I'm female, and 18 years old.
My last period finished around the 30th March. A little over two weeks after that I became sexually active for the first time with my boyfriend - I'm still a virgin, but during that time we basically did everything bar actual sex (oral and 'hand jobs', both giving and recieving). We were careful - we made sure there was never any actual genital contact; most of the time at least one of us was wearing underwear, and on the couple of occasions that this was not the case, as I said, we made sure to keep a distance. Before we went to sleep, we definitely made sure that at least one of us was wearing underwear, to make sure there was no accidental contact when we slept.
My periods, annoyingly enough, have always been irregular, and it's actually pretty normal for me to go for a couple of months without actually having a period (sometimes I even experience PMS and cramps without actually having one until the next month, which can be particularly irritating)! So, normally I wouldn't be at all worried about the fact that I'm late, if it weren't for the aforementioned sexual activity. I haven't experienced any symptons of pregnancy, though I know that these vary from woman to woman, and I'd only be three or four weeks into it if I was anyway, but I am somewhat concerned.
My hymen is intact - is it even possible to get get pregnant if this is the case? (if only sex education were better in British schools, then I'm sure I'd know this..)
Help?
Sometimes if you stress about possibly being pregnant it can make you miss a period, but since yours are irregular anyways I'd say you have nothing to worry about. I'm going to chance saying a definite answer to this question, which I normally don't do. You aren't pregnant.
Yes, you can get pregnant if your hymen is intact, but you are not. Don't worry about it, you were being very safe in what you did.
Hope this helps!
Love,
Nevaeh
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i dont know what to do
he always says he hates his life and wants to die
there is stuff EFFED up in his life but not to where he should die i mean its not THAT THAT BAD considering his mom died and his dad sometimes beats him. but his dad really loves him a LOT he can just be an asshole to his dad.
hes like 'im going to cut myself like rite now' and all this stuff because it "RELIVES STRESS FOR HIM" i dont know what to say
First and most important, you need to be there for him. Be there to listen if he wants to talk and show him that you're not going to just leave.
Second, you have to understand some misconceptions about cutting. It is NOT a suicide attempt, it is a method of coping, however it is not a good method of coping. Although to people who do it, it does offer a release from tension and overwhelming emotions for a period of time, usually those emotions come back accompanied by guilt, shame, and/or anger with onesself for giving in and cutting. Cutting is definitely a cry for help. In your boyfriend's case, it sounds like he is doing it at least partially because he needs someone to notice what he's going through and help him. It shows signs of a deeper depression that needs to be treated before it evolves into something even more serious, such as suicide attempts.
Okay, now for what to do.
1) Don't freak out. Ask him why he's doing it, what he's feeling about it, and ask him if he wants to get help.
2) Tell a counselor. Generally I do not like school counselors, and I would say tell his dad, but if his dad sometimes beats him that is NOT okay, even if his dad seems to love him a lot at other times.
3) Encourage him to get help. The only way he is going to get through the depression behind the cutting is to go to therapy and possibly get medication, depending on how serious it becomes.
4) Understand that this problem is going to take some time to get through. If his mom died and his dad sometimes beats him, he has to be under a lot of stress and tension. There are no easy solutions and he's probably going to have a hard road to recovery ahead of him.
I'm going through a similar situation right now and I also used to cut myself and be seriously depressed, so I've learned a lot about these kinds of situations. If you need anything else email me at Nevaeh314@gmail.com
Hope life starts looking up!
Love,
Nevaeh314
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im really smart, and so what is an above average or average iq for 14/f
www.iqtest.com
Generally 140+ is considered genius. 160+ is high genius, there are a few other subdivisions in there. 120+ is pretty smart, and around 100 is average. 80 is below average, 50 is usually classified as mentally disabled. So on and so forth. The site I gave above lets you input your age and also calculates how much time it takes you, etc. to get a more accurate reading of your IQ. Of course these are all online tests, not to be taken quite as literally as a real IQ test.
