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Alot of people say i give great advice, but i cant help myself on this one. a while ago i went to the emergency room for a broken ankle, and now my mom has to pay $1000 for that. There are too many bills and our crappy insurence just went up. so with all this preasure, my mom is realy stressed out and depressed, wich makes me realy stressed and depressed. plus i have alot to worry about at school, i get good grades so i have alot of responsibilitys. Chess team, M.E.S.A. [math thing], honors english, giand science/technoligy project, writeing projects, and tring to maintain my 3.9 g.p.a and college reading level. im 14 and in 8th grade!!!!! I need help, i want to help my mom out but im too young to get a job, i cant babysit cuz i dont have neibors with kids, and im way to stressed, please help
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Honestly dear, the very best thing you can do is try to calm down and support your mother. The stress over money is something you can't help her with. You have to focus on school. So insteed of worrying about money, which you can't do anything about. Try and find little things you can do.
Help your mom out around the house so she doesn't have to deal with that stress. Bring her a cupcake or some other small treat she'll love. Hug her and make sure she knows you love her and are grateful for everything she does. Forgive her if she snappy or forgetful.
Stop worrying so much about school. I know how much pressure there can be, but now that I am four years out of highschool I tell you what: my 4.0 GPA was not worth what I went through to get it and I could have easily gotten into my university of choice with a 3.3. It's not the end of the world to decide that a project doesn't get done prefectly. It's human, and sometimes it's even smart. Cut yourself some slack.
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Woah. First of all don't think about all those activities at once. RIGHT NOW make a December calender and write down what's what on what days and the times and whats due in what classes on what days and you'll prioritize which will make your life a lot easier.
Since you're too young to be earning any money, all you can do for your mom right now is give her peace and quiet, try and do as much as you can for things she ask (like taking out the garbage) help her around the house and maintain your good grades and help her when she needs it (like chores) and give her silence when she needs it. Try not to go and say "Oh my goshness I want those!" or something like that. Lay off the whole going shopping/eating out/going to moives and whatever. Try to limit on the frequency of when your friends come over/you go over to their house
Try to make life easier on your mom's life for now
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i say try to stay out of the activities you dont need to be in. most of the things only matter in high school so just give you self some slack for a while. let things calm down, try to talk to you mom..work it out. some mom's arent open but they are always capable of being. this sounds lame but make your mom your best friend, go out and do stuff with her and most importantly, talk to her. in 8th grade, gpa doesnt matter...it might in 9th but for now, dont worry about it. chess team and m.e.s.a dont sound necessary right now. chick-fil-a takes 14 year olds! if your friends babysit, tell them about how ur are trying to help your mom and maybe they can recommend you to the people they babysit for a while. hope i helped, good luck!
~~jenna
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