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Sex after marriage? or should I have sex now....?
I believe in sex after marriage, but my boyfriend is persisiting i have sex with him. He aggrivates me ALL the time and I can see myself giving in. I know I will regret it as soon as I've done "the deed". I'm confused as to what I should do; should I choose the easy option and give in? or go by my wishes and wait?
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If he truly loved you then would he push you to do somehting that you have told him that you don't want to do? Explain to him again. Make your wishes known. If he still doesn't get the message then look for someone who is willing to listen and _understand_ you. If you do decide to have sex with him then don't just do it in the moment. Clearly sex means a lot, so make it special, and with the right person.
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Dont let you boy friend presure u
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you should go by your wishes and wait or you will regret it. you should talk to him tell him how you feel about all of this and if he is still pressuring you then dump him if he is like that he isnt a good boyfriend anyways
:) hope it helps
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do what you think is best....if he loved you hed wait...and if he doesnt wait...hes NOT NOT NOT worth it...but its still your choice
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If your boyfriend respects you, he'll also respect your wishes and wait.
You should never do anything that you feel "pushed" into because it'll only lead to regret, and disapointment in yourself.
Wait it out, you'll be happier with yourself, and it'll be more special to you if you do.
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well you should go by your wishes if he really in truely loves/likes you he will respect your feelings and wishes and if he still insists you need to lose him quickly because no one should force you to do something you don't wanna do so yeah stick to what your wishes are don't give in unless you change ur mind and you really wanna do it not just to make him happy either... i hope i helped
-H*a*l*e*e-
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Don't do it if you don't want to. you will regret it for the rest of your life. If your boyfriend really cares about you, he won't push you. Just explain your beliefs. ~i hope this helped!! *~lexi
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dont do anything that you're uncomfortable with! Communication and honesty are important in a relationship. WAiting to have sex after marriage is a very responsible and mature thing to do. Not many people can do that so people would probably respect you more, but the real thing is that if you're uncomfortable having sex then dont. tell him that you're not ready and you don't want 2 and if he doesn't understand then maybe he's just not the one for you. DOn't let him pressure you into anything. Stand your ground and tell him that you don't want to have sex right now.
hope this helped :)
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Ok, first off, your boyfried should not be pressuring you at all. If he is then he does not respect you and thats a bad thing. I would say to stick to your beliefs and dont give in and if he still pursues it, get a new boyfriend. Thats what I would do.
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do what ever you think is right..personally i think you should do what you wish not what your boyfriend wants he aint worth it if hes trying to get you to have sex with him well..good luck lemme know how it goes!!
* Misty <33
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go what you want and if you feel he is the one then you have sex with him but if you what to wait till you get married then you wait and he needs to respect that
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go by your wishes and wait. Cause as soon as you put out he's gonna probaly dump you.if he doesn't understand that no means no then dump his ass. Don't let him force you out of your beliefs becausee he's always horny.
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WAIT. don't give in. stand by your morals. and tell your bf that he should respect you more than that. and if he doesn't then get rid of him
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if you really dont want to have sex then tell him and if he dont like it then tell him to get over it and if you want to wait then wait it is your decision not his and i hope i helped
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giving in means your giving up...and giving up is quiting..so which one do you think you should choose?
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well it depends on what you want to do.. and how long u've been going out. if this is one of these things where you just go out for a few weeks and break up then i wouldnt have sex with him. if your sure your really ready to be with him then go for it. think it through for awile before you decide.
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no don't give in i think that a cool thing that your waiting most pepole just givein and if he dosen't want to wait then he isn't worth it
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Go by your wishes and wait. If he's the right one for you he will wait too. :)
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Personally I think you should do what's best for you. Don't let your boyfriend pressure you if you don't want it. Don't do what you don't want to do if you know you'll regret it. That would just pain you forever. I say go with your wishes!! =]
Hope I helped!!
Good luck!!
