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Suicide
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I'm so sick of being alive. Everything is so hard. I can't stand it. It's like I'm doing something wrong. I have few friends, but it doesn't matter because I don't like them. I don't like any one. People don't meet my standards and they never will. And when it comes to girls I have no idea what I'm doing. It's like there's some secret technique that every one but me seems to understand. My problems with girls contribute the most to my loneliness and depression. I'm unmotivated in school, because I care more about trying to find a place I belong, trying to find some one who understands me. I can hardly sleep because I'm always worrying about all this. I'm scared I'll never have friends. I'm scared I'll never have a good job. I'm scared I'll never have my first kiss or have sex, and if I do it will be with some one I don't want to do it with. Somewhere between now and the next few years I 100% sure I'll be dead. I can't take it anymore. I've been to therapy and they even locked me up like a criminal in a mental health ward, but to no avail. I hate life. I hate myself. I hate every one, especially if they're happy. I don't see things ever getting better. Please help me. And don't post anything about God, Jesus, or religion of any kind, it will be an automatic 1 on your rating.
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HI you probbaly wont read this i remember i was going through a rough time were i just wanted to fucking quit and give up and just be normal for a lil bit.. but i found out being like everyone elses and living up to there expectations i couldnt do it.. i just let loose of all my problems and i started being my self and i made friends... don't worry about girls there a bunch of drama right now.. thats the last thing you need because what happens if you have a break up more pain.. you suffer but later you will have happiness please dont end your life just cause right now your going threw a tough time to find your self and life is getting complicated.. please DONT GIVE UP.. i didn;t.
IM HERE.
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okay well first off i want to know why no one meets your standards? and if this is part of your problem maybe you shouldnt have such high standards. But i dont know thats just my opinion. But, anyways dont look at life in that prospective, you need to worry about you and how your future is gonna be. If you dont like your friends or if you dont like that other people are happy, then make yourself happy by doing your school work and trying to do good for yourself. not for anyone else. and im sure that you do have problems understanding girls, a lot of guys do, dont even worry abotu it. the right girl will come to you. but dont say that you wont be alive in the next couple of years because thats not good, and its not good to think that way. Trust me, i had a fight with ALL of my friends and now i dont talk to any of them, but i moved on and ignored them, and did my school work, now im on the honor roll and im happy, and plus i have new friends now, and so will you.. i hope i helped but if you need any other help just let me know. good luck. dont do anything to hurt yourself. please=]
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What ever you do, do not do anything stupid!! you might feel like you hate life but you are only 16 years old and have your whole life in front of you, write a list of all the things you hate in life and then beside it all the things you could do to cahnge it.Get a goal in life to see what you want to be and work towards it, Do not do anything you will regret, this isnt worth losing your life over, things will get better but you can't give up whatever you do! Think of what you wanted to be when you were a little boy and work towards it, get over your depression by working through it and you will make many friends and maybe even a girlfriend but you have to try or nothing will happen!!
Goodluck,Love Emily
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ok my sympathies on the therapy/ mental wards... both were not made to work
honestly, you worry way to much. if you're sure you're going to die within the next few years then take a deep breath and find something to enjoy in life... learn to meditate that will help loads.
as far as girls/ relationship whatnot... itll all happen when it's meant to happen, don't worry about it to much... just try putting yourself out there more and know that there are people out there that care about you, trust me.
try to find something that makes you happy or atleast content and apply yourself to that. everything will fall into place and life will be good.
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I know that most of what all of these people, including me, are saying doesnt matter much. Not all of us can understand the hurt, but what we all know, is that there is always hope for happiness. It may be easier for some people, but no matter what there is always a struggle. Youre so young, youre only a teenager, and you have the rest of your life to achieve happiness. Not many people have a thousand friends at such a young age. Most people only have 1 or 2. And thats completely okay. We have all been depressed, trust me we have all been there. Its probably the worst feeling in the world, but there are so many more good things in the world than there are bad. I can imagine its been hard to keep a positive outlook on life, but its better to be working towards making your life better than ending it and losing all chances. Think about the future when youre in love and maybe even have a family of your own. You can go to work and goof off with co-workers, or sit at home and bum around on the couch. Either way you win. You may meet the person of your dreams in a week, a month, a year, or 10 years. But it doesnt matter when you meet her. The point is that you will meet her eventually. And shes just sitting there thinking about the day she meets you. Not some other guy with a million friends. You. You cant keep hating and blaming yourself either. There is nobody else in this world like you. Nobody. And YOU are that person that some lucky and special girl is waiting to meet. To be honest, I dont think I know one guy your age that doesnt have a problem with girls, or girls that dont have issues with guys. Its part of growing up and its a learning experience. Just because things arent perfect now, doesnt mean they never will be. Think about the children you may have someday that look up to you, and rely on you. They need you. Your family needs you. There is nothing good that can come from ending something as precious as your own life. You may hurt, and you may want to give up, but you wouldnt just give up on yourself, you would give up on all the people that need you and love you. Your troubles can only get better if you give them a chance to. Trust yourself and know that you will lead the life youve always wanted to. It just takes time. And remember, if its not alright, its not the end. Take care, and dont forget, every night, theres a girl out there who is anticipating the day she meets you and falls head over heels for you, and the children youll watch grow up with your guidance, the smiles youll put on another persons face that just might make their day, and the smiles youll see on your own face. Its all worth it in the end, you just need to give it a chance and live your life to its absolute fullest. If you need anything else, dont hesitate to ask me. My screen name is exkerrioh and im almost always online. :)
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Dear Reader,
Please dont do anything stupid to yourself. Everyone has bad days, I'm going through one right now myself. I'm not going to bring religion into this because its just stupid. Why dont you find new freinds? Or join a few clubs, or start one of ur intrest? that way you meet people like you. And that whole girl thing, dont even worry about it. Girls at this age are like, dizey. I dont get this whole guy thing either, so you are most definitly not alone when it comes down to this whole kissing, dating crap. All i can say, is take life one day at a time. and just dont do anything bad cuz karma goes around. and in time everything will fall in place. Good Luck and please let me know if there's anything else I can do to help and if you have any other problems you'd like to discuss leave one on my homepage. (:
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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hey sweetie i understand exactly what your going throw. i never really had many friends and the friends i did have or hung with i didnt fit it. people were always talking about me behind my back in school. i didnt do well is school because i was worried about everything. things got alot better. but i messed them up by getting pregnant, my parents split up, my grandpa wont talk to me, i never see my boyfriend, i lost the friends i did have. i cry nightly and started cutting althought i stopped for the baby. you were brought to earth for a reason hun thats how i look at it and when there is a reason for me to leave ill be sent away. but until then you need to stick out. dont judge people to much and try talking to more people i no its hard to get back out there but youll always have people who care about you. if you need some one to talk to email me please. hyperchick1258@yahoo.com
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Honestly, I know exactly how you're feeling.
