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Feelings for my ex
Alright, to start things off, I have been dating my current boyfriend for three years in May, and I love him very much.
But the thing is, I'm getting recurring feelings for my ex-boyfriend. We had been best friends forever, as long as I could remember, before I fell hard for him. I broke up with him because I suspected he didn't really like me--it turns out he did. Anyway, he now has a girlfriend. I feel like I still love him, and I can't remember whether I even really stopped loving him or not.
I don't want to hurt the guy I'm with, because I love him as well! I honestly don't know what to do. Any help would be greatly appreciated!
20/f
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i think that if you dont like your current boyfriend then you should dump him, and i think that you should just tell your x that you still like him and tell him all of your feelings for him....i hope that this helps you
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First of all, tell your boyfriend how you're feeling. That might seem a little strange, but if you're in a loving, trusting relationship then the two of you can work it out together, and he won't be suspicious of things that might be happening and/or hurt if he finds out by some other means. I know I would want my boyfriend to tell me anything like that. Plus, it might help you to figure out if you are happier staying with your boyfriend or if you are really going to dwell on your ex for a long time.
As for what you should do after that, you have to follow your heart. That sounds cliche, I know. But you have to figure out where you will be most happy. Can you stay with your boyfriend and accept your feelings for your ex as a passing phase, since you two shared so much history as friends? Or are you willing to take a chance -- and it is a chance, with your ex, and risk losing both him and your boyfriend. If you think you're truly still in love with your ex, I'd talk to him first before losing all chances with your current boyfriend, because your ex has a girlfriend and may not be as willing to break up with her.
Whatever you do, make sure that you're going to be happy, and that you are changing your situation for the better; that you'll have no regrets. I hope all goes well.
Love,
Nevaeh
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There's one question to ask yourself. Are you happy? If so don't change anything. Nothing at all. I think that you are happy. Right now you're just focusing too much on the what ifs. It's probably a phase. You'll always have some sort of feelings for your ex especially since he was your friend, but you're not with him anymore. You've found someone else that can make you feel the same way. Don't give up something that "is" for something that "was" or something that "could be". You could lose everything. Just focus on what makes you happy. If that involves hurting someone, well it's just what you've got to do. Don't go chasing after something you aren't sure you can get because again, you could lose everything. Keep what you've got. It sounds pretty good. A lot of people out there never find love. And you have it in your life. Don't let go of it like you did before or your trail of regret will be even longer. Good luck.
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im almost in the excact same postion and the truth is if you liked ur ex that much you might not get over him for awhile but that doesnt make it unfair for your current boy friend becasue you still care about him alout but the thing is your ex has a girl friend and you have a boyfriend just keep telling your self that you wouldntwant to break up with your botfriend if you cared about him that much and haveing feelings for both is ok i know at times it seems unfair but the fact is you like you boyfriend that you have now tooo.
i hope this made sence or i hope i helped
-lindsey
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