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I believe in sex after marriage, but my boyfriend is persisiting i have sex with him. He aggrivates me ALL the time and I can see myself giving in. I know I will regret it as soon as I've done "the deed". I'm confused as to what I should do; should I choose the easy option and give in? or go by my wishes and wait?
well you should go by your wishes if he really in truely loves/likes you he will respect your feelings and wishes and if he still insists you need to lose him quickly because no one should force you to do something you don't wanna do so yeah stick to what your wishes are don't give in unless you change ur mind and you really wanna do it not just to make him happy either... i hope i helped
-H*a*l*e*e-
sorry is this is long but I really need help so please don't skip over it
Ok my parents have been divorced my whole life I don't even know who my dad is. Well my mom has serious problems with finding guys. They usually beat her or cheat on her. I've had about a dozen stepfathers and all of them treat her like shit and she doesn't deserve that. Well my newest stepfather Richie has been with my mother for 2 years now and she is really happy with him. I've never seen my mom this happy before. He is soo nice to her. But the thing is he has a son (my stepbrother) who is constantly hitting me and raping me. I tried talking to my mom about it and she said that she would talk to my stepdad and my stepbrother. She did and then it stopped for a little while but then he did it again and it was even worse than it was before. He had a couple of his friends over and they thought that it would be fun to beat and rape his 14 year old step sister. I talked to my stepdad and he told me to stop making things up. He told my mother that I was making things up and they sent me to a shrink. Needless to say my stepbrother continued to do these things to me. I confronted my mother again and she told me to talk to my stepdad. I did and he told me that I was lying and that even if I wasn't I needed to get over it because we are a happy family and we all have to make sacrifices I told him that that was wrong and he hit me! Now he's been hitting me too when my mom isn't around. I don't know what to do. She is soo happy and she deserves to be. I don't want to ruin this for her. My question is should I just deal with this so that she can be happy or is there anyway that I can get help without ruining this for her?
omgosh im sooo sorry... It's not your fault theres nooooo way you could of stopped it.. and i mean you have to tell someone else if you mom isn't listening you can't go on letting these things happen and blaming yourself for it dont is not your fault you couldn't control what happend and no on else was helping but you either need to tell you mom one more time if she doesnt listen go get help from someone else.... i hope i helped and i hope things work out for you im soorrryyy
H*a*l*e*e
i think i'm bi because i like girls and guys. i really like one of my friends like that but i have no idea if she is bi too. i think she might be but i really don't know. whats something i could do to let her know i'm a little interested, without freaking her out?
just talk to her about it tell her your feelings and what not i mean if shes a true friend she shoudl undersadn and if shes bi then maybe she has same feelings.. hope i helped
Halee
ok my best friend jayla thinks she's pretty and acts like she the prettiest one in the world. I don't like the way she acts. Her personality I don't like. She be calling other girls ugly at one minute and then the next minute, she sees her givng someone eles candy, she(jayla)holds her hand out, and expects that girl to give her candy. Now I don't know if I should be her best friend and I don't know if I shoudl even be her friend at all. She sometimes be calling me and my friends ugly, and I hate that!!! I sometimes feel like saying something mean back. But any thing that comes out of my mouth that is mean, it sometimes goes too far over the limit. she think I forgot all the things she be syaing but I don't!! and she also don't be having my back. If I were to get in a fight, then she wuold just watch. But my other friend Cornita promises she will have my back, and she do. I like Cornita alot, not like that, but as a Best best friend forever and always. Jayla, she used to be a good best friend to me now she isn't.
well this jayla guirl sounds stuck and and rude and doesnt sond lieka good friend drop this chick and you and that cornita chick sound liek GOOOOD friends
hope i helped
h*a*l*e*e
I went out with this boy for 4 months and we broke up. He has a new girlfriend now. I don't know her, but one day she messaged me out of the blue and started asking me if I still liked him and have feelings for him. So I told her that I don't because I kinda do, but only a teeny bit. Anyway, she won't leave it alone and everyday she asks me if I want him back and blehh. What do I say to her to make her stop, cause I'm really tired of telling her that I'm not trying to steal her boyfriend.
well just tell this girl to back off you dont want her man i mean dear gosh if she doesnt get it then.. then by golly shes one stupid chick i mean dont let it bother you.. and if she continues after you tell her that just ignore it i mean its her fault shes that stupid and doesnt get it..
i hope i helped lol
Halee*
ohk so i have liked this guy already for about a year. he says he likes me too but i dont think he does cuz one day he acts like it and the next day he dont. he keeps getting my hopes up and it hurts cuz i noe he's just messing me. he also keeps flirting with one of my best friends, and with everyone else he also tells them every single thing he says to me. so i am hurting so bad. what should i do ?
well i know you may like this guy sooo much but if he is getting your hopes up then ruining them and its hurting you hes not the guy for youa nd you shouldnt let him do that dont ever let any guy hurt u physically or emotionally i mean it may take you time to get over it but hey theres always alwasy other hotties out there and guys with the most wonderful personality ever so dont keep letting him do that to you. I hope i helped...
