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soooo i know this sounds really strange but i need a way to lose my voice. i have a big part in a play where my voice needs to sound like that. dont ask why haha it just does. sooo how can i make myself lose my voice?
Go to a concert or something and scream and sing a ton. It works
im 14 almost 15 im a guy im gay and i really have strong feeling for a guy hes also 14 were good friends and the last few months weve been hanging out a lot more and im a bit nervous to say anything not sure how he will react i havent come out to anyone im worried what people might think even my parnets im worried how to talk them im not sure how to go about it i like him a lot do i tell him how i feel?
Well unless you are sure that he is also gay, I wouldn't say anything because it could end your friendship and in middle school, kids go crazy about that. It's terrible how much gay people get made fun of in middle school. But once you get to high school, you see gay guys and lesbians holding hands and making out everywhere. It's totally normal. So I would wait but you will have to tell your parents sooner or later and they love you so it will probably be hard on them at first but they will accept it :). So start with just telling your parents for now and building up a good friendship/relationship with that guy. Take things slow, no rush!
-Jenna
there is this song that i really liked in twilight but i don't remember the lyrics to google it
it was during the part when there was all these flashbacks when edward was sucking the vemon out of bella
does anyone know what song i'm talking about?
thanks :D
anddddd the best movie ever by the way. i've seen it three times
It's Let Me Sign by Robert Pattinson. Ah I love it but I think it's only on youtube
when we first started dating my ex gave me a little heart necklace with our names on it. we broke up about a week ago but ill be seeing him today. should i give him it back? do guys take it as an insult? like a side of me wants to keep it to remember my first love but then the other side of me wants to get over him as soon as possible...what should i do?
Me and my first love just broke up last week and I returned EVERYTHING in a box. I just needed to make it all official and it would also help me get over it and him quicker and it just made me feel a lot better. It's whatever you want to do. Whether you treasure yall's relationship and want to keep a part of it, I just wouldn't wear, but keeping it is fine :D. It's whatever your take is on yall's relationship.
-Jenna
Hi! I was wondering if anyone could suggest some marimba solos for me. I am a sophmore in high school. I am at an intermediate/advance level. The solo needs to be 4 mallet. I also have access to a 5 octive marimba, so that would be the best. Something like pachelbel's canon would be challenging for me, but I would be able to play it.
Anything is helpful!
Thanks!
Rain Dance is really fun! Yellow in the Rain might be a little too easy. I don't know about Rain Dance, I'm not sure what your level is but youtube it if you haven't heard about it :P.
-Jenna
I feel really bad because my boyfriend is planning to buy me something I've wanted for a long time and it's rather expensive.
Since I can't get a job, I don't have enough money to get him something really nice. I do art commissions and all I have is $20 but right now.. He has it so I don't spend it on anything.
I've been working on a drawing for over a month. But I want to make something else that tells him how much he means to me. What kind of handmade things would you want to receive? Any ideas?
I know he'll love whatever I make but I want to make him something really amazing.
If this helps,
He likes to paint & sculpt, play the piano & guitar and he likes photography.
For me and my boyfriend's one year, we didn't want to actually spend money on a gift, we handmade eachother stuff. He got some tshirts and shorts and ironed on picture of us and writing. That's always cute :). And I made a big scrapbook of 365 reasons why I loved him, inside jokes, memories, and pictures and then I wrote a couple paragraphs at the end. You could get him some guitar accessories if he doesn't already have them like a capo or some more picks or a book of chords and/or songs from his favorite band or something. Or if you know music, you could write a piano song or a guitar song along with lyrics. He'd love that no matter how good you were at piano/guitar. Or if he's taken any pictures of you two together, you could get that printed out and framed :D. Or you could get a professional to go take pictures of yall. Or make a collage of pictures of yall or a montage. There are so many things you could do, your boyfriend sounds a lot easier to buy things for than mine was! Good luck and just be creative and have fun with it :). He will love it no matter what if you put time and effort into it and it's from the heart.
-Jenna
16yr old guy ive been with my gf for almost 6 months she's my first gf were getting close she wants to start doing more im a bit nervous my penis is not real big im a bit worried about her seeing me naked do girls care much about penis size?