Hope this helps
Love,
Nevaeh
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..since you're good at math, would you mind helping me?
it looks like a simple question, but I keep getting i wrong, here's the question;
In a class with 12 boys and 18 girls, the average height for boys was 180 cm, and for the girls it was 165 cm. What is the class' average?
:S The answer is supposed to be 171 cm.
But I don't know how to get there, and WHY, I keep getting the wrong answer.
Please help?
Wow, lol. I feel stupid, I'm in calc and it still took me about 5 minutes to figure this one out.
If you want the average of the whole class, you don't want the average of the average of the girls and boys, which would be 180+165/2=172.5
What you want to do is take 180 x 12 (to get the heights of all the boys added together) plus 165 x 18 (to get the heights of the girls, then added to the heights of the boys) then divide by the total number of people in the class (30).
You should get 171.
Hope this helps! :)
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I want to buy birth control, but the thing is im kind of young and my parents can't know. If i buy it alone at like the CVS or Walmart, is it possible thatthe sales clerk will stop me from buying it?
Depends on what kind of birthcontrol you're talking about. If it's just condoms, foams, jellies, etc, you won't have a problem, it's not illegal anywhere in the US to buy these things over the counter. If you mean the pill, the patch, the shot, or IUDs and the like, you need a doctor's visit for that, which I'm guessing you can't do without your parents.
Hope this helps!
~Nevaeh
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my bestfriend is a girl & we used to be together but my gf now gets mad cuz i put my bestfriend first. my bestfriend will always come first, before any1. any girl. i told this to my gf & she wasnt happy. she said it feels like shes "sharing" me with my bestfriend. ive had to cancel with my gf a couple times for my bestfriend but i dunno wat to do. my gf is gettin rly mad & hurt but i don wanna lose her. i rly care bout her but i also wanna hang with my bestfriend. how do i split my time with them? to make em both happy
You're with the wrong girl hun. If you were really into your girlfriend and truly cared about her, you'd put her if not first, at least equal to your best friend. But that's not the issue, I don't think. It sounds like you've got some strong feelings for your bestfriend, and if that's the case, don't lead your girlfriend on. She has the right to be mad if she's really into you and she's getting the response that you like your bestfriend more than you like her, especially if that friend is a girl. Just face it, because it's the truth: Girls are very jealous creatures.
I say you should really consider who your heart's telling you to be with. If it's your girlfriend, give a little more of your attention to her and a little less to your bestfriend. Put them on an equal level. But if it's your bestfriend, then don't lie to your girlfriend, and most importantly don't lie to yourself, and tell your bestfriend you still have feelings for her.
Hope this helps!
Love,
Nevaeh
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Do hickies hurt when people give them to you? I'm so confused about it...
Nah, it doesn't hurt. The mark is created because the capillaries (tiny blood vessels) are being brought to the surface. Watch it though, especially if the hicky is in an interesting place, because they usually don't fade for 1-2 weeks, depending on how dark it was originally.
Love,
Nevaeh
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My boyfriend and I are making wedding plans and we're debating whether to invite any of my relatives. You see, my entire family, with the (possible) exception of my father, loathes my boyfriend and makes no secret of it. Throughout my four-year relationship with him various relatives of mine have talked about him behind his back, illegally looked up confidential information about him and spread it around, made up outright lies about him in an effort to alienate me from him (my favorite slander was that he was riddled with VD and lying to me about it), and basically tried to ruin his career and his life. My mother admitted to me that she "hated" him -- I invited him to a family Christmas party a few years ago and he was told to "get lost" and was all but thrown out of the house.
Naturally, I don't really care to have these people witness our marriage. Certainly my boyfriend doesn't want it. He ought to be nominated for sainthood for being civil to them all this time, even when they were insulting him to his face. But he doesn't like their actions any more than I do.