-H*a*l*e*e-
Well me and my boyfriend have gotten like really close and I really like him alot. I just dont get the feeling that he likes me back. What should I do? Should i act different and like be more WOW. Like do anything he wants? Help im soooo CONFUSED!!!
well you know this is just my opinon a very strong opinon at that lol.. but... maybe first you should try tlkin to him and telling him how you feel you have to be open and honest or it will NEVER work.. and if he still seem to act the same way DONT im telling you DONT change your self for anyone you are who you are and to alot of ppl your perfect teh way you are i meanif you changed you could risk losing a BEST friend or close friends which could be bad you would lose a best friend risking trying to make some guy in ur life happy.. and you may never get that friend back even after you and this gu break up.. i mean i may not know you but im guessing your an amaziing person the way you are.. dont change.....
well hope that helped!
-H*al*e*e-
Well I have this friend and she has been getting on my nerves lately.I do not know what to do. I dont want to hurt her feelings, because I love her soo much. And then i have other friends. I think it might make her jealous or something. I don't know though. If it does I wish she would let me know or something. Also, these kids that i hang out with don't think to highly of her. They all think she is like I don't know how to explain it. What should I do? Stop being friends with everyone else? or tell her? HELP!! im soo confused.
well if shes really a true friend then tell her that shes getting on ur nerves and see if things can work out.. and your other friedns dont like her? well if thats the case i mean i have the same problem with some of my friends but i mean i keep them friendships separte.... but i mean explain to her how you feel dont be a fake friend i mean that could ruin ALL your friendships for like ever...
I hope i helped!
Me and my boyfriend love eachother to death. But we can never find time to ourselves we have talked a lot about exploring other places and getting away from all the hatred we see in our lives right now. the thing is i want to spend the rest of my life with him and i know i do-i just dont want n e one else to get in the way . . . . should i ask him to runaway with me or wait till' we are older and go through school then college then get married?
well i mean you should definately finsih school before running away and getting married but after high school if you both fill the same way then i see no problem n getting married... so yeah once your out of school then go for it but i wouldnt get married if you havent finished school yet it could cause major problems and things could happen.. so yeah hope i helped..
halee
Ok, so my friends are telling me this guy likes me, but it's not the guy I like. They said he might ask me out, but I don't have feelings for him. How can I say I don't want to go out w/ him without sounding mean?
well i mean all you can do is tell him the truth tell him your not interested in him and your soo not trying to be mean you would feel worse if you lead him on to think you do like him if you didn't tell him the truth on how you really feel.. and maybe if he's someone you could be friedns wiht if your not already then maybe you should try being JUST FRIENDS with hima nd if you do that make sure he understand its JUST friends nothing else... I hope i helped!
-Halee
Ok. Im 13/f btw. Well let me start from the beginging. Last year I liked this kid Ryan. I liked him the whole 7th grade year. Everyone knew. He never really said he liked me but he did flirt and he never said he didn't like me. Then I din't see him that much over the summer and I kinda stopped liking him for a little bit. Now I'm in 8th grade and I ended up being in his twin brother, Brendans, class. And i guess I kinda started liking him. Then my friend Jenny told us she likes Ryan. Then there was this big thing where I was mad at my friend Chelsea for starting to like Brendan after completely crying over some other kid. But then I just said 'Brendan don't like me n e ways so why should i care'. So me and Chelsea are cool. She still likes Brendan and I don't care. Thing is, we were playing truth or dare and Ryan was dared to kiss me. Which he did. So yeah I like Ryan again. And am positive I don't like Brendan because he acts so stupid and ghetto all the time. (Ryan doesn't). Basicly the thing is Jenny. She likes Ryan. But i swear Jenny is the shyest person ever! She don't even talk to him or flirt or any thing ya know? So I don't know if I hould even like him knowing she does. But she doesnt talk to him! PLEASE HELP ME! I am so confused! :(
wow..well if this girl is one of your close friend i wouldnt mess with this ryan guy till shes over him and is ok with it or it could really screw up yalls friendship...... so talk to her about it tell her how you feel and see how things go..
hope i helped
Is it a turnoff if a girl asks a guy out???
