Q: I stumbled across this site by accident. I seriously doubt many of you have the qualifications to give real people proper advice. After reading some of your responses to people's inquiries i was quite astonished as to how teenagers find they are able to give quality advice and information to real people in need with such little life experience. If you ask me you are not in a place to give your "personal opinion" when people truly believe you are giving them the right answer simply because you claim "people think i give really good advice". (eg. i am still at a loss as to how a 17 year old girl thinks she can give advice to someone regarding conceiving a child) I know you try to come across as a "godsend" to poeple who are in some sort of personal crisis and need a fast easy answer but the truth is, in the cases where it really counts, there rarely is one; at least not from you.

Q: okay so i REALLY hate my haircut i got i used to have really long and SUPER cute hair and i got it cut off real short its up to my shoulders and i HATE it so much what are come things i can do you make it grow faster like what to hair how to put it up or daily basis thing or things to convience my mom for hair extentions

Q: EVERYTIME i like a guy, flirt with a guy, a guy flirts with me, i get a chance with someone......

MY bestfriend goes after him. EVERYTIME!

she's a lot more "easy" & "pushy" with guys than i am and she'll do things like hook up with the guy i have a crush on at a party when i'm not there.

I HAVE confronted her about it and we fought for about a month....i found new friends.....BUT she's my favorite person to be around! i ALWAYS have a blast with her and we both laugh at everything. The problem is she's NOT loyal. i told her that. and she apologized...i gave her a second chance....We made up and she promised she would work on it. A year has gone by and NOTHING has gone wrong!

except for now....for about a month we have liked the same guy. the ONE weekend i go out of town....she hooks up with him!

she calls me and tells me omg he's so cute. we're so cute together.....but the thing is....................i "can't" get mad because......no one had a "label" on him! for the past week they've been texting and hanging out and AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH it makes me SO ANGRY!

if they ever break up.....i can't "go after him" because it's my bestfriends ex!


SHE RUINED IT FOR ME......

i keep saying.....whocares just find another guy....but it's HARD when you've been liking one and flirting with one for a month to just to move on while you watch your FRIEND WITH HIM!

I LIKE HIM AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

and when i want to go out to lunch...i always call her and we go and laugh and have a blast......BUT I CAN'T BECAUSE
1)I'M SO PISSED AT HER
2)SHE'S ALWAYS WITH HIM NOW

so i go hangout with other friends....but they aren't the same


i'm STUCK

Q: my friend is being really distant right now. do you think it is just a stage (weve been friends most our lives) and we just need some time apart or is it something else. what should i do.

Q: [21:57] me: (yeah right) really?
[21:57] friend: YEAH
[21:57] friend: and stop with those () things
[21:57] me: you hate everything i type
[21:58] friend: cause u type so meanly
[21:58] me: hahahahaha

its funny...BUT whats so bad about this?

Q: How do i get over my first love, who i was with for 9 months? And he already likes someone new. And, everytime i get around or talk to another guy i just think about my ex. and i dont want to, i just want to be over him. i feel i'v cryed enough =[/. help!

Q: Iam thinking about building my own advice column and I was wondering what should I call it?

Q: ok this is getting me really really mad. Every1 says I really like a guy who i trust will all my heart and I think hes starting to believe it and its like getting me really upset. Like, I think of him as a really good friend and i tell him alot but i dont like him. I know your gonna say calm down but like its sooo annoying when every time i go to talk to him their like "oooh Mary" and im getting so annoyed and like i know he doesnt like me. So he used to hang around with us alot but not anymore and hes starting to ignore me and when i try to talk to him in private hes like anything you say you can say to any1 else around here. Im like "i can't" but then he gets mad at me. Its like im loosing a friend that I REALLY wanna keep....also like i dont react ill just say no i dont and thats it but he reacts and just like leaves as soon as they start. I was really mad at him day about it so i tried to avoid him and when he came over to us we talked and stuff and he said something mean so i kicked him hardish and he like kicked me lightly back and stuff so I playfully kicked him back then he like pushed me like not a quick push like the one were its like puhing ba ck so i pushed back so i wouldnt fall in tthe snow and he just like snapped and yelled Mary stop flirting with me already!

I love him sooo much as a friend but now everythings starting to fall apart. I admit I flirt with him but I can't help it...How can I get him back to his old self?