The thing is, though, my family hates my boyfriend and not me. They adore me -- they just express their love in a very destructive way. I know if I refused to invite the lot to the wedding, they would be deeply hurt by the slight and would probably never forgive me. One solution is to elope, thereby inviting no one. But my boyfriend's family has been wonderfully supportive and we want them to witness our nuptials.
Part of me thinks: who cares if I hurt my family, they've hurt me horribly by their cruel behavior over the last four years. But I am not without heart and, as I said, they do love me. Just in the wrong way.
Do I invite them and hope they are nice when they show up, or do I not invite any of them, thereby assuring their hurt and consequent complaints for decades?
Your fiancee is a real sweetheart :) But wow, you've got a tough situation on your hands. You said your dad might be a possible exception to rest of your family's behavior. I think maybe you should talk to him and tell him that because of your family's behavior over the past few years, you're considering not inviting them to your wedding. I know this could be a difficult conversation, but tell him how much your family's actions and attitudes towards the person you love has hurt you, and that you know that they love you, but you're making your own decisions and you're making the right decisions for yourself, and they don't need to protect you or to interfere. Tell him that it would be really special to you if you could invite them and they could witness your wedding, but not if they're going to cause any kind of scene or act innappropriately towards your fiancee.
I think if you share your feelings with your father, he might talk to your mom at least, and she might see that if nothing else, she can come to the wedding to support you and your special day.
If you do decide to invite your family, I would keep it small, parents, brothers or sisters if you have any, and maybe grandparents. But make it clear to everyone that you won't tolerate the types of things they've been doing for the last four years at your wedding.
Hope everything goes alright for you!
Love,
Nevaeh314
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What does it mean to be circumsized?
When a boy is born he has a layer of skin covering the head of the penis, when he is circumsized, this skin is essentially cut off. In general, it's just more hygenic, otherwise bacteria and other gross things can be trapped under the layer of foreskin.
~Nevaeh
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I heard cracking your fingers could cause arthritus (sp?), so I'm trying to stop. But it's so hard because it's already a really big habbit. Does anyone know how to break a habit like this??
The arthritis thing is a rumor, however your knuckles can become so large that you won't be able to move your fingers, I know a very accomplished pianist who couldn't play anymore because her hands were completely immobilized by her huge knuckles. Think of that every time you want to crack them. Otherwise, write something on your hand or tie a string around your finger so that you will see it and remember not to crack them. I also like the first person's advice on this. Hope this helps, good luck!
Love,
Nevaeh
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My boyfriend and I are in a rut about this summer. We live about 30 min away from each other but my parents work and neither of us drive. We are desperately in need of ideas on how to see each other and what we can do to make it last. Any good idea will get a 5. Please respond
30 minutes isn't too bad. Make it a plan to email/call/IM eachother when you can't see eachother, that will help. Do you have friends that drive? Maybe you can pitch in a bit for their gas money and see if you could set up a day, say once a week, where you, your boyfriend, a friend, and a date could all go somewhere together and have fun.
I realize it's important to have some alone time, without friends, too. If your parents don't work weekends, maybe they could drop you off there on a weekend day, and pick you up at the end, or vice versa with your boyfriend's parents.
It might be tough to only see eachother a few times a month, but it's only for the summer, and if you're both determined you should be able to make it last. Hope this helps!
Love,
Nevaeh
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Alright, to start things off, I have been dating my current boyfriend for three years in May, and I love him very much.
But the thing is, I'm getting recurring feelings for my ex-boyfriend. We had been best friends forever, as long as I could remember, before I fell hard for him. I broke up with him because I suspected he didn't really like me--it turns out he did. Anyway, he now has a girlfriend. I feel like I still love him, and I can't remember whether I even really stopped loving him or not.
I don't want to hurt the guy I'm with, because I love him as well! I honestly don't know what to do. Any help would be greatly appreciated!
