one likes that. just be yourself. be open. tell funny stories and jokes. and just mingle. dont ever sit in a corner and mope during a party - it doesn't work..trust me :\
hope i helped,
HEREtoHELPx3
Okay, my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 1/2 months now. Anyway, at the beginning ont the relationship we'd be so eager to talk to eachother, and talk on the phone every night, and ditch friends for eachother, etc.
Now, we don't talk on the phone for periods of time. (Right now it's been 11 days since I've talked to him on the phone) And we hang out amazingly less, and I don't feel the urge anymore to check the computer every 5 minutes to see if he's online. When I do get to talk to him, I feel so uninterested. I could honestly go days without talking to him, and it wouldn't bug my anymore. Sometimes I cry because I don't understand what's happening, and it really upsets me. Could it be that I'm just losing interest/we both are in eachother? :(
Tuesday night on AIM I told him that I felt I was losing interest in him, and he repsonded, "Geez, I like you a lot, I can't just stop." Then he put up an away message that said, "I fucking screwed up somehow." And signed off. We eventually resolved the problem, but I feel I lied. I told him I still did like him, and I was stupid to say that. But really, I feel EXACTLY like that. I'm not as interested. What's happening? Do I WANT to get over him or something..?
Thank you.
well i dont know how old you are, but usually before like college or the end of high school - we're not REALLY in love. we just have strong feelings towards one another. we just have the urge to be wanted because we may be going through emotional trouble at home or with friends or school and that we want a partner to know who will always be on your side and help you with everything. crushes aren't as powerful as love. but like i said, i don't know but only for 5 1/2 months sounds like a crush. so i say you shouldn't just stay with him just because he feels or he THINKS he feels that he needs you. guys also want a girl to call their own. maybe you should take a break for a while and see how things go. if you're happy - keep it that way, but if you're miserable - talk to him and maybe you can get back together. don't just stay with him just for the sake of having a boyfriend.
hope i helped,
HEREtoHELPx3
sorry is this is long but I really need help so please don't skip over it
Ok my parents have been divorced my whole life I don't even know who my dad is. Well my mom has serious problems with finding guys. They usually beat her or cheat on her. I've had about a dozen stepfathers and all of them treat her like shit and she doesn't deserve that. Well my newest stepfather Richie has been with my mother for 2 years now and she is really happy with him. I've never seen my mom this happy before. He is soo nice to her. But the thing is he has a son (my stepbrother) who is constantly hitting me and raping me. I tried talking to my mom about it and she said that she would talk to my stepdad and my stepbrother. She did and then it stopped for a little while but then he did it again and it was even worse than it was before. He had a couple of his friends over and they thought that it would be fun to beat and rape his 14 year old step sister. I talked to my stepdad and he told me to stop making things up. He told my mother that I was making things up and they sent me to a shrink. Needless to say my stepbrother continued to do these things to me. I confronted my mother again and she told me to talk to my stepdad. I did and he told me that I was lying and that even if I wasn't I needed to get over it because we are a happy family and we all have to make sacrifices I told him that that was wrong and he hit me! Now he's been hitting me too when my mom isn't around. I don't know what to do. She is soo happy and she deserves to be. I don't want to ruin this for her. My question is should I just deal with this so that she can be happy or is there anyway that I can get help without ruining this for her?
i say that you hide cameras around the house like where your stepbrother and your stepdad hurt you. if you really are pregnant - bring the results to the shrink and also to like the police or another relative or maybe even the teachers are good help too. but i think the cameras or maybe even a tape recorder or something might help. also if you got a camera press the video making button or a phone with a camera in it will work. anything that'll show proof that you aren't lying.
