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~A*m*a*n*d*a~
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me and my best friend are ALWAYS fighting or arguing over something. and its always so stupid. we have really strong opinons, so we kind of clash...so basically, why do you think that BEST friends would be fighting so much? over the dumbest things?!
(5's for anything thanks) (link)
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Iknow EXACTLY how you feel!! The same thing always happens to me. Here is a solution I tried. (it worked)
You guys are probably fighting because you see each other a lot. So you should:
1: Hang out with some other friends more, you don't have to be attatched at the hip. (If you don't have any other friends, make some!!)
Before you do that, make sure she knows that you aren't ditching her, an dthat you guys are still best friends!! Good luck :)
~Katkrazy
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Does it matter if your bestfirend in the world is bbacking off on you. Where I live people make fun of you for no reason and if you don't do the same you become the made fun fun. My BFF is really I think scarred of me. I am so worried what if she doesn't want to be friends anymore. I know I am sort of a bully at times, but I never would be to her. What do you think. YOU BETTER HELP!!!! (link)
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Yes it does matter! You need to just ignore the people bugging you and making fun of you, they are probably just shallow. Tell your BFF that you still want to be friends, and tell her that if you are a bully sometimes, it has noithing to do with her. I've been through this before, so if none of that works then just wait it out. I hope I've helped.
Katkrazy
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My volly team rocks!!!! The probelm is my team is getting cocky. What should we do???!!! (link)
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well try to talk to your team about it. let them noe if they get too cocky then u will lose more games.
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ok...i asked out my sisters boyfriends brother and he said yes. yet, my sister wants to kill me for it but her boyfriend is happy we're going out. why do you think my sister doesnt want us going out? if they get married, i surely wont date him. and i dare not brake up with him because i love him. so why would my sister not like us going out? (link)
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well maybe your sister thinks that you are crowding in on her, or maybe she is jealous for some reason unknown even to her!! but no matter why she is bugged you need to talk to her. she may bug the heck out of you but you guys are sisters and you need to have each others backs, it what sisters do. so as i mentioned b4 hand, talk to her. ask her why she is so bugged. hope i helped!!
lots of love (and luck)
katkrazy
PS: i wish soooooo very badly i had a sister so you need to know you truly are very lucky to have a sister. (contrary to popular belief!!)
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today my brother held my arm so tight i have a bruise, yesterday he hit me over the head with a phone, and the day before he repeaditly hit me with a key board. other times he punches and hits me, i tell my parents and they never do anything. yet when i do something to him i get in trouble immediatly. it isnt fair and it hurts me that he practically abuses me and that my parents dont care. what should i do?
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o my gosh!!! you definetly need to tell someone. show your parents the bruises, and try to tape him abusing you. or try to threaten your brother " the next time you hit me i swear to you i will get you arrested" or something like that. if none of these work then call the child protection services. this is urgent!! i really hope i helped! good luck!
- Katkrazy
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I love my music, but I am not shure if I should move on or not. Maybe other things would be good form me. What do you think. (link)
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hey if it is your dream and you love it dont give it up. but it is always good to be open to new things. you know your heart so jusy do what you think is right!!!ood luck, hope i helped!!!
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I have a friend, and I trust her in her jugments, but I think she is being way too trusting. Her friends are taking advantage of her, and then treating her like dirt. They act like she is not a real person, and get mad at her for no reason. She has friends who do stand by her in times of need, but soon a fight is going to go way to far. I'm afraid for her because she really get hert and I don't want that for her. Fights are going to far, friendships are being tested, I don't want to get to into this, but to see my friend suffering like she is I cant help it. She lets go to easily on things that will just happen again. I really really want her to understand where I am coming from and that I don't want her to give up all together. Can you think of anyway I can tell my friend what I think, without hurting her fealings or getting to deep into the relintles war that gose on. I don't want her to get mad at me, but I don't want her to get hert either. What should I do.
~Headace-girl~ (link)
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well you should probably talk to the who is being taken advantage of and tell her your suspicions. she probably already noes deep inside her heart but she just doesnt want to admit she is being used like a snotrag!! make sure that wen this does happen her friends that stick by her always stay there. sometime she will really depend on them even if she doesnt show it. and if you just tell her gently before she replies tell her dont get mad a i am only trying to protect you, most likely she will be softened by noeing someone cares!!! good luck,
Katkrazy
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On the e-mail my friend keeps copying me, what should i do. (link)
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i think that you schould tell her that she will get kicked out of college if she does that l8r in life, so to break the habit, stop now!!
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I keep doing belly flops off the block at swim team. I don't want to go back up there! What should I do? (link)
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ditto for me. but i got a got good piece of advice. try to laugh at yourself, if that doesnt work then lauhg at yourself. each time you laugh at youself then you will get more confident!!!
good luck!!
katkrazy!!!
