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flirting i think?!
i dont know everyone always says "your to abusive" because ill hit guys and stuff just messing around but i guess that is my way of flirting with them but it dosent work aparently what are some ways i could be nicer or just flirt in a more gentle way? thank you.
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Some guys don't like it when girls hit them but since you are messing around, I guess that's alright but you should try to stop flirting that way with guys. Instead of doing that, just make eye contact with them, smile at them, laugh at their jokes, you can hug them, and so on.
-Karen
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.. like.. rub their arm.. or.. sit really close to them.. lol.. and some guys like it when your abusive.. haha
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There are friends of mine who'll hit guys and i mean like punch them as their way of flirting and we all agree that its not attractive. Now what you can do to still keep that contact but not freak the guy out is casual touching. If your talking to a guy just kind of casually touch his arm during the conversation or if your sitting by each other and you start talking have your hand by his then kind of put yours on his. If you and a guy are like flirting but in an arguing way, just kind of pout a little and call them by their name, like "Michael, give that back!" The most as far as hitting goes Id grab there arm. Just remember not to get too physical because then even after you've stopped the minute you do it again people will say "god you're so abusive", believe me , it gets aggravating.
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Just be your self and act how you want to act! some idiots cant tell you how to act or what you do. If you want to try stuff just look at them and when they look look away that always works. Just talk to them and get used to what people say.
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We'll first hitting guys isn't rele a good way to flirt lol. Yoo can talk to them and say nice things like comliment them like "wow i like your hair like that" or if they fall or get gurt yoo can say "are yoo okay" and they will feel very comforted
Hope we helped
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I'm the same way, but mostly the abusive comments are comming from the girls right? And a few guys. Well some guys go for it and others don't. It also makes alot of girls jealous because when a guy does like it he'll flirt back alot. Let me guess, you have more guy friends than girls? Or you hang with them more often? Wll i hope im right because thats alot like me too. But as far as other ways to flirt when the hittings not working.
~when u walk by someone wink and then like smile they'll know your joking but its also flirting
~OK theres this thing i dont know what to call it but you put your hand on their leg and move it up and ask them when they feel "uncomfortable"
~if they play sport go to their games and cheer for them and hang out afterwards
~if you play sport tell them that they should go to your games
~laugh and smile alot
well i guess thats it hope it helps
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I had this exact same problem!! guys does not like rough girls when you hit them they think you're not sensitive and loving and they want that in a girlfriend so just keep that in mind.
Now how to flirt in a better way...
1) if you're sitting down by a boy you like grab there leg but not hard and maybe even play nervous with them (when you keep going up the leg as far as you can go without saying nervous)
there are many ways to flirt with out being rough anything really, talking, touching like poking sides ect.
good luck*
Kristen
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I don't think that you should change your flirting style just because a couple guys say that you're too abusive. Who knows- that might just be their strange and akward way of flirting back! But if you really want to change, i'd advise just touching instead of hitting/slapping.
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Do you like knock them down or something? Who is saying that you're abusive the guys or your friends?
If it isn't they guys saying this and your just giving them a little tap on the arm and not causing them pain I don't see a problem.
If it is girlfriends maybe they are jealous of the attention you get.
You can blow kisses or just talk in a flirty way. Most of those things just come naturally and are hard to just do if that isn't your thing.Just be nice and that is usually enough for most guys.:}
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poke them and give them hugs
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gee try not hitting. are in third grade?
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It's absolutely normal to hit guys for a sign showing that you like them. It's a natural thing-even my friends do it. But you should consider maybe that bothers the guys you like so they tend to stay away from you often or show no signs of affection towards you. Stir up conversations with them, and talk about things you guys have in common-trust me, that makes a great conversation if you guys really get into detail with the topic. You guys might become really good friends and you'll be able to hang out because they'll like you more. You never know, this friendship could slide into a relashionship. I hope I helped!
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Your not to abusive! Guys like when you hit them..as long as you don't hit them to hard. They like the attention. I do it all the time. ♥
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It's okay to hit guys as a method of flirting.. a LITTLE. However, I get the impression that you're taking it too far. Are you hitting them hard? Are you hitting them a lot, or for no reason? it's really only appropriate to hit guys as a flirting technique when they say something offensive, either jokingly or seirously, and even then, not too hard. Don't hit them hard enough to hurt.
If you hit guys for real, you become one of the guys in their minds, unless they said something really, really hurtful. This is because they can't handle a woman being more "masculine" than they are. Be a little more mellow in your flirting, and you should be okay.
Just don't change yourself to fit their image, either. I mean, actually hitting them is sort of antisocial, but don't change your interests or your style or anything just to attract boys. It may work better in the short term, but in the long run it'll just cause more heartache, for you and for them. Change the flirting technique, not the flirt herself.
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Most guys probably don't mind playful hitting from a girl, but if you want some more gentle ways to flirt than try these...
-Instead of hitting them, just give them a big hug! They might be taken by suprised, but they will be flattered.
-Don't hit, but put your hand on their shoulder, or arm or something. It is still contact, but it is being less violent, and still flirty.
-Tickle them. Note: this one only works on tickelish guys... ;)
-Instead of hitting a guy as you walk by him, ruffle and mess up his hair or something like that.
-Just smile, and make eye contact. This is more subtle, but still effective in a more subdued manner.
Hope this helped, good luck!
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aw, I flirt like that too, but most the guys i flirt with liked it. I have a boyfriend, so obviously I don't flirt anymore with other guys, but when I did flirt I tried to tone down the hitting. Don't hit so hard, try whenever he like makes fun of you (in a joking way) like lightly tap him with the back of your hand and like make a surprised expression. Hm, just don't be so harsh and blunt with your actions.
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Sweet talk the guys, be more verbal and less physical.
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Lots of girls hit as an action of flirting, I use to call my friend violent and stuff like that because she would always hit and scratch people, and she took it as a compliment. But, maybe its not that it isn't working, are they hitting you back in a playful way? Do they chase you? Thats a sign.
-TheTeenGirl
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