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bestfriend & gf
my bestfriend is a girl & we used to be together but my gf now gets mad cuz i put my bestfriend first. my bestfriend will always come first, before any1. any girl. i told this to my gf & she wasnt happy. she said it feels like shes "sharing" me with my bestfriend. ive had to cancel with my gf a couple times for my bestfriend but i dunno wat to do. my gf is gettin rly mad & hurt but i don wanna lose her. i rly care bout her but i also wanna hang with my bestfriend. how do i split my time with them? to make em both happy
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your dating the wrong girl. you really like your bf but you don't want to admit it.
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You're with the wrong girl hun. If you were really into your girlfriend and truly cared about her, you'd put her if not first, at least equal to your best friend. But that's not the issue, I don't think. It sounds like you've got some strong feelings for your bestfriend, and if that's the case, don't lead your girlfriend on. She has the right to be mad if she's really into you and she's getting the response that you like your bestfriend more than you like her, especially if that friend is a girl. Just face it, because it's the truth: Girls are very jealous creatures.
I say you should really consider who your heart's telling you to be with. If it's your girlfriend, give a little more of your attention to her and a little less to your bestfriend. Put them on an equal level. But if it's your bestfriend, then don't lie to your girlfriend, and most importantly don't lie to yourself, and tell your bestfriend you still have feelings for her.
Hope this helps!
Love,
Nevaeh
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Sounds to me as if you are dating the wrong girl.
Since dating is basically a ritual to find a mate, then saying your best friend comes first is just the wrong thing to say to a girlfriend.
Once you start dating, all friends...regardless of what sex they are, come second.
Priorities! :)
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Ok I am sorry, but your girlfriend has every right to be upset about you choosing your bestfriend over her.
Seriously, what is wrong with you? If my boyfriend put his bestfriend in from of me, I would be sooo incrediball hurt...especially if it was a girl.
I think you really need to consider what you are doing, and if you don't want to lose your girlfriend, then act like SHE is the most important thing in your life, not your bestfriend.
So I think you should tell your bestfriend, that you have a girlfriend and she is more important...
You really need to think this over.
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It's not a good idea to tell your girlfriend that another girl (that's not a family member) comes first. I would get upset also if my boyfriend told me that.
I think you should explain it to the both of them how important they are to you.
Once your bestfriend tries to see it from your point of view a little bit, she may become more easier understanding when you have to cancel with her to hang out with your girlfriend.
Once your girlfriend tries to see it from your point of view also a little bit, she may become more easier understanding when you have to cancel with her to hang out with your bestfriend.
It would also help if another guy went hanging out with you and your bestfriend. I know from experience that it will probably ease your girlfriend's fustration.
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I dont know what age you are, (yea knowing your age group kinda matters) Your best friends will always be your best friend but nothing more. Not the one you love with all your heart, not the one that you cuddle with, hold hands with, share your deepest feelings with, kiss, make love to and everything else that a girlfriend "does" I can see why your girlfriend is upset, I'm 24 years old and I would be to even at my age. I wouldnt want to be put on the back burner either which is where it seems you have put your girlfriend. Spend more time with her and save your extra time for your bestfriend like when your girlfriend is busy, at work, with family or other times. Let your girlfriend know that she is the most important thing in your life. Not doing so may cause you to lose her.
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