Q: Okay! So...There is ALOT here...Well, I was dating this Guy named Logan for over a year, and we kept fighting because this other guy, William, put the moves on me, and Logan thinks i've done things with William, infact he truely believes it, like without a doubt. But, I really haven't, and he won't believe me so one day I told him that I had done things with Will so that maybe Logan would get off my back alittle, but it just made things worse, and whenever I tried to take it back, he kept saying he got a confession, and I griped him out and said he wouldn't believe the truth, so I told him what he thought was the truth so that we could just move on, but he kept complaining about it, for over 7 MONTHS! And it killed me, because he truly didn't understand how much it hurt me or how much I really did care. And i'm afraid he'll never know, because he broke up with me just a few hours ago. And this makes him sound like the bad guy, but he really is not, basicaly I did do things with William, but not as far as Logan thinks. My mom used to tell me to hold Williams hand, or I couldn't call Logan. So I went without calling Logan for awhile, but he got mad about it, so I started holding Williams hand, and hoped that maybe I could keep that a secret, and I made it clear to William that I only did this so I could talk to Logan, and Logan naturaly got even more pissed, and suspected more happened, because my sister said I had.

And basicaly...It was just a GIANT mix up...But, he told me he doesn't feel the same anymore, but I don't know if he means it because he's said things like that before just to hurt me...Because he thought I cheated on him. But after that, some girl named Brittany started moving in on him, and I freaked out, and got angry at him. But I never told him to quit talking to her or anything.

And now i'm just so worried that I won't get him back, and I feel so empty. He was my whole life for over a year, and I CAN NOT bear to lose him! I really can't! It feels like if someone hit me with an 18 wheeler, all it would do is relieve alittle pain from the break up, and maybe get my mind off of him. And at this point, I would do ANYTHING to hate him. To dislike him so much that I would be glad he broke up with me. But I can't, and I don't know what to do...

I want him to be happy, but I won't be happy until I have him back. And I just want him to love me again....


I can't live without him.


(15/f)

Q: 13/f

Sometimes i dont understand myslef. i catch myslef falling in love with my friend "crush". she would totaly hate me if i were to like him. my friends say he likes me too and that made me so happy!! but when she found out she was fumed!!
i dont know wha to do-- DO i ask him out or do i keep y friendship??

plz PLZ plz HELP!!!!

**_BROOKE_**

Q: i was talking to a guy that i like heres the conversation

me:we should hang out that is if you arent already hangin out with some girl
him: i wish
him: sike
him: ill hang out with you
me: u wish? im sure you have plenty of girls
him:nahh not as many as you wuld think
me: well i dont see why you wouldnt have as many as i think
him:uhh
him: lol
signed off at 3:20 pm.. (he got kicked off)

do you think maybe i scared him by saying that or what do you think he meant by the uhh? THANKS

Q: Met a really cute guy. We went out couple times. He is smart, cute and nice to me. However, I felt that I'm not into him as much he's into me........I don't want to hurt his feeling if somehow he asks me "the question" one day, but I don't want to pull apart either. What should I do to keep just friend with him?

Q: I'm having a lot of trouble with my vide ipod! I've had it for about a year and since then I haven't had any huge issues with it, until now.

It's not a huge problem. It's more of an inconvenience than anything. But first of all, a lot of the podcasts that I've unsubscribed from and deleted off of my itunes list are still on my ipod and I can't figure out how to get them off. It's never a problem with my music (music I deleted off of my itunes playlist never appears on my ipod even after I've deleted it). How can I get it off my ipod?

And the second problem is, the artwork on a lot of my music is showing up on my ipod as weird pictures (like static on a tv or something) or artwork that doesn't belong to the cd and belongs to another cd on my ipod. I don't know how to set the artwork straight without deleting it all.

And lastly - is there any benefit in upgrading from the ipod I have now (which came out before last Christmas) and the new generation ipod they have out now? I'm happy with mine and I don't need more space for music but I've heard that this new video ipod is more efficient. If it's a good idea to upgrade, how much would it cost me? Would I be able to do a trade in for a cheaper price with the ipod I have now?

Thank you for your advice!

Q: Okay, there's Tim and Harry. Tim is really cold hearted, doesn't care about others that much, blah blah. In a cute way. Harry is overly sensative and over dramaatic most of the time. Well, they are both gay and they've been friends for a while and they're perfect for each other (in a friend way mind you)

Well, Harry told Tim something that he was apparently sad about and Tim thought it was funny how Harry was making a stupid incident so dramatic and laughed and told Jen who is a really good friend of Harrys. Then Harry goes and says "I can't believe you! You're laughing and telling everyone about a sad troy?!!" or something like that. SO basically Harry is mad at Tim and TIm doesn't care and thinks it's funny and now Harry is all not hyper and somber looking most of the time and he's ignoring Tim whom I am always with at school and so I don't get to wlak with Harry to classes sometimes now. The thing is Harry won't forgive Tim unless Tim says he's sorry which TIm isn't going to do anytime soon.

