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Hecka random pic from sadies... that my gang signBASICS:
name: Andrew
ht: 6'0
wt: eh 145
build: athletic
age: 16
eyes: blue-ish green
hair: dark brown
my style: laid back and casual dress, i like to look good though
interesting fact: i can do the Rubik's Cube in one minute 20 seconds.
advice
what does it mean if a boy flurts with me and a lot of other girls in my class but everyone thinks he likes a sutine girl.
well, in my eyes, flirting is a common practice not to be taken too seriously. having someone compliment you on your outfit one day and saying hi or hows it going, doesn't necessarily mean he likes you, or is even flirting with you at all (intentionally or unintentionally). in summary, i dont think it means anything to be honest. just guys being guys and girls being girls..
Alright. So I like this guy..a lot. I never told him it, but we talk all the time. We met a while ago because we used to have the same problem. But He's so great and everything the only problem is that he's turning 16 this year and I'll be 18 in a month. I want to tell him how I feel, but I'm scared he'll think I'm wierd or something because I'm older. or I'm scared about what people would think. I mean I want to tell him, but he lives about 2 hours away, and we never see each other.And when we talk, we talk about Everything and anything. I don't know what to do. I'm probably not even making any sense. So should I tell him how I feel about him, or just let it go?
age isnt anything but a number. how you feel about someone is how you feel. just thought id add that little blurb, but check out silent one's advice its worthy of reading.
sometimes someone will be asking me something really simple and i have no idea what they're saying. its not that i can't hear them, i can hear, im just not processing it, and im like whaattt??? its so weird. i get spaced out all the time, but i bounce back if someone askes me something. today it happened in math and my teacher was asking me something ive known sice what 4th or 5th grade? (im in 9th grade math). and i was so out of it and couldnt get what she was saying.. and now the class thinks im retarded haha i dont care about that tho. why do you think this happens?
thanks
It is very possible you have Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD). You would talk to your parents about this and go see a doctor. They will treat you with medication that will aid you in keeping your focus and not "looking like a retard."
15 F
I have a question about dating/love.
I mean, whats the point? You date, you "fall in love", you break up, your heart is broken. I don't believe that love exists among teens. They all go around saying I love you to the first person they meet without ever actaully knowing what it feels like. I've done it, I admit and when I said "I love you" I knew I didn't mean it. I only said so because he said it first. I always told myself that I would never say those 3 words unless I really thought I was "In Love". I broke the promise that I had with myself and i'm starting to think that love is just a word that everyone throws around. I mean IS there really true love? Everyone is so wrapped up in having a boy/girl friend do they ever see the pattern they make? All the tears and confusion. Is it worth it when your only 15? Why can't all the hormones be turned off until were considered a adult? Seriously.
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Feedback is all I desire but do try to sound just bit intelligent in your answers. Don't make me wonder if the schooling system is failing too.
AG
I've had a girlfriend for a little over a week and a half, not long I know, but I don't plan on those three words appearing in our relationship for a long long time... if ever. I always tell her how much I like her because I KNOW true love is not incorporated in high school relationships. True love in my eyes, is a relationship where you feel totally open, honest, and respectful of each other. Along with many other things. Sometimes married couples are not truly in love. They have this false sense in them thinking they are, but it all falls apart. Now that I think about it, I don't think true love is really alive in society today. "Friends with benefits" and "hook-ups" make acts like sex among things, not a timeless bond between two people. I am sure as heck not a religious person by all means, but I do feel losing your virginity under the age of 22 is morally wrong. With all the alcohol and parties in high school and college, love just cannot exist. Once you and your partner actually live with each other and experience life outside of a school campus, most couples will find themselves at each other's throats. The level at which sexual activity and "relationship hopping" (as I call it) exist in teenagers and America's youth in general, I believe true love cannot evolve between two people.
Today my friend Liam invited me to his 18th birthday party. I was rather shocked because I don't really know Liam, but I guess he likes my quirkiness. So I was really excited until I realized that I don't really know any of Liam's friends besides the people he talks to in art class, and only one of them is really a friend. Her name is Rachel. Sometimes I talk to them about things in the art room where I know them from. They're both very open about themselves and have said that they're into drugs among other things. So I'm worried about going to this party tomorrow because I don't want to get caught up in drugs, but I also want to be friends with Liam and Rachel because they're nice people who talk on my level and care about the things I care about.
so should I go or should I stay home and be perfectly safe? and if I go and there are drugs, how can I stay away from them and not come home smelling suspicious?
If you want to be theyre friend, but you want to stay away from the drugs and stuff, keep it as a school relationship. If they're into that and you're not, just stay away from it. Drugs don't lead to anything positive.
I can't seem to focus enough to get my school work done, does anyone have any tips on how to focus better?
I know it is overly diagnosed these days but you should go get checked out for ADD. I have taken medication for Attention Deficit Disorder since the third grade and it helps me a lot. I also suggest practicing good study habits. Like not doing homework in front of the tv or computer. Not listening to music or talking on the phone. Try it for a week or so with or without the medication and I'm sure you will see an improvement.
okay well i just wrote a question about going on a diet togain weight since im only 100 pounds... well i was jw... but do guys prefer girls that are skinny... or girls of average weight??
