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Q: On an episode of American Idol,They showed the simpsons auditioning Simon Cowell.Simon Cowell was singing "Don't you wish you boyfriend was hot like me".Ryan Seacrest said "He's been waiting to do that song for months".I didn't get why he would be waiting to do that song for months.I was wondering in which episode of which season of the simpsons this extract of Simon Cowell came.
*Thanks*

The host was just talking.It was just a meningless joke.He was just trying to make a comment about the song and draw attention to it.He doesn't get paid for nothing,you know.

In a google search type "the simpson episode guide simon cowell".
Look at this link-
http://www.dailyrecord.co.uk/news/content_objectid=13930048_method=full_siteid=89488_headline=-HOMER-SPOP-IDOH-name_page.html

Q: There is one columnist who draws peple like flies.She rarely lists anyone as a favourite columnist but many people list her as a favourite columnist.She rarely answers questions from the pool but she still gets tonnes of inboxes.Once someone told her not to drink snd she told them to mind their own business.She got an apology and even a rating of five for being rude.When I told someone to mind their own business I was yelled at by her and told not to be so rude.Dale Carnegie who said in his book titled "How to make friends and influnce people that people like people who make them fell important and appear to like them.She contradictcts him.Why do people love her so much?How can I be like her and make people like me?This is her advice column-http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=lorelei

She does have that I'm great,I'm a celibrity thing going.She is very glamourous and cares a lot about her appearance and stuff because she feels she's worth it because she is so great.When she feels and acts so important.people start to believe she is that.Dale carnegie said if you make people feel important,they will like you.She makes herself seem important.When people are on the good side of an important person they feel important.She says she drinks like it is something special so she tells people not to be grandmas and let her drink be she is so wonderful and she can drink underage so people should sop bugging her and join the "good side".She is just a self-promoting celebrity.She actually thinks she is important enough to put up her pics on the internet for strangers to see.SHE ACTS LIKE SHE IS A CELIBRITY SO SHE DETS TREATED LIKE ONE.

Q: I came onto this site a few weeks ago asking a question about becoming a model and how you have to look.

But, what is beautiful? Someone on this site told me "If your not beautiful, then don't bother"

But what are the criteria for being beautiful?
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Q: i am way to upsessed with my appearance it is starting to ruin my life i cant go 30 minutes without looking in a mirror and when i do im always depressed because i am so ugly but no one thinks that but me i mean all my friends say i am really pretty and i have alot of guys that like me but i never seems to get that i am pretty through my mind because there is always someone prettier that gets all the attention and it makes me feel really ugly i feel ugly all the time i don't know what my problem is but i think i got a real upsetting depression problem or something what can i do to get over how i look and how my face looks and stuff please help me i have struggled with these problems for about 2 years and i can tell that everyone notices this problem what can i do to get over my appearance

Some people and kinds of people do et labelled "beautiful" but many people do believe that people are couatom made.They believe that god has made people to look the way they would want to and has also given them the talents they would want to have but some things in life make people insecure about things they would othervise love about themselves.Men are happy being men and women are happy bieng women,so people with certain faces like those types of faces the most.Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Keep in mind that you are absolutely goergeous.Cover the mirror with a sheet and kepp saying to yourself "I'm beautiful".Remember,no one can be prettier than you.

Q: 14/f.ok. well...i think i'm ugly.pretty much every girl at my school in my grade (8th)is skinny and pretty. i'm a nice person, i have quite a few friends, and i talk to guys.. but i just feel like i'm ugly. i'm not kidding when i say this... every girl in the 8th grade has/have a boyfriend. i've never had a boyfriend. i know, i know, i just need to wait for the right guy to come around, but what if that never happens for me?? i'm 14 and i weigh 175. i don't look that big, but i kinda do.. i just want a guy that likes me for who i am and what i look like, but what if that guy never comes around?? do i need to loose weight? people tell me i'm pretty, and they like my clothes or w/e. but i just feel like there won't be a guy for me. what do i do??? help me please!! thanks a bunch!!!