A few years ago, I too thought all of this, I had the deepest hate for everyone, and wouldn't do anything to try to change it. Also, my friend recently tried over dosing on pills.
Right now, I'm happy, and shes happy, alive, with the best support and love we've ever experienced.
How did we do it?
Those few friends that you have can be the key. TELL THEM! If they're any kind of friends at all, they'll reassure you, and they won't be feeding you crap either. Everybody has a purpose in life. I've found that no matter who you are, you can always find, deep down, something that makes you happy.
As for girls, there's a match for everyone. No offense or anything, but hating everyone isn't going to help you find a girlfriend. Be as nice as you can to people, go out of your way to help someone out. No matter what they treat you like, be nice, give a smile. They'll see how much better and stronger you are then them. Being a girl, I know that most girls ( with brains ) barley give a second thought to a guys looks, but find that they're attracted to the personality. Give respect, listen, get to know them as best you can, and they'll realize that you really care.
Don't give up on yourself.
You can get through this.
You can find happiness.
Don't think it will be easy,
Because it won't.
But I know, you can do it.
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wow i'm sorry. i can't say i know how you feel about everything you posted, but i can relate to a few things. especially the friends not being good enough for you.. it took me a long time to even admit or recognize that, so i think you're a step in the right direction. anyway, i'm not great at advice, but all i can say is i'm here if you wanna let loose about some of this stuff. i know a lot of people have already offered but i'd be glad to lend an extra ear if you need it. the best i can say right now is some typical advice, but i think it may have some positive side effects: try to get to know as many people as you can. it's very possible that the person you can relate to the best is somewhere beside you, but you just haven't had an opportunity to talk to them yet. i think if you open yourself up to anyone, even people who don't feel like they're good enough for you, sometimes it ends up that they're the BEST friends. i used to have this stereotype as well, (in fact i think i still unfortunately do at times) but my best and most caring friends are those who i thought weren't good enough for me. i hope you'll try it and i really hope you hang on. you've gone through so many bad things i'd hate for you to miss out on the amazing experiences you have yet to come
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i'm really sorry you feel this way. all i can tell you, is ending your life wont solve anything. you must be really depressed and im not sure why, but i know you have friends and family that love and care about you. im not sure why you hate everyone, or what the deal is with that.. but im sure if you find someone that you dont hate.. and get to know them they'll see what a good person you can be andd hey,you will get your first kiss and all. this isnt anyones fault but your own [if you think about it] so you cant reallyblam it on other people. if you have friends, why are you so depressed? there has to be a reason. maybe something happened? but everything is solveable. its not really good to "hate everyone and everything" and im not suree why because i dont reallyhave enough information tohelp you. all i know- is ending your life wont solve anything.
hope i didnt sound mean..
hope i helped atleast a little bit.
ifnot, im sorry. im not really sure what else to say.
hope everything works out
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just try to get to know people. Don't feel so down about yourself that you don't want to. I think you just need some friends, good luck
JJ
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You are victimizing yourself. You think you are the only one who has these problems? Open your eyes. Also, those friends you don't like, don't you think they might like you? That would mean that your death would affect people close or people who care about you.
I believe the only reason you really want to kill yourself is because you want attention and help, but are too afraid to ask for it. if you were really contemplating suicide, you would have already killed yourself without consulting anyone.
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okay you need to calm down. i used to be just like you and i went to therapy and i know you don't wanna hear about church but that helped to. uyouneed help and you wouldn't be on this line if you didn't want it. but the whole i am scared about sex and love,etc. is all fear.it happens when it happens if you are always fearful of life and saying bad things then that's where life is going to lead you. You should read books like "live your best life now "by joel osteen. it sounds cheesy but it works. i you aren't trying to be better and happier then you won't. i had to learn that. you are not the only person in this world who feels like that. you're nothing but 16! u have your whole life to live for. all teens deal with self-image and stuff. and that whole no one meets my standards is the reason you proably don't have friends(keepinitreal) you can't put standards on people. if you do that then they will back away from you. you have to accept people with who they are like you would want them to do you. and i don't care if you are going to give me a 1 but church is great. god put you here for a reason. he approved of everyone on this earth adn you aren't an exception!people care because if they didn't i wouldn't have answered. so please get better for me!
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okay, so i can understand a few of the things your going through..
but being 16 years old, a lot of people are confused and don't know where they'll end up in life, or where they belong. try getting yourself involved in more things you like to do, you'll be sure to make friends, who are at least a little bit like you, just don't expect them to be perfect. no one can be perfect.
i'm not going to say "repent to christ, your life will be better"..cuz i know how annoying that is, and religions not for everyone...i guess you'll just have to try and live for yourself, or for the people who care about you. Even if it doesn't seem like anybody cares, there's always someone out there who does.. and it might even be someone you least expect too.
i know i'm not perfect at giving advice..but thats the best i can do. just..give life more of a chance, you'll find your place, even if its not right away.
