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Is god punishing me or is he just taking up on my offer?
I am 13/F and not the best christian. I dont go to church but I do pray everynight. Well on Sunday my brother's best friend asked me out and I thought he was joking so I quickly and coldy said No way! Then that night I really liked a guy and foolishly prayed "lord, I know I havent been the best but please you know how much I like him could you please somehow influence him to ask me out? Ill pay the price like......you can make this week torture for me if he just does that one thing" then I went on with the prayer. Now me and the guy WERE really good friends. Then on Monday he got mad at me for no reason and one time when we were shoving eachother in the snow he just yelled "STOP FLIRTING WITH ME!" I was taken back but not too mad. Then everyone starts calling me names and a looser and stuff for no reason. I get really confused cause im actually very popular. Then I find out I failed a Math Test! I have been a straight A student since grade 1 and have NEVER failed a test. Then at lunch since I forgot my lunch the guys start calling me anorexic. I also got tripped in the hall and other stuff. On the busride home the busdriver said she couldnt see me in my seat and gave me a checkmark for it! The next day my best guy friend got mad at me for not telling him who I liked. In the end I gave him a note (a VERY sincere note) saying how I thought that there was no need to ask and he didnt need to know and how it didnt matter who I liked because im ugly and not like girlfriend material like my best girlfriend and how I was happy he was my friend and I considered him my best guy friend. also on that day the rumors kept going on and getting meaner and on the busride home I got another check mark for being a little late even though my teacher kept us in 5 minutes after the last bell. Then today I find out the guyfriend thinks im a freak and I scare him. These guys shove me to the ground and kick tons of snow in my face for a long time (they like held me down) then someone found my agenda and said that on the frontpage it says im in love with this one guy and how I think he really likes me and when I go to prove he's lying its written there in MY handwriting in ink. So now that guy thinks im a freak. My best guyfriend told people what I thought about myself so now everyones bugging me about it. I sat in gum wearing my favourite jeans and I got a third checkmark which means im getting a bus write-up in the morning. What is happening to me? Is he seeing if I can take the week or is he punishing me or what?!
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I don't think that God is punishing you or testing you, I think that maybe God is showing you that there are more important things to be praying about than a date.
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God does not medel in our lives,but he does create us and probably give us the talents we would like to posess and makes us as we would like to be.Life is not a story written by God.God only starts writing it.You complete the rest.God would never punish anyone.How could he hurt you for doing something bad?Wouldn't that be doing something bad?God is fair.He loves,He will love you no matter what.He created you.
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This does happens many times. When anything bad happens and that feeling comes into our minds that 'everything is going wrong', we MAKE THINGS GO WRONG INDEED. Now this might be hard to understand but this is what it really is like. You take any example from your life and you'll see the readymade example of this concept.
Whatever it is, God is not among the ones who will pick on you and 'torture' you for sure.
So, my advice would be that keep a positive attitude. A good method to do so is to meditate. Now, at this age, I understand, tou are not quite familiar with exactly how to meditate deeply, so heres a small trick, just drink some water, lie down in bed (or you may even sit - whatever suits you) - a position which is absolutely comfortable and nothing 'bothers' you. Imagine that some energy is flowing through you relaxing every part of your body (this part is very important).Then close your eyes, and don't think about anything in general. Thoughts would autimatically zoom into your head. Let them pass away. Then, after some time (after as long as it seems comfortable), bring positive thoughts in your mind - like maybe imagine that everything is going back to normal, you are leading your perfect life once again and everything good (don't let any bad thoughts affect you).
Don't worry...Everythings going to be absolutely all right.
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You're just having a sincerly bad day. Your God isn't supposed to torture anyone, and if somehow He's the reason all these things are going wrong, something isn't right.
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Ok, first off, God NEVER punishes someone. He would never try to torture you or anything like that. It is in the bible. First of all, look at this guy, and say to yourself, is this guy a christian? Would he make me feel good about myself? Would he influence me, and help me, and never get me into trouble. Basically is this guy an overall good person. I dont think that anyone that is really a good person would shove you into the snow. I would just stay cool in school, ya know, just keep everything positive. Try going to church. If you dont know any. Ask someone at school that goes to church. My church is the BEST and I know so many other good ones. Always pray,(and I think its great that you do.) If you stay postitive at school, people would really want to be around you. Sometimes people have bad weeks. It will be over before you know it. All I can say is ask God. And you can ALWAYS look in the bible for advice. If things dont get any better, you can message me.
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Asking God to help you get a boyfriend is a selfish prayer, but I've done it a million times and never been punished. Maybe you should try going to church next Sunday to find some answers. Or, you could wait it out and see how next week is, it sounds like you've been tortured alright, I hope it doesn't get any worse. And as for that guy you like, he really seems like a jerk and you can't blame God for that!
P.S. I think your best guy friend really likes you, is he ugly? you may have hurt him
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