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Talking to Ex's
Do you think that it is wrong to talk to an ex while dating someone else? I am with this guy right now and he doesnt trust me so he went into my cell and checked my text messages and found that an ex had been text messaging me. We are in a big arguement now about weather or not its ok to talk to an ex. Please help
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Okay I totally know where he is coming from and you ass well. I am in the same situation. I am the one having the problem though. She wont stop talking to her ex girlfriend, and she thinks it is okay and the girl likes and is still in love with her and still wants to be with her. But my girlfriend tells me SHE doesnt want to be with HER. Understood but the ex girlfriend disrespects me to the outmost. Sp my advice is if ur ex is respecting the relationship and you have nothing to hide then cool. keep talking to him. but you and your boyfriend have to come to an agreement. But then again why are you still talking to your ex?
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I don't say it is wrong but there is something else to consider, is the ex still interested in her? does the ex only wants friendship? I can understand the actual boyfriend point of view.
If you love your boyfriend why to open the pandora's box with an ex? Unless you make it clear to the ex that you have a boyfriend you love and that he has to be aware that there will be nothing else but friendship then u tell your boyfriend about the friend to put things in the clear. That avoids many problems including jelousy.
just my 2 cents..
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Ask long as you are not still hung over your ex. As long as you're just friends. Also, your boyfriend needs to learn boundary issues, he should not go to your cell phone. I think it's perfectly fine though, as long as you are jsut friends.
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It's perfectly fine to talk to an ex but be open about it to your boyfriend. Don't talk about it too much but if you aren't open about it he'll think you were sneaking around. Hope I helped!
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its fine to talk to an ex you guys broke up for a reason you arnt meant to be..if he cant trust you talking to him hes jelous an things are just gonna get worse..Theres no relationship if theres no trust..try talking to him an if it doesnt work get rid of him
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Relationships are built on trust. If your boyfriend went into your cell phone to find text messages, he doesn't trust you, and that's borderline controlling relationship. You should be able to talk to whomever you like, and unless you give him a solid reason to distrust you, your boyfriend should always have faith that you're loyal to him only. Even if he doesn't trust you, he needs to talk to you about it, not check the text messages on your cell phone. I suggest you ahve a serious talk with your bf about trust, and make sure you tell him that if he's going to keep tabs on who you talk to, that's not alright with you.
Hope this helps!
Love,
Nevaeh
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In my opinion I feel that an ex is an ex for a reason. I think that your boyfriend was totally violating you and your rights by going through you text messages on your cellphone. That's a huge NO NO. But back to the question at hand....The guy you are with, how long have the two of you been together. Another question, the ex, how long have you two been seperated, how long were the two of you together? Maybe your new guy feels that you and ex have unfinish business and not really understanding why you felt you couldn't come to him when you and ex first made contact. THats a good question that you should ask yourself first. I believe that only you know the real true answer. Sweetheart deep in your heart you know what your feeling for the ex and the new boyfriend.....Take charge of those feelings and do the best thing for you. and remember to follow your first mind.
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i know you've already gotten a lot of great answers, but i jsut wanted to let you know that i just broke up with someone like that. if you want to be friends with your ex, and your boyfriend is controlling you and telling you who you can and can't be friends with...you're never going to be happy. this situation will only lead to more arguements, and later he will probably find more things he wants you to start or stop doing. you need someone who can trust you and not want you to lose friends for him. sure everyone is jealous sometimes, but if he doesn't trust you, and gets angry at you for talking to your ex's, you're better off without him. there is no respect without trust, and no love without respect. hope i helped. <3
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as long as yall are just friends than its okay. Try not too spend a whole lot of time with your ex then your bf will definateley get mad. Your bf needs to realize yall are just friends he'll eventually get over it.
Hope i helped =D
Brandon
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my boyfriend talks to most of his ex girlfriends out of kindness i think you should talk to your current boyfriend and tell him something like u should be able to talk to who ever you want and that he should be able to trust you if he doesnt trust you then he really isnt worth your time. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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i have spoken 2 a few of my ex's and my current bf doesnt seem 2 care that much, as long as you were just having a general convosation and werent planning on cheating with him then i cant really see a problem... your bf is just worried that you might go back out with ur ex and leave him behind. hes just being paranoid. hope i helped, if you have anymore questions i would gladly help
~*~lucee~*~ plz rate me :)
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Well I have alot of exs and I talk to them all the time! its good that you and your ex are still friends. It doesn't mean any thing if you talk to one of your friends that happens to be an ex. Unless you like him still
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i know kind of what you are going through.i think it is ok to talk to your ex as long as your not plaining on cheeting on the guy your with now
hope it help
&heart;ria
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yeah it's ok to talk to your ex as long as you aren't flirting with him or anything. I have always stayed friends with my exs (except one) and my b/f doesn't care.
you need to explain to your boyfriend that he can trust you. if he doesn't trust you, it's not worth it. you need someone that can trust you without doubts.
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Of course its ok to talk to him as long as your not doing anything. But the way your boyfriend now sounds hes kinda overly protective which can lead to abuse. But in any case you need to just tell your boyfriend to back off that you can do whatever you want.
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That is not a good sign if a bf does not trust you. Part of being in a relationship is trusting each other. Whether there is nothing wrong with talking with an ex or not is not an easy answer to find, and only you can tell what the answer is.
I can't say much more. Think deeply on the subject, if you feel that you did nothing wrong then on this matter you did not doing anything wrong. It is not your current bf to dictate who you can and can not talk to it is YOU!
Best of Luck I hope this help (Let me know if it did)
~Teen Guru~
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I think it is perfectly normal to talk to your ex, me and my exboyfriends hate each other though but if you guys are still friends, then it is alright!
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I think it's ok. I talk to my exes all the time, and you know what? My boyfriends suprisingly don't go checking my text messages.
It's an invasion of privacy, and against the law. If he can't trust that you're not going around telling your exes you love them by text messaging, then maybe you should consider not being with him at all. Just think about what would happen if you talked to your ex in person.
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