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Wow, reading this made me cry. Like isn't the best thing for me either. I have the same problem. I wake up at night and can't go back to sleep, I have too much on my mind. All my life I've spent trying to fit in. For all those people who make you make, you hurt you, who put you down, don't give them the satisfaction of you dead. Prove everyone wrong, you can be the strongest person if you tried, if you weren't meant to have a purpose, you wouldn't be here. EVERYONE including you and myself have someone out there. It's just hard to find them. Looking for them isn't going to put them out there, they come to you. Let life fall into place on it's own. You think no one cares, you're wrong. I care, I know this probably doesn't mean anything to you, but if one simple stranger can care, then some other people do too. Find something you're best in, have a hobby. You can ever talk to me if you want, if anything happens to you, I'm going to live life knowing I could have helped you in some way and didn't. IM me on aim, [[ luke is elf ]], add me on myspace [[ www.myspace.com/shadows_askew ]] IM me on msn messenger [[ el_tacoloco17@msn.com ]] You seem like an amazing person, and I would love to meet you. If anything, I could be your friend. Just hang in there, life isn't always the best, but it's what you make it. Make yours count. ♥ [[ Someone who cares. ]] ♥
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OKay, so I'm not going to sugar coat everything. I need to let you know that life is deffinately hard. And know what? It will probably get harder at some points of life, but there's also amazing moments. This is the point of time where you're growing, emotionally and physically. You're going to go through amazing moments, and some really, really bad ones.
Why give in to what you're feeling now, for the rest of your life? This wouldnt' be fair to everyone who loves you and cares about you either.
Suicide is the cowards way out. And whether you'd care about being a coward or not, you need to think everything through.
If you need to find someone who understands, open up to others, and dont be so judging of who they are. Open up to others, and they'll see you're a nice person.
So much worse could be happening to you. Think abou the people who dont have a choice whether they live or die. Dont take this for granted.
If you want to talk to a friend (yea, I probably seem mean or something or here, but I need to try to get through to you) email me at xo_graziano_ox@hotmail.com
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i dont care if you give me an automatic 1. i was in your same postion earlier this year and i was about to jump off the bridge near my house, but i didnt because i got myself closer to God. now i am so much better for that. you can go ahead and give me a one and totally ignore this answer but God does love you please listen to this it will save your life
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You belong right where you are. So stop worrying. Get involved in your community. keeping yourself busy will take your mind off of things and help you make friends. you may think you're alone, but the truth is i was in the same situation as you. Life is hard. But that is how it gets better. nothing is free, especially happiness. You have to earn a good life, a girlfriend, money, or anything else. There's no technique to getting girls to like you. Don't be so negative, i know you can't help it but isn't there anything you can get excited about? and if you dont have many friends, i will be your friend. I might not meet your standards but i dont think anyone ever will. look for the good in everyone. i think you just need to talk to someone about all of these feelings you've been having. I really want to get to know you. and i'm not just saying that. the reason is because i think you're pretty brave to say all this on a website. i really wish we could try and be friends. so if you want someone who will listen to everything you need to say then email me: princess.milena@gmail.com
keep your head up, kid.
~CHECKERED-LOVE
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I know it's easier said than done, but stop being so negative. If you believe something's going to be awful, it will be.
The reason you don't have friends/a girlfriend is because people don't like hanging out with negative people. Sad but true.
Worrying about things won't help anything. Most girls would rather have a genuinely nice, inexperienced guy than a cocky, experienced asshole. If you try to smile (it will feel fake at first) and you're a nice person, you will have friends.
The truth is, no guy really knows what he's doing when it comes to girls. The secret technique is that they TRY. They don't just sit at home and feel sorry for themselves. They don't hate everyone. That's the easy, wimpy way out. Your self-destructive feelings are to be perfectly honest pathetic. You can't expect people to do everything for you. Taking your life is not poetic or sad. It's what cowards do. Do you really want to be remembered as a coward? It's selfish. How about the person who finds your body? Your family? Think about other people for once.
Honestly, I don't think anyone can help you if you don't try to help yourself first. Stop hating everyone for having things you don't have. There is something positive about everyone. Things will get better but only if you believe they will. You need a lot of help (it sounds like you had a bad therapist, but a good one can really help) and it will not be easy but you can have a happy life through your own willpower.
If you read even a few of these answers, you know how many people have been through what you're going through. They beat it. Your problems are not unique, they are fairly common and can be fixed. Don't pretend people won't miss you...every person who has answered your question will feel sad if you killed yourself. You're obviously a very intelligent person- and a great writer- don't just waste it. Very few people get a gift like that. USE IT. If you can write like for a simple question, think what you can do with a book.
Please, if nothing else, don't kill yourself. It's a long-term solution to a short-term problem.
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aw hun i'm sorry. everyone feels depressed every now and again. but you are stuck on death it seems. you can't be like that. i mean life is a one time deal. it's the only one you get. don't you wanna have fun? i used to be like you a while ago and i'd like cry all the time and hated all the people who were my friends and despised everyone who smiled or laughed because why the hell are they happy and i'm like this. i understand where you come from. listen i know these seems like a typical 5 year old advice. but if you just think positive everythings gonna work out. once you hit rock bottom you can either try and stand up again and risk getting knocked down again, or just lay there and do absolutley nothing to help yourself. hunny stand up! you can't worry about things as much. if you do then nothing will come. you have to just go with the flow and trust in yourself that everything is gonna go good. if you spend so much time worrying about every little thing your life is gonna just go by and your gonna miss it. and i know you don't want that. i hope more than anything that you'll be ok. and i hope i helped. if you ever need anything put something in my inbox. i'm here to help you! anything you need. just don't do something you will regret!
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Everyone gets depressed once in a while, but you seem to completely fixated on death, unhappiness, and uncertainty in how you fit into the world. Now everyone goes through this kind of confusion at somne early point in their life, when they try to understand who they are and what they want. But the one problem you are facing that is strictly in your control is your attitude towards life, people, happiness, and the world. You have a negative attitude toward everything, and when you assume everything is going to be shitty or suck, it probably will be. And you know why? It is because you unintentionally set yourself up for rejection. Instead of viewing everything with such a pessimistic attitude, you need to have a neutral view on life. And I seriously think you need to consider seeing a counselor or a physchiatrist because thinking about death, suicide, and having such unimaginable views on life and people is something you are not going to be able to solve all on your own and it is something that you shouldn't have to solve on your own. If you need anymore advice feel free to note my inbox.
~Sherah
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Do something you likke.If you like painting,paint out all your stress.Listen to music.Listening to music really makes you fell a lot better.Learn to play an instrument.Write every thing that stresses you out down in a diary or something.It releives stress.