20/f
First of all, tell your boyfriend how you're feeling. That might seem a little strange, but if you're in a loving, trusting relationship then the two of you can work it out together, and he won't be suspicious of things that might be happening and/or hurt if he finds out by some other means. I know I would want my boyfriend to tell me anything like that. Plus, it might help you to figure out if you are happier staying with your boyfriend or if you are really going to dwell on your ex for a long time.
As for what you should do after that, you have to follow your heart. That sounds cliche, I know. But you have to figure out where you will be most happy. Can you stay with your boyfriend and accept your feelings for your ex as a passing phase, since you two shared so much history as friends? Or are you willing to take a chance -- and it is a chance, with your ex, and risk losing both him and your boyfriend. If you think you're truly still in love with your ex, I'd talk to him first before losing all chances with your current boyfriend, because your ex has a girlfriend and may not be as willing to break up with her.
Whatever you do, make sure that you're going to be happy, and that you are changing your situation for the better; that you'll have no regrets. I hope all goes well.
Love,
Nevaeh
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I like this guy and my question is what should i do. we have one class together, we do track together, we flirt all the time, we have a bet as to who will get the higher gpa for the semester, and we are friends (but we just started being friends this past year so not that long). You see the thing is i dont think he likes me, we flirt and hang out but i dont think i've ever heard him talk about girls (in the sense he liked them) except when hes making fun of these two really creepy girls who are like whores in our class together. i have fun with him and i dont know what to do because he also flirts with my friend (but shes a BIG flirt and im not, in fact im pretty shy)! help please, what would you do?
Tell him how you feel, however hard that might seem. Seriously, I had the same predicament for about two years, this guy and I were okay friends, talked in school, in classes, had friendly competition, ate lunch together, that sort of thing. But he never seemed to send any signals that he liked me so I didn't say anything. Then one day I was feeling crazy so I told him. And now he's that adorable columnist on this site called reach28 :). So it works out nicely. Just tell this guy how you feel, and the worst he can do is say that he thinks of you as a friend, but it sounds like he likes you. Hope this helps, and hope everything works out!
Love,
Nevaeh
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So heres the story...
Shes a year older than me, and went to my middle school. we knew eachother then, and werent really what you would call friends, but i was fine with her and we talked during class and stuff. She graduated, and i saw her a few times over the summer. This is after about a year has passed, and we both developed into our own styles and ours have actualy developed very similar. (Music Tastes, clothing, Ect) So we thought that was kindof cool, and were casualy friends, and i would see her around and city events and highschool football games. The usual.
Then i started talking to her on the internet and kindof improving our relationship friendship wise. Soon after that i started to develop a crush on her, and things continued. She would talk to me about her problems, and i had my usual routine of asking her how her bipolar friend was, because from what she had told me, he sounded a bit verbaly abussive to her and overall hard to manage as a friend. She would continue telling me a story how he did this or that. And she would tell me how protective he was over her. I didnt think much of it and continued talking to her.
I had some money saved and i decided to purchase some tickets to an arrosmith concert. I got two, and decided to take her. She willingly agreed and i picked her up and went to a great show. The whole show, she was holding my hand, and hugging on my, and we flirted alot and I kissed her towards the end of the show. She kissed back for about 4 seconds, then pulled away. I found it strange, but thought she was just shy about kissing in public.
It was officialy, she liked me, i liked her and i was pretty excited. Until I found out by someone else, that she had a boyfriend and didnt tell me. The boyfriend was the bipolar kid that i always asked her about. after nights talking, I told her that i could see myself falling in love with her in the future and I would promise a good relationship. She broke up with the kid, and we continued talking. Our conversations almost always consited of us, and eachother. You know, those conversations you have when you each both discover your liking for eachother, but dont have a realationship. She came over to my house a couple weekends and nothing physical happend because we would go and wonder around town.
She told me that her ex boyfriend just wanted to talk with her because it all happend so suddenly or something, and he just wanted to talk it through face to face. She was ok with that, and so was i. That day, i had told someone how great she was, and how i could see myself definetly falling in love with her. But that night, she sent me a message saying this...
heyy.
so charlie was over last night,
and we had a long talk.
and i guess were back together. for now.
i didnt really see that one coming,
but. it happend...
im sorry you and i never got more of a chance.
