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13/f
ok so i have this friend. we kind of have had an on again off again friendship.
we used to be best friends but then we got into a bunch of fites that basicly tore apart our friendship (she ended up just telling me she didnt want to be that close)
naturally, after that we were kind of in one mean fight after the other. we hated each other at points. eventually we settled into just "ok" friends (i.e. we almost never called each other and we hung out but only in groups never by ourselves). recently, we got into a really bad b**** fight. it lasted like two weeks. it would take way too long to explain what it was about, so i wont, but basicly she got annoyed with me and i got pissed at her at around the same time so we both started to hate each other.
she randomly imed me two nights ago and we worked it out. while we were talking i mentioned that one of our friends was supposed to sleepover on saturday but then she couldnt. so my friend kind of like invited herself (although my bringing the whole thing up was my invitation sort of). we hadnt done anything just the two of us in like six months, so i was pretty excited, i thought maybe this time it could actually work. well now it turns out she cant (she had a legitimete excuse). should i bring up with her that it would be cool if we could spend some more time together like we used to? its so complicated! please help! thanks all! (link)
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suggest rescheduling the sleep over or invite her to do something else with you
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hey y'all, im a freshman and i thinm reality just hit me harder than anything today. we go this letter home in the mail today with the high honor roll+the honor roll students listed, and my name wasnt on it. and im really scared about my life, because i dont do any extra cirricular activites. and im afraid im not gonna get into colege. if i start joining clubs next year do u think ill have somewhat of a chance? i really dont wanna do anysports becuase most of the people who are on anyof the sports i like look down apon me and it would just be really awkward for me. thank y'all so much! (link)
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ok not making the honor roll is not the end of the world and i'm pretty sure that some schools don't even check your freshman grades. if you dont want to join a sport then dont, but it's a great way to keep in shape and make new friends and whatnot, also you can just join clubs/ do community service, colleges like those too.
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I am 15 years old and pregnant. my boyfriend is working two jobs. but we have been fighting alot. and we barly talk any more. my parents just got seperated a couple months ago. my dad got into the whole religious thing. my mom is always out at bars partying staying at guys house having guys stay the night i eel nelgeted and alone. im not sure how to deal with this please help (link)
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ok know that in being pregnant your going to have mood issues and thats part of the fighting with your boyfriend.. try to keep him in your life as best as possible, itll be best for you and the baby.
as far as your mother goes... try just telling her how you feel and ask her to cut down on the partying....
i dont know what to tell you about your father... sorry
good luck though
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16/m
I'm so sick of being alive. Everything is so hard. I can't stand it. It's like I'm doing something wrong. I have few friends, but it doesn't matter because I don't like them. I don't like any one. People don't meet my standards and they never will. And when it comes to girls I have no idea what I'm doing. It's like there's some secret technique that every one but me seems to understand. My problems with girls contribute the most to my loneliness and depression. I'm unmotivated in school, because I care more about trying to find a place I belong, trying to find some one who understands me. I can hardly sleep because I'm always worrying about all this. I'm scared I'll never have friends. I'm scared I'll never have a good job. I'm scared I'll never have my first kiss or have sex, and if I do it will be with some one I don't want to do it with. Somewhere between now and the next few years I 100% sure I'll be dead. I can't take it anymore. I've been to therapy and they even locked me up like a criminal in a mental health ward, but to no avail. I hate life. I hate myself. I hate every one, especially if they're happy. I don't see things ever getting better. Please help me. And don't post anything about God, Jesus, or religion of any kind, it will be an automatic 1 on your rating. (link)
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ok my sympathies on the therapy/ mental wards... both were not made to work
honestly, you worry way to much. if you're sure you're going to die within the next few years then take a deep breath and find something to enjoy in life... learn to meditate that will help loads.
as far as girls/ relationship whatnot... itll all happen when it's meant to happen, don't worry about it to much... just try putting yourself out there more and know that there are people out there that care about you, trust me.
try to find something that makes you happy or atleast content and apply yourself to that. everything will fall into place and life will be good.
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This isn't your average "AM I PREGNANT?" help question; it wouldn't necessarily be a bad thing if I was. Anyways, on to the question. I missed a few of my birth control pills and followed the instructions on what to do. The first test after missing my period turned out negative, and then the next one positive. I thought that was odd, so i took another and it was positive too. Then about 30 minutes later or so, i started my period. Could this just be a false pregnancy reading? Once again, it's not something that I'm stressing over. (link)
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it's probably a false reading or your body aborted a pregnancy
just incase, take another test in about a week
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So heres my problem...
my parents are really uptight, and a little closed minded when it comes to my future. They still have this picture perfect mental image of me graduating with honors, and getting a bussiness degree, and starting a normal life. Problem is, I dont want that. I have bigger plans, and a passion for music so great its almost unreal. All i want to do with my life is something meaningful, and inspiring to others like me. Sure it may sound like a childish dream, i want to be a rockstar kind of thing, but hey who ever said we cant dream big right?
