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im rilly confused my mom hits me but its kind of my falt so it just dosnt seem like cild abuse to me but my best friend was over one day and saw what was going on he ses i need to tell but i rilly rilly dont want to . what should i do????
plz tell me what i should do
thanx
13/f
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okay well all the advice i have for you is that if you are being hurt by your mother for all the time over little things then you need to tell somebody
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wow .. sounds like things are pretty tuff huh ?
well even if you [ say ] its your fault , doesnt mean she has to hit you ... no one deserves to be hit no matter what they do to make them mad .. if i were you id sit my mom down & tell how bad emotionally & physically shhe hurts you when she does that & i hope for the best <3
stay strong
love: CheerBabyyy
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Alright. Even if you feel it's your fault, chances are that it's not yours. You Mom might have a lot of stress and little things that all kids do might be causing her to get more angry with you. You might want to tell someone at school like the Guidance or something and I bet that if you go there they end up not telling the cops if they end up helping you and your Mom. If your freinds thinks that It's not your fault she might be mad at her for hitting her friend, but it might not be you. Try and figure out if she is having a lot of stress and you can probably figure it out. For now on just try and be extra nice to her and do nice things for her as often as you can. Hope I helped. :]
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You are gonna get alot of different opinions on this.
But, this is mine. & if your mom is anything like my mom, then there is no need to call 'child abuse' You know when your little, your mom will spank you or something? Its basically the same thing, if you do something bad, you get hit & sent to your room. Your mom only did it, because she was punishing you. There was a reason for it. The people that tell you oh yeahh call child abuse or something, I personally think are wrong. I don't think they realize how big of a deal that is. That could get your mom into alot of trouble. & really for no good reason. don't do it.. you'll regret it. Inless your mom actually starts starving you & hitting you or if shes an alcoholic.. then call child abuse, if not... DON'T.
Every parent raises their kids differently. Think how loving your mom is to you, when shes not mad at you & how she trys to get you things you want for christmas [or whatever you celebrate.]
Don't call or anything, seriouslyyy. Listen to me on this one, it'd be a HUGE mistake. Parents get mad, & parents make mistakes. There humans. When you beat up your brother or sister, you don't see them calling like the police or whatever on you. [Even if you dont have a brother or sister, you get what I mean.]
Maybe just talk to your mom about it, like.. why do we use violence, when we get mad at eachhother or something? You know.. just talk to her about it.
The only way I'd call child abuse, is if your mom has some mental problem & she does this when you don't even do anything at all. Or if your mom has a problem with alcohol.. & it doesn't count if she gets drunk like once. It has to be repeatedly. Do you have a dad? Can you talk to him?
I hope I helped.
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Your friend is right. There is no good reason in the world for a parent to hit their child like that. You grew up in that environment so its all that you know. It is abuse and it's not your fault at all. You may not want to tell, but I'm sure you don't want your mom hitting you either. It needs to stop! I think that what you should do is talk to someone at your school about it. Bring your friend with you for support. She is probably very concerned about you and confused as to what she should do to help. If you are too afraid to do this yet, call a hotline first. They can help you understand what is happening to you and they should be a huge help in deciding what to do.
Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233)
Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-548-2722
Domestic Violence Hotline in the US
800-799-7233
Domestic Violence Hotline/Child Abuse
800-4-A-CHILD (800 422 4453)
National Resource Center on Domestic Violence
1-800-537-2238
Take your pick. I will be praying for you. :)
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Parents have different ways of disipline its not starnge that your mother hits you but its not right either, try telling her about your friend and maybe she will stop if not consult to an adult friend of hers to talk to her.
Hope i helped,Goodluck
Love Emily
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It's never your fault if a parent hits you. It's their actions and not yours. They could've given you a stern lecture or gorunded you for life but hitting is never okay. This is child abuse.
This is going to be really hard to do but as your firend said, you need to inform someone of this matter because this can soon escalate to a higher level of violence.
You can go to safeyouth.org (I believe) and talk to someone that works on that site on there and discuss about this. I really suggest you do because it's annonymous with professional help and I don't want you to make rash decisions or something that would be bad..
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