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Q: i want to get my tounge pierced but i want to know if it hurts and if theres anything i have to do to my tounge before i get it pierced or after please help.

i know many people who got their tounge pierced and they said it doesn't hurt at all.
yeah it will swell for a few days, and you just need to make sure to follow the paper that the guy/girl will give to you.

Q: Hi, I've been on my period for 2 years now. Im 14, and i'll be 15 in august. When I get my period, I get it REALLY bad, especially my cramps. They are always so bad that I cant walk, I cry, and I cant do any normal things, I just have to lay down throughout the day in pain until my period is over. When I had school, I couldn't even make it to school,and I would always have to go home during the day. My cramps usually last throughout the whole entire period but their not as bad at the end. I also have every single symptom a girl gets when shes on period, such as bloating,PMS,boob pains, and all this other stuff. Also when Im on my period my whole body is messed up, like Im sick. I also get lightheaded and sick to my stomach.
I tried advil for my cramps and it only makes them worse. Extra strength tylonal works for me but not enough as it should.
Is all of this normal? All my friends dont have this problem. My mom does so it could be genetics.
Should I go to the doctor?
thanks

Before trying birth control, you should try Midol. Its an over the counter pill for menstrual symptoms. Because really birth control isnt all the great for you at such a younge age it can give you cancer.

Q: I've had headaches for the past couple of days i'll have one in the morning..take some advil..and then before i go to bed i'll get another one *sometimes* and it worries me. Is this a symptom of high blood pressure? They arent severe or anything like that..they are just headaches..Thanks

It could be allergies, even if they did just start. So you would want to go see your doctor. Before that though I would go see an optometrist.

Q: 19/f. Me and my b/f have been havin sex for over a yr but it still hurts. My docter doens't think theres anything wrong but another suggested a pap. What do you think could be wrong with me and does any one else have this prob?

Your uterus could be tilted back. Of course I'm not 100% positive that is what it is. You could try different positions though (if you haven't already). I think I heard that 'doggy style' wont hurt if your uterus is tilted back. Your Gyo should be able to tell if it is, if you ask them. Also if you've been sexually active for a year shouldn't you have already had a pap?

Q: does anyone know of any places in new jersey that i can get a belly ring piercing.
i am 14/f and my mom sed i can but only if i get it somewhere legal.
please answer asap.
!!!!!

im not sure about new jersey but in texas, if your under 18 its illegal. but if your bring your parents have have them sign some forms its totally legal. i would think it would be the same in new jersey.

Q: I have really really dark brownish reddish hair.
Will it go blonde?

yeah, thats the same color as mine.
and i did it over maybe four or five days.
and what i did was i would wash my hair, then put it in and leave it till the next day when i took another shower.
if you look at my profile picture thats the color it turned.

Q: Does Hydrogen Peroxide solution really turn your hair blonde. Cause I might put it in my hair.

Ill rate 5's

yes it does. ive done it before.
you just have to do it a few times depending on how light or dark you want it to be and your hair color right now.

Q: Do you think 5ft 4in and 140lbs is large (fat) for a 13 almost 14 year old? Especially one who is a dancer? So many different websites say so many different things I do not know who is right! Plus, my instuctor at my dance studio is stressing how in shape we need to be for the preformance and how we all need to be at slim weights so we will look "fabulous" on stage and in our costumes. So far I am the biggest girl in my 2 classes, whoop de do!

your bmi is 24 which is heathy but 25 is over weight. so not trying to sound mean to anything but you could lose some weight, so you don't become over weight.

Q: i have a boyfriend that ive been on and off again all summer long and i think that i finally realize that he is using me and he doesnt really care about me, and yesterday he kept getting in my pants and i kept telling him not to and he seemed mad at me and kept doing it,i think its time for us break up,wat do u think??

Duh! If he is getting into your pants when you tell him not to then he is an ass hole. Also right after you told him no and he tryed to do it again you should have left because right there is shows he has no respect for you, and by you staying there is showing him that you have no respect for yourself either, and that your weak.