Stop woorrying about the future because things can only get better.Time heals all wounds.People who try to suicide once and fail do not try again.
My maid is homeless and she is still so cheerful.Try to figure out what happened to you that made you so depressed.Ask your older family members about the first years of your life.
and most importantly have faith in yourself.You can do anything if you believe you can.
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hey man.. we've all been through it, some of us have been so depressed and so down that we feel the only way out is to take our life. When you think of it though.. look at the positives of life. Yeah maybe this period in your life seems rough and no one understands you but don't think about taking you life away. Go meet new people & involve yourself in fun activites take your mind off things.. maybe suggest a vaction to your parents but don't think taking your life is going to fix things because it honestly doesn't fix anything. Don't run away from the problem you have to face it! As for love, sex, and girls you haev your whole life ahead of you, just be patience. I know its sounds a little cliche but the right one will come.. but until then you gotta keep your head up and stay strong. Don't put yourself down.. keep yourself up! If you need anything else don't hesitate to throw me a message in my inbox or to even IM me sometime at: i tend 2 rawk
i wish you the best of luck and i hope all goes well!! keep your head up!!
-Bess
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wow i dont know if my advice will help you that much but im going to try! first thing is dont hurt yourself because your having problems that not the way to go! i know its hard and like you said you feel like you dont fit in but i felt like that once and i got over it! about your friend you first need to see why they dont meet you standards and find someone who will like if their not preppy enough then find someone who is you know! and about the girl thing its not just you trust me you may see it like that but alot of these boys go around saying that got girls and dont. im not going to lie to you it is hard for some people to talk to the opposite sex but thats just because they believe in their minds that they cant do it so i shines through to the othet person! just atleast try to find one friend that you like and trust wheather its you cousin, uncle or anything and talk to them! give other people a try they seem weird and different and not like you but thats the good part they can teach you and help you with things they went through before you even go through it trust me i know because i have friend i think are weird and friends i think are snobs but i gave them a chance to be good to me and some of them did! whatever you do PLEASE DONT HURT YOURSELF!!!
GOOD LUCK HUN and if anymore questions feel free to ask!
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i dont know what i can do to help but think of the people who love you. the people who really need you in their life. --trust me there has to be someone-- think of how/why you are important to them. What makes you, who you are? Remember, no one.....no one is perfect and some re close but so far away. In your eyes you dont see yourself as anything. But you should. please beleive in yourself. Make the best out of the worst of things. * girls * lol sence i am one if you really find a girl you like, be yourself, dont change for her, and most of all make sure you show her that you care.
*BrOoKe*
PS im sorry if that didnt help lol =] but hey, i tried.
GOOD LUCK!!!
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wow well i know this will probably get you a little angry or so but letmme tell you you have it all so EASY you dont even know! Your problem is that YOU are putting yourself down,YOU are telling yourself that you cant do all of these things when you have the guts to do every single thing you wrote on here saying you cant do.There is no need to envy those that are happy,instead you should think about things those people do and try them for yourself maybe they turn out for the best for you as well.
About having friends im sorry hunny to tell you but if you cant appreciate what you got now how are people gonna try to be nice to you or even commit a little with you.Believe it or not a girl wants to be with a guy who is willing to be there for her,care for her,be nice to her,and a guy who is gonna be full of life enough to make a good boyfriend and soon to be husband.
Look im nobody to be lecturing you and that is mozdef not what im trying to do. Ive as well thought there was no point in life anymore and wanted to give up on it all but i realized that is not the way to go.I know wut its like to feel unwanted and to not fit in anywhere.I know what its like to wish i was gone forever.I know what its like to think that nobody would ever like me for me and think that i would never find "my one".My self esteem was low as hell.I was so close to suicide but i looked in my mind and what was left in my heart and i said to myself that nobody was making me feel this way.N0B0DY but me. 0nce you notice this you find life.trust me.Im a very happy person now&if you hate me because of this im sorry.im not gonna tell you to have faith in god because hey who really knows if there is a god out there than can help.you said that if we post something on here about god it will be an automatic 1...go ahead..but please please take all i said in consideration.i know the last thing you need is somebody bitching at you but it just seemed to me you really needed to hear these things.
i wish you the best of luck out in this world!
take care
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hey,
i have had alot of friends in your positon, and a suicide that hit me pretty hard. you just have to find something that makes you WANT to be here, even if its only one thing. think about the future, all the things that you will never have a chance to do, and take just five minutes and think about what lifes like after death, really think, theres nothing there, it'll scare you into loving life, trust me. the world won't back down until yuo make it back down.
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have you ever tried being emo because you would be great plus i bet there is some one you can get a long with try the chatrooms
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Hi, I'm really sorry that you feel this way, and I'm glad that you sought advice.
Please don't commit suicide. Your life is precious.
Although you might think that no one cares, I promise you that someone does. More than just one.
I swear.
I want you to struggle through all this. Remember that you can do anything-- if you are alive. Try to find the strength within yourself to pull yourself out of this despair you are in.
Write in a journal every night before... as much as you can. Try to express every single unhappy thought. It may be alot, but do it.
Then write about every happy thing that has happened, even the most minor.
These are the things you won't experience if you don't live.
Think about all the things that you want to experience--having a girlfriend, marriage, etc. etc. You'll never have a chance by just giving up.
Listen to calming music when you go to bed.
Then for the next week, try doing nice things for people, even if you hate them. Open their doors. Smile at them.
I can't promise you this, but I think that when you make other people happy, you'll also be during yourself a favor.
I know you are having trouble in your love life.
Don't worry about it. You are 16--how many teenage relationships truly last? Some do, but it's not a large number. You don't need a girlriend.
One day you'll meet a girl who you like, and she'll like you back. It WILL happen. Just give it time.
Meanwhile, do something that you really enjoy... whether it is sports, or a club. Maybe take a fun class.
I wish you the best.
