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sorry is this is long but I really need help so please don't skip over it
Ok my parents have been divorced my whole life I don't even know who my dad is. Well my mom has serious problems with finding guys. They usually beat her or cheat on her. I've had about a dozen stepfathers and all of them treat her like shit and she doesn't deserve that. Well my newest stepfather Richie has been with my mother for 2 years now and she is really happy with him. I've never seen my mom this happy before. He is soo nice to her. But the thing is he has a son (my stepbrother) who is constantly hitting me and raping me. I tried talking to my mom about it and she said that she would talk to my stepdad and my stepbrother. She did and then it stopped for a little while but then he did it again and it was even worse than it was before. He had a couple of his friends over and they thought that it would be fun to beat and rape his 14 year old step sister. I talked to my stepdad and he told me to stop making things up. He told my mother that I was making things up and they sent me to a shrink. Needless to say my stepbrother continued to do these things to me. I confronted my mother again and she told me to talk to my stepdad. I did and he told me that I was lying and that even if I wasn't I needed to get over it because we are a happy family and we all have to make sacrifices I told him that that was wrong and he hit me! Now he's been hitting me too when my mom isn't around. I don't know what to do. She is soo happy and she deserves to be. I don't want to ruin this for her. My question is should I just deal with this so that she can be happy or is there anyway that I can get help without ruining this for her?
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Oh I am so sorry!!! This is not your fault, you should be scarred but you will get threw this. First, you should talk to your mom. It may be a little scary, but you should do this. Your mom will belive you. Next tell her about your step-dad, and step-bro hitting you. Tell her it is true about the rappings show her the test, I don't care what but get her to belive you!!!!!! A mom is a mom and you are her child, she should protect you. No matter what happens you should come first to her not a man. Your steps should could go to jail for this you know. Try to keep a cool head what ever happens just know I am here if you ever need to talk. Please just try to get threw this without to many tears. If ever the world seems to much then your mom will be there for you. Good luck, be strong, and goodbye
~Daisyswim~
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You need to report your mom, stepfather and stepbrother to the police. There is no other way around it. No one has to be hit or raped just so the family can pretend to be happy. How could your mother keep you in this situation just because she thinks she has found the man of her dreams. You are her daughter, her flesh and blood. You came before these people and now she is letting them use you just because hse is happy? Your mom has some serious mental problems and you don't deserve to be in a house like that. If you have any relatives that are close to you that you are close to, tell them what is happening. Let them know what is going on and for how long it has been going on. If not, then talk to a teacher or counselor at school. No one has the right to hit and beat on you just because they can, and no one has the right to force you into sex. And now that you are pregnant, you have a child that you need to think about. Is this the kind of situation that you want your child in? This matter is out of your hands and now you need to let someone else take care of it.
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.. this sounds a little fake.. but i will take it seriuosly in case you really are in desperate need of help -- you need to sit down with your mom. like dont just casually bring it up. like sit down with her and tell her that u are happy that she is happy and you love her. and tell her that your step brother is seriuosly hurting yu in ways. and bring up the pregnancy or w/e. but like tell her you want the best for her but you cannot be around your step brother anymore. and actually stay away from him. dont ever be alone with him. and if your paretnts are goig somewheere and leaving you 2 alone -- ask if you can come too or go to a friends house. or if he starts to hurt yo then leaves -- call 911 and tell them your alone and your step brother is hurting you and you need somewhere to go.
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aww hunny!! well try and use your pregnancy test and show you mom and tell her that you have never had sex and that you don't know what to do.. tell her if you do have the baby you want it to have a blood sample taken out and taken out of your step bro's and his friend.. you can not deal with it.. tell your mom that your are not kidding and if she truly knows you like you think then she should now that you are not lying that it is the deffinet truth... tell her that she has to trust you on this.. look into her eyes to show her that you actually are telling the truth... i am with you 100%... i never saw my dad either...
