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I'm not sure......
Okay so theres this boy and he is real nice and all and I've been crushing on him forever and my friend was planning to tell him and if he finds out he will like me thats what always happens so I'm not sure if I should go through with this because he would give me is sweater and buy me candy and sit by me but the problem is that I'm shy I mean real shy and I know if we were together I shouldn't be so shy but I don't think thats me. What do I do?
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chances are if knows you well enough he already knowsz that you are a shy person, if he likes you the way you like him he will work with you and your shynes although i cannot speak from you point of view because i am not shy at all i can say i know how it feels to be nervouse around the guy you are going out with and trust me after a while both of you will adjust
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Okay, here's the thing, If you don't want to go through with it than don't unless you really want to. It is your decision, not your friends. If you want to go out with him, than don't, if you do, ask him out yourself. If you really like him, you'll find it within yourself to ask him out, slowly build confidence. But, as soon as he finds a girl that like him, and he goes out with them makes him look kind of desperate. I hate desperate guys, they hate half the girls they date, but do nice things for them, and yet, they hate them. But, I guess you know more about him than me!
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tell him that your really shy and try not to be so shy you know try starting small talk you know or hint to him that he should start the convo or what ever you know take small steps hope i helped
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Would it help if you told him you were shy? I know that probably sounds hard, but it would be a big relief, I bet.
Being with him, because you like him and it sounds like you really care about him, might even help you get over some of your shyness. I'm sure it won't make it go away entirely (unfortunately, I know!), but he might give you some new confidence.
Take a chance, if you can bring yourself to do it. Take it a moment at a time and tell yourself that you're doing just fine and you're accepted and okay.
It probably sounds like a load of crock, but it's how I've started to get past my social awkwardness--a slightly different problem, but similar enough. Push yourself just beyond your comfort zone, not to far, and not for too long. It doesn't even have to be with him. Start by smiling at someone you don't know. Once you master that, if you see someone you know, but not well, ask them how they're doing. Offer answers in class.
Don't rush yourself. You can do it.
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