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Kinda long/ Lost without him
Okay! So...There is ALOT here...Well, I was dating this Guy named Logan for over a year, and we kept fighting because this other guy, William, put the moves on me, and Logan thinks i've done things with William, infact he truely believes it, like without a doubt. But, I really haven't, and he won't believe me so one day I told him that I had done things with Will so that maybe Logan would get off my back alittle, but it just made things worse, and whenever I tried to take it back, he kept saying he got a confession, and I griped him out and said he wouldn't believe the truth, so I told him what he thought was the truth so that we could just move on, but he kept complaining about it, for over 7 MONTHS! And it killed me, because he truly didn't understand how much it hurt me or how much I really did care. And i'm afraid he'll never know, because he broke up with me just a few hours ago. And this makes him sound like the bad guy, but he really is not, basicaly I did do things with William, but not as far as Logan thinks. My mom used to tell me to hold Williams hand, or I couldn't call Logan. So I went without calling Logan for awhile, but he got mad about it, so I started holding Williams hand, and hoped that maybe I could keep that a secret, and I made it clear to William that I only did this so I could talk to Logan, and Logan naturaly got even more pissed, and suspected more happened, because my sister said I had.
And basicaly...It was just a GIANT mix up...But, he told me he doesn't feel the same anymore, but I don't know if he means it because he's said things like that before just to hurt me...Because he thought I cheated on him. But after that, some girl named Brittany started moving in on him, and I freaked out, and got angry at him. But I never told him to quit talking to her or anything.
And now i'm just so worried that I won't get him back, and I feel so empty. He was my whole life for over a year, and I CAN NOT bear to lose him! I really can't! It feels like if someone hit me with an 18 wheeler, all it would do is relieve alittle pain from the break up, and maybe get my mind off of him. And at this point, I would do ANYTHING to hate him. To dislike him so much that I would be glad he broke up with me. But I can't, and I don't know what to do...
I want him to be happy, but I won't be happy until I have him back. And I just want him to love me again....
I can't live without him.
(15/f)
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i went through the same situation as you pretty muchh. some guys just wont believe you but what you really need to do is try to move on in a life. there are many other guys out there.
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The best thing for you to do is move on there are far more guys out there!! And wow that was a mix up even if you did get back together with Logan their would always be that past that would make things not right, stand up for yourself!!
Goodluck, Love Emily
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Don't make yourself hate him. You're lowering yourself to his level. Maybe, I know this might hurt to contemplate, but he made it so you guys would break up? ALot of guys don't have the guts to do it face to face so they do something or say something that will force the girl to take charge and do something so they would break up.
That may not be the case however.
Your boyfriend may have been suffering incredible self esteem issues. Why would he convince himself that you were cheating? Maybe because he though that he wasn't good enough and that you wanted/needing someone better.
It's a way of self denial that you were with him because he was the person you chose. People like him also affect your self esteem, so until you are sure that he is the love of your life, stay away. His neediness for your love and your constant reassurance that he's the only one make you feel good. Make you feel like you're needed. And losing that feeling isn't the best thing.
Focus on something else you enjoy in your life. When you said he was your whole life for a year, be careful, that might border on obsession. Find a small hobby or activity you enjoy but cry as often as you like about him. Keeping hate, sadness or anger in is not good.
If you would like something more...or a better explanation, email me as Harmonic_dissonance@hotmail.com)
The best of luck to you!
-Zeph
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WOAH, honey, you're only 15...CHILL.
As you know, relationships don't work out very well unless there is trust and your ex doesn't seem to trust you at all so forget about him. If you really want to go through all those accustions, mistrust, and complaining, be my guest but I wouldn't bet on it. One thing is that he won't trust you and another thing is that you'll just get mad over that and he'll be mad at you for being mad at him which becomes this whole jumbled up mess that will lead to a break up..again
Just write him an eloquent letter type thing. Clarify that you never did anything with Will and explain all those misunderstanding in details. Say that you were really hurt because the someone you deeply cared about didn't believe you. Tell him that maybe it was your fault that this whole thing started but you are sorry for whatever you did that offended/angered him. Blah blah. End with a "I don't want us to end in a bitter fight and I want to remain friends with you" or something like that.
Read over it...make sure you didn't say things that popped into your head because you were mad blah blah and hand it to him.
But seriously, if this guy can't trust you, you two arn't gonna work out so give up and move onto other guys..
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