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I like this guy...
Alright. So I like this guy..a lot. I never told him it, but we talk all the time. We met a while ago because we used to have the same problem. But He's so great and everything the only problem is that he's turning 16 this year and I'll be 18 in a month. I want to tell him how I feel, but I'm scared he'll think I'm wierd or something because I'm older. or I'm scared about what people would think. I mean I want to tell him, but he lives about 2 hours away, and we never see each other.And when we talk, we talk about Everything and anything. I don't know what to do. I'm probably not even making any sense. So should I tell him how I feel about him, or just let it go?
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age isnt anything but a number. how you feel about someone is how you feel. just thought id add that little blurb, but check out silent one's advice its worthy of reading.
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tell him how you feel and dont worry6 about what other peoiple think. if you really like this guy that should be the last thing to bother you, and even if he doesnt like you back, atleast you got it out there!
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hey i think u should tell him about your feelings, see what he says, and if he doesnt feel the same, or is worried about the age difference then just let it go (knowing that u got it all out!) good luck
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Friendship and love are the two most wonderful things in the world, so there's a good reason to be careful about this, but also a reason to not feel down about it. You can consider him a friend right? True friendship may become uncomfortable when one has more feelings for the other, but in the long run it usually works out just fine. And if the feeling's mutual there's a great base for a relationship. Try going out and do something fun with him and try some careful probing on what he thinks about relationships, age difference, etc, in general. As he is a guy he will probably be clueless that you're actually hinting on something, so try be more straightforward when you start talking about your own feelings.
Don't worry about him not liking it. He's probably feeling flattered that an older girl likes him in that way. Maybe he never considered the possibility of loving you, must guys tend to think older girls are way out of their league, so don't rush into anything. Just build up talking about your feelings, then talk about them, and when he doesn't really come with a clear response give him a week or so (depending on how often you speak with him) before talking about it again.
Good luck.
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The fact that you'll be an adult, and he'll be a minor is an important thing to consider, and long distance relationships almost never work. If you never see each other, it'll be impossible to maintain a relationship.
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Tell him tactfully. If you talk about anything and everything, perhaps you could slip a few misguided questions into your conversation. Such as "Hey, what do you think about couples who have a few years difference between them?" And if he thought it was ok, then make sure, "Even if the girl is older?" I'm not sure, I'd hope you could be a little more creative than I just managed to be, but you get the idea. If he's smart, he'll figure out you're probing, and either cool you down, or reciprocate. I'm hoping that if you're careful you can test the waters before you try anything, and if they're a little tepid, just stay friends with him.
As for "People", well people can think whatever the hell they want to think. As long as your parents, and his parents are fine with it, then you're safe. Parents can be a little difficult with stereotypes if they're the wrong type, but they can usually be talked around. Other people don't matter. If being with him will make you happy, then the people who are stuck up enough victims of social sheep syndrome can wallow in their own sharp looks and unhappiness. They're not worth worrying about. And 16-18 isn't too bad either.
Living so far away can be tough, so I guess what I've just said about your relationship needs to be put into perspective. How much do you like this guy? It can be very difficult to take "Long distance" relationships. It's also sometimes hard when you're between education groups, although sometimes the one partner who's ahead will help the other. It really is up to you (And him) as to whether you think it will work as anything more than friendship, but I can't say that distance is easy. If one of you were going to move soon though...
See my answers to these questions with respect to "let it go";
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Never let things go without trying! But be prepared to let things go, if they fail.
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