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my friend steals my guys
EVERYTIME i like a guy, flirt with a guy, a guy flirts with me, i get a chance with someone......
MY bestfriend goes after him. EVERYTIME!
she's a lot more "easy" & "pushy" with guys than i am and she'll do things like hook up with the guy i have a crush on at a party when i'm not there.
I HAVE confronted her about it and we fought for about a month....i found new friends.....BUT she's my favorite person to be around! i ALWAYS have a blast with her and we both laugh at everything. The problem is she's NOT loyal. i told her that. and she apologized...i gave her a second chance....We made up and she promised she would work on it. A year has gone by and NOTHING has gone wrong!
except for now....for about a month we have liked the same guy. the ONE weekend i go out of town....she hooks up with him!
she calls me and tells me omg he's so cute. we're so cute together.....but the thing is....................i "can't" get mad because......no one had a "label" on him! for the past week they've been texting and hanging out and AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH it makes me SO ANGRY!
if they ever break up.....i can't "go after him" because it's my bestfriends ex!
SHE RUINED IT FOR ME......
i keep saying.....whocares just find another guy....but it's HARD when you've been liking one and flirting with one for a month to just to move on while you watch your FRIEND WITH HIM!
I LIKE HIM AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!
and when i want to go out to lunch...i always call her and we go and laugh and have a blast......BUT I CAN'T BECAUSE
1)I'M SO PISSED AT HER
2)SHE'S ALWAYS WITH HIM NOW
so i go hangout with other friends....but they aren't the same
i'm STUCK
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Well, you guys never had labels before. Think of why she might be doing it. if you say you guys laugh at everything and stuff, that means you two are alike. Therefore, the guys you like might be the same guys she likes. Since she's on equal fotting with you, it's only her right that she can move in on them before you. No guy has a label until he's activly with a girl.
Let's change the point of view. Let's take her POV. She sees you are too shy. She thinks that you might not go for him, so she takes the charge.
Or, it might actually be you. if you are not easy going, and the guys always hook up with her, do you think that maybe she has a quality that guys find more attractive? Don't try to be like her though...that would be pointless. Find a way to...bring out your better assets (personality wise) and make them noticeable. Guys usually appreciate girls who are more forward and yuor friend might actually outshine you in that.
Never fear, you have qualities that outshine hers. Find them and guys will want to hook up with you.
-Zeph
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you need to evaluate your meaning or your defenition of a friend because from the sound of it shes all about herself and doesent truly have your best intrested at heart. um with friends like those who needs enemies.um as the old folks say you need to feed her with a long handel spoon if you must keep her in your life demote her as a friend , and classify her as an associate . and stop telling her all of your bizz from your friend lexus and if you need more help and you dont understand my e- amil adress is ttniebrownie@yahoo.com. so understand what i am saying i know that your tired of talking and if she cant deal wit being your associate then you need to let her go and find a new best friend that share the sme interests as you do so dont let her keep letting her walk all over you like a doormat from your friend that feels your pain lexusm is on the job okay bye
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she might be your favorite person but she isnt much of a freind so what i would is drift away very slowly you know i would normally say talk to her but you been there done that you know she is no friend because no friend true friend chooses guys over them and well you already know that shes not a friend you can trust and without trust than you really dont have a freind or a friendship so just try to drift away real slow good luck hope i helped
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It seems like this girl is not a true friend. In my opinion, if you don't have loyalty, you don't have anything. Although she has apologized and seemed to change for a while, it is obvious that she's still the same person. If she knew how much you liked this guy then she would/should have talked to you about it before going out with him. Even though you didn't have a "label" on him, she knew how you felt. Also, if she liked him, she didn't have to wait till you went out of town to be with him, she could have made that apparent while you were still there. Also, it seems as if she is throwing it in your face that she "got" him. My advice, find real friends.
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okay, well for one shes not a true friend if she knew that you liked him and was tlaking to him so pretty much just dont fight with her but try not talking to her and maybe she will realize that you are really pissed at her for doing that to you.Because real friends dont do things like that. well, i dope that i helped and i hope you feel better. Try not to let it bother you, or at least not let it show as much. because trust me, i understand. it will help.
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Find guys outside school that she doesn't know, and dont tell her about them, just txt and chat to them and when he asks you out or something, then tell her so there is not a big chance she can take him.
love emily
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