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My friend is a lesbian!
Ok, this past week, I went to Disneyworld to march in the parade with the band. (yes, I'm a bandgeek...) Well, my really good friend, Nicole, was sitting with me on the busride to Floriday (24 hours, yuck!) and the way there and the 1st few days of Disney were fine, but then she started getting on my nerves. At the time, I didn't think she was a lesbian at all. She was just NOT giving me my space and was hanging around me A LOT. She basically wouldn't leave me alone. And from then on, she started acting really weird. I'm gonna tell you the things that she did, but they're not gonna be in order lol. Well, for one, we were at Epcot and playing in the fountain like 4-year-olds, but hey it was fun lol. She kept picking me up and trying to get on top of me. And then, long after we dried off, she had wet spots on her boobs. So disgusting. On the bus ride home, I'm like, trying to sleep, and every time I look, she's watching me. Then later, I woke up later that night and her butt was pressed against mine and if I'm not mistaken, it was moving up and down. Then on the monorail, she has all this room, but is like, on top of me. So I move over, and she moves closer, and that kept happening. Just a lot of that kind of stuff. So me and my new friends Kelly and Molly and my other friend Amber ditched her at Magic Kingdom, and yeah, we're not talking (not that I care). But now, I'm just really freaked out. I told my friends, and we thought about it for awhile, and a lot of stuff she told us before was all starting to make sense and we really think she's bi or a lesbian. So what should I do? I don't really want to be her friend anymore, and I'm just really freaked out. I could probably say more, but I don't want this to be too long, so if you want more details, IM me on x HappyBunni16 x. Sorry so long, but I'm really scared.
P.S. I have nothing against lesbians, just when they hit on me and my friends.
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Please email me and tell me MORE. I need more detail, sweetie. LOL. Well, that IS creepy and I really agree with you. You can't really FOR SURE say she's a lesbian unless she tells you face to face. Ask her. That's disgusting. BTW, I like guys and couldn't imagine my life without them. LOL. WELL, email me ok?
~~~Kayla~~~
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well..tell her that its freaking you out..i mean if she knows and cares maybe she will stop..
other than that i cant reli help you
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No offense, but you are definately jumping to conclusions. If I was sitting next to you right now, I would bet you all the money in my wallet currently, (eh 150ish?) that she's not a lesbian. But I'm not, so I say like I say everytime basically... confront her about it.
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not giving you space doesn't make her a lesbian.You should have just said I need more space.
Am I mistaken or isn't that what friends do..Hang around each other a lot?
You say you had fun in the fountain so? And do lesbians boobs stay wet longer? I asked one for you she said LOL what boobs! No help at all but I somehow doubt it.
She was watching you while you were trying to sleep. Another so what. She probably thought you were acting pretty strange by then.
Her butt touched you in her sleep....people have no control over that sorry, maybe your butt's the one who touched hers in YOUR sleep. And people do tend to snuggle up in their sleep you were warm, normal so far.
Then you make new friends and start ragging on her, probably just so the new friends would give you the time of day. Oops who's the bad guy now?
Sorry, with very little evidence you have just sentenced your former friend to teasing, ridicule, gossip , you name it.
Adults who are homosexual sometimes have trouble dealing with all the crap they are dealt.Can you imagine what your former friend is going to go through? She probably isn't even a lesbian! Kids can be so cruel!
You ask what you're supposed to do. It's real hard not to tell you!
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Ok. She is definitely invading your space to the point of grossness. You need to tell her how she is making you feel. Hopefully, she will understand and back off. It's hard to deal with these things you aren't used to. Please don't hate her because she doesn't know how to deal with her feelings. She may just be pushing the envelope at the moment. Don't start a bunch of rumours that you can't prove. Just confront her, forgive her, and move on.
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hi i say that you are in the same position i was in. i know EXACTLY how you feel. my friend katie was like that she is nasty to, anyway back to you. it sounds like you dont feel comfortable, i didnt either, i never asked her if she was lez or not but i just told my friend and everytime my friend thought she was getting to close she would kinda intercept im still friends with her and i try not to be mean, she likes to talk alot about sexual stuff but i deal whenever she calls we talk but i think if she is staring at like your boobs then like say you have an ich and move into a position that makes her look at your back so she cant. im sorry i couldnt give better advice. yours truly
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Well,
The first thing you need to do is tell her how you feel and ask her. Even if she is a lesbean, she is your friend and you need to support her. Try to help her meet some boys to get her mind off of you. Good luck trying to convince her!!