Q: for years i've been seeing these "gray swirls".. esp. when i get out of the shower, but other times too. i cant see anything except these gray swirls. kind of like when your tv isn't working? know what i mean? i get really dizzy when this happens and it lasts a few seconds and i cant see anything. ive gone to doctors and they like im crazy. my regular doctor told me to go to an eye doctor and i did, and they thought i was crazy. i want to look it up on the internet and stuff, but what do i search.. "gray swirls" haha that wont work.. whatever.. im probably just dying or something.

does anyone else have this or know what it is?
thanks.

I used to get dizzy all the time and every thing went gray. Its just that for those few seconds your body is out of wack. I usally got them if I stood up too fast after sitting down for a long time. So just make sure that you stay active and they will pretty much go away (if its the same thing because even my friend gets them). But you also want to be carefull about being in hot places then if you haven't eaten because you might also pass out.

Q: can any one help me ok this is my problem
i dont know how to make conversation with guys on the phone they like always want to call but what do we talk about
what should i say to make myself not sound boring?

Talk about what your doing. I always talk about my dogs because thats usally what i'm playing with. Or bring up something that you did that day that was funny or anything. If you don't know him very well, try and get to know him by asking his favorites. And if your anything like me you will want to get his birthday to see what sign he is, because its very important.

Q: i will be a new freshman in High school, will i get picked on like in Mean Girl movie?

well here are reason why i might (and i am already being picked on in my bus because they are racist) but i am pretty decent in friends and cliques... i dont get picked on by popular kids

1. i am Asian

so in bus there is my neighborhood and other neighborhood where all black people lives and few of them pick on me for being asian.

2. i am not skinny, i am not obese because when people guess my weight, they guess less then 20 pounds then i actually weigh, but i can lose lot more pounds.

3. i have this enemy who was my ex best friend.

so please help how to avoid those mean racist people in my bus and my enemy... and how to get a boy friend ! =) (sorry about the last one but i am desperate)

I'm sorry that your asian, its a very sad thing to be. And because of this you will always be picked on and you will never get a boyfriend unless he is another fat asian.

Q: Do you think that it is wrong to talk to an ex while dating someone else? I am with this guy right now and he doesnt trust me so he went into my cell and checked my text messages and found that an ex had been text messaging me. We are in a big arguement now about weather or not its ok to talk to an ex. Please help

Of course its ok to talk to him as long as your not doing anything. But the way your boyfriend now sounds hes kinda overly protective which can lead to abuse. But in any case you need to just tell your boyfriend to back off that you can do whatever you want.

Q: Hello
1.I am on a diet and my mom bought me these chewy wholesome granola bars. I dont know if alot of people eat them...but are bad for you?

2.How many calories and carbs should i have a day for sufficent weight loss?
Will rate 5's and send feedback:)
Thanks

1. I have no clue about the bars.
2. It depends on how much you want to lose and how fast. If your also working out then, you want to burn more calories than your putting into your body. (ex: eat 900 calories and burn 1000).

Q: who sings the song that goes like :

cuz i got one hand in my pocket..

and what is the name of the song?

Alanis Morissette - "Hand in my pocket"

Q: is it wrong if you are 15 yrs old and have a 25 year old boyfriend??everyone tells me that its wrong..

Its only 'wrong' if your having sex. And plus there would have to be something wrong with a 25 year old guy to want to date a 15 year old girl (not trying to say anything bad about you) its just he should find girls his own age, and not someone 10 years younger, its kinda weird.

Q: i have a myspace and i see these people that have a little box or something, and they have like a bunch of pictures and you can scroll to see them all, instead of having to scroll down the whole page you just have to scroll where the pictures are. does any know how to do that? if you do...please help! much love...i'll rate high!

Maybe this:

YOUR TEXT HERE

but im not for sure.

Q: can someone give me some break up songs or some songs that say your mad or something. please...i rate 5's.

Anything Ashlee Simpson.

Q: how do you make words bold

is it

wordshere

or is it something dfferent
thanks

TEXT HERE

Q: i have a great friend who is turning 16 tomorro. he desserves a great little get together because hes soo nice and caring. him along with me and 5 other girls are really close and i want to do something for his birthday. (not a party, just a get together for 5-10 people)

i was thinking having us eat at a restaurant and of course my friend eats free..what do you think? what could we do after?

thank you

Instead of going to a restaurant you could have picnic at a park, so when your done you could just play on the swings. (It might sound kinda lame but it would really be really fun.)