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I have this friend who is a real witch. She never is nice to anyone. I don't get her at all. Now that there is a big fight going on she wants me to be on her side, even though I don't agree with anything that comes out of her mouth. What should I do? (link)
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ok i have been in this situation before, and whatever you do if you have to take a side take the side that you think is right. for the most part stay out of it!!!! it will blow over, i hope!!!! best of luck!!
katkrazy
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My friend has this fried that is really mean to her. I don't know what to tell her to do about her, what should she do? (link)
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she should take a stand. if her friend is treating her like dirt, have her hang with her other friends until the one who is being mean gets a MAJOR attitude ajustment!!! in the meantime dont sink to her level by talking trash about her. if she finds out it will make it worse. you probably should wait till summer break then it will blow over. good luck, hope i helped
katkrazy
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My bff is making me feal really left out. I know she cares and I know she dosen't mean to but she dose. I think we mite be growing apart but I really don't want to. The lanured thing gets me. After the first 30 or so it gets sorta borring. I don't know, sometimes I feal more comfortable with boys then girls not that I don't like being around girls. I'ts werid, I nerver really know what to do about these things anymore.
P.S do not say anything about this to anyone at shcool!!!!
~Karyn~ (link)
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ok well have you tried talking to your bff about it. if you havent, tell her that you think that you are growing apart. maybe she feels the same way. and after the first 30 it does get boring, but either just stop for a while, or grit you teeth and keep going. and about being more comfortable around boys maybe you should justtry to space it out. after all sometimes boys are A LOT less ful than s can be, trust me!!!!! and maybe thats why your bff is making you feel left out, you hang out w/ boys more without noticing it, then she finds a different friend to hand out with for a while, then when you come back to world, she thinks you would rather hang out with boys. this all leads to you talking to her. besides if it is who i think it is she will understand!!! good luck and if you need any more help you can also talk to me at school!!!
~A
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sorry is this is long but I really need help so please don't skip over it
Ok my parents have been divorced my whole life I don't even know who my dad is. Well my mom has serious problems with finding guys. They usually beat her or cheat on her. I've had about a dozen stepfathers and all of them treat her like shit and she doesn't deserve that. Well my newest stepfather Richie has been with my mother for 2 years now and she is really happy with him. I've never seen my mom this happy before. He is soo nice to her. But the thing is he has a son (my stepbrother) who is constantly hitting me and raping me. I tried talking to my mom about it and she said that she would talk to my stepdad and my stepbrother. She did and then it stopped for a little while but then he did it again and it was even worse than it was before. He had a couple of his friends over and they thought that it would be fun to beat and rape his 14 year old step sister. I talked to my stepdad and he told me to stop making things up. He told my mother that I was making things up and they sent me to a shrink. Needless to say my stepbrother continued to do these things to me. I confronted my mother again and she told me to talk to my stepdad. I did and he told me that I was lying and that even if I wasn't I needed to get over it because we are a happy family and we all have to make sacrifices I told him that that was wrong and he hit me! Now he's been hitting me too when my mom isn't around. I don't know what to do. She is soo happy and she deserves to be. I don't want to ruin this for her. My question is should I just deal with this so that she can be happy or is there anyway that I can get help without ruining this for her? (link)
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wow thats terrible. i think that you should say to your mom that you need to talk to her it=n private and that its urgent!! then tell her everything and tell her not to repeat it, and then ask her wat should you do. and make sure you tell her this is nothing to joke about so why would you make this up!! your mom has been there for you since you were born. i m sure that she will think of you, someone she has known for over 14 years, rather than someone she has only known for about two. and about the baby you should put it up for adoption. i really hope i helped, and good luck!!
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ok..i need to save up about 350 dollars... i am old enought to babysit..but the problem with that is that i dont know anyone that i could babysit for...i am not old enought to get a real job like at a store or something...so does anyone have any siggestions on how to earn money??? thanks! i'll rate high for good answers!! (link)
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well you can for starters:
have bake sales
mow lawns
walk dogs
take care of animals while owners are away
water plants
clean pools
wash cars
have yard/garage sales
and about the babysitting, put up flyers, advertising your name, age, phone number, and experiences w/ babysitting or w/ kids. if not, then just ask your parent to list friends from work who need a babysitter. best of luck!!!! ~K
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hi- promise u wont laugh? ok here i go:
i am 14, and i went bikeriding w/ a freind. There was a boy there. He was really cute and nice. I gave him my cell, and he asked if we could go out as freinds when my other freind wasn't looking. He called me almost every other night and i had fun talking to him. He gave me a pretty ring and asked me to be his grlfreind... a week later he called me and told me that he knows what he wants for his b-day. a kiss. i really like him, he is nice, cute, and funny. what should i do?(i really want to but i cant say it to his face)how should i tell him yes. and before you ask, he goes to a diff school, and he doesn't have email. (link)
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this isnt funny, so why would i laugh???
anyway i think that you should tell him yes in a way where you wont even have to tell him. First make sure you REALLY like him. second the next time you see him the just say, about what you wanted for your birthday.....then just kiss him. that way you wont have to try to tell him and choke, and he (and you)will get what you want!!
if that doesnt work then just try to tell him!! i really hope i helped, and good luck!!!!