99.9% of the time I would prefer an average weight girl. But some girls are just naturally skinny and underweight. Depending on your age 100 pounds can be on the lower end of the healthy side of things or in the middle. But considering this site is for 13 and over I reccommend gaining some weight. One hundred pounds for a 13-14 year old for me doesn't seem healthy. But I'm no doctor...
There is this girl that I REALLY want to ask to prom. But there is one small problem. She says she doesnt really do the school dance thing. We went out to the movies last week, and she said she had a great time. We've been friends for a while, and I finally admitted I have feelings for her, and she said she likes me too. So I dont know, should I ask her, or should I ask someone I dont know as well? And if I should ask her, how should I ask? I am a singer, but I'm not confident about my talent under THAT sort of pressure! Please help!
You can ask her but if she doesn't like dances, on prom night do something else. Go do something special between the two of you.
Ok, I am kindof too shy to ask this to the "pool" because people I know are here... you understand? Thanks in advance.. sorry it's so long..
Ok, I'm 14/f, and I know that's really young, but I have "guy problems". Two guys, one girl, and myself are involved. My best friend "sister", Jacki*, liked my best friend that's a guy, Nate*. Nate also liked Jacki, for a while. I liked this guy, Pete*, for a while, and he liked me. All well and good, eh? Not so. You see, Jacki doesn't like Nate anymore, nor does Nate like Jacki. Pete still likes me, and I suppose I like him a bit still. But, I've always had underlying feelings for Nate, but I'd put them in the back of my mind 'cause it was Jacki's turn to shine. But now, Nate likes me, and so does Pete. Problem is, Nate and Pete are still friends. I don't know what to do, 'cause I know - and love - Nate very well.. and I like Pete. But I sortof see Pete as a "brother". I don't want to do something dumb that would make everyone mad.. and I don't want Jacki's feelings hurt. (we all know that a little piece of your heart stays with every guy until you find the right one..)
Thing is, I really, really know that I love Nate. I've known him since fifth grade, and we're best friends. I know stuff about him that no one else knows, and he knows stuff about me that no one else knows. We have alot in common, and love to hang out. Every night when we're on Instant Messanger, when we have to go, we say "I love you, sleep well, sweet dreams." This means alot to both of us.. Sometimes I think, maybe, he's the one? But I'm still so young, it's hard to tell. Nate's almost two years older than me, Pete's a few months older than me, and Jacki's a few months older than me.
I'm just really confused, if you have any advice what so ever, please lend me some! Thank you so much!
Ok good question and I understand whats goin on. Since both Pete and Nate like you, rather than hurting feelings, I say you should not date either of them. i know you have these feelings for Pete with the "I love you, goodnight" but I think you have to just put it to the side. You and Pete seem like the perfect couple, not for a relationship, but for a friendship. Best friends is always better, than chancing a relationship. Last year, I had this amazing friend named Person*(lol). Person and I had all these classes together and we were the greatest of friends. But secretly, since the day I met her, I had tremendous feelings for her. But I thought to myself "Hey Andrew... these feelings and these great conversations and all this private stuff you knwo each other seems like a perfect foundation for a great friendship." And so it began... I told Person that as much as I liked her, I realized being friends was best. To this day, almost a year and a half later, we are great friends who tell each other everything. It's not that you are too young, or confused, or an age differance. It is your motive. You want a boyfriend figure badly, just as I wanted a girlfriend figure. Relationships will come and go, but friendships will last a lifetime.
my dad is always so mean and curses alot he is an alchoholic what can i do to make him be a normal dad?
Hide the booze...
Does anyone have a good idea as to what I could get my boyfriend for our 6 months? I want to do something semi-creative (as in not trite) and semi-romantic.
For Christmas, I made him a book of pictures and magazine cut outs that said sweet stuff.
I need some ideas. Good ones are appericated.
I'll rate.
You could include things that are significant and symbolic in your relationship, and give it to him in like a bag with explanations for each one.
Examples:
~6 Hershey kisses: These are for all the missed opporitunities.
~A stress ball: For all the times you've been angry at me.
~A movie theater gift certificat: All those fun movie theater trips. ;)
~A kleenex box: All the times I've made you sad.
~An A+: All those times you helped me with homework.
Then you could end with something cute like at the bottom of the bag like:
~A fork: For the romantic dinner I am going to take you on tonight
Yeah well that is what I can think of right now, I'm real tired so I'm not that cretive at the moment. But ask me another time and I'll think of more. Good luck.