Honestly, guys are the only people who care about penis size. I mean, I have heard once girls have had sex with a couple guys, they really look for big dicks because it's more pleasure but if yall are as close as you said yall were, it won't be a big deal at all. Don't be self conscious about it. My boyfriend was and it drove me nuts because it wasn't a big deal to me :P. So just don't worry about it :). 99% of girls won't care. But if you honestly aren't comfortable with it yet, just say you're not ready. Don't feel pressured. Just because yall have been together for 6 months and yall are close doesn't mean yall have to be doing stuff :P. It changes your relationship, sometimes for the good, sometimes for the bad. Just don't sweat it :). Good luck!
-Jenna
I know people are like supposed to wait until they personally think they are ready for sex and stuff... but here is my question.
So my boyfriend and i have been going out almost a year now. He is really special to me and feels like THE one for me... like he has helped me get through some hard times and I can't imagine my life without him. Personally, i know I am not ready for sex. Like, i know I could not live with any of the things that could happen (eg. pregnancy), and he is ok with that decision too. Of course, we would both LIKE to do all that kind of stuff... I mean it's not like we think it's that bad, we just worry alot about regretting making that decision due to things that could happen. It seems like, though, that sex at this age (17-18) is kind of expected, especially for the people that have the kind of really deep relationship that we have. I guess my question is, should we take the risk of the things we worry about and go to the next level to make our relationship even more special, or do you think that starting this kind of stuff so young will only pull us apart?
I know it is supposed to be a personal choice based on maturity, etc... but i just wanna know what you think.
thanks
I may be wrong but I felt the same way about my boyfriend, and then things went a totally new direction and we're not together at the moment. I couldn't imagine myself without him either...and it's still hard to grasp. Don't let yourself depend on him to much is the advice I would give to you, because you may not realize it, but he could be gone just like that. Believe me, I wish I could go back in time and tell myself that.
But to answer your question, it depends on your belief and morals on opinion on sex. You're not SUPPOSED to wait until marriage, it's just how most people think. And it is smart. Because, again, you may THINK you will be with him forever, but you never know. Me and my boyfriend never had sex but now that we're not together, I regret the other sexual things we did. If you don't strongly believe in the "Christian" and "smart" ways by waiting until marriage, then go for it :). Only if yall are both okay with it and it would be very smart to talk about it and make sure it's something you really want to do. And be safe :D. Things like sex can pull people apart though, because they start thinking the only type of love is sex, if that makes sense. They think they're still in love BECAUSE of the sex and are addicted to it.
Hope my opinion helped! And good luck on your decision and best to you and your boyfriend :D.
-Jenna
I'm fourteen, my girlfriend fifteen. We've been together for 1 year.
I love her lots and lots and I want to be with her. She wants to get engaged now, however I'd like to wait longer. I want to get engaged to her, but just not yet, maybe in a year or two's time. School will come first, i'm doing my GCSEs at the moment and I intend to go on an do 4 A levels.
Am I right to be thinking this?
I would definately wait. Me and my boyfriend (ish) were like that one our first year. But second year and so on...more problems. Things change a lot no matter what you see in your future. I never knew me and my boyfriend would break up and be like this after we were incredibly in love. Still kind of are...but we have become very toxic too eachother and can't get along anymore. You need to consider this. I HATE when people say you are too young to be in love, because that's just a load of bull shit. I'm not saying you're too young, you're just too young in your relationship and still have high school to go through. And not to bring you down or anything but me and my boyfriend were PERFECT until high school hit. Just something to think about...hope I helped.
-Jenna
We're no strangers to loooove, you know the rules, and so do I! a full commitments what I'm thinkin' offff you wouldn't get this from, any other guy! Iiiiii just wanna tell you how i'm feeeling, gotta make you, understaaaand, never gonna give you up, never gonna let you doooown, never gonna run around and, desert you, never gonna make you cry, never gonna saayy goodbye never gonna tell a lie, and hurt you!
We've known each other, for so long, your heart's been aching but, your too shy to say it, inside we both know whats been, going on, we know the game and we're gonna play it. aaaaaand if you ask me what i'm feeling, don't tell me your too, blind to seeeeee. Never gonna give you up, never gonna let you dooowwwnnn, never gonna run around and, desert you. never gonna make you cry, never gonna say goodbyeeee, never gonna tell a lie and, hurt you.