LOOKS ARE SUBJECTIVE.BEAUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER.There is a theory that people are coustom made and their faces are made according to what they would want themselves to look like.
About the loosing weight,you might or might not be over weight.I don't know how much a pound is(things are weighed in kilos here) and more importantly I don't know your height.If you think you need to loose weight the healthy way.Looke for some Thai and Japanese recipies and learn about their diets.They are both very thin.You could buy Naomi mouriyama's book "Japenese women don't get old or fat".You will automkatically crave the food your body needs.Modern American fast food is not what humans were meant to live on.Eat healthy.Make exercuse fun.Run up the stairs,play sports,go swimming,jog in the pool.HAVE FUN.NO one knows why or how boys choose girlfreinds.Scientists find that phenomenon very strange.Most of the time,guys choose a girl other guys like or are considered beautiful by the rest of the world because the are famous or a model even though being a model requires more talent rether than "beauty".However it does require to be thin.Ofcoures being fat was in fashion once,but being thin is healthier and humans and all other animals were meant to be thin.Modernisation is changing that.Settle for a guy who likes you for who you are and not because you are in demand and it makes them feel like they achieved something.Insecurity is usually because of something that happened in the past.Post traumatic stress disorder and other psychological diseases could cause insecurity

Q: Friends change...How do you kno who is your real friend. I mean people can be soooo sarcastic. How do u kno if they are playing or mean it...

Take them as real friends.Once a friend,always a friend.That is unless you ran over them in a car or something.If the were once your friends they still are unless you had a fight or something.If they made a habit of being rude and mean and NEVER talk to you politely,they aren't your friends.When people say something that is a light hearted joke,the expect you to take it light heartedly.

Q: I was wondering if anybody knew anything about hypnosis and if it works for public speaking and even if you don't know anything about it do you think it would work.

http://www.google.co.in/search?hl=en&q=public+speaking+darren+brown&meta=
I'm sure it will work.I tried it once to fall asleep early.

Q: how much does she weigh?

110 lbs
http://thesuperficial.com/2006/09/paris_hilton_arrested_for_dui.html
Please tell me why you wanted to know in feedback.
Thanks

Q: I hate my mom so much she doesn't understand me and I hate the way she acts.

Talk to her.Tell heryou love her but you feel she doesn't understand you.Communication is the best way to solve any relationship problems.Deep inside you know you do love her.Try to uderstand how she feels and try to help her understsnd how you feel.

Q: Are brown eyes even pretty anymore?
It just seems like all these beautiful people have blue or green eyes.

And all the people with light colored eyes are noticed more.

My eyes are very dark brown.

I want to make them look pretty.. :\

There is a theory that people are coustom made and their faces are made according to what they would want themselves to look like.You probably will try out some color contacts and stuff and realise you could only be happy with your beautiful brown eyes.All eye colours are equal.Maybe blue and green are in fashion but that doesn't mean they will ayways be

Q: For a gay teen that's 17 years old and lives in Dallas, Texas??? I am on espinthebottle and myspace.com though I use myspace more for networking than dating but yeah... any ideas??

www.bored.com,www.pioneerthinking.com,www.crushcalculatorr.com,ww.cureboredom.com,www.discoverfun.com,www. and http://uk.news.yahoo.com/hot/100-weird/

Q: 13/f

My dad died in october and stuf... and this guy i really liked and once went out with, his name is zach, went to his funeral. at the time i was dating his brother trace , haha. and trace told me that zach only went to my dad's funeral to get out of school for the day.
this made me angry and hurt me really badly. i didnt show it at the time and idk why but i still like him. any ways now several months later hes saying stuf like he thinks he likes me and hes shown some jelouse moments and yeah. one day i asked him if he went to my dads funeral just to get out of school and he said kinda
so hes on and off liked me and i dont know what to do!!! if he ever asks me out again should i saay yes or no???
would it be disrespectful to my dad ???
idk wat to do!!!!!

