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My sister is getting married in October and she's been searching for a really long time to find a good song to do the boquet song to. Does anyone know any good songs to do that to? It would be highly appreciated.
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'This one's for the girls'... I think it is by Martina McBride.
Hope that helps, good luck!
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My plan is to work, verry hard.
Im going to workout Before school with a toning video. (5:30am-6:00am)
Then right after school on the tredmil (3:00pm-3:30pm)
Then after my homework,and stuff..(around 6:00pm-7:00pm)
Im going to take all junk away from myself, and my eating. I will drink water, Im going to eat no snacks, and all healthy foods (But i will eat every meal)
Im deterimed, very.. But how much do you think i could loose, within maybe 2 weeks?
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Depending on your current weight and health situation, I would guess that you could maybe reasonably expect to lose anywhere around 10 pounds... maybe a little more, but don't be surprised if its just like 5 or 6 pounds. It really depends on how fast you lose weight personally. Some people can take off weight really easily, while others struggle to lose a meager few pounds. I don't know how much weight you are trying ultimately lose but just be careful and smart about it. After two weeks, however much you've lost, say 10 pounds or whatever, thats great, but for health reasons, 2-3 pounds per week after that should be the max. Good luck, hope that helped a little!!
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does anyone have some good ideas for a house/birthday party?
some decorating/food ideas might be nice.
and definitely some help with what things we could do?
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Well, it depends on what kind of person or occasion the party is for... try to go with a theme that has to do with the reason for the party. Coordinating activities, food choices, and decorations always helps to make a party look more put together. I definately have alot of ideas for things you could do for a party, but more details would be helpful... if its a birthday, what is the age range of the person being celebrated, and also the average age of the guests? What kind of budget are you looking at, and how many people? Once you figure this out, there are sooo many ways of throwing an awesome party! I'd love to help you out, so just leave me a message in my inbox if you want!
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does anyone know who the song "boom boom boom boom" is by? or any other songs by that band? thank you. (link)
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That song is by 'Venga Boys.' They also sing that really catchy song 'We Like to Party.' Hope that helps!! Have a great day.
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this guy and i were pretty good friends. now we are going out, an we dont talk nearly as much as we used to. and sometimes i get the feeling that he wants to break up with me. what should i do? i really like him! (link)
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Sometimes when people who are already friends decide to take their friendship to the next level and date each other, its not as easy as they think it will be. It may be a little awkward to talk about things you used to talk about when you were just friends, because now there is that added pressure of being boyfriend and girlfriend. A similar thing happened to me one time, and what used to be fun and interesting phone calls between the two of us suddenly turned into 30 second conversations consisting of him asking, 'what time should I pick you up at?' You really need to make sure that you continue to cultivate the friendship aspect of your relationship. Instead of going on dates to the movies or out with a group of friends, suggest somewhere where you guys can talk, and where you would be forced to engage in conversation, like to a small little cafe, a picnic, on a walk, or even something like cooking together. These activities will bring you closer together as a couple and will get you talking again. And don't just call each other to set up dates, call him 'just because' and strike up a conversation. Maybe after a TV show you both watch ends, you can call him and talk about what just happened on the show. Communication is important in any relationship, and I really hope you are able to get talking as much as before you started going out. It will really help the relationship. Make sure you try the different dates too, its easy for a guy, or a girl for that matter, to get bored in a relationship that always consists of the same things, but changing things up all the time will keep that 'new relationship spark' alive! Good luck, let me know if you need anything else!
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this sounds really really silly..but i hate my boobs. they are huge, and it makes me feel out of shape. they`ve always bothered me, but just recently they`ve seemed a lot bigger than normal. does anybody know if theres an way to "decrease" the size of them? like does exercise work? or what you eat or w/e? (link)
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Exercise will only build up the muscle, which will in turn increase the size most likely. Exercise will make you lose weight though, and in the breasts is usually where alot of weight loss comes from. There is really nothing you can eat that will decrease you breast size, just losing weight would affect their size, so eating very healthy could help, but I doubt it would be a very noticeable difference. There is always surgery but that is extremely drastic. For now, I would suggest wearing a sports bra... it compresses your boobs and keeps them in pretty tight so they will seem smaller. Hope this helps, good luck.