So how can I get them to be friends again?> How can I get Tim to say sorry to Harry? ( I already tired the--"But you're being so mean throwing away such a good friendship" and all that stuff and it didn't work on Tim)

Can anyone help me??? I'm stuck in the middle and it's a very awkward position for me..

Q: im rilly confused my mom hits me but its kind of my falt so it just dosnt seem like cild abuse to me but my best friend was over one day and saw what was going on he ses i need to tell but i rilly rilly dont want to . what should i do????

plz tell me what i should do
thanx
13/f

Q: Is there any way I can take my mind of Christmas being near ?

Q: Sorry if my question isn't exactly clear, but I'm in a hurry! I need to know if I can save my fish's life!

My sister bought an aquarium in March, and started buying her fish, etc. Her Black Mollies had babies, and she gave me four when they were medium sized, and I put them into their own tank. Two died awhile ago, and now I have two left. One was much larger than the other, and no matter how much I fed them, the larger one kept trying to attack the smaller one. I seperated them, and they seemed to be fine (I know it's a bad idea to keep fish alone, but that was my only option), but tonight the smaller one started acting up. It's swimming in circles, and I don't mean it's chasing it's tail - It's tumbling, doing 360s in the water, and faceplanting into the gravel. It's trying to burrow itself, and it lodged itself between the bubbler and the side of the tank, under a decorative rock about the size of a nickel. My sister told me a few days ago that a couple of her fish started doing this as well, but when she got home from work that night, the fish were still alive, and I haven't been able to ask her about it since. It took forever to dislodge it, and I figured at that point it was dead. But nope, it wasn't. I tried paddling in the water, to pull the current towards me, and the fish out, but he kept tryuing to get himself restuck. I figured he was trying to find a place to die, so I took him out and put him in a round bowl, with his bubbler, etc. I looked online to find what the problem could be, and I've found that it's most likely head trauma. Most websites said the spinning is either caused by very poor maintainance of the tank, or filtration, basic problems with the tank, etc. OR that the fish has experienced some kind of head trauma. Plants have never fallen on his head to my knowledge, nor has he jumped out of the tank, but I suppose it's possible that he ran into the side of the tank or something. Anyways, the tank is clean, the filter is working, pH is fine, whatever. So obviously, it is head trauma. I don't know what to do! I hate to see my fish suffering like this, but I'm not sure what else to do. I obviously can't kill him, and though I found some sites about humanely euthanizing fish, there are horror stories about people putting them in alcohol, and them taking minutes to die. Is there any hope for my fish, what should I do next?

Q: how do you get rid of love handless mine are driving me crazyyyy these days

Q: ok i've been working at my job for 2 months.

all the girls (four of them) and my boss are extremely nice.

we are going to go out to dinner around christmas time, and we're calling it a xmas party.

so am i supposed to get them something? i dont know them that well because i'm new and we see each other around two times a month.

so if i am supposed to get them something, what would be appropriate?



note: i dont know if theyre giving gifts



any ideas would be appreciated. oh ya dont say gift cards

Q: 16/m
I'm so sick of being alive. Everything is so hard. I can't stand it. It's like I'm doing something wrong. I have few friends, but it doesn't matter because I don't like them. I don't like any one. People don't meet my standards and they never will. And when it comes to girls I have no idea what I'm doing. It's like there's some secret technique that every one but me seems to understand. My problems with girls contribute the most to my loneliness and depression. I'm unmotivated in school, because I care more about trying to find a place I belong, trying to find some one who understands me. I can hardly sleep because I'm always worrying about all this. I'm scared I'll never have friends. I'm scared I'll never have a good job. I'm scared I'll never have my first kiss or have sex, and if I do it will be with some one I don't want to do it with. Somewhere between now and the next few years I 100% sure I'll be dead. I can't take it anymore. I've been to therapy and they even locked me up like a criminal in a mental health ward, but to no avail. I hate life. I hate myself. I hate every one, especially if they're happy. I don't see things ever getting better. Please help me. And don't post anything about God, Jesus, or religion of any kind, it will be an automatic 1 on your rating.

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