He may or may not be insensitive.To some people going to funerals does not mean anything.To them a funeral is an unnecessary ceremony.It will not affect the person.Some people feel it is necessary to show your respect for the person.Others feel that just respecting the person is enough.It just depends on their individual beliefs.But it was surprising that he was honest about it.Just do what YOU want.

Q: hello. I am 13/f, 5'2 and i weigh about 138 pounds. Is that really overweigh? Also, what is the fastest most efficent way to lose weight other then the excerise and eat less? Is there a SPECIFIC exercise i should do everyday? -thanks ALOT

You can wear strap on weights on your arms and legs for a particular amount of time regularly but not to often and then just carry on with your regular activities.It's tiring but your metabolism will be really high.You sould try excercises that are fun like swimming and tennis/squash anthing you like.That is the best way to loose weight because you're doing it because you enjoy it.Eat lots of fruits and vegatables.Drink skim milk.If fruits and vegatables sounds boring.The're not.Get recipies for russian salad and thai salads from the net.If you want to eat junk food.First eat something healthy and then eat the junk food.If you live in a building and not a very high spsrtment use the stairs.Search in google for "BMI calculator".I don't know how much a pount is but muscle is much denser than fat.So is bone.BMI calculators and height/weight charts are not that accurate but they are approximate.

Q: 15/f/5'4

uhm. i'm trying to loose 15lbs by the end of January..
what kind of excersis are there that will help me loose weight? and what kinds of food should i eat?

Wear strap on weights on your arms and legs for a few hours regularly but not too often and carry on with your usual activities.Its tiring but it will raise your metabolism a lot.

Q: Im trying to stop going to tanning beds because of my fear of skin cancer..What are some good tanning lotions (the sunless ones like Jergens Natural Glow) that are REALLY good and dont turn your skin orange? Besides Jergens, thanks :]

I would stop using lotions and stuff.I think you should just tan the natural way.Try swimming.It helps you tan somehow.A lot of people dread tanning.In India people would think you were mad.

Q: What do you do when you want to comite sucicide? I seriously am considering how, but i don't know.

It is strange that a person about to comiie suicide bothers about punctuation.Only two lines?usually people who want to suicide want to go on and on and on about their problems.By now if you really wanted to you would have already found a way yourself.Try pioneerthinking.com.There is one message board called the great debate.There are many topics about euthanesia there.

Q: Ok..I'm a redhead 15/F and i really like this guy. Well he seemed to be diggen me or whatever soo one night i texted to see if he wanted to do something tom. He texted me back and said he is not attracted to redheads and that if i like him more than that than its not gonna work because he doesnt like me. I was heart broken. I mean red hair is kind of rare and i mean im not ugly at all..and i dont have the pale skin like one either. I look a little different but still i have red hair. My question is..in your opinion is red hair ugly and why dont guys like red hair?

You really shouldn't like that idiot.I would get back at him by invading his privacy with www.crushcalculator.com.I think red hair looks great.I always wanted red hair.My aunt coloirs her hair red and it looks great.I thought red hair was currently in fashion.

Q: 16/m I'm going to a dance at school next month. If you didn't see my profile, I'm a guy who wants to be a gurl so I'm goin to the dance dressed as a gurl. I'm gonna wear a pink and black corset type top and a black skirt. I'm looking for advice on what to get for shoes or any other accessories! Thanks

Is this a joke?You can wear black/pink/silver sandals with heels.You can also get some jewelry with fake rubies.You can also get some fake ruby clips to put in your hair.You can wear a red or pink ribbon or scrunchie or rubberban in your hair.