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you have been a really great boyfriend and a relle sweet guy. im relle thankful ur part of my life. but as for our relationship, i need to be completely honest with you. i dont think its going to work out between us and i dont really see our relationship going anywhere. im really sorry, i just feel like we've reached a plateau and this is it. but we've been good friends much longer than we've been boyfriend and girlfriend and i would really like us to still be friends and i know it will be akward at first but i value our friendship and i really dont want us to stop talking and i hope we can stillbe good friends like before we were going out even though thats hard but i care about you a lot and i cant imagine not having you as a friend (link)
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I think that's quite good actually. It's great that you are completely honest with him, yet you are still kind and considerate to his feelings. Its sweet that you still want to be friends with him, and I hope you can still remain close like you said, but be prepared if he isn't ready to do that yet. He may need some time! But I think that sounds really good, I'm sure this must be hard for you, but good luck!
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Ok, I have no butt! My hips are 33" and my butt is only 34". I fit pretty good in hollister jeans (for they're for people with white butts). What shoudl i do? I mean liek what are some exercises so i can get a butt and keep it in shape! Thank-you (link)
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I would mainly focus on doing squats and lunge type exercises. I found a great website though, and it has a list of 10 great butt workouts. Paige Waehner wrote it, and I found it on About.com. Here it is...
1) Squats
Squats are one of the best exercises you can do for your hips, butt and thighs. There are many different types of squats, including the Chair Squat pictured here. Stand with feet hip-width apart and squat, keeping back straight, abs in and knees behind your toes. Let your butt lightly touch chair and squeeze butt to stand up. Repeat for 2-3 sets of 8-12 reps and add weights for more intensity.
2) Lunge
This lunge will really challenge you since you will use the standing leg for balance. Stand with left foot resting on a paper plate. Bend the right leg while sliding the left foot back into a lunge position, keeping the right knee behind the toe, torso upright and abs in. Slowly slide left foot back to starting position and repeat 8-12 times. Switch legs and repeat on each leg for 2-3 sets.
3) Hip Extension
Feel the burn in your hamstrings and glutes with this exercise. On a step or platform, lie facedown with hips on the edge of the step, legs straight with toes resting lightly on the floor. Squeeze the glutes and hamstrings and straighten the legs until they are level with the hips. Hold for 2-3 seconds, and lower letting toes lightly touch the floor. Repeat for 2-3 sets of 8-12 repetitions
4) Outer Thigh Leg Lift
Note--there is no true 'outer thigh.' When you work your outer thigh, you're actually working your butt! This exercise can be done standing or lying on your side. While standing, simply lift the leg out to the side, a few feet off the floor. Keep hip, knee and foot in line and foot flexed. Repeat 8-12 times on each leg. For more intensity, add a 1-5 pound ankle weight
5) Deadlift
Deadlifts are great for your hamstrings, butt and lower back, but form is critical! Stand with feet hip-width apart, weight in front of thighs. Keeping back flat and abs in, tip forward from the hips and lower your torso until bar hits mid-shin. Squeeze butt to raise back up. Keep the bar close to your legs through the entire movement--don't bend the knees! Do 2-3 sets of 8-12 reps.
6) Hiking
Hiking burns tons of calories because you're typically going up steep mountains and maybe even getting into thin air, which requires lots of energy. Also, walking up an incline automatically gets your glutes more involved and, if you're wearing a backpack, you're really getting a workout. Plus, you get to see nature at its best. A 140-lb person burns about 390 calories in about an hour!
7) Biking
Riding a bike is great for your heart and it also targets almost every muscle in your hips, thighs and butt. On a stationary bike, alternate 3 minutes at 70-80 RPM with 2 minutes at 100-110 RPM for a calorie-blasting 30 minute workout. You can also try Spinning at the gym or riding outside. Gear up to really work your glutes! A 140-lb person burns 335 calories in 45 minutes.
8) Running
Running, like walking is accessible, easy to learn, reduces stress, helps in weight loss, and it makes you feel good. Plus, it really works your butt, especially when you add a few hills to your regular running route. Sprints are another option for folks wanting to both burn more calories and tighten up the old tush. A 140-lb person burns 475 calories during a 45 minute jog.
9) Kickboxing
Kickboxing was a hot item back in the day, but it's still a great workout. Controlled kicks work your hips, thighs and butt while complex combinations that include punches will target your abs to make them stronger. A 140-lb woman will burn up to 500 calories with 45 minutes of kickboxing.