LULZ - James Lindsay
Ahhhh! I MISS YOU
Hi im a guy and ill be 15 in a couple of weeks
im gay and im in love with my boyfriend weve been together for just over 3 months we were great together im a bit nervous to tell him is it too soon i dont want to push him away i think he feels the same so should i come out and tell him?
It may be too soon. I have no idea to tell because I don't know how serious yall are but 3 months probably is too soon. Maybe tell him on your 6 month anniversary or wait until you know he feels the same. Make sure he isn't a person who believes 15 is too young for someone to fall in love, also.
Good luck and hope I helped and I wish the best for yall :D
-Jenna
Ok well im a freshman and i had a "thing"(like we almost went out) with this junior, we really liked each other, a couple of months ago, but things didnt work out i guess. But then we still kinda had feelings for each other, well he did, and like a month later he asked me out on a date, but the thing was, I figured out that he smoked and never told me about it (and he still doesnt know I know) and I dont go out with guys how do that stuff. So i said no, which was really hard because I still liked him. And then things were never the same between us. But now, im started to have feelings for him again:/ But the thing is, im pretty sure he doesnt have feelings for me; he hardly talks to me& he barely texts me anymore. But my friend is like oh he does have feeling for you, hes just afraid of showing it. I doubt that. But it seems like hes going through a lot and thats why he turned to smoking, and i kinda want to like help him through it because it doesnt seem like anyone else is trying to. And i know he is a really good kid deep down, he even goes to church. But we arent very close anymore, so how would I go about doing that?
Oh and hes been flirting with one of my good friends now, and he doesnt know that me and my friend are friends. And shes the one that informs me of this smoking thing.
Just start talking to him again! Try to rekindle. And let him know that you're there for him no matter what. He probably needs someone like that. Try just plain talking to him or try to get him to talk about what he's going through. Everyone needs that one person. And you being his "person" will most likely rekindle what yall had a long time ago. Tell him the truth and why you said no to his date, he has probably given up because you gave off the vibe that you didn't have feeling for him anymore.
Hope I helped!
-Jenna
hey i heard you and matt broke up. is it true?!
Yes, it is true
i was in the tanning bed and i heard some song come on the radio it was talking about something about something is cold something weird lol it didnt sound like hip hop but lil wayne was featured in it he said something about welcome to waynes world or something help!? it was on the hits channel called b95 in chicago illinois
Damn I'm Cold by Bun B?
my face gets pretty tight and dry after i take a shower or wash my make-up off at night, so i put lotion on afterwards. i'm currently using Cetaphil moisturizer and it does a good job of keeping my face from drying out. BUT i've had acne for about 5-6 years and although its a lot better than it used to be i still break out sometimes and i have scars left over from before. i've heard that aloe is a natural skin soother, and since i dont have access to aloe PLANTS i was hoping to find a good moisturizer with aloe in it, preferably one by Cetaphil if i could find it. does anyone know of/have experience with an aloe moisturizer they could recommend to me? something i could just buy at a drugstore please &thanks!
Are you talking about your face or your body or just your skin overall? Pure vitamin E lotion or butter beats everything. I haven't used anything better, I get really dry legs and they're super soft and it's great to use after you shave your legs or whatever you shave to prevent razor burn :). As your face, you have to be pretty careful with that because a lot of stuff can make you break out. Vitamin E was recommended to my mom by her doctor after her arm surgery to heal her insision (sp?). So it is really good with making scars go away and stuff so maybe just put vitamin E on where your scars are but not ALL over. Hope I helped!
-Jenna
http://www.sallybeauty.com/Triple-Barrel-Waver/SBS-234010,default,pd.html
has annnyyone tried these? I wouldlike to try them out but im not sure if they are anyyy good!
help me out please..
Yeah they work really well :). It's a waver though, not a curler. I use it on my hair and it gives you a cool look and it isn't ridiculous looking like a crimper :P. Just don't hold it on your hair too long.
--Jenna
I'm planning on redoing my hair this week and have a couple of questions.