Q: *kind of a lot of intro into my question, sorry*

my birthday is in the summer, and so is my best friends birthday. my other friends is coming up soon.

my half birthday was just a few days ago, and my friends half and my other friends real is coming up soon.

so we have been saying for a few years now that at school we would celebrate each others half birthdays (and real one for the other girl) since we dont get to celebrate with each other during the summer.

last year my friends did nothing for me, but i got them something, by no means was it anything big but it was still fun and cute and all

this year we have been talking about it for weeks. they have been saying that we need to do this and that for each other and really celebrate this year. when my day came up, nothing. nothing at all, just like the years before.

at the end of the day i subtly reminded them of what today was, just in case they had been planning stuff but forgot(which would have sucked anyways) but the next day i went into school and still nothing.

so it sucks that they did nothing for me again ok? right!?!? YES!

but then that same day they start talking about what im going to do for them, they're like you need to do this for 'so and so' and ill get her this.

and then 'so and so' is like, you should do that for 'missy miss' and i'll do this.

they are like saying that i should wrap their lockers and buy them balloons and presents and all this shit.

but they never did anything for me! NOT ONE SINGLE THING! NOT ONE SINGLE YEAR!

i mean, it terrible what they are trying to do to me but i dont want to be mean or rude to them...(even though they deserve it...)

--Should I just suck it up and be nice to them even though they really hurt my feelings?

--Or should I just do what they have been doing to me, ignore it?

--Oooor, Revenge! haha, just kidding.....sort of...

It is always better to have a friend than an enimie.If you make them feel like you like them and make them feel important they will be true friends.You don't want to loose them.You want to make them better friends.Showing them that you care about them and are interested in them and that you like them is the only way you can get them to do something for your half birthday.Try to have fun on her birthday.You can have fun on their half birthdays too.Hace fun decorating their locker and stuff.If they are tellng you what they want you to do on their birthday,they expect you to do the same.The only way to recieve is to give.Remind them about your birthday and maybe you can ask them to celebrate your birthday in advance after you celebrate theirs.The only way to have a true friend is to be one.

Q: I am 13/F and not the best christian. I dont go to church but I do pray everynight. Well on Sunday my brother's best friend asked me out and I thought he was joking so I quickly and coldy said No way! Then that night I really liked a guy and foolishly prayed "lord, I know I havent been the best but please you know how much I like him could you please somehow influence him to ask me out? Ill pay the price like......you can make this week torture for me if he just does that one thing" then I went on with the prayer. Now me and the guy WERE really good friends. Then on Monday he got mad at me for no reason and one time when we were shoving eachother in the snow he just yelled "STOP FLIRTING WITH ME!" I was taken back but not too mad. Then everyone starts calling me names and a looser and stuff for no reason. I get really confused cause im actually very popular. Then I find out I failed a Math Test! I have been a straight A student since grade 1 and have NEVER failed a test. Then at lunch since I forgot my lunch the guys start calling me anorexic. I also got tripped in the hall and other stuff. On the busride home the busdriver said she couldnt see me in my seat and gave me a checkmark for it! The next day my best guy friend got mad at me for not telling him who I liked. In the end I gave him a note (a VERY sincere note) saying how I thought that there was no need to ask and he didnt need to know and how it didnt matter who I liked because im ugly and not like girlfriend material like my best girlfriend and how I was happy he was my friend and I considered him my best guy friend. also on that day the rumors kept going on and getting meaner and on the busride home I got another check mark for being a little late even though my teacher kept us in 5 minutes after the last bell. Then today I find out the guyfriend thinks im a freak and I scare him. These guys shove me to the ground and kick tons of snow in my face for a long time (they like held me down) then someone found my agenda and said that on the frontpage it says im in love with this one guy and how I think he really likes me and when I go to prove he's lying its written there in MY handwriting in ink. So now that guy thinks im a freak. My best guyfriend told people what I thought about myself so now everyones bugging me about it. I sat in gum wearing my favourite jeans and I got a third checkmark which means im getting a bus write-up in the morning. What is happening to me? Is he seeing if I can take the week or is he punishing me or what?!

God does not medel in our lives,but he does create us and probably give us the talents we would like to posess and makes us as we would like to be.Life is not a story written by God.God only starts writing it.You complete the rest.God would never punish anyone.How could he hurt you for doing something bad?Wouldn't that be doing something bad?God is fair.He loves,He will love you no matter what.He created you.

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