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Ofcourse life is hard, what do you think it's going to be, just butter, easy and slippery!? Your out of your mind if you think that. Life is tough because of course, you have to go through crazy people, girls, and work! I am too having a hard time, and yes, it feels like the world will be better off without me...but you are wrong. You aren't sure that you will never have a girlfriend and kiss her and even have sex. You don't know that if you aren't going have a job and suceed in life! I'm young, but I'm worried about my future...I feel like I'll be on the streets begging for rides, but it isn't true. Drive your life a different way...far away from death! Drive it to a family and a loving wife with a great job! If you have a goal...it could be just to have sex with a women you love, set you mind to it, you could achieve that dream. If you kill your self in a few years...wouln't you wonder? WHat would my life be if I actually had sex with a women or had a job and gotten rich and traveling over the world! Of course, people are hard to talk to and hundreds of people are phyco, but who cares. Acomplish something dude...love is a great feeling, of course it feels like a roller coaster, but that's how we live. Being happy is a great feeling to...build from what you have. Pretend you are on a stair. Stair number one is buildling your education and GRADUATING. Next step is teenagehood until your at least 20. THe next step is enrolling to a college, and graduating from there. The next step is a job. Everyone starts small, and builds from that. If you get a job and work hard, you will go up 3 more steps. Now your at your 7th step, and it's falling in love. It's going to be hard, but you can do it..don't worry about your looks, (you can though) and find the perfect women. The next step is getting married (8th). The 9th step is begining a family! You don't have to, and you can go to step 10. Step 10 is to live with your family you love, have a good job, and grow old. Your 11th step is to die happily knowing you had a purpose in life because you did!
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I dont want you to commit suicide please dont you have a whole life ahead of yourself and dont be so hardon yourself Im sure when you are older yu would meet alot of girls and have more friends think about the people thatcare about you!!
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Please don't kill yourself! I'm sure you're a great person! I'm sorry everything is so hard, but it can only get better from here. If you need any help on girls, etc. Inbox me anytime. =] You will have friends! Everybody has friends. Just join a club that you like *&& hopefully you'll find some friends that you actually like. If you kill yourself then you'll be sure that you'll never have your first kiss, make friends, *&& have sex. Just think of all the stuff you have to live for! Getting married, having children, etc! =] And remember if you do commit suicide (which i seriously hope you don't!) think of all the people who loved you that will be suffering because of this. Life is too short live life to the fullest and enjoy yourself! If you need anyone to talk to you could always inbox me telling me about how you're feeling. Even though I dont know you. It will be sad to knowing that you committed suicide. So please don't!!!!
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Maybe if you took a vaction to some random place and just took in the life around you, maybe it would inspire you. I'm sorry if this didn't help but if i come up with something better. Remember even though it seems like no one cares if you died people WILL be upset, i dont know you at all and i know if i found out you died i would be very very upset, so if i barly know you and feel this way im sure there are people who know that care and just don't express it. I hope you can find good advice and have a good life, and don't be scared to try something new. <3333
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im sorry about how your life is going right now but thats no reason to kill yourself. You might not fit in yet but sooner or later you'll find the right group and then you'll be glad that you didn't give up. I, myself had my own ups and downs and sometimes it doesnt help to talk to someone or it does help but you have to understand that life is ruff you just have to pull through it. Plus you would never believe if you would kill yourself how many people woul be sorry for you they wouldnt know what they would do with themselves. Mostly what you have to know is who cares about you and don't want anything bad to happen to you. You are probably a talented kid with dreams ahead of you. So don't turn back now live your life and enjoy it.
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i'm not sure youl like this answer. or even believe it. but like everything, its going to take time. i mean youre going to feel better..things will get better. i garuntee it. dont give up, but stop focusing on things that wont help you in the future (ie..youre saying girls) dont worry about them. even if your hormones tell you to. relationships just end up in heartache. there are so many poeple who feel the same way that you do. you just cant find them becuase youre putting aside seeing the good things you have in life. although to you it may seem lke you dont have many good things or youve had terrible experiences in the past, but you cant let that affect you. you just cant. it holds you back you know. and alot of people like you like to ignore the fact that there are so many people out there..SO many, who wish that they even had a CHANCE, and the opportnities you have. you might not even realize that either. that theres so much you can do with your life. you could be trying not to believe that, or like me long ago, feel like, well so what. this is about how IIIII feel, not about how much other people have or whatever. see i didnt want to answer this question at first. becuase i doubted youd believe what i had to say or wanted to believe it. im also trying to say the first step to being happy is to..become optimistic. dont let the unimportant things that you FEEL are necessary in your life bother you. i think im talking more aboutmyself in this thing that i am to you but im insisting for you to try at least, try to get all those negative things that you think about out of your head bevcuase theyre bringing you down. and this is coming from me, and i'm honestly a fucknut. i have a messed up head. and things in my mind from what ive seen and whats happened to me. i survived and so will you. you need to be strong and believe in yourself. that is the key. and you feel so differet from everybody. becuause they are happy. but you also never know, a person you see in school orsomething, that seems 'happy' to you, could have even cried themselves to sleep last night. im just trying to explain that your not so unbelonged or left out or whatever, becuase you see poeple, and you think what you see. who knows how they really feel or whats happened to them. you just judge from the outside. one of my best friends has even been in the looney bin countless times. we've all struggled. don't convince yourself youve got it bad. like i said, be optimistic. and try. and when you get older, and time passes, youll be hearig the same question like you asked and saying the same things i have becuase i know. becuase ive grown and learned. i wish you the best of luck in life, and dont ever, ever feel anything close to worthlessness. everyones got a purpose in life.
sorry for the length.
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I'm sorry your life is not as good as you would like it to be. But that is no reason to kill yourself. Life can be hard at times, everyone knows it, even people you wouldnt have expected may suffer through depression. So dont feel like your alone. And there are people going though more shit then you. People starving, people being homeless, people with diseases.. ect.
Girls arent as difficult as everyone thinks. If you are nice to them and make them laugh (looks help a little too, but there are girls who dont care about looks) and you are brave enough to ask them out, they will most likely say yes. Your first kiss will come and so will your first time.
About school, I suggest you try to get good grades. Having a good social life in highschool isnt important in the real world, when you are in college or working. Having a good education will stick with you.