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omgosh im sooo sorry... It's not your fault theres nooooo way you could of stopped it.. and i mean you have to tell someone else if you mom isn't listening you can't go on letting these things happen and blaming yourself for it dont is not your fault you couldn't control what happend and no on else was helping but you either need to tell you mom one more time if she doesnt listen go get help from someone else.... i hope i helped and i hope things work out for you im soorrryyy
H*a*l*e*e
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Wow. this is really serious. YOu need to get out of the house immediately, but don't go anywhere unles you know a place you'll be safe. Don't just run away to nowhere..that would be dumb. Personally I never think that abortion is the answer. It is not that babies fault for the horrible things your step-brother and his friends did/do. If you live in the DFW area, you should check into this place called Mercy House. It's a program that houses young, single, pregnant women until they have had the baby and can get back on there feet. I don't know if you live around there or not, but if you do, email me at Natileexox@aol.com and I can give you some more information. If you don't live in this area, I'm sure that there are such things where you live, and if not, then go to a church in your area. DON'T GO TO PLANNED PARENTHOOD! All they want you to do is abort your child and pay them money for it. I believe you should have the baby and give it up for adoption. There is no such thing as an "unwanted baby." There are waiting lists that go on FOREVER for families that want to adopt. And don't let anyone try to tell you that the baby is not alive or is just tissue, because the babies heart starts beating 3 weeks into the pregnancy. I have some really good websites that you can go to and check out things about abortion but i can't find them right now. If you want them, email me and I'll try to find them.
As far as keeping your mom happy, if she really loves you and is a good mom, she won't be happy if you are being raped, beaten ect. ect. Talk to her and tell her that you are pregnant by rape and if she doesn't do anything about it, you have to take matters into your own hands and do what I said to do above.
PLEASE email me because I want to help! I hope this answer gave you at least SOME insite.
Natalie
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wow thats terrible. i think that you should say to your mom that you need to talk to her it=n private and that its urgent!! then tell her everything and tell her not to repeat it, and then ask her wat should you do. and make sure you tell her this is nothing to joke about so why would you make this up!! your mom has been there for you since you were born. i m sure that she will think of you, someone she has known for over 14 years, rather than someone she has only known for about two. and about the baby you should put it up for adoption. i really hope i helped, and good luck!!
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You don't deal with it by putting up with it. You need to tell a teacher. You need out of the situation. Your mother deserves better than this bunch too. She also needs to believe and help her daughter. If she won't get you out of the situation, you have no choice but to do it yourself. Now your pregnant. Do you want your baby in this enviroment? I don't think so. Tell a teacher or someone who will listen and get you out. Forget the step father, he's as bad as the son. Good luck.
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take a deeeeeeeeep breath....that probably doesnt help does it?but still......this guy needs to be put in jail,right now it doesnt matter what your mom wants,concentrate on what YOU want,you CANNOT let him do this to you anymore!call the cops,your mom will understand,sooner or later.you cant let your stepdad and stepbrother put you through this crap ANYMORE!im serious,talk to a guidance counselor at your school,go stay with a friend or a family member where your safe!im really SORRY this happened to you,if you need to talk or need anything,go to my column,myblankyandme1367,and talk to me!
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tell your mom as soon as possible. its is very important. and dont just say that if it doesnt stop then your going to to police. you tell her, and if she does somehitng about it or not, you still go to the police... your stepbrother deserves everything you can dis out at him. and if your mom doesnt do anyhitng about your stepdad either.. then she has a problem. just make sure you tell her..
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well, all i can say is that this should prove that he was raping you (obviously) and im sooo sorry it had to come to this before they realized the hell you were in. no one should have to be scared to be around theyre family...even if hes a step brother its still incest. the counselors you went to should have done something about it because this puts you in harm's way. THIS IS NOT your fault. you didnt choose to be in this position, you wanted you mom to be happy. please make some noise...put your stepbrother to shame. thats just disgusting and it will ruin him like he ruined you. he will end up in jail after they see the scares, dna tests, gyno tests and he will never get sex again thats for sure. keep your head up, your mom will realize the mistake she made and hopefully ditch him. lemme know if u need anymore help. <3
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i say that you hide cameras around the house like where your stepbrother and your stepdad hurt you. if you really are pregnant - bring the results to the shrink and also to like the police or another relative or maybe even the teachers are good help too. but i think the cameras or maybe even a tape recorder or something might help. also if you got a camera press the video making button or a phone with a camera in it will work. anything that'll show proof that you aren't lying.
