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staying out of the drug culture, but staying in with friends
Today my friend Liam invited me to his 18th birthday party. I was rather shocked because I don't really know Liam, but I guess he likes my quirkiness. So I was really excited until I realized that I don't really know any of Liam's friends besides the people he talks to in art class, and only one of them is really a friend. Her name is Rachel. Sometimes I talk to them about things in the art room where I know them from. They're both very open about themselves and have said that they're into drugs among other things. So I'm worried about going to this party tomorrow because I don't want to get caught up in drugs, but I also want to be friends with Liam and Rachel because they're nice people who talk on my level and care about the things I care about.
so should I go or should I stay home and be perfectly safe? and if I go and there are drugs, how can I stay away from them and not come home smelling suspicious?
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personally i say don't go, but it is up to you. you could easily be manipulated into doing the drugs even if you go there intending not to. so the safe choice would be going home. plus if your parents found out about you going to a party with drugs, they probably wouldn't trust your good judgment so i hope you follow my advice.
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You should go but be prepared to not take the drugs. Rememb rthat you are drug-free and aren't interested in taking anything. But also be preped for how they react.And as far as not smelling like you were around the drugs you could take some cologn with you and spray yourself with it before you get home, actually do it as soon as you leave that way it has time to settle over the clothes and if necessary you could take some of those fresh body cloth things that are like for travelers who need to freshen up. If you wipe the wet cloth over ypurself it's supposed to be like taking a little wash up until you can get to a hotel or something, i hear they work great for that type of thing and remember to be honest if your parents are at all suspicious, if you have nothing to hide then you should be okay.
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In my opinion, drugs are everywhere and you shouldnt shelter yourself. I think if your very serious about not doing drugs, then you wont..but if you feel like you may be tempted and you really want to stay away from it, dont go i guess. There are positives and negatives to each side..it might not be fun hangign around people who are high while you arent. I think other people who are there will feel pressured to try drugs..maybe if they see you arent doing it, they will hang around you. I bet there are a lot of kids who are invited to this party and arent so sure if they are going to use drugs or not. If they see you not using them..they would probably stick around you.
If i was in your place, i would ask the guy if you could bring one of your friends who arent into drugs either..just say you forgot she was supposed to sleep over that night.
As for staying away from the smell..just dont hang around them while they are smoking pot..even if you do start to smell a little, sprays and washing your hands will take care of it. Trust me , ive smoked weed before to try it, and spray took care of me just fine
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Do you get on well with either of your parents? If so, i think you should maybe jokingly bring it into conversation that there may be people at this party who you DO NOT KNOW and may be doing drugs. Therefore, if you do come back smelling of something other than coca cola and crisps, then they won´t be suspicious, because you´ve also earned their respect by telling them in the first place. If, however, you don´t get on with your parents, the only other option is to stand your ground. If you get offered drugs, or anything you don´t want, you are free to say no. Besides, people do exaggerate about doing things they haven´t, so there is a small possibilty that Liam and Rachel havent´done all they say they have.
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I don't think you should go to the party. Actually, you already answered your own question yourself by saying you are worried about the drugs. It's great that you found some people you really can talk to, but once your safety is involved you shouldn't have to think twice. Maybe you can hang out with Liam and Rachel one on one some other time, not at a party.
"how can I stay away from them and not come home smelling suspicious?"
Hmm. I don't think that's very wise of you to have to sneak around just to become their friend. Better safe than sorry. I mean, it's just one party right? Not going or going will not determine whether you guys will be good friends or not right? If they don't want to be friends just because of one party, you don't need them anyway.
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If you want to be theyre friend, but you want to stay away from the drugs and stuff, keep it as a school relationship. If they're into that and you're not, just stay away from it. Drugs don't lead to anything positive.
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I guess you could go and then leave when the drugs come out. The biggest dangers are not getting roped into doing something. If you don't are they the type to ridicule you for not doing it? If they are then you don't want them as friends anyway. And never do something just to fit in. The other thing is if for some reason they get busted. You do too. Doesn't matter if you were actually doing anything or not. The cop's won't believe you. Decision is your's to make. Think about it before you decide. :)
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dont go. those type of parties are bullshit. if you want to be friends with them, do so at school. its not worth getting in trouble for.
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