To be happy, exercise, it releases chemicals that make you happy. Also try activitie. Try to do things you truly enjoy that will take your mind off of suicidal thoughts. Do you like a sport? Play it. Do you like to read? Read a good book, maybe even join a book club. Like to draw? Get a sketch book and bring it with you everywhere. Try joining an art club. Do whatever floats your boat that wont get you more depressed. Joining clubs will help you make more friends and get you having fun.
Please do not kill yourself or injure yourself (like cutting). Your death could lead to so many lives being altered. Your loved ones would be very sad. I would be very sad. Just please dont do it.
If you ever need to talk, you could ask me a question or IM me- BreatheIn4Luck81
I'd be happy to help.
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look how many people are backing you up mate if you want some one who understands you jus give me an email ;) sport-mad@hotmail.co.uk
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I was kinda like this.. for awhile. Well, nott that bad or anything. But, I guess I can understand how you feel, kinda.
How you keep saying, how your so worried about all those things, you need to stop. Stop worrying about yourself. Think about other people..oh & when you say.."i hate everyone, espically happy people." LIKE WTFF. wow, that'd really wanna make me be your friend. I mean, come on are you hearing yourself speak? Your only unhappy & everything, because of yourself. Its no one elses fault. You need to realize that, people arn't going to always try to be your friend, you have to try to be their friend. When people would tell me.. "you can make a million friends by being active & doing stuff in school" i thought, pshhh, yeah right. you don't need friends to do that stuff. When I joined some stuff, oh my goshhh, friends came like rollingg in. They all have the same interests as you, therefore.. your bound to make new friends, which will make you happy, which will make you less depressed. Then, overtime.. you'll be alot more happier.
If you ever need help with girls, just ask another question on here, on how to get them! I'd deff. be happy to help you. Since I am a girl, & have very much experience in all that.
Nothing is as hard as it seems. I used to always make things so difficult on myself. Thinking it was more to what it was, espically with school things. I then realized it wasn't.
The only thing your doing wrong, is not trying. That was good that you went to therapy though..
Why don't you like your friends? Try to like them, bring out the positive things about them. What do you mean "people don't meet my standards, they never will." ha, kidddooo, you can't expect people to be perfect. Another thing I figured out, just last week. I was expecting so much out of people, & so I was constantly pushing people away from me, & being mean to them. I realized, no ones perfect, & i'm sure they see things about me that isn't so great either.
What do you like to do? I like photography.. & drama club, & cheerleading [ ok you probably won't like that one, but.. lol] & foreign languages, & stuff like that. If you don't like that stuff.. but you've never tried it, well you'll never be certain if you like it or not, if you don't try it! No one will most likely understand you perfectly. But, if you meet alot of new people, every person, can understand you in one way..
you'll deff. have a job, mcdonalds hires like ANYONE. & next time you eat there, they say stuff about how their hours fit anyones. & stuff.. so trust me, even if your not smart enough for college, you'll still have some type of job.
Don't kill yourself, people care about you if you realize it or not.
Anywayss, I hope you take my advice. That stuff isnt gonna happen over night. It will happen over a period of time. Try writing your feelings down. Then, at the end of the month, look back at them, & try to find small changes, like.. how maybe you made a new friend, got a girlfriend.. or something like that. It may help. I hope this helped, If you listen to me, & really try, I gurantee you'll be feeling alot better, soonn.
Oh right, & powerful words of an old friend of mine, who died because of cancer..
"Look on the brightside, no matter how hard it is. No one else can help you be happy, thats up to you"
He said something similar to that, anyways. Just try what I said, I hope it works.
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I am so sorry you hate life, but you can't give up like that. You can't kill your self the best is yet to come and you will never know what it would be like if u never gave life a chance. One day you will have your own family, and if you dont thats ok. Not everybody loves their life. Its a hard thing to find. I don't love my life. You don't have to. There is a point in everyones life where you feel left out and hated. But you know what, theres somebody. There is somebody who loves you. Don't give up on your life. I'm sure your family must love you and you should deffinitley talk it out with your family. So many people in the world kill themself. Its a terrible thing and I hope you dont kill yourself.
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I'm sorry, but to me it just sounds like you're some whiny brat who expects everyone to be perfect and have everything go their way or else they get all depressed. If you really want to help yourself, stop with the self pity and actually do something. If you keep thinking in such a negative way, you'll never love life or be happy. If you don't like anyone, well then thats your problem because you cant change people. you'll either have to lower your standards a bit and become more tolerant of people, or just sit there and complain for the rest of your life. Do you have any hobbies? If you do, try joining some clubs or groups that involve whatever it is you like to do. And maybe girls dont like you because of the vibe youre giving off. Try to be a little more enthusiastic and then maybe people will talk to you and you can find someone that meets your standards. Sitting there and complaining will not solve or change anything. Trust me. And if you're going to, give me a 1 because I really dont care. Im sick of people sitting there and complaining when really its themselves that's the problem, not the world.
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Listen I won't say anything religious. I am 13/f. A few weeks ago my uncle killed himslef in the shed behind his house. I am not kidding, and he thought nobody cared about him and he was so depressed. Everyone was crying and really upset. Oh, and don't worry about sex until your married and then worry about it.You have to talk to other people and you have to care about them for them to care about you. Please please don't think about suicide or any of that. Think about positive thoughts okay. That would help you. Do anything but suicide. RUN OFF TO JAMAICA and join those people. Please message me back. Will you? I would like to help you. I care about you!
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15/f I had the same problem...I still do partially. They've put me through therepy and mental health ward. I really think we should e-mail eachother and help eachother out a little. They all don't take you seriously because we're young. They keep telling me I'm a normal teenager and all teenagers get mad at their parents and stuff. But I have anxiety attacks randomly in school and around people because I get to mad or depressed. I've tried commiting suicide. Any way, I think we should help eachother. E-mail me @ Kpp_baby91@yahoo.com
Hope all is well
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then live for yourself. if the others don't meet what you need. care about yourself first, them second.
Death will not make you stronger. it will please them, make them glad you are gone... or they will miss you, if only because they are good people with morals.
I'm nto going to lie to you. Odds are with this kind of thinking, all those things you predict, you will cause them. kinda a self-fulfillign prophecy.
Now you can die, and please them, or you can live, because you want to.
There is no point to a life for others only.