♥erin
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It's probably quite harder to wait till after you are married... but that is something you believe and and you have to stick to the things you believe in. If he doesn't respect your beliefs and keeps pressuring you... then don't fall for it because yes you probably will regret it but maybe he isn't the right one for you. I know you probably didn't wanna be told that but it is the truth.. I mean maybe if you aren't ready to have sex then maybe you could do other stuff and see if he likes that but if he is soo persistant about it then maybe you shouldn't be with him. He should respect you.
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If you want to wait until after marrige for sex, then wait. Its harder, but you know you'll regret it later, you even said so! Think about it, you may really like this guy, but(assuming he knows you want to wait) he is not respecting you, or your wishes. Now, would you really want to cave and go all the way with someone like this?
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have you told him that you want to wait...if you haven't you should...and if he doesn't aggree and still presures you into haveing sex my best guess is to leave him bC he doesn't respect you or your belifes...i don't think you should give it...cuz you might regret it or feel really bad afterwords!!
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someone who tried to push you into sex isn't a good guy to be with. if you want to wait until marriage to have sex then that's your choice you need to find someone who can respect your wishes.
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Don't give in !What happens if the wedding doesn't happen?you'll be broken hearted!If he keeps persisting and it bothers you i think you should leave him!
Casey out!
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Sex, yea rite. If u siad no to him once that should have been enough. RESPECT. He's going to have to live with that. DUMP HIM, unless he starts to give him respect.
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If your boyfriend keeps bugging you about it, I think you should dump him. If he doesn't respect you, how can you respect him? I'm thinking this relationshop is over.
♥ *ad0rkable* ♥
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Wow! Don't *EVER* give in to something that doesn't feel Right! It's unfaiR of youR boyfRiend to keep pRessuRing you into intimacy. Have you told him how you feel? I suggest you sit down with him and have a calm, seRious conveRsation, in which you can lay down the law, and tell him exactly how you feel and would like it to be. If he is *any* kind of human being at all, he should undeRstand youR decision and Respect youR wishes. Just stick to youR guns, Hun! Don't let someone take something so deaR to you just to please themselves - it's selfish, disgusting, and simply unfaiR. Just keep youR head up, and take a stand foR youRself; you'll do just fine! I hope eveRything woRks out - goodluck. Hopefully I've been of some assitance. Know that I am heRe if you eveR need a second opinion. =D
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Go by your wishes and wait. Only have sex if you're reay for it and if you know you won't regret your choice after.
Hope I helped!
Ke
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All i have to say to do it when YOU are ready, not when he is.
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I think you should go by your wishes and wait. What if he'll just leave you alone after you have sex with him. If he leaves you after having sex with you then you're at a loss because your virginity was broken and you might get pregnant but if he leaves without having sense then you aren't at a loss and can find someone else.
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Do NOT let him change your mind. What you think is what you think. You can have ORAL sex, and still maintain your virginity. He'll say 'Yeah, but we're together forever, remmeber?' Thats bullshit. Somewhere along the line you'll get into an argument and break up. It happens with teen relationships. You can have sex, but leave it to fingering, oral, foreplay kind of stuff. But since you believe in abstenance, stay away from intercourse. Stay with what you believe in. If ya need more help on this (all the oral junk, blah blah blah) PM me. I'm always here to help, particularily girls aged to my male one( :P yes I'm a dude, but what does that change? ), on touchy subjects like this.
<3 EJ
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dont let him change your mind!!! dont have it till your married! think about all the thing that might happen to you if you do..like get pregnate or something....if he really loves you then he will understand why you dont want too...
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Think about it this way, sweetheart. If he can't respect your wishes and desires now before marriage, what kind of asshole will he turn into once you marry him? This is just the starting point. If you can't put your foot down on something this important to you and have him respect it, this man will break your spirit in a marriage. He will know he has full power over you and the marriage will not be the partnership of respect and trust you want. You will come to resent him more each day and your lives together will be miserable within 4 years. This may sound melodramatic, but it is the simple truth. If you don't want it till after, don't have it till after. Period.