My question is, how do I get them to realize its not going to be how they picture it. every time i try to confront them about it, they brush it off as if to say "you think thats what you want to do" but i dont think, i know. thats what they dont seem to understand, becuase they never had a passion like I have.
Any help would be much appreciated. (link)
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show them that your serious
enrole in music school after highschool and if they disapprove, ignore it and enjoy the rest of your life knowing that atleast in 20 years you wont be looking back saying "what if.."
and if it doesnt work out you can always go back to school later.
good luck!
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13/f
ok well, here we go. ive been going out with my bf for almost a year now, and i LOVE him so much. but the thing is i SERIOUSLY think he deserves ALOT more than me. and today i got braces on for the second time and i look REALLY bad. i dont want him to freak out on me and i dont want to be a bad gf AND an ugly one!!! should i break up with him or just keep it goin?!?1 im so confused and i give out 5's (link)
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ok.. this is about you getting braces??? youve been dating this guy over a year... by now the hope is that he's dating you for more than looks. honestly, don't break up with him... tell him that you got braces, if he freaks, get over it. he will soon enough and its so not like they're gonna be on forever.
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Alright. So I like this guy..a lot. I never told him it, but we talk all the time. We met a while ago because we used to have the same problem. But He's so great and everything the only problem is that he's turning 16 this year and I'll be 18 in a month. I want to tell him how I feel, but I'm scared he'll think I'm wierd or something because I'm older. or I'm scared about what people would think. I mean I want to tell him, but he lives about 2 hours away, and we never see each other.And when we talk, we talk about Everything and anything. I don't know what to do. I'm probably not even making any sense. So should I tell him how I feel about him, or just let it go? (link)
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tell him how you feel and dont worry6 about what other peoiple think. if you really like this guy that should be the last thing to bother you, and even if he doesnt like you back, atleast you got it out there!
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15/f
All right, so my friend, who is very shy, has never told somebody she likes him before. But just a few months ago, she decided to tell this one guy that she does like him. The only problem is, I liked him too. They flirted for a while, talked to each other on cell phones a lot, but all he did was confuse her, cuz even when she asked him out he rejected her. But he still flirted with her. Now, I sort of have the feeling that he likes me too. What should I do? (link)
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well. shes your friend and she told him first, unless you told her that you liked him before she told him she has dibbs, just suck it up for a while. friends should always come first, and if he's flirting with both of you like that hes prolly a major player anyway, no use wasting your friendship on a guy like that
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Where can I find a pair of black knee-high stilettos? (link)
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ebay
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Theres a new girl at my school; Lizzie.
She seemed really sweet and over the past 2 weeks we've become [ or so i thought ] great friends.
The first day she got here, she asked me like who are good people to hang around, who to trust/not trust, who the populars are, who would get you in trouble, and what our school is like.
I told her in my school you can't trust anyone. I told her about a girl on our Team that is so stuck up and self-concieted and thinks she popular [ and shes deff. not ]And I told her my opionion about other people too. Well Lizzie ran off and told all those people what I had said about them and how not to trust me. This made me mad cause she specificly asked about these people then stabbed me in the back by telling them my opionion about them.
I don't wanna confront her about it though; I'd feel so embarressed. What should I do? (link)
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ook... not to point out the obvious or anything, but if you were talking about them like that and are actually embarassed about it then you really had it coming. you were being fake to them and rude to them. frankly, you were backstabbing them just as badly as she did to you. the only thing you really can do is apologize and say you were talking out of your ass to impress the new girl, then never talk about someone behind their back again, unless you say the exact same thing to their face. no point in being fake
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I need some new bands to get into, because my musical band "vocabulary" is not very large.
I love bands like U2, The Rolling Stones, Bob Dylan, Joni Mitchell, Aerosmith, Coldplay, Bruce Springteen, and Crosby., Stills & Nash.
Any suggestions of other bands I might like? I would really appreciate it.
Thanks. (link)
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depends if you wanna stay mostly oldies or not, but id suggest some raggae.
sublime (obviously)
bob marley
pepper
slightly stupid
etc.
but other oldies but goodies are:
eric clapton
chuck berry
ramones
the clash
cream
led zepplin
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My boyfriends birthday is on valentines day and i have no idea what to get him as a birthday present and a valentines day present. We've been going out for a little more then a month but i really love him. I want to give him something cute which he'll remember.
any ideas about what i should give or do for himm?
thanks;)
13f if it helps. (link)
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goev him something cute and sweet that he'll remember forever, or tickets to a concert that he'd like...
