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How do i get her back?
So heres the story...
Shes a year older than me, and went to my middle school. we knew eachother then, and werent really what you would call friends, but i was fine with her and we talked during class and stuff. She graduated, and i saw her a few times over the summer. This is after about a year has passed, and we both developed into our own styles and ours have actualy developed very similar. (Music Tastes, clothing, Ect) So we thought that was kindof cool, and were casualy friends, and i would see her around and city events and highschool football games. The usual.
Then i started talking to her on the internet and kindof improving our relationship friendship wise. Soon after that i started to develop a crush on her, and things continued. She would talk to me about her problems, and i had my usual routine of asking her how her bipolar friend was, because from what she had told me, he sounded a bit verbaly abussive to her and overall hard to manage as a friend. She would continue telling me a story how he did this or that. And she would tell me how protective he was over her. I didnt think much of it and continued talking to her.
I had some money saved and i decided to purchase some tickets to an arrosmith concert. I got two, and decided to take her. She willingly agreed and i picked her up and went to a great show. The whole show, she was holding my hand, and hugging on my, and we flirted alot and I kissed her towards the end of the show. She kissed back for about 4 seconds, then pulled away. I found it strange, but thought she was just shy about kissing in public.
It was officialy, she liked me, i liked her and i was pretty excited. Until I found out by someone else, that she had a boyfriend and didnt tell me. The boyfriend was the bipolar kid that i always asked her about. after nights talking, I told her that i could see myself falling in love with her in the future and I would promise a good relationship. She broke up with the kid, and we continued talking. Our conversations almost always consited of us, and eachother. You know, those conversations you have when you each both discover your liking for eachother, but dont have a realationship. She came over to my house a couple weekends and nothing physical happend because we would go and wonder around town.
She told me that her ex boyfriend just wanted to talk with her because it all happend so suddenly or something, and he just wanted to talk it through face to face. She was ok with that, and so was i. That day, i had told someone how great she was, and how i could see myself definetly falling in love with her. But that night, she sent me a message saying this...
heyy.
so charlie was over last night,
and we had a long talk.
and i guess were back together. for now.
i didnt really see that one coming,
but. it happend...
im sorry you and i never got more of a chance.
:..
im sorry.
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Thats the end of it. You might not understand, but i actualy need to find a way to get her back. I have no idea how i can do this. Does anyone have any suggestions on things i can say, Or things i can do to convince her how great her and i can actualy be?
Please, I will be so grateful
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Wow, I feel for you. There's no easy solution, like "just talk to her" for this one. My first and foremost advice is to remain good friends with her, especially if you're still seeing some verbal abuse in Charlie. I've been in that situation myself, and I would have appreciated it if a friend had knocked some sense into me and told me to get out of it.
As far as getting her back goes, you're going to have to be creative. If your first date was an Aerosmith concert, pick one of their songs and surprise her at her house by singing it to her. Then ask her if you can talk to her about things and tell her how you've been feeling, show her your question on here if you have to. To me, it sounds like she feels a kind of obligation to charlie, or she wouldn't have had to 'talk through it face to face' or have getting back together with him 'just happen'. She obviously likes you, or she wouldn't have gone with you to the concert or kissed you or given you a chance, even a short one. It sounds like she's confused over what she should do, so she's taking the 'safe route' by staying with Charlie.
If you're not the singing type, or it doesn't work, see if you can't go back over all the tiny little details about your friendship, her interests, the things she and you both love. Get her to see how perfect you would compliment eachother if you were together.
Sometimes, no matter what you try, it's just not going to work. I don't mean to say it won't, I just want to warn you of the possibility. If that's the case, and you don't feel like your feelings for her are going away, then stay with being her friend, and when the relationship with charlie ends, she might give it another chance with you.
I hope everything works out for you, let me know.
Love,
Nevaeh
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