10) Walking
Walking is easy: you can do it anywhere, anytime with no special equipment. There's no learning curve and it's something you can incorporate all day long. If you walk up hills, you can really target your glutes and, if you pick up the intensity, you'll burn some of that extra flab off your buns! A 140-lb person burns about 300 calories an hour during a brisk walk.
Well, I hope this helped! Good luck with your exercises!
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whats an easy way to lose about 1 1/2 to 2 pounds a week , without doing any thing drastic? (link)
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Thats actually a pretty healthy amount of weight to lose per week, I'd say any more than that would be losing too much in a short amount of time. Just reduce your calorie intake. Something you could try is SlimFast. They have shakes, energy bars, and other snacks. Basically the concept of the SlimFast system is to replace 1-2 of your daily meals with a SlimFast product. They are low in calories, but have nutritional value to them, so its an easy way to reduce the amount of calories you eat. Another thing is, if you tend to be a late night snacker, try to set a time and make sure you don't eat any more after a set time, like 6 or 7pm. You'd be surprised at how those late night snacks add up, and most likely, they aren't healthy snacks. Also try substituting any unhealthy snacks for low calorie ones. Some good ones are Special K cereal bars (only 90 calories), a piece of fruit, celery, or yogurt. Make sure you are always checking the labels on food, this will help make you aware of what you are eating. This next piece of advice I can't stress enough - exercise!!! It doesn't mean you have to go to the gym, or lift weights, you just want to burn calories. Walking, jogging, dancing - all of those are great, and super easy. I actually suggest just turning some music on and dancing around in your room for an hour each night! It actually burns alot of calories. Weight loss basically comes down to the ratio of caloric intake vs calories burned. Your number of calories burned each day needs to be higher than the amount you ate in order to lose weight. Well I hope this helped, if there's anything else you want to know or need help with, just let me know! Good luck!
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I need help on making a slogan for a product [eyeliner] Something that makes you want to buy it... (link)
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Ok, well when you are considering buying a product, advertising definately plays a key role in product appeal. You have to think about what you would want in an eyeliner, and what kinds of qualities about it would make you want to purchase it. Some things that come to mind would be if a certain celebrity used it, if it stays on really well, what does it look like on, and what makes it different from other eyeliners. Think of your target market as well. Let's just say that its women between the ages of 16-35. This target group is pretty much heavily influenced by what Hollywood is looking like and wearing, sex appeal (let's admit it, everyone wants to look sexy), and the image they portray to society, along with following the trends. So when you think of all these things, you want a slogan that attracts your target market based on what the respond to. A slogan that tells them they would be beautiful and sexy if they used this product would probably be very effective, so would a celebrity endorsement type slogan. I'm sure you can think of some better ones, but here are a few I came up with...
'One thing [insert celebrity name here] always wears on the red carpet... her sexy eyes.'
(This one focuses on a popular celebrity. People always want to do what a celebrity is doing, which is why celebrity endorsements usually make for effective advertising.)
'Let your inner beauty be displayed... line the windows of your soul with [eyeliner brand].'
(The eyes are often called the windows to your soul, and women don't want to be just pretty on the inside, everyone wants outer beauty too, and this type of slogan taps into that.)
'People will look you in the eye... guaranteed.'
(This one takes on a more edgy feel, guaranteeing your eyes to get noticed. Its almost saying that wearing this eyeliner will get you noticed and get you attention. It can kind of be portrayed in a very confident manner, it would probably be effective as long is it was presented in a way that wearing the eyeliner gets you noticed in a good, classy way.)
'Hypnotize with striking eyes!'
(Catchy is always good as well, it makes people remember what you were advertising.)
I hope this helps, just really think about what kind of advertising would be effective on you, and it also helps to try and visualize a makeup commercial or something and how they are best adverstised. Good luck!
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Hi! well oookay..i have a problem. I have alot of friends in school..mostly "girl friends" lol and tonight me and my mom and dad had a talk and they are like dont you have a boyfriend or any "boy friends" and i was like umm..and they are like why dont you hang out with any of them? and i was like because you wouldnt let me and they are like have you ever asked and i said no because i was afraid and my dad was like i would let you go out with a boy out to dinner or something. and my mom goes what happened to you? you use to have a lot of friends and hangout with a lot of people and this year you are like a nerd. just to let you know im a sophomore and im 15 turning 16! but this made me really..kinda depressed. i would LOVE to hangout with guys..but the thing is im soo shy and not outgoing at all. and either are the people i hangout with. just to tell you..im the most outgoing out of all of us and im SO SHY around boys..well some of them. i just really want more guy friends..its hard for me tho.. =[ my parents really like caught me off guard with this. and they are always talking about me "having no friends" i mean one of my best friends is my cousin and then i have another best friend and the one other friend i sometimes hangout with. thats it..i mean like i said i talk to alot of girls in school..we just never hangout..we say we should but it never happens..and the boy thing is also bothering me. what can i do? ive tried so many times to boost up my confidence and be more outgoing..its just not me i guess..
i will rate high for anyone who answers!
