Ask me anything, but I prefer questions about menstruation, spirituality, feminism, and history.
However, since there are so many confuzzled, "shy," young women out there, I usually end up answering questions about dating.
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I am about 5`1 orr 5 feet im really short and i weight 105 pounds is that fat? also im 14 and i wear double zero`s in jeans and extra smallss..its just that like my sister is 26 n she looks big and weighs about the same as me? but i look MUch smaller. (link)
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That is the minimum you should weigh. Don't try to lose any weight. How can a double zero be fat?
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i'm 15 and about 5'4"-5'5" and i weigh about 110 pounds. (it goes down to 107 sometimes and up to like 111 sometimes). i know thats an average good healthy weight but i want to gain more meat. im so self concious about my arms because there so skinny, and my wrist are like that too. i dont want to sound snobby at all, but i don't know where my weight goes. no matter how much i eat i gain it on the scale but you can't see it on me, and it sucks. i've been mistaken to be anorexic plenty of times by my school counclers and even my freakin doctor! and im so done with it. so how can i gain weight on my arms and calfs? i REALLY don't want to exercise, and im probably not going to, so please dont bring that up it you can. (link)
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Why don't you want to exercise? Don't you want to defend yourself if something happens? Don't you want to be healthier? Don't you want to be more attractive? Exercising isn't that bad.
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okay so Friday i got my first period and i didnt go to school. its really gross because its like a REALLY heavy flow and it is just so gross. i have pads like carefree original.. but i dont like them. i mean they dont work well and i keep getting stains and its so gross. i dont like the brand im using and find it so gross about like the flow and everything. and im so worried like i have school on monday and this is my first period. like what the heck am i suppose to do? like .. wear am i suppose to put the pad and stuff. i dont even want to use a pad but like i guess im kind of embarresed to ask my mom to go get me tampons. and even if i DID have tampons to try like firstly, i would have no idea what to do like to get them in and like when to change them ect. AND like what brand would be good because i have like sports and crap. this is so overwelming for me because its my first time. and ALSO i hate the feeling i have like when like theres a flow because i just like feel so dirty (and since i have been grounded for like a week i've been home alot) and i just like take a bath and stuff and i feel clean. like this whole thing is just ew.
any advice??
ew. =] (link)
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Disposable pads and tampons are very unhealthy and bad for the environment. Check some health food stores for Divacups, Keepers, or Mooncups. They are rubber cups that you wear like tampons, but they don't cause TSS and they last about ten years. Flannel pads are very comfortable and healthy too.
Periods are almost always very heavy and uncomfortable for the first few times. They lighten when you get out of puberty.
Check these sites for more information:
http://www.pandorapads.com/
http://www.wemoon.com.au/
www.keeper.com
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i recently got my period for the first time yesturday. im having really bad flows. like they are extremley heavy. i asked what i should do about it on here, and everyone said it should die down in a while but its not. if anything its heavier. im pretty much disgusted and dont want to use a pad anymore so im thinking about trying to get my fucking anyoying dad who i serouisly HATE at the moment out of the house, and ask my mom to go get me tampons because pads are WAY to much of a mess.
any good brands of tampons i should use?
and any advice on the whole period thing?
i serouisly hate this like its uncontrolable. EW. (link)
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Disposable pads and tampons are very unhealthy and bad for the environment. Check some health food stores for Divacups, Keepers, or Mooncups. They are rubber cups that you wear like tampons, but they don't cause TSS and they last about ten years. Flannel pads are very comfortable and healthy too.
Periods are almost always very heavy and uncomfortable for the first few times. They lighten when you get out of puberty.
Check these sites for more information:
http://www.pandorapads.com/
http://www.wemoon.com.au/
www.keeper.com
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wre can i get a weemoon pad thing =] (link)
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http://www.yoni.com/wemoon/index.shtml
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i am 13 and i weigh 101 lbs, it's all fat, i have no muscle, i live on oatmeal, pizzia, and fruit. i don't drink so much pop mostly kool-aid and water. (link)
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101 is probably underweight. Eat more vegetables and drink genuine juice.
Work out on a regular basis - run, lift weights, do crunches. Do a minimum of three hours a week.