Ok, this past week, I went to Disneyworld to march in the parade with the band. (yes, I'm a bandgeek...) Well, my really good friend, Nicole, was sitting with me on the busride to Floriday (24 hours, yuck!) and the way there and the 1st few days of Disney were fine, but then she started getting on my nerves. At the time, I didn't think she was a lesbian at all. She was just NOT giving me my space and was hanging around me A LOT. She basically wouldn't leave me alone. And from then on, she started acting really weird. I'm gonna tell you the things that she did, but they're not gonna be in order lol. Well, for one, we were at Epcot and playing in the fountain like 4-year-olds, but hey it was fun lol. She kept picking me up and trying to get on top of me. And then, long after we dried off, she had wet spots on her boobs. So disgusting. On the bus ride home, I'm like, trying to sleep, and every time I look, she's watching me. Then later, I woke up later that night and her butt was pressed against mine and if I'm not mistaken, it was moving up and down. Then on the monorail, she has all this room, but is like, on top of me. So I move over, and she moves closer, and that kept happening. Just a lot of that kind of stuff. So me and my new friends Kelly and Molly and my other friend Amber ditched her at Magic Kingdom, and yeah, we're not talking (not that I care). But now, I'm just really freaked out. I told my friends, and we thought about it for awhile, and a lot of stuff she told us before was all starting to make sense and we really think she's bi or a lesbian. So what should I do? I don't really want to be her friend anymore, and I'm just really freaked out. I could probably say more, but I don't want this to be too long, so if you want more details, IM me on x HappyBunni16 x. Sorry so long, but I'm really scared.
P.S. I have nothing against lesbians, just when they hit on me and my friends.
No offense, but you are definately jumping to conclusions. If I was sitting next to you right now, I would bet you all the money in my wallet currently, (eh 150ish?) that she's not a lesbian. But I'm not, so I say like I say everytime basically... confront her about it.
these past few days i've been doing ab excercises 8 minutes a day and i just found out how to do an arch by leaning back and well i've done it alot today and now my back hurts. is the arch stuff the cause for the back pain? i don't know what else cudda caused it and do any of you have advice on how to get rid of the pain?
You are probably doing the exercise wrong, which is causing the pain... try and lay off the work out routine for a while and see how it feels. About the pain now, alternate bettween heat pads and ice packs.
So im making a bet with a friend, and if i win i get to make her do soemthing completely non sexual (and i do mean completely) and im at a loss, cant come up with anything. while your answering feel free to make suggestions for her as well, shes having trouble too.
Make them give you money.
I've like guyz since like the 1st grade. I've never ever let them find out. I'm an admirer. I don't ask people out, I dont tell people i like em. How can I tell them without seeming "out of character" or embarass myslef.
Please don't be negative I rate high!!
Become friends first... that's the best way to reveal yourself to them.
im a 16 year old female.
im losing my best friend she goes to the other highschool and she has a new best friend bethany. it gets me so sad because i cant make a new best friend, i still want ashley to be my best friend. ash invites bethany everywhere like on family vacations to arizona, and stuff like that. i used to always go to arizona with them,. no i wont make a new best friend so dont say that. how can i fix all this i want my bffld back!
You can have more than one best friend you know. Anyway just try to make firends with Bethany too and everything will work out.
im 13/f and i need to earn money, and need to know how, besides babysitting
You could do some chores around your neighborhood. For example, clean garages, rake leaves, run errands, that sort of stuff. You could always have a lemonade stand!
What's the best way to ask your parents if you can go out on a date- I'm not talking about "boyfriends" that you have in like 7th grade, I mean HS bfs .. and how to tell your parents that you have a bf without feeling-weird and uncomfortable! Thanks
If the relationship isn't serious, just tell them you are meeting some friends there. Keep this up until things get more serious. I just got a girlfriend and she is wonderful. Everything I could have asked for and more. I didn't feel bad telling my parents, because I have a real close relationship with them. They understood and didn't have a problem at all. If you have a good and healthy relationship with your parents, just tell them. They will understand and support you in everything that you do. If you don't have that strong of a relationship, just see where you and boyfriend go from now. Invite him to your house or something and tell your parents ahead of time that this is the boy you like. Which is being completely honest. You like someone when your dating them true? Anyway go on a few dates and then confront your parents about your relationship.
I like this guy and he is really cute and funny. He makes me laugh alll the time and I love the way he looks. He's got awesome hair and beautiful deep eyes that I find myself falling into. He's also taller than me, which is a plus. He is such a great guy that I can't even describe the way that I feel about him. BTW the guy's name is ANDREW ALBERTS and he is the best ever! What are you doing Tuesday night? :)
Well I'd definately have to say Andrew is a very good looking kid. He sounds like a perfect match for you.
Tuesday night. I'm pretty sure my schedule is full. I'm going on a date with this really pretty, smart, and funny girl. She makes me feel out of this world and I wish I could be with her right now.
Im sorry to say that most of the time , when I sleep I dream about killing people or I die in my dreams, me and my grilfriend are really worried about this, does anyone have and advice for me?
It is impossible to die in your dreams... well not impossible but highly unlikely. Since dreams are produced by the brain, if you die in your dream, your brain will think you are actually dead. In turn, your body systems shut down and you do die.
On a lighter note, try and dream about your girlfriend, or other things that make you happy.