good luck,
HEREtoHELPx3
hey!! how are you?!?!im thirteen.. and lol im a girl.well heres my problem.. i like this kid.. lets call him bob.. bob is my absolute best friend thats a guy.. and i think i love bob.no i know i do.i have for a long time, since last year.bob is going out with my best freind thats a girl.bob and i are very very close he can tell me ne thing and i can tell him ne thing.. i told him the beginning of this year i liked him, and ive asked him out wenever he was single, no luck with that. but like online and stuff hes always flirting with me and he says ne guy would be happy to have me. he has nothing to offer me, he thinks im beautiful, i deserve better than him and that he loves me.. and all that stuff but i cant like ne one but him, but wen his girlfriend comes around, things like sorta change with him. he sometimes ignors me and everything. he always hugs me and everything, and i just cant help to think that there are other feelings than just his best friend inside him for me. we always get into fights and he always says im in the way.. but i was best friends with both of them before they even knew eachother,come to think of it,I hooked them up(big mistake)i just dont know what to do, i love him so much!ive nevr ever felt this way about a guy before..=/
signed,
i love my best friend
DEAR I LOVE MY BEST FRIEND,
wow, i cant tell you how many times i've heard something like this before. lol. its a sticky situation but i'll try my best to help.
well its a little weird how he likes you and he's going out with someone else. in my opinion it kinda sounds like that he does like you. and he's putting himself down by saying that you derserve a better guy and hes saying that hes not good enough for you when you think hes the perfect guy. i think maybe when he is currently dating, you should try and give them space. and once he's single again, dont rush into it so fast. ive asked out boys too. and no, thats not weird, if boys can ask out girls, girls should be able to ask out boys. but anyway, yeh i havent had luck either. maybe you should ask one of your friends to help you out or maybe at a party where there is a better chance of him saying yes.
you have to let him know you are serious about you liking him. if you dont, hes just gonna keep thinking that youre too good for him. but also since he is your best friend and if you love him as much as you make it sound - you should want him to be happy; no matter what that means. have you ever seen bruce almighty? where jim carrey loved jennifer aniston but she didnt want to love him anymore? well when he prayed, he didnt pray for her to love hm - he prayed that she would be happy. i know that means maybe never going out with him - but thats what true love is: sacraficing for the one you lovex3..
if you dont like that idea of just letting him be happy. just give him space, time, and tell him honestly but dont sound too desperate bc we dont want that happening :). sry this was so long and it might not have been helpful - but if you have problems just comment back and i'll try to think it over a little more.
hope it works,
HEREtoHELPx3
oki dont know if theis help thing of urs is for madprofiles but i kno u have one and its really nice. well i tried to make a madprofile like the other day and it didnt really work.Like i dont know any of those color codes and stuff. Maybe u can IM and help me a lil. my screename is xobballchik44ox.
umm and the catagory doesnt have to do with my question but they made me put a catagory...lol..
x0x Meghan
DEAR MEGHAN,
hah. thats okay. this site is about anything you have a question with..
thanks about the madpro. it's very difficult to make it and it's frustrating but once you get the hang of it, it'll be easierr. on madprofile website there is a color box where you can pick a color and it'll tell you the code and thats how you can get it. or there are other sites where you can find it like fiehotquotes.com and others. but im not home right now so when i do, i'll IM you and give you the sites that i have saved :)
thats okay about the catergory lol. i would do that too if i were you.
good luck,
HEREtoHELPx3
any problems - IM me or write back
hi!!!! im in 7th grade and i used to be best friends with this girl last year. but now in 7th, she has someone else a best friend. i really want her to be friends but i think she'd rather hang out with the other girl. what should i doo!!!! :(
signed,
friendless loner
DEAR FRIENDLESS LONER,
okay i have a few suggestions:
1) you learn to become friends with the other girl and then hang out with both of them. that way that you can hang out with your best friend and meet a new one :)
2) you confront her and tell her how you're feeling about all of this. if she's the type of person to be upset that she hurt you, then you're good to go. just ask her to hang out more often. but if she got mad and saying you're jealous or something. then give her space - maybe she'll come around.
3) find someone new. she has so why don't you? you may not want to but you'll find it more fun to be hanging with a buddy than to wait for one to come back. trust me, i know. i used to have a best friend too - but middle school absolutely killed it. she's still my friend but we don't hang out like we used to. and i'm okay with that becuase i've gotten closer to other people and i've made new friends that i can make more memories with. it's always good to have more than one best friend! ;)
-try those and tell me what happened. :)
and ps - 7th grade i found it very hard friend wise. all the girls are so emotional and they're mean to everyone. that's why you gotta love guys. hang out with some guys for a while until the girls are calm again. trust me, in 8th grader - things are much better and you find your TRUE group of friends :]