Sincerily,
Kiara
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Hey! ok first of all, just make sure you are positve! Don't assume if you're not sure! It's ok! I would just tell her VERY CALMLY how you feel! If she's really your friend, you will understand! Just make sure you let her know you have no problem being her friend, even is she is bi or a lesbian! Ya'll can still relate!
*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd*!*
-*Marissa*-
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Hold up. This is not right.
"I have nothing against lesbians, just when they hit on me and my friends."
If you didn't have anything against homosexuals, you wouldn't want to stop being friends with them in the first place.
I think a lot of this may be in your head. Sometimes when we have such a vivid concept in our minds, we make ourselves believe and witness things that aren't really there. Such as the incident on the monorail, or in the hotel room.
Having a few bi/lesbian friends myself, it makes me sad to read this. If she was your friend before, it should make no difference what her sexual orientation is.
But no matter what, you need to talk to her. And soon. You CAN save this friendship, and you SHOULD. Friends are always worth it. I guarentee you'll feel differently after you've talked to her.
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r u for sure she a lesbian because if shes not u might be asuming the wrong thig
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i cant tell you if shes bi of a lesbian because there arent too many facts to determine what she is . if you dont feel ok being around her the just stay away unless you still want to be friends with her , which it sounds like you dont .
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OK!! Wow ur so called "friend" sounds crazy. What I would do is just tell her how you feel. She might understand and figure out what she was doing and stop. But if she takes it the wrong way, I would just, well, not ditch her, but you know, maybe just be a friend to her, not a BEST friend, u know?
Emily
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lol your spelling mistake.. totally fine =)
but with your question. maybe she isn't lesbo, or bi. she just got to confortable with you. cuz you did sit with her for 24 hours.. straight. so maybe she thought you guys were just like.. super tight. or maybe she is lesbo/bi. and that is nothin to be scared of. but what i hear you telling me is that you dont want to be her friend because she might be lesbo/bi. and that just inst fair to her. she cant help who she likes, we all know that. but i would most deff. talk to her. take her aside and be like. i think you possible might be lesbo/bi, are you. and just make sure she can trust you, and talk with her. but i wouldn't just drop her like that.. if she is.. she needs some one to trust, and to be there for her.. so maybe you could the be the person
hope i helped, i/m me if you need any more help on this ( i am who i am 345 ) or you can ask me more questions
---the part that you added
i would most deff talk to her .. about the whole staring thingg. eww. and the whole.. smelling and wearing the same shirt.. that is just disgusting.. im not to sure what to do. ew. maybe when you are talking to her.. you could bring it up too.?
once again.. hope i helped
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I totally, totally understand why you should be freaked out. But pleeease, do not reject her as a friend. Don't you think what she would need most is a friend that accepts her for who she is? I think after you sort things out with her, you two will be better friends.
She's given you a lot of hints...and from what you've told us it really does sound like she is bi or a lesbian. Go somewhere public, like the mall or something so she won't do any "funny" business, but not so public where the world can hear. If you're really not up to it, bring a friend just to be safe. Ask her dead on if she is bi or lesbian. That'll answer one of your questions.
If she is not, explain to her why you thought she was, and it you really are uncomfortable with it. If she is a good friend she will stop. If she continues bothering you, I suggest you start ignoring her.
If she says she is, tell her you're perfectly fine with that, but you've been getting the vibe that she is attracted to you. Tell her you have no intentions of getting close in that way and you will only be friends with her. Explain to her that if she does not stop, you would prefer not to be friends with her at all.
Trust me, being friendly with her (yet still being firm about your decision) will be better than being harsh and being aggressive with her. Being aggressive might make her psycho and cause all kinds of problems. lol.
If she does not respect giving you your space at all, it's time to ignore her. If she continues bothering you, you really need to tell a parent, counselor, SOMEBODY.
I hope it works out.
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Well first confront her, ask her if she is a lesbian and if she is bisexual. And if she says no then just walk away but if she says yeh then tell her your not that way and you want her to stop hitting on you that you dont like it a bit!
hope i helped
~*SAYLOR*~
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There is always the possibility that you are mistaken. However, if she is questioning her sexuality, you have to realize that this is very difficult for her. It isn't accepted in our society, she isn't sure who she can tell who won't turn on her, where to look for support. If you "stop being her friend" for this, you are telling her that she is wrong, even though you said that you have no problem with lesbians. But from what you said, she didn't really hit on you, she just wanted to be close to you. That's totally normal for friends. You need to confront her about your (and her) insecurities and explain that while you support her in whatever she does, you do not think of her in such a way. In any case, I think you should try to get used to people of both genders hitting on you, as it will most likely happen many times throughout your life. When it does, just smile and say "Sorry, but no."
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