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Hi,
From reading your question, I got the impression that you are friendly but just shy around people you don't know that well, or people that you aren't comfortable with yet. That's not uncommon at all, I am actually pretty reserved until I get to know someone and trust them. It's great that you have a group of close girl friends, but its a really good thing to be well rounded, and hang out with different types of people as well, including guys. I think you'll find that if you start hanging out with guy friends, they are sometimes easier to get along with than girls! Now, please don't misunderstand this at all - I am NOT saying to find new friends, or stop hanging out with your current best friends... friendships are something to cherish and hang out to, so don't neglect your current posse of girls. But, since you said you talk with alot of other girls at school but you don't hang out with them, I suggest that you slowly start expanding your social group by hanging out with some of them. I would probably start talking more to a nice girl who seems to have a fairly equal amount of guy friends as girl friends. When you talk to her, maybe throw into the conversation, 'So, what are you doing this weekend?' If she tells you her plans for the weekend, maybe ask her if you could join her. Chances are, it will be a mixed group of guys and girls and you can start getting comfortable and less shy around boys while meeting new friends at the same time. Also, to overcome your shyness around boys, just remember, they're only people too!! They are just as self conscious around girls as girls are around them. Start with little things that are outside your comfort zone, like maybe ask a boy as you are walking out of class, 'Do you know what page the homework is on?' or something else easy like that. In school, whenever you're about to ask a girl something that could just as easily be answered by a guy, like something involving homework, or a class, or to borrow a pencil, try to make yourself ask a boy instead. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect! And as you get comfortable with those little gestures and converstations, it will start to feel more normal to talk to and be around guys! And remember, always smile... because even if you aren't confident about what you're doing, putting a smile on your face will help you feel more comfortable and will let others know you are friendly and easy to talk to! Don't worry about it, it will just take time, and try not to stress about what your parents said, because they only want what is best for you. Another idea is to join a club or group at school that includes both boys and girls to meet some new people and that will put you in an environment where it isn't awkward to strike up a conversation since you already have something in common (the club or group!). Well, good luck, and feel free to leave a message in my inbox if you need anything else!
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I am 13 and a girl who has never had a boyfriend and I think think this is my chance.There is this boy who has gone to mostly every school I have gone to(were in the same grade).But I think he likes me.Its like he has been drooping clues like he stares at me all the time with this serious look on his face,he saved me one time(if thats what you wanna call it)because I was walking and I wasn`t waching where I was going so I was about to bump into the wall then he said somthing to me then that made me look up,and his friend keeps on looking at me and once he was starring at me so I turend around to look and he quikly turend around.So how do I figure out if he likes me without talking to him and can you give me information on how to tell if a boy likes you.
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Hi!
Well, from what you have written, he seems likes he may like you. Boys at that age usually aren't mature enough to express their feelings in a more direct way, which is why you probably won't get him to come right out and say he likes you, but you'll catch him staring at you, or just paying more attention to you than normal. But, I don't think you're going to be able to figure this out without talking to him. You're going to have to eventually, so just start with a 'hi' whenever you see him, or ask him how his weekend was. Hopefully those little conversations will get you to be a little more comfortable around each other, and you will be better able to tell if he likes you or not. He is also more likely to drop more hints that he likes you if he thinks there is a chance that you might like him back. So, drop some hints of your own. Next time you catch him staring at you, smile at him before he has a chance to turn away. Another way to try to tell if he likes you is to compare how he acts towards you compared to other girls. Does he pay more attention to you than the other girls? But most importantly, just start talking to him, and see where it goes from there. Good luck!
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i really like this guy, and i have heard ors that he might like me. i heard them about a month ago. but now thanx 2 some blabbermouthed friends, he knows. i havent really talked to him since. cause i used to occasionally flirted w/ him. but now... and we might be moved into seperate classes this year!! help!!!!!!!!!!