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Wow.
That's tough.
It really isn't fun being depressed.
But self-pity is the worst antidote.
The important thing to do is remain optimistic.
Don't get me wrong...I used to cut and when things got to a climax I met somebody who helped me incredibly.
Remeber that no one is perfect..even when you are best friends...lower your standards a little...not too much...and open up to the world and you will realize how amazing life is and love it just as much as I do now.
You never know who you might be hurting when you commit suicide.
XOXO
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Stop being so dependent on people as your happiness providers. Spend time doing things that you enjoy and once you've really gotten into whatever ya want to get into, find people who are passionate about the same thing, talk to them, be friendly and nice to them, and they'll most likely be happy to be your friends. People want to be friends with people who are happy, enjoy life and are interesting, and ya become interesting by living life rather than moping around feeling sorry for yourself because of all of the negative aspects of the world and your life, sure you can't really deny their existence, but remember, the glass is half empty AND half full, so why focus all of you energy on that lame empty side when you can party with the sweet wine of the full half? Believe me, i've been through having no friends, i was a loner through most of middle school and a lot of high school...in retrospect, i blame the whole of that past lonliness on unreasonably low self-confidence..., i realized it was unreasonably low when i started doing things instead of rolling around in self-pity and doubt, it created evidence i could see, disproving the negative image of myself i had conjured up in my head. You can be an interesting person that everyone wants to be friends with...look around yourself at school...none of the popular kinds are escentially very different from you...knowing that ya know you are totally capable of making and making out with the friends and lovers you desire...but remember, don't desire them too much...friends aren't ever going to match up to the idealized image of them you seem to have created in your head, and are longing for...life exists outside of friends, quit the dependency, they aren't as amazing as you think they are, and they definantly aren't a cure-all to your problems and wants. what is stopping you?, only youself...worrying about ,complaining and melodramatisizing your problems isn't going to get anyting done. the world is your oyster man, you are in control of your destiny! stop making excuses and be happy.
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Don't kill yourself every has someone even you even though it dont seem like it right now.
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Man..I'm here for you. I'd really like to talk to you about this in a conversation, because I don't think I could ever say everything I want in this little box. It tears me apart that you're going through this, because I've been through that point in my life. If you'd like, you can reach me at: www.myspace.com/ohshtmkt or on my aim - mktxyz yahoo - aradicalmessx (i dont get on that often on yahoo so leave me an offline message, or email me. i also have msn - a_californiagurl_manda@hotmail.com i don't get on that often either, so if you don't mind, and you'd like to talk, reply to this answer and we'll figure out a way to get in touch. i really hope you take this into consideration. love love love. -mkt
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You will get through this, and you will get to a better place. We all go through very dark times in our lives. Sometimes people appear happy all the time, but no one can be happy all the time. It sounds like you have had many disappointments with friends, and don't see the point of trying harder. Well, in a way, you are right. Trying harder to do something does not always produce the right result. It is like trying to force the wrong key into a lock. We end up with wasted effort and maybe breaking the key in the lock. What I am saying is that you need to focus your energy and attention where you can get the results you need. Friends are just humans with problems and shortcomings like us. They will always disappoint and that is where we have a choice. We can choose to end every relationship that does not meet our high standards, or we can choose to show a little mercy and forgive that person for being human...just like we are. A wonderful thing happens when we show others a little grace and mercy...we begin to show it to ourselves, too! We actually feel better about ourselves when we are kind to others. You cannot hate others without it harming yourself the most, and you cannot love others without loving yourself. You have very high expectations of yourself...too high! You are fine the way you are, you are human, you are young, you are learning, growing, changing, improving, taking steps to a healthy happy you. It does not happen all at once and no one else can or should do it for you. You alone have the power within to take the first step toward loving and accepting yourself. You do this, and the world will respond, the world will look and feel more beautiful to you. The choice to feel happy and loved is yours to make...it takes a little faith, but you only have to ask to receive blessings from the universe.
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Look, a lot of people know what your going through, maybe not to the extent to what you're at but they know what it's like. I hate almost everyone is my school but not because they don't meet my stands but because almost everyone is fake. Everyone is probably going to tell you to just try your hardest and stuff but it's not like that, i know because i have been told, oh so many times 'just try and be positive' 'it will get better in time' but when people say that, they don't mean it. There are plenty of people out there, just like you, in fact one of my friends is in fact a lot like you. No one can help you, nor give you much advice on it because this is something you have to work out youself. You have to figure out why you feel this way completely. Whether it is just to do with you, the people around you or your family. If it's the people around you, i suggest that, when you can, go away for a little while, but suicide isn't an option. I can imagine you go to bed thinking you never want to wake up and want to spend the rest of your time in your dreams, because maybe thats where your actually happy but really... imagine how the people around you would be affected. None of this or anyone elses advice is going to help you because this is something you need to figure out yourself but you do need to know that people are going through the same thing and want the exact same thing as you. I know this probably didn't do anything to help you but I wanted you to know.
- Emma Xo
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To put it simply - suicide is NOT the answer.
I'm stuck exactly where you are, but for some unknown reason I've learned to deal.
I'm not telling you to learn to deal with it, because it's harder than it sounds.
The VERY LEAST you can do is try.
Find someone, anyone, who sparks your interest.
ANYONE.
Just talk to that person once.
Don't worry about the future yet if you can't handle the here and now.
Find something that makes you happy and pursue it.
And if it helps any, you can always talk to me - I'm willing to be a friend to anyone who needs a friend.
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I've been exactly where you are. I used to be so scared to talk to guys, and I didn't feel comfortable in my skin. I had no friends, I hated like everyone because they had everything I didn't. They had the life I wanted. Everything for them was perfect, and my life was never gonna see perfection. Now, I don't believe in God, and I'm not gonna talk about him, just because I don't see him in a saviour way like everyone else does, and partly because you asked for us not to.
I've never been to therapy, but I have been to counseling at school. It sorta worked, but sorta didn't. I still hate just about everyone, and like you, no one meets me expectations or standards. Everyone to me is a disappointment.