~Katkrazy~
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SO ONE FRIDay i was playing around with my bff's and on propse i opned that the bathroom door on one of them 9 don't ask me why i did it) & it was kinda funny, so i laughed. then i went to the bathroom and they diched me. it didn't make me mad cause thy do it all te time. i figued they were mad & figured that they would be over it by monay.they didn't. today is friday that was a week ago. i tried to write an apoige letter before i sent it she sent me a letter. it was really mean the called me a "no longerer" & cused me out.so someone went an talked to them & told them that wrote a letter but didn't send it( do u blame me) so they she worte me another letter saying they didn't want to be mad and sayed should apoliged at the beginning not know. so i still haven't sent the letter yet & i don't do. i'm really hurt & want to be their frirnd agian. they are some of their best friends i have ever had so what should i do any body have an idea please help, ask your friends,I'm desprite!!!!!
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well i think that you should:
1. apologize to them (again)
2: ask them what you would have to d for them to forgive you.
3. if all else fails, apololgize and beg them to forgive you and say it will NEVER happen again!!!
hope i helped and good luck!!!
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okay so theres this guy at my school who i like ALOT and well its my last year there and i want to date him. and i think he likes me back bcuz hes always flirting with me so of course i flirt back! and the years almost over. what do i do?
-Ck (link)
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well if you are at least 50% sure he likes you, then you should make the first move. if you are to shy then have your frioend to ask him if he likes you, and then have your friend tell him to ask you out, of have your friend tell him that YOU want to ask HIM out!! ope i helped and good luck!!!
~Katkrazy~
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Okay, I'm a pretty preppy girl. I have lots of friends, and we all are into fashion, and dressing our best. Anyway, I have a secret love, that's so far from fashion I'm afraid my friends will hate me for it. It's skateboarding. I loove skateboarding so much, and I always go skateboarding after school with all the skaters at the park and stuff. It makes me happy, I love learning new tricks, and doing all that guyish stuff. It's so weird, but I feel like I can't tell my friends. Well, now they're all getting curious about why I don't have as much time to hang out with them..and I'm starting to run out of excuses. I've only told one of my friends (whom I'm actually not that great of friends with, someone whose 'out' of my group and in a 'less known' group, but she's wonderful) who I never really thought much of, until I learned she can keep my secret. She's such a great friend, and I'm wondering why I feel like I can't tell my other 'friends' about my secret passion for skateboarding. What am I to do? Should I just come out and tell them I like skateboarding? (I don't think that any of them will take this badly, but sometimes girls can be really.. picky about things, and some of my 'friends' may ditch me because of this) Find new friends? Only tell some of them? Aghh, help!!
SAM♥ (link)
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well think u should tell them if they are your friends, then they wont care what you like. and if they do ditch you, then find some new friends! hope i helped good luck!
~Katkrazy
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I moved to a new state last summer and i havent made that many friends at my new school. There was this girl who was also new who didnt know anyone and she was really down to earth, so we became friends. Over the school year shes become very stuck up, materialistic, and rude to people who try to be nice and talk to her. So im her only friend, and for a while she was my only friend. Ive made some friends with some very nice guys which have invited us (me and my friend) to sit with them during lunch. She never wants to because she thinks shes too good for them. I really dont see anything wrong with them, they are just trying to be friends with her. So i told her to stop being mean and to come sit with them sometime. She always refuses, which means im stuck with her and i dont get to sit with them. Then they get upset (not mad at me) when we dont sit with them. Each day she becomes even more and more rude and i dont really want to be friends with her anymore. Sometimes i feel like she doesnt like sitting with me either. Today during lunch she was on her phone for 45 min out of 50 min. She just kept me sitting there, and when i said i wanted to go sit with the guys she said no. I got really mad and just got up and left to go sit with them because i didnt want to just sit there and listen to her conversation. It was rude for her to be on the phone the ENTIRE lunch period (which is the only time i see her). Anyways, do you think i had the right to do what i did? I know it wasnt very nice, but shes been so mean to people and i thought she deserved it. What would you do in my position? (link)
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way-2-go . you did the right thing going and sitting w/ the other guys. it sound to me that your other friend is feeling insecure that nobody else will like her so she is trying to control you, (her only friend) so you wont move on and leave her behind. so maybe you should either talk to her, or forget abot her and move on. hope i helped!
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my parents are going 2 vegas in october and a cruise in feb. and i am not invited 2 go 2 either of them. it makes me so mad. but anyways. i am going 2 try 2 earn enough money for a cruise ticket. but i need 2 do it fast. i think i would need around 1,500. does ne 1 kno ways 2 earn money? i am 2 young 2 get a job, and nto many families need babysitters where i live. o and i also get 5 dollars a week 4 allowance. thanks~ (link)
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i think you should mow lawns, and feed peoples animals when they r on vacation, or maybe run errands, like ride to the stor on a bike to get groceries, or do some gardening. and try to get an allowance raise 4 like good grades. hope i helped!! good luck!!!
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