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i have a cold and tomorrow i have a debate tournament and im going to be speaking a lot, is there anything i can do to make sure i dont lose my voice in that time frame? (link)
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A few minutes before having to speak, use a Zicam product (I've found their Q-tips are best). They are great for short periods of time such as this.
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okay. this is really complicated.
but i need help..amd fast.
theres this guy.
lets call him dan.
we went out over the summer.
..we never kissed =0
i broke up with hima fter 2 weeks. cause we was too clingy.
now we flirt a lot. however, in octoberish he went out with one of my close friends to try to get over me. he broke up with her. long story short he might still like me.
a little while ago he asked me to be his valentine. i said yes.
do i get him a gift? or what?
pleaseeeeeeeeeeee help!
so i give him a kiss on the cheak? i dont know =\ (link)
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You could get him something small like some candy or a Starbucks giftcard, but hold onto it to see if he gives you anything.
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I'm really active, but I weigh 113[5''2]. How can i weight this much when I'm so active?
And, I want to tone my stomach & I do a lot of crunches, but they dont seem to work best for me..any ideas? (link)
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I'm 5'2" and 115 pounds. It's very healthy and normal. 113 isn't much at all.
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14/f. ok, well i've had my period before, but every stinkin time i have it i ALLWAYS get blood in my underwear. i'm running out of underwear!!! i'm not comftrable telling my mom that the blood gets in my uderwear, but i'm down to about only 5 pairs. idk what to do!! help!! (link)
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Wearing stained underwear isn't that big a deal. Get some new underwear and wear the stained ones when you're menstruating.
Wearing a rubber cup such as the Keeper, DivaCup, and Mooncup definitely help. You wear them just like tampons, but they are healthier and last about ten years. Cloth pads are great too. Here are some links for more information:
www.pandorapads.com,
www.wemoon.com.au,
www.keeper.com
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okay so this morning i went to the bathroom (good thing i did) because i realized that i just got my period. and i had to tell my parents- how embarrassing right. and my dad didnt believe me but then im like YES. dad i got it. so hes like trying to give me my moms like jumbo sized im like NO. so i didnt go to school. and good thing i didnt because i have the BIGGEST flow. its the MOST disgusting thing i have EVER experienced. and my mom WONT get me pads. but i talked her into it so i think shes going to get me pads later today. and i have GYMNASTICS tonight and we do like splits and flips and stuff and like its going to be so SOO uncomfortable and what if i freakin leak all over the place. EWW. i actaully have it two times a week so.. i really need advice on just like everything. im NOT talking to my mom about it cuz shes just a freak. (link)
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Disposable pads and tampons are very unhealthy and bad for the environment. Check some health food stores for Divacups, Keepers, or Mooncups. They are rubber cups that you wear like tampons, but they don't cause TSS and they last about ten years. When you aren't doing gymnastics, flannel pads are great!
If you mention to your gymnastics teacher that you have your period, he/she will understand.
Check these sites for more information:
http://www.pandorapads.com/
http://www.wemoon.com.au/
www.keeper.com
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my boyfriend is coming over this weekend.
my parents are going to be home.. they would never leave me alone with him. how can i like do stuff with him with my parents home? like what if they walk in or something? like i doubt they will let me go in my room with him.. maybe to go on the computer.. but theres no lock on my door. they might possibly have to pick up my brother somewhere or go out to take my dog on a walk.. so maybe then. also.. what are some things that guys like girls to do to them besides like make out hj or bj or sex. thanks (link)
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That's not at all unusual. Here's an idea: don't "do stuff" with him. Just enjoy each other's company
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alright. i've been told that i'm pretty by guys and i do have a good personality, but the thing is; i haven't had a boyfriend since 7th grade. which was 2 years ago. what's wrong with me? i don't want to throw myself at a guy because that would freak him out. i'm just worried about being jealous of couples holding hands and being all lovey for the rest of highschool. should i just wait it out & see what happens?
(which will be nothing at the rate i'm going:p) (link)
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Appearances and personality actually have little to do with being in a relationship. You don't have to "throw yourself" at a guy, you could just ask him out nicely. If you just sit and wait, nothing will happen. Take the initiative!