:..
im sorry.
___________
Thats the end of it. You might not understand, but i actualy need to find a way to get her back. I have no idea how i can do this. Does anyone have any suggestions on things i can say, Or things i can do to convince her how great her and i can actualy be?
Please, I will be so grateful
Wow, I feel for you. There's no easy solution, like "just talk to her" for this one. My first and foremost advice is to remain good friends with her, especially if you're still seeing some verbal abuse in Charlie. I've been in that situation myself, and I would have appreciated it if a friend had knocked some sense into me and told me to get out of it.
As far as getting her back goes, you're going to have to be creative. If your first date was an Aerosmith concert, pick one of their songs and surprise her at her house by singing it to her. Then ask her if you can talk to her about things and tell her how you've been feeling, show her your question on here if you have to. To me, it sounds like she feels a kind of obligation to charlie, or she wouldn't have had to 'talk through it face to face' or have getting back together with him 'just happen'. She obviously likes you, or she wouldn't have gone with you to the concert or kissed you or given you a chance, even a short one. It sounds like she's confused over what she should do, so she's taking the 'safe route' by staying with Charlie.
If you're not the singing type, or it doesn't work, see if you can't go back over all the tiny little details about your friendship, her interests, the things she and you both love. Get her to see how perfect you would compliment eachother if you were together.
Sometimes, no matter what you try, it's just not going to work. I don't mean to say it won't, I just want to warn you of the possibility. If that's the case, and you don't feel like your feelings for her are going away, then stay with being her friend, and when the relationship with charlie ends, she might give it another chance with you.
I hope everything works out for you, let me know.
Love,
Nevaeh
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is it normal to feel a little jealous or upset if your boyfriend picks up a movie (not a porn) with a very "hot" girl on the cover wearing revealing clothes and says how "oohhh shes hot" and puts it in the wagon to buy?
i dont think he got it because he saw i was kind of upset. but was my reaction normal? and does this mean my boyfriend is a creep or he doesnt like me or anythign? whats your opinions? i definately think he reeeaally lpves me..but its just this one area of "hot" revealing girls that makes me mad. it makes me feel inadequate or something if that makes sense
If you have a very trusting relationship, then he probably feels like he can talk about the physical attributes of other people -- within limits -- without you getting too upset or jealous by it. Remember that it's the person that makes a relationship, and all of the qualities of that person, rather than just looks. He can think a girl is hot and not actually like her, same as I can say Johnny Depp is hot and not actually like him. ;). If it really bothers you talk to him about it, just to get reassurance that he is in this relationship with /you/ and likes /you/.
Hope this helps!
Love,
Nevaeh
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My sister is in 11th grade and she needs answers to some of these questions. She's taking physics and I never did so I was no help to her. If you guys know how to do these could you please reply? Thanks!
1. If you average 62mi/hr how long will it take you to make a trip that is 85 miles long?
Equation is speed = distance divided by time.
2.You get pushed in the hall and drop your books. It falls for .35 seconds. How high did you drop it from?
Equation?
3. You skydive and the chute doesn't open. If you jumped from 1600 meters how long to you have to hit something?
Equation?
Thanks, it would help so much!!!!
1. Take 85/62 and you'll have the amount of hours it takes to get there. (1.3709677 - not sure how many digits you want it rounded to there)
2. The equation for this is height equals one-half acceleration due to gravity multiplied by time squared plus the velocity at the point of release multiplied by time. (Sorry, can't write out the formula using standard qwerty keyboard.) The acceleration due to gravity is 9.806 metres per second squared. Anyways, the answer is .6066175 meters.
3. Same equation as above. Height is 1600 meters, acceleration due to gravity is 9.806, time is the unknown variable. The answer is 18.06462891 seconds.
Hope this helps!