~A*m*a*n*d*a~ (link)
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Hi Amanda -
I'm really sorry that it has taken me so long to get back to your questions. I havent been signed on my computer in a really long time. Sorry!! I don't know if you still need advice on this or not, but I'll answer it anyways just in case. In my opinion, it might be a good thing that he knows you like him. Try as hard as you can not to make it awkward. It will show confidence if you act like it doesn't bother you that he knows, and it will make it easier on him to approach you. Continue to make a point of talking to him, and still flirt with him if you feel like it. It could be that he doesn't take what your friends said seriously, so he could still have doubts about whether or not you like him. I wouldn't worry too much about it, if it's meant to be, it will all work out, just keep on being your cool self. Hope that helped, and sorry again it took so long! I'll be back signed on now, so feel free to ask if you need help with something else.
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My friend, lets call her L, is a pretty good friend most of the time. But if I get a good grade or a good grade point average that is better than hers, even if hers is good too, she takes it out on me and ignores me for the rest of the day. She did it once in the morning, and in the afternoon!!! Now she is mad at me!!!!!! What should I do, I'll rate EVERYONE who is not rude!!!!
~Amanda
PS: I've asked you for advice b4 and it was awesome, so please help!!!!!! (link)
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Hi Amanda! I had this problem once before, too. More than likely, your friend is just really insecure, and when you do better than she does, it only makes her feel worse, so she takes it out on you. What she is doing is unfair, because it is not your fault at all, and it is not like you are getting good grades with the sole purpose of making her feel inferior. This is what I would suggest...try to avoid telling her what grade you got. When you get papers passed back in class, or whatever, quickly put yours away, and be vague about your score. Something like, 'Oh, I did ok...' will work just fine. Don't be blatantly secretive, but just be vague. That way, she doesn't have a chance to compare her grade to yours. If she insists upon knowing, or still compares herself to you and gets mad, try having an honest talk with her. If she is usually is a good friend, hopefully she will understand. Talk to her when you are away from school, and when she is not mad at you. Maybe say something like, 'You know, lately I've been noticing that you get mad at me if I get a better grade than you, and you really mean alot to me as a friend, and it makes me sad when you're upset with me. What's wrong? You get good grades too, I really don't see why you get mad... is there anything you want to talk about or tell me?' Another good thing to tell her is how much you value your friendship, and you don't want anything to get in the way of you two being friends. Explain this to her simply, and nicely, and hopefully she'll open up about what's bothering her. Maybe she's having problems at home and is taking it out on the wrong thing. Anyways, whatever you do, don't slack off on getting good grades just to keep her from getting mad. It's not worth it. Keep getting your good grades, and with time your friend will come around. Good luck, I hope this helped a little bit. Keep me updated!
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Hello,
When I am sitting in class, doing my work, and i become slightly bored, i partake in a slightly disgusting habit.
I bite a sliver of a nail off of a finger, keep it in my mouth, then use my tongue to position it so i could slide it out the front end between my two front teeth. I continue doing this at least 4 to 6 times, then swallow the nail.
I am interested in stopping this habit for myself, because I don't think anyone notices it. (link)
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A habit, any habit, takes 21 days to break. I learned that at a sports psychology seminar. What this means is that if you can go 21 days without biting your fingernail and playing with it in your mouth, then your habit will be broken. Get a calendar, and circle the day you are going to start breaking this habit. Then count 21 days forward, and circle that day. That one will be your target date. Each day that you go without doing your little habit, cross off. Come up with some sort of reward that you allow yourself when you go a whole day without doing it, this will help keep you motivated. For example, tell yourself that if you don't bite your nails, you will let yourself eat a bowl of ice cream that night, or buy a new lipgloss(if you're a girl), or set aside a dollar each day you go and at the end of the 21 days, go buy a CD you have been wanting. You are going to need incentives to keep you motivated, so try something like that. If you end up giving in to your old habit on one of the 21 days, you have to start over. Here are some tips to stay away from biting those fingernails.
-Bandaids over your finger
-Put a rubber band around your wrist and snap it when you think about biting your nails
-Chew gum instead, or mints or little candies
-I think they make a bitter tasting polish to put on your nails so that they taste bad and you won't bite them...you could try that.
-If you are a girl, get fake acrylic nails, you definately cannot bite them off. And by the time you get them taken off (they last quite awhile) your 21 days might be all the way over, and your habit is gone.