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my mom is irrational and manipulative. if i even begin to make a point during one of our disagreements, she turns it around on me and starts crying. the littlest things get her upset. she can't even react normally. she mopes around all day and when i ask her why she's mad, she says "oh, i'm not mad, sweetie." and then cries or something equally retarded. how do i even go about dealing with her? (link)
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When she says she's not mad, calmly give her some examples of her behavior that make you think she's mad. If this doesn't work, then withdraw from her a little. My mom has been like this for years and it's better just to let her mope by herself.
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okay, so my gf and i are pretty much getting married, we already agreed to it, however for the last few months, we have been talking about having sex.. but there is so many things that say we shouldnt, but none of them seem to be against us, such as diseases; i dont have any, she doesnt have any, future marriage; well, if we're the people getting married wouldnt it bring us closer? and im aware of pregnancy, but we really have no idea what to do... we have been going back and fourth for a while, and i really dont want to tear this relationship down if we do end up having sex...so please anyone who can give me a streight up answer, you will be more than helpful! thanks!! (link)
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If you really think that having sex would tear down your relationship and since you know so little about sex, maybe you shouldn't be getting married. How old are you and your girlfriend and how long have you two been together?
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there's this guy patrick and me and him got really close over winter break... too close, we even made out... so then i told him that i didn't like him "like that", he acted really cool about it but then the next time i saw him he called me a fatass a bunch of times, said that he hated me, and threw my cell phone in the snow.
the next day he texted me on my cell and said hey whats up, so how're you, exc.
then after him doing this for about a month he told my friend that he hated me and i was a stuck up b****, and i f*** with people until i get what i want.
but, he still texts me and says that i'm beautiful and stuff... what should i say to him? (link)
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How about if you ask him why he keeps switching his behavior? If you don't get a straight answer out of him or if he continues this behavior, find another friend.
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are theyre ways to become intimidating? and how do i courage to stand up for like myself and my friends.. like to have the balls to say something. i know i can do it to certain people but then otehr people i cant.. (link)
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If you focus on becoming intimidating, it won't happen. Usually, if you think about begin courageous or intimidating, it doesn't happen. If someone is making fun of your or your friends, say something like, "Why are you doing this? What did we ever do to you?" It's good to ask questions that bullies don't honestly answer because it points out to others that you are the smart one, it pulls the ball in your court so to speak. Also, you need to know when NOT to say anything. If an argument isn't getting you anywhere, just walk away and don't listen to those who make fun of you.
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can anyone tell me any good makeout songs for lesbian couples? pref by female artists?
10 q
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Here are some artists you might want to look into:
- Jewel
- Sara McGlaughlin
- Dido
- Norah Jones
- The Practical Magic soundtrack (Stevie Nicks + Sheryl Crow)
- Natalie Merchant
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I'm writing a story about a student-teacher crush. It's not a frivolous mood or anything but rather a serious and "heavy" mood.
Now, the teacher is the coach for the softball team and at first the teacher came onto her just a little [but not too obviously] and now she's becoming a little more agressive and flirted with him recently [basically touch his legs at a football game]. And she's very jealous of the coach's current 2-year girlfriend.
I want the story to end as the girl being the aggressive, want to make a relationship happen kind of thing (I know, not the usual teacher-bad student-victim scene but rather vice versa)
I've gotten to the point where they have flirted just very little that aren't too obvious to outsiders but obvious to each other and the girl touched his leg. And then they left and blah blah. Now I don't know how to carry on the story.
I want the next chapter to carry on the whole "little clues here and there" thing. Not a admit they like each other, go out, blah blah. Can anyone help me? (link)
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Hhhmmmmm, how about if the student asks him about himself and he reveals that he won an award for history, math or something when he was in school. She claims that that is just the subject in which she's been struggling - that would be a lie - and asks him for help.
Dream sequences are always a great way to go, especially if they influence a character's thoughts and actions the rest of the day.
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evertime i have sex with my husband i fart by my vagina. how can i avoid that? (link)
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That's a "queue" (pronounced "kweef") and most women get them. As for avoiding them, I don't think it's possible.
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