And can you like kinda clarify... i really need help... anyone... i rate high
Gomesy
to some guys it is to some guys its not theres really no definate answer to that it just depends on the guy mostly... and what makes you comfortable too...!?!?!
Hope i helped
Hayhay*
when i was a kid and even in middle school..i didnt even want a boyfriend i was soo occupied with sports n school n my friends i didnt think about having a boyfriend. Well im in highschool now..and all of a sudden something just changed in me..i want to find love now..is that normal and will i ever find love? They say some dont..is that true?
well most people dp find love... im sure you will too but dont settle for less than you want just cuz your afraid you won't find love... but u not wanting a boyfriend in middle school thats no big deal thats your choice your normal dont worry.. hope i helped!
-HayHay
I'm involoved with a married man and have been for two years now. We started out as just friends and the relatonship evolved.He's scared to leave his wife because they share two children together. I'm very much in love with him and want to be with him. Lately I've been feeling he's been wasting my time because he hasn't left her yet and I feel he never will. When I ask when will he leave or make a decision on leaving, he tells me he cant leave his kids with her and wants to know he could get full custody before he leaves. What should I do in this situatuion? HEEEELLLLLPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!
well first off what tha crap are you doing witha married man.. but you know you should take this into consdieration he could do the same thing to you as hes doing with his WIFE now.. you would jsut be his girlfriend or what not so yeah... and hes really shallow.. but idk what to tell you there... but uhh find someone AVALIBLE..... hope i helped lol
Halee
okay i have to just be friends with that one guy cause im just way to good friends with him and i dont want to mess anything up so i guess hell never know what i truely feel but thats okay cause i have feelings for this guy that i work with. i have liked him since i seen him and today he asked for my number im ALWAYS flirting with him and i think hes flirting back but i work with him so i dont want to mess things up. i dont know what to do im so confused cause i thought i really liked my friend but then i started working and now i like this other guy alot i just dont know what to do if someone could help me with what to do i really be thankful. anyway im going to go bye bye!!!
well wow your actually have a difficult question there wow either way your gonna have to be careful.. but i mean im dating my best guy friend ever and its working out so great i mean its a blasssst.. and i can be my true self around him so it depends what your looking for ya know.. hope i helped?
Halee
My good friend is really mad at me I asked her what she thought of one of our guy friends and I thought she said she liked him. But we were in the hallway and I guess I didnt hear right. I told this guy friend because he likes her somewhat. well it turned out that i was wrong and he told her that i told him and she immed me and was cursing me out and stuff. I tired to explain to her that i missunderstood and that i was sorry. She then told me that even if she had i had no right to tell him and that she wont ever tell me anything again. She wont even talk to me. I feel really bad about the whole thing. What shud I do?
well let her cool off and then explain to her you misunderstood and i mean you must of told him for a reason not to just be a big mouth about it.. explain to her why you might have told him... and dont blame yourself for her cutting.. i use to be a cutter we cant blame it on ppl its our decision we make it on our own no one forces us to do it... but i can tell shes a good friend of urs and i think once you get her not mad at you for saying that help her out on her cutting it could get bad.. and something bad coudl happen i mean she needs help trust me i needed help because i got too carried away sometimes and it was crazy... but yeah everything will be ohkay sooner or later
hope i helped
Halee
I'm a shy girl (13/f) and I always feel lonely. I was wondering what's an easy way to make new friends?
you have to be outgoing and talk to all KINDS of ppl dont just have one type of friends because thats the way to be more out going have a variety of different kinds of friends... and its a blassst! lol good luck
HayHay
Do yOU find anything wrong with A white girl and a Black guy being in-love dating, and wanting to get married?
please, share your oppinion, and support it!
I am open to hear both sides!
well i dont think theres anything wrong but i mean you are gonna have to go through some pretty hard critism because some ppl think its wrong but i mean idk if your in love you cant really help it so thats why i think theres nothing wrong with it!
i would like to be able to stop my period in two weeks because my boyfriend will be visiting me.what do i do?
you can't stop your period my advice for you is you just gonna have to wait till another time... so yeah sorry
I really love my boyfriend a lot. We have known each other for a long time. But I like to flirt a lot with other guys, sometimes i just can't help it. And my boyfriend will find out sometimes and it makes him feel bad. I don't think he would break up with me but I hate to hurt him. It makes me feel so bad. What can I do?
Well first let me start with if you really in truely LOVE your boyfriend then you probly wouldn't flirt with other guys... And since you do and you don't want to hurt him theres 2 solutions either stop flirting with other guys or break up with him.. so yeah you take your pick!