good luck,
HEREtoHELPx3
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tell your mom that your pregnant and then have a dna test done to see if it is your step brothers and if it is make him suffer go to the cops and say that he raped you and if he is older that 18 he will go to jail or prison and if not 18 he will go juvie that way you dont ruin your moms relationship and then they know your not lieing if you ever need any one to talk to IM me at maytuff1 hope it gets better
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you should tell your mom and not stay quiet. your moms happiness is not that importanant(sp)when thats happening to you. keep telling her dont tell your stepdad he apparently doesnt care about you at all. and if she doesnt listen report it to the police theyll listen, expesally if you preganet.nexet time your stepbrother tries lock yourself in a room or make so your not alone with him, go to a friends or whatever to make sure your not alone with him ever. remember the univerise has a way of working its self out eventually. the truth will be known soon. please rate
~sara~
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next time he rapes you go to the pokice and they havge rape kits and that will prove that. but for you mom you shouldnt have to suffer and she will be happier knowing that she did the right thing and if your stepdad hits you again tell some body like at school i.e. teacher, guidance counceler, principal or at church if you go. im sry you are having to go through this hope i helped
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Honey, your mother's happiness is not more important than you growing up and having a good life where you are not violated by any man or boy. Sexually or physically. Your mother is a fool, no man is worth her daughter being violated. You said you were seeing a therapist, did you tell the therapist that you were being raped? That therapist was supposed to report that. And if you didn't tell her the truth, how can she help you. ONly telling the truth is going to stop this. Your "step dad" and his son should be arrested. No there is no way to do this without causing your mom pain. But if she were asked the same question.....is there a way I can be with this man, and not cause my daughter pain, her answer should have been no also.
Are you going to let someone do this to your little girl. What if you were only 6 years old when she met this guy. Would it have been ok then for his son to rape you? It is going to turn your life upside down to tell, but I think you should. Because you will go through your whole life with the pain of being violated, and being raped, and being told that you have no right to complain about it, and for not being important enough to your mom, for her to stop it. I can't believe that a mother would do something like to to her own daughter. I am sorry honey, but you have rights too, and because you are young and still growing, your rights are more important than your mother, who needs to learn to get along without a man until she can learn how to choose better.
If you don't get help, you are destined to follow in her footsteps. I really hope you can find the help you need. You may need a safe place to stay, do you have an aunt or grandmother you can stay with? Is your mom really married to this guy? He needs to leave with his son. I hope his son is old enough be arrested for this, because he deserves it.
I am very sorry for you honey, I hope this helps you find the courage you need to go through with this.
Michele
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that's true your mother does deserve to be happy, and so do you, you should be your mom's first priority not some guy. now i'm sorry to get personal but if you were a virgin before your mom got married to this guy then you should have her take you to a doctor. you really should go to the police though they can do what is called a rape kit on you and it will show your mother how serious the situation is. if your step brother is leaving marks on you then you need to show them to your mother. tell her that if something isn't done about it then when the police find out you'll be taken away from her and both her husband and son could be arrested. if she doesn't want that to happen then she needs to do something about the situation that's going on in your house. you don't deserve to be hurt that way, and if you ever need to talk i'm online most of the time don't heasitate to IM me at fOrUrLoVe08 hope i helped
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OMGGGG No, you don't have to sacrifice YOUR happiness for someone else..I mean, I understand your mother is happy..but I don't think that she would be if she knew what was going on..All you need is proof..somehow convice your mother that this is actually happening..or tell someone like a counselor at your school..He is NOT SUPPOSE TO BE RAPING YOU..It's wrong. You need to get serious help right away because what if you end up pregnant or something??? If he tries to rape you again, fight back..all guys have a weakness area..seriously..do not let him rape you!!! Now, about your step-dad, it's very wrong for him to beat you...catch him on tape or something...tell the police..he can go to jail for abuse. As for your mother, she is probably denying the truth because she doesn't want to believe it. MAKE HER. Tell someone you can trust about this. You need to get help. If you have any more questions, drop one in my inbox. <3
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No you shouldn't just deal with this and you should get help no matter what. I don't think that your mom would want this to be happening to you. You need to talk to her. I'm sure that she would not want this to be happening. She didn't allow the men in her life to hit her so I certainly don't think she would want them to be hitting and raping her daughter. You don't deserve that. Think about this if she stays with him and he continues to do this to you he will probably start to hurt her too. He has probably done this kind of thing before because his son is doing it to you. You need to get help ASAP. Talk to your mom and if she won't help you then you need to go to a school counselor or the police you need to get away from those guys or you are going to end up in a hospital or worse you could end up dead. Do you think your mom would want that? That would not make her happy.
Good luck and I hope things get better for you
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Tell them if this continues to happen that you will call the police and have the phone in your hand! Stand-up for yourself, if this continues to happen move out.. i know your only 14 but if you have a close friend you can stay with, talk to, or have over when your alone then have him or her there.. or go to there house or go live with your aunt/uncle or someone close! don't let this happen to you
Kate♥
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