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death/funeral
okay this question is for my friend who can't ask it so i am doing it for her. well her best friend just recently died at age 12. and she wants to go to her funeral and wants me to go with her but her mom won't let her go because its during school and she thinks she will get all emotional but she really wants to go so she can say bye and she wants me to go with her so she has a shoulder to cry on if she needs one. does anyone know how she can get her mom to change her mind and let her go to her best friends funeral? please help.
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Tell her mother that school is something that will be on her shoulders for a few years--but if she doesn't get closure, and the ability to grieve in an appropriate place, she will be burdened by this sorrow for the rest of her life. Her mother has probably dealt with loss before, and may be afraid of death. That's pretty common. It's important, at any cost, to get her to the funeral so she can psychologically feel better. Are you allowed to go? Will your parents let you? Kidnap her from school if you have to, but tell her mom she needs to grieve for her friend.
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She can try telling her mom how much she wants to go and why...
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Thats to bad.Around here they close school for classmates funerals. It would certainly have helped your friend out.
She definatley needs to talk to mom and get to go to the funeral.Maybe mom feels she's to young for all that.It can be kind of traumatic for 12 yo.Missing school 1 day doesn't seem all that unreasonable. Go with her to talk to her mom and see what you can work out.Have her explain whats going to go on and all that and see if your friend really wants to go after that. If mom still says no maybe you could help her have a private little thing at home and let her talk about the good times thay had and stuff. Make her feel better.
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0mg! she needs to go! tell her to tell her mom that she will regret not going when she grows up, and that the girl would want her to go!
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Okay, it is really important for your friend to get to this funeral. It is an important part of the grieving process, and she should really be there. Her mom needs to understand how hard this is for her, and to let her go. Holding her back from the funeral is only going to make her grief worse, I think she should at least be allowed to attend and say goodbye. Explain the situation to your parents, and ask them if they could talk to your friends parents. If her mom doesn't want to drive her, maybe your parents could drive you both there. As for having to miss school, it is really irrelevant, this is much more important. I hope this helped, good luck. Give your friend a hug from me, I'm sorry to hear about her best friend's death. It's too bad she had to go at such a young age, that must be very hard to lose a friend so young. Hang in there, and do your best to be supportive for your friend during this sad and emotional time. Feel free to leave me a message if you ever need to talk.
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You know, i usually say that you shouldn't go behind your parent's back but your friend NEEDS to go to the funeral. Her mom shouldn't be holding her back. find out some way to go. maybe you parents can give you both a ride. i dont know, just get there. if your friends' mom finds out, have your friend tell her that she needed to go and that's the end. hope i helped! ♥
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Wow, thats fucked up. In my opinion if the mom wont let her go now, she probablywont ever let her go.
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It seems to me that your friends mother never lost a best friend.
Her mother needs to realize that if she doesn't go, it might cause many more emotional problems down the road, and it will be even harder to deal with more deaths as she gets older.
Try to get a school counsellor to write a note to her mother, advising that your friend goes to this funeral. If your friends only around the age of 12, missing one day of school isn't that bad. At that age, school isn't nearly as important as something as a funeral.
I'm sorry for her loss.
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wow... explain to her mother that this is her BEST FRIEND! and that she won't ever be able to see her again! Explain that this is a one time thing and that it won't happen again! Tell her you would understand if it was a vacation but that this is a DEATH! Her best friend just lost her life! She can't say good-bye any day she wants like she can with other friends.. that this is her only chance to be with her best friend for the last time. I hope her mom will let her go and you get to go with! I'm sorry for your friends loss! :)
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Wow, tell her to talk to her mom and say that this is her best friend, and that she needs to say goodbye one last time. Yes she'll be emotional, its her best friend! Besides its ONLY ONE day! This is her best friend, it would be horrible if her mom didnt let. Just beg and plead and maybe even you can conivince her! sorry about your friends loss ! I'll be praying for you and her!
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