What I think is bringing you down is your confidence. If you start liking yourself & you start telling yourself that you can do stuff, and you can get a girlfriend, and good grades & a great job, things will start to look up. I've always had low confidence, and what I'm telling you now is what someone told me when I was in your position. I actually did tell myself that I was pretty, thin & smart. And now I partly believe it. I'm still working on believing I'm thin.
All you need to do is just tell yourself that you're a great person. The reason why I think you have no friends is because you probably come off as bitter. Or maybe you rub off as a jerk, and it intimidates people & makes them not wanna be around you. But, if you start smiling & accepting people [that includes yourself], people will wanna be around you. And people probably do meet your standards, but you just think they don't because you don't give them a chance.
As for girls, this is the only thing I can say to you. Start off small. Say hi, or wave at them. If they give you a weird look or completely ignore you, then you know that those are the girls you should avoid. But if they wave back or say hi, just start a small conversation. Nothing big, just a "Hey, what's up" thing. And then when your confidence from this increases, compliment them, and talk to them more. Become their friend, and if you think things are starting to twist [like becoming more than friends] and you think they like you back, ask them out! :]
Give people a chance, give yourself a chance, & I'm positive things will start looking up. But please, don't end your life because you're capable of so much. Who knows, you could find the cure for cancer or AIDS. And that'd be amazing. I'm not sure if I helped, but I hope I did.
♥T!NA
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Post nothing about God, yet you want to find happiness. Rate me a one, doesnt matter to me, but you know, Ive been exactly where you are now. Now, if everyone who has ever thought life was too hard and just gave up, dont you think humanity would have stoped a while ago. Think about it, everyone gets to a point where like is too hard...Especially when you're a teenager. I almost made the same mistake that you want to do. Theres a quote out there something like "suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem." Think of the people who would be sad when you're gone, and dont give me that junk about "oh they dont love me." I dont even know you and I would feel it. Especially since Ive been there. Had I been so stupid and have done that, I wouldnt have had the chance to be married like I am, or have my own house, or have all teh great friends I have now, or my truck (I love to off road) or anything. Maybe God is the answer for you. Took me a long while to realize he is real. I used to be a death Metal, chains everywhere, didnt care about anyone, hating the world, tough guy rebel. Since I accepted God things just sort itself out, and everything started working together and now my life rocks. Instead of saying your depressed, but dont want God, maybe you should give it a try. I can help you through it. Just give it a try.
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Hey, I'd be happy to help you get through this 'cause I've been there too!!
E-mail me
LadyJade
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hey,
you can email me. ive been there.
deje.un.mensaje@gmail.com
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Hello there,
Ever wondered why you don't like other people? From the comment about "...especially if they're happy." it seems like jealousy.
Did something once happen to you that left you feeling like somebody got something that belonged to you? Perhaps you have never forgiven them for it?
Hard to say, really. Some of the things that screw us up the most happened before we were really conscious of what was going on around us. Naturally, that makes them very difficult to figure out and solve.
As for girls, well, you really do have a problem there. Girls, typically more so than boys, seek approval. With you openly hating them, well... you can see how that might be counterproductive.
Before you say: "But they don't know it!" ... let me tell you that they do.
You know how they say animals can sense fear? It is true, and people can sense much more complex issues than fear.
Have you considered that you were given a great gift, and instead of doing something productive with it, you have chosen to sit on your high-horse, so to speak, and look down on others?
Your intelligence is obviously above average. So what will you do with it? What you have been? Judging people against your own standards?
That is a sure road to a lonely place, and you found your way there already.
Now, as for your threat of a 1 for anyone actually answering your question with what makes them content... the first 1 you leave will be your last. We don't allow people to threaten people with ratings. For any reason. Ratings of 1 are reserved SOLELY for people who advise illegal activity and give advice harmful to the questioner. No exceptions.
This worked for me, and it will work for you:
Look outside yourself. Stop with the pity-party. That(lack of confidence) is one of the biggest turn-offs to the opposite sex.
What can you do to stop pitying yourself? Start actually doing something for others.
Smart guy, so why not tutor someone else in a subject which troubles them?
Offer to ASSIST someone with a project. Don't insist on credit. Give something without expecting a return.
So far I can anticipate your reaction, and I have a wildcard:
Go do volunteer work at a homeless shelter/mission/whatever they have where you are.
You will suddenly find that all the problems which you are so busy destroying your life over, are small problems which will fix themselves.
Your problems aren't worth freaking out over. There isn't a person alive who was gifted in the I.Q. department, that hasn't felt what you are claiming here.
You will eventually meet people who can trump you. That problem will self fix.
The girl problem will self fix, when you stop pitying yourself and start doing for others. Girls want a guy that will do for them... if you are so busy obsessing about yourself, what does that leave for them? If you don't think they can sense that... you are wrong.
Some people have secular things outside themselves which they focus on, in order to help others and actually DO something with their lives.
Some people, have a faith in God, and seek to help others, or find some way to serve others, in order to actually DO something with their lives.
It isn't up to you to decide what is working for others. In fact, at this point, you aren't really in a position to judge anyone about much of anything. ;-)
In fact, if you stop and look, you will find that 100% of the problems you listed here are caused by you appointing yourself a judge over others.
You stop doing that, find something worthwhile to DO, not talk about, and your life will fix itself.
I will leave you with this, which has been one of the greatest aids to my life:
"This is the true joy in life - being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; being a force of nature instead of a feverish selfish little clod of ailments and grievances."
--George Bernard Shaw
"...feverish selfish little clod of ailments and grievances." Sound familiar?
It did for me too, once upon a time. I hope this kicks your ass the way it did mine. You live by that, and you would be amazed where your life will go.
Sorry I can't molly-coddle you... but I know from experience that it will not help.
I wish you the best,
DN.
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Hey, I'm Sasha. I had a friend with your problem and they even tried suicide. I think that you shouldn't worry about being in a ceratin group or fitting in. I also know that that's just what teens try to do. I'm faced with the same problem of trying to fit in everyday. I'm sure that there's probably a lot of great things about you that you just aren't seeing. If it helps you can talk to me...as you probably figured out I'm a girl. I'd love to help you in any way that i can. If you have AIM and you want to talk, my screenname is iitsyagiirlSASHA. I hope your life gets better.
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