~Nevaeh
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For a couple years now, I have been able to control this pain in my foot. If I stretch out my foot (mostly toes) and then push them slightly down with my muscles, my foot will freeze in that position and it becomes very painful. Sometimes, my foot will just go into this position without me making it. Is this some sort of condition, can I prevent it?
Are you double jointed in any other part of your body? (Fingers, elbows, etc?) I get this in my foot as well and it is a result of the loose joints I have from being double jointed. Otherwise, I would suggest going to some sort of walk-in clinic to find out what it is.
Hope this helps!
Love,
Nevaeh
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Iam 16 years old and my math teacher has been really mean to me like she calls me fat and miss piggy and it's really lowering my selfesteem.mrs.Trapnell that's my teachers name asked me how much my mom weighed and she asked me was my sister fat and all kinds of things like that.mrs.Trapnell also made me sit in the counsler's office for 2 hours for something that didn't even happen in her classroom I was stretching and my shirt was kind of short and this boy was next to me and mrs.trapnell saw it and this happened 2 days before she sent me to the counsler's office she said I was showing off my body in front of this boy named carl is this ok for a teacher to do this can I get her in trouble can she get fired.Is this right or is it my fault?
That is most definitely wrong. No teacher, parent, or anyone, for that matter, has the right to do that, she is discriminating based on appearance. She has no right to ask personal questions about your family members or to send you to the counselor's office. See if you can tape record her saying some of these things to you (of course without her knowledge, there are some cheap cassette recorders at stores like Walmart) and then go to the principal with it. Or just go to the principal without it and say what you said here. The teacher will either be fired or have some severe reprimand. You may also want to involve your parents, they can back you up if the principal refuses to do anything, because legally he/she has to.
Hope this helps, good luck!
Love,
Nevaeh
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im a guy 15yrs old yes im gay i need your advice. i like this guy well actually i think i love him and im not shore if hes gay or not. now my question is should i ask him and take a risk of him hating me. its not like hes like straight every one thinks hes gay so theres a strong possibility he is. my only fear is that i will ask him and he would say get the fuck away from me and hate me 4 ever and that would crush me. n e imput would b realy helpful.
thnx much
My opinion: If he hates you for talking to him or asking him then he's not worth going after. Before you ask him, though, I would get to know him a little better, just talk to him at lunch, after school, etc, find out his likes/dislikes, and you may well be able to find out if he's gay without even asking him. Doesn't hurt to try, if you keep your feelings bottled up it will drive you to the breaking point. Take it from someone who knows ;)
Hope this helps, good luck!
Love,
Nevaeh
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lately i have been so stressed and worried about one of my classes. i used to force myself to study all day for 5 days in advance of a test (including saturday and sunday) so that i would get a "good grade". its gotten to the point where i see a therapist and take medication. my mom is concerned, so she is only letting me study 2 hours a day so that i wont be overstressed, and she said that if i dont do well on tests that itll be her fault. my question is, is it better to cry and panic all the time and get a good grade or to enjoy life and not study as much and get a lower grade?
The best thing to do is just relax. If you're paying attention in class, you do your homework, take good notes, etc, there should be no reason why you won't get a good grade without studying. If you're stressing out and forcing yourself to reach perfection, you're just going to end up being disappointed later. You're going to find out that being perfect is not possible throughout the rest of your life, and you might look back then and think that you really missed your teenage years because you were stressing too much. So just breathe, take a step back for a while. You're not going to get a bad grade if you follow your mom's advice, in fact, I'd say that's overdoing it. (And I'm not a slacker, I pull off pretty good grades in advanced classes and normal ones). There have been studies that have shown that stress can actually have a negative impact on academic performance. Stress affects your metabolism, sleeping patterns, normal bodily functions, and when those aren't working properly, neither is your brain. So try not to get too worked up over school. It matters in the long run, as far as getting into colleges and all of that, but not nearly to the extreme that everyone tells you.
Hope this helps!
Love,
Nevaeh
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