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Q: new r&b and hip hop no old songs pleasee

Ne-yo is becoming very big at the moment with his hit song because of you, but he has just released a new song, timberland and ying yang twings are also quite good.
hope i have helped in anyway

Q: What are some good 1940s big band songs? I like Duke Ellington, Glenn Miller...

Rosemary Clooney, Count Basie, and Artie Shaw were great artists of that time, i personaly think take a look! hope i helped a little bit.

Q: Did you ever stop and think why your are in love with the person you are crushing on. All of the sudden i just stop myself and thougt about, "why am i in love with her? why do i like her?" i am not love blind i know how annyoing and self fish and rude she can be to me but i still like the person, even thou i told her how i felt and she loves me as a friend. why am i still in love with this person. i think its just so hard to find out the true answer of love in this world and why it is important to all of us. it make us happy but then it can be hard to keep that love stronge. life is just odd...
FYI:i am a bi-sexual women.

ok...u can't just make love go away,try and turn that love you have for her into friendly love.Eventually love does fade, take your mind off her and go looking for others

Q: so yesterday [wednesday] my cousin & i went to the lake and tubed all day. now my neck, back, shoulders, and butt are sooo sore i can barely move. its ridiculous i didnt think id be this sore haha [yes i am a couch potato except for at work] and it doesnt show signs of feelin better anytime real soon. i cant buy anything & i dont have a heating pad but besides patience is there anything i can do to relax my muscles so i can move a little bit??

You muscles will be feeling strained, just relax them and have plenty of hot showers! just go easy for awhile if in a week it still hurts think about going to the doctor

Q: my parents have just got a divorce and life at home is very hard as dad is moving out, i love him so much and don't want him to go please help

i was 7 when my parents got divorced and i remember crying alot, i think if it happened to me now i would take it much harder, stay strong and organise with your mum when you can go and seehim and stuff, good luck!!

Q: What does it mean to get your hair thinned?
How do they do it?
And is it good for your hair?
Thanks.

Getting your hair thinned is when someone cuts yourfluffy light bits of hair underneath your top shiny hair so it makes it less thick and more light, it is good for your hair and can make it more healthy and better to grow.I have personal gotten my hair thinned and would do it again anytime.

Q: Well my mom's birthday is coming up and I don't know what to get her please help....Thanx

What does your like music? mothers love things made by there children! be creative make a collage or buy a mirror and cover the frame with pictures of her then say I LOVE YOU in big letters she will LOVE it

Q: Gahh....well my cat had kittens, then had kittens with her son(we are pretty sure). Bad, I know. We intended on getting the cat fixed right after we got her but alot of things came up and we coulnt afford it, then we hitt a rough patch money wise and still havent gotten her fixed....-sigh-

Well anyway, her kittens look okay.....except as of yesterday 2 of them died, one we dont know why and the other was just skin an bones....it was horrible. The remaining 3 are fine, except a little bit...I dont know 'cockeyed' and not completely straight eyed if that makes sense. They seem intelligent enough...they are also a bit small and I'm worried about them. They are around 5 weeks old. Other than the eyes they APPEAR normal.

Also the mother cat got an infection and couldnt feed her kittens(we didnt even know she HAD the kittens) we found the kittens in our basement a week ago crying because they were hungry(they had been fed before obviously, they seemed recently unfed)...like I said they are a little thin but seem okay...Im just worried about them. What are the risks of them not being okay because of their inbreeding and possibly early malnutrition? I'm really scared for them in light of the past deaths...=[

(please dont just tell me to get my cat fixed, trust me I know)

Take the mother and all the kittens to the vet!!!!If you can't afford to look after your cats you shouldn't have them, See if you can give the kittens to a good home just buy putting a ad in the paper don't put a price on them because they are inbreeded and will be disesed make sure they go to a good home,you can still keep the mother or a kitten BUT GET THEM FIXED!!!!!! it is cruel to the mother and her kittens, vets have a program for owners that can't afford to look after there pets they will do treatment for free.
Take good care of them they have a life to

Q: my dog got run over by a car. my mom is on a business trip. should i tell her before she comes home or should i just stage his death?

Honesty is the best policy it wasn't your fault that your dog got hit, so she can't get mad at you, Depending how close your mother was to the dog, answer yourself these questions Would she like to be at the buriel?, would she like to know exactly what happened? would she be mad at you for not telling her? answer those then you should have a pretty clear answer.
goodluck

Q: Ok,I have 2 animals.A kitten,and a dog.Here's the problem:THE DOG IS AFRAID OF THE CAT!!Here's more decripsion:
Dog: Male Pekingese will be 4yrs on Jan 1 pure Name:Andy
Kitten female Pursian will be 1yr on x-mas pure Name:Fluff
What do i do to help.We got Andy 4 $125.And Fluff was $200.I don't want to give up ethier.Plez help me help Andy get over his fear of Fluff!

Different animals are always scared of each other at first, i had a dog and a cat except the cat hated my dog but after a while they got used together and how you can't take them a part, give it time see what happens.

Q: how do i let a guy no that i like him? its kind of a complicated situation because theres another girl that likes him too. i want him to know but i dont want to be hurt if he doesnt like me back. should i tell his friend who im close to? or him directly?....in person or IM?

Flirt with him but don't over do it try talking to him, saying hi if you pass him in hallways if he talks back start trying to start convosations if he doesn't hes shy or isnt interested if he isnt don't be hang up about it just move on and find someone else he's not worth the hassle.
good luck!

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I am a 14 yr old girl you may think thats to young but i have been through alot of things including parent divorce,friend troubles and boy friend mayhem and i would love to help you too.