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it is your choice not his.. hes not the one that would get pregnant.. you would.... if you want to wait then if he really loves you.. he will respect your choice.. most guys will just break up with you and not even care that you lost your virginity to him.... you are right.. you will probrably fell bad after you do it.. b/c it snot what you want.. hope i helped.. please rate
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You can't let him pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. You believe in something, and you should stick to it if you feel strongly about it. Don't give into something you don't feel 100% comfortable in doing. If he keeps persisting, re-evaluate the relationship. A good boyfriend who cares about you won't make you do something you don't want to do. Hope I helped. ♥ Kristen
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I'm waiting till i get married but most say i won't... if your guy is asking for some than explain to him that ur waiting... if he really cares about you he will understand... my ex did when i told him... he shouldnt be in the relationship for the "booty" as most say... lol... he should be in it because he likes you... hope i helped
Gomesy
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You should definitely wait till your married, I mean your only 15! If your BF keepd insisting just say im sorry but i can't! Hope i helped!
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you should stick with what you want. and that is waiting. you should never be pushed into something you really dont want to do. i suggest you go to www.teenadvice.about.com/library/ teenquiz/14/blisitlovequiz.htm its a really good quiz on seeing if your ready in having sex. most likely your not beacuse the biggest factor in doing this thing that you can never ever give back is regreting. you want it to mean something in the first place and you think you should have sex after marriage, which is a good choice in my opinon because having sex can fuck your life up real bad if something goes wrong. so in my opinoin stick with your wishes, tell you man that if he wants to be with you then he better not make you do anything you dont want to do and that if he wants to have sex with you that bad then he's just going to have to wait to see if you marry him, and thats the only way...good luck,
........remember you only live once...
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dont do it!!! you will regret it n then u will feel guilty. i know if that happened i would be 30 years old n regret that i did it..look more towards the future n not the present.you will feel better about yourself.
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wait, don go by wat he says, u noe wats right and what you think is right, so WAIT!
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first of all, if you believe in sex after marriage and he doesnt, then there is a very big conflict. If you can see yourself giving in, and yet are still going out with him.. then, just being honest, either you really like this guy except for this one factor, or you kinda like it when he tries to get you to have sex with him. now, i could be completely wrong, but honestly, if you dont want to break up with him, then talk to him about it.. and if he still persists on having sex, then hes not good to be with.
<|Micah|>
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if i were you i would wait. i say if he cant except your wishes then he not right for you.Obviously he does not respect your wishes if he will not wait.if he really loves you he will marry you and the do what you call"the deed"
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if you don`t wanna have sex then don`t do it. if i were you, i`d dump him because he isn`t worth your time. if he really likes/loves you he wouldn`t be pressuring you in to having sex. don`t give in to him because you WILL regret it later on! ♥
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Any guy that is persisting that you have sex with him so much that it aggrivates you is not worth your time. If you really feel that this guy and you have a future, you should talk to him about this. Does he know that you believe in saving sex for after marriage? If so, this is something he should know. If he already does know, he is completely disrespecting you and your feelings. No woman deserves to be disrespected! You should NOT GIVE IN. Do not sacrafice your beliefs for anyone. They're all you have! You obviously know that you would regret it if you gave in, so don't. And if the pressure is too much for you to handle and he won't back down, I think the best option is to part ways and find someone with views similar to yours, or at least someone who is willing to respect your feelings! Hope I could help. Good luck with everything.
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you should definaly wait. if he still wants to then you should break up with him. he needs to respect up.
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DUMP HIM!
you should remail true to yourself. because i am the same way, but i will never give into anyone, its too special.
kelsa
AND DONT GIVE INTO HIM- IF HE IS PRESEURING YOU TO DO THAT- GET A DIFFFERNT GUY WHO WILL WAIT WITH/FOR YOU!
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