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This is probably going to sound pretty fucking wierd, but it bothers me.
Ok, Im dating this girl. Shes agnostic/athiest, Im christian, formerly catholic non denominational. Up to this point, with the exception of discussion, Ive not really had any issues with religions shit in our relationship. It doesnt bother me that shes agnostic, it hasnt bothered her that Im christian.
So, today we were talking, and I told her I was going to become a reverend in the universal life church. For those of you who dont know, its an online website where you can actually get legally ordained and become a reverend in the eyes of the law. I find this fucking hilarious, and have wanted to for a while, but never got around to it.
She reacted badly. First, she joked that she didnt want to be involved with a reverend. Then she got serious and basically made it clear that it would bother her for me to become a reverend while I was dating her (expressed so that it was clear she didnt want me to do it)
Then she tells me its "disrespectful towards my religion"
This is coming from a girl who Ive watched the jesus episodes of southpark with. Whom I have made catholic joke after catholic joke (Im entitled, I was raised in it) with and laughed with her. Whom I have had frank discussions about the real failings of certain christian sects.
And now this.
Needless to say, I reacted badly. I was, and am pissed at her, for reasons I cant really say. Given that she doesnt even have a religion (because atheism and agnosticism are no more religions than bald is a hair color) I dont see where she gets off getting on me for being "disrespecful" towards mine or having an issue with it when its not like...
Anyway. Enough impassioned speeches, my question to the masses, is what do you think. Am I out of line? Is she? Because Im going to do this, and shes not going to like it. And I dont like feeling guilty for doing things I know arent wrong. (link)
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ok, she should respect your decision, but you should respect what she says as well. it sounds like she was a bit out of line in getting mad, but the last thing you should do is get upset with her for getting mad at you, major downward spiral. your right, shes not going to like this, and just to warn you your relationship with her may come to an end over it, so think about it; which means more to you- her or being an internet priest.
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Well I knew this guy for three years. His name is Joe and I went to school with him for 2 years and we were just friends and now he goes to a different school and we chat online everyday and our bond has gotten stronger. We meet up sometimes.We joke around a lot. He's always saying I owe him a hug. Recently I saw him and when we were talking he asked me if he looked good and I told him he was hott. And he told me I looked cute.. THe next day he told me that someone was telling him that I had a crush on him and so I said yes a little. So now Im confused what do I do do I wait or what should I ask him? (link)
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~try to keep things the same, but more flirty, no use in wasting an awsum friendship!~
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I want to wax my bikini line, but im not sure what kind to use. I tried Nad's once but it didnt work and it hurt like hell, really really bad. I tried plucking lol but that didnt work too well and it still hurt bad. I want to wax cuz shaving, cream removal, and all that other junk doesnt work for me. So im asking for some suggestions for bikini waxing its from like CVS or Wallgreens, you know general stores and such. Also, my skin is really sensitive and i dont want it to look really bad because im going to a hotel and were swimming, so want it to be close and stuff. Thanks to anyone who has any ideas!!!
-KaTe (link)
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~i have no idea what would be best, but get it ahead of time and try it first just to make sure~
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i like a guy a lot and we are going to brduate really soon. he knows i like him he says he likes me kind of but then he doesnt but he flirts with me a lot. but since were graduating really soon i want to try and like make a move on hime or something like he had said he was going to give me a kiss and im not sure if he is going to. i want to like make the first move but i dont know how. do you have any sugestions on how to do this like either how sould i make the first move or how should i get him to go though with it.
thanks so much (link)
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~ask him for a hug and go for it!!~
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Okay so there is this girl at my school who I think I might like..she is really good at everything she does, there is just one problem. We don't really like each other at all. She thinks I'm rude and over-obsessed with grades and I think she is occasionally a self-absorbed vindictive roller coaster. I sort of want to get things on a good level with her before the school year ends, any advice? (link)
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~try talking to her about common interests and compliment her on something~
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13/f and I have red hair. It has a lot of body and will do anything but what I try to make it do. So, What kind of haircuts would I look good in? Like, what's a good website to look for cute short haircuts? Also, do you think I'd look good if I put golden-blonde streaks in my hair? I'd put in black but I heard that black dye on red hairs looks green. Is that true? Please help! (link)
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~talk to your hair stylist about what she/he thinks would be best for you... but id definately go with the blonde~
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Sometimes, out of no where, i'll get dizzy, my head will feel weird, and i see these weird grey swirls. i cant see anything else. it goes away pretty quick, but its incredibly weird. does anyone know what this could be? thanks. (link)
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~you might have hit your head somewhere and screwed something in there up... try talking to a doctor~
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