It's naturally really thick and wavy and because it's just so difficult to deal with, I'm cutting it to about shoulder length and getting layers.
I'm going to ask to get it thinned, but I was wondering if there are any cheap ways of thinning it (thinning sissors, products) that are work and I could do at home? I already straighten my hair to get it to be less thick/poofy.
I'm also planning on dying it to a dark brown color (my hair is normally brown-light brown depending on the season) I use garnier nuttrisse permanent hair color and the color seems to fade from my hair within a month. I accidently dyed it almost black in September and the color luckily faded but it began to fade out so much that my previous really light hair color showed through. Is it just the brand or should I be coloring my hair with two boxes of color because of how thick my hair is? Thanks :)
Hmmm I'm not sure about the hair dye, just try different hair dyes and ration it until you get it fully distributed and then go put more on. But thinning, I'm not sure if this is good for your hair but if you have your hair straightened one day, get a old, dull razor you have and just run in from a little above your ear and down to the end. This thins it out pretty well. Hope I helped!
--Jenna
Hurt my butt haha, would it still work if i did it on a bed?
Ah! They make my back burn, I must be doing them wrong. But it works really well if you sit on the edge of your bed, with your legs on the bed so backwards I guess and you and extend farther than a 180 degree angle
what is a good age for me to have sex and not be to young but not be too old?
It is whatever your take is on it. If you go by the bible, then it's in your 20-30's when you get married. But if not, most people do it in college. Anddd I don't think there is ever a time to be too old to have sex unless you have terrible arthiritis and can't move because your really old :P. Hope I helped
--Jenna
18/f.
i think it's time for a change :)
so i've never really done anything with a guy before besides the making out, getting felt up, gotten a hickey you know that kind of stuff, never had an actual boyfriend but i really like this guy. have for three years now. i know he wants to do something with me, he's always tried to get down my pants,and things like that but i've always been to scared so i push him away like i don't want him to! i do want to, he makes me horny but i'm nervous. i know i'm not ready for sex, i've told him that but getting fingered doesn't really bother me. i was just wondering if i'm the only one who feels like this. did any of you feel like he would think your vagina was smelly, or your "lips" were different sizes, your vagina was not smooth enough, that you were too wet? i always overthink everything, and i know it would probably feel good but i'm scared that my vagina is so abnormal. and i have to wear a pantyliner because i usually have a lot of discharge, so i have taken that off before i've seen him (just in case) and he would always touch me and i would get really wet, and my underwear would be like soaked and i was worried he could like feel it through my jeans and so i'm worried if he did finger me he would be like wow, thats disgusting. just little things like that worries me. and i mean, i know alot of people who do it with their pants on, wouldn't that be sort of an awkward position? just any information, experiences, anything that could help me would be very much appreciated. please don't tell me to make sure it's with a boy i'm in love with, make sure i'm ready because i know i am but it is my first time getting fingered so obviously i'm going to be worried about it. my cousin who is 17 just told me tonight he fingered this girl (she is not a slut) and he told me that it was her first time and she was scared but she still did it. i don't understand how people just do it and don't always have doubts. i feel like if i just do it the first time, i will be okay after that. it's just taking the first step. well anything else that could turn him on would also help, just any tips that could help me with the "turning him on" and making him really want me will be great. thank you so much!
Don't worry about your vagina. Guys know they are all different. I don't think guys will really judge it...they like vaginas no matter what, haha. And getting wet is a big turn on for guys, and it makes them feel like whatever they're doing, it's turning you on big time ;). And there is always your first time for everything and yeah, you'll be nervous but there is no reason to fret about it because it doesn't hurt or anything. It's just like your first kiss, you get really nervous about it but then you get more comfortable with it and it's no big deal after that. It turns up the intensity between yall too. As of your underwear getting really wet, if you're annoyed by it, I don't know what you could do about that since you take off the pantiliner before seeing him. Hmm turning HIM on, my boyfriend loves it when I kiss his neck and I don't know about him, but nibbling and kissing my ear really turns me on so try that :P. It's not that hard to turn a guy on. And if you're ready, start touching him and whatever you're comfortable with.
I hope I helped and good luck and don't worry :D
--Jenna