-Make a concious effort, just really tell yourself how much you want to break the habit, and simply don't allow yourself to do it.
I hope this helped, good luck!!
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okay this question is for my friend who can't ask it so i am doing it for her. well her best friend just recently died at age 12. and she wants to go to her funeral and wants me to go with her but her mom won't let her go because its during school and she thinks she will get all emotional but she really wants to go so she can say bye and she wants me to go with her so she has a shoulder to cry on if she needs one. does anyone know how she can get her mom to change her mind and let her go to her best friends funeral? please help. (link)
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Okay, it is really important for your friend to get to this funeral. It is an important part of the grieving process, and she should really be there. Her mom needs to understand how hard this is for her, and to let her go. Holding her back from the funeral is only going to make her grief worse, I think she should at least be allowed to attend and say goodbye. Explain the situation to your parents, and ask them if they could talk to your friends parents. If her mom doesn't want to drive her, maybe your parents could drive you both there. As for having to miss school, it is really irrelevant, this is much more important. I hope this helped, good luck. Give your friend a hug from me, I'm sorry to hear about her best friend's death. It's too bad she had to go at such a young age, that must be very hard to lose a friend so young. Hang in there, and do your best to be supportive for your friend during this sad and emotional time. Feel free to leave me a message if you ever need to talk.
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i straighten my hair just about every day and its starting to get pretty damamaged. my hair is thin and wavy, and 4-6 inches past shoulder length. please let me know if you have any suggestions! thanks!!! (link)
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Give your hair a break, and make an effort to go at least a couple days during each week without using the straightening iron. Invest in a good leave-in conditioner to give your hair some nutrients, and prevent it from getting to dried out and damaged. Also, keep getting regular trims off the bottom, so the ends of your hair don't get all straggly. That will keep it looking healthy. Most importantly, though, I would get the leave-in conditioner. Maybe go to a salon, and get some good salon products. I would recommend the Matrix line of products, like Matrix System Biolage stuff. I hope this helped a bit, good luck!
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Does anyone know where I can get some good quality (preferably with an underwire), but inexpensive bras? (like under $20) (link)
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Go to VictoriasSecret.com, and check out their clearance/sale section of the website. They have awesome bras, and there are always some good ones on a discounted price, usually just because they are discontinued colors or something. If you don't find what you are looking for there, try Target, Marshalls, Kohls, or any department store. Good luck!
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i dont know everyone always says "your to abusive" because ill hit guys and stuff just messing around but i guess that is my way of flirting with them but it dosent work aparently what are some ways i could be nicer or just flirt in a more gentle way? thank you. (link)
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Most guys probably don't mind playful hitting from a girl, but if you want some more gentle ways to flirt than try these...
-Instead of hitting them, just give them a big hug! They might be taken by suprised, but they will be flattered.
-Don't hit, but put your hand on their shoulder, or arm or something. It is still contact, but it is being less violent, and still flirty.
-Tickle them. Note: this one only works on tickelish guys... ;)
-Instead of hitting a guy as you walk by him, ruffle and mess up his hair or something like that.
-Just smile, and make eye contact. This is more subtle, but still effective in a more subdued manner.
Hope this helped, good luck!
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thongs are like really in and i was wondering if anyone who has used one can give my pros and cons of wearing them since at this rate i'll never where one myself (link)
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Okay, to start with here are the advantages... you get absolutely no unflattering panty-line. They are actually really comfortable, I prefer them to regular style underwear now. Also, thongs are usually lower cut than other styles, so they work better with low-rise jeans and other pants. Also, they are just plain cute. There aren't really many disadvantages that I can think of...I wouldn't really wear them with short shorts, or with short little skirts, for obvious reasons, but other than those things you can wear them with just about anything. As for not being able to wear a pad with a thong during your period, well they actually DO make a pantyliner that fits right over your thongs. I think the brand 'Carefree' makes them. There is a slight problem if you have really low-rise pants, and you sit down, and the top of your thong shows, but quite honestly, I don't think it is that big of deal. Just make sure you are wearing low rise thongs when you have on low rise jeans. Tell your mom that you aren't going to let your thong show out of the back of your pants, if that is what she is worried about. Tell her it is just because you are self-concious about having a panty-line show or something like that. Your mom probably is just hesitant, like all moms are, to let her girl grow up, so just don't press the issue, but assure her that owning a thong does not make you a slut, and that it is purely for comfort purposes. I hope this helped, good luck!
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