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Confused..
okay, so my gf and i are pretty much getting married, we already agreed to it, however for the last few months, we have been talking about having sex.. but there is so many things that say we shouldnt, but none of them seem to be against us, such as diseases; i dont have any, she doesnt have any, future marriage; well, if we're the people getting married wouldnt it bring us closer? and im aware of pregnancy, but we really have no idea what to do... we have been going back and fourth for a while, and i really dont want to tear this relationship down if we do end up having sex...so please anyone who can give me a streight up answer, you will be more than helpful! thanks!!
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If you're having doubts about having sex, or if you're worried about it, you shouldn't be having it. And how old are you? If you're younger than 18, I don't really suggest that you do have sex. [I'm saying this if you're young, so if you're 18 & older, I apologize.] You're young & you probably don't know that you're gonna last forever. Usually those little high school sweetheart things don't. Honestly, I'd just wait until you're both fully ready, or until you're older & completely positive. I agreed to marriage with on of my boyfriends, and we broke up a few months later. So something you think is forever, usually isn't. Just wait it out.
And as for good/bad things about sex. The only bad things about sex is that there's pregancy & diseases to worry about. If you have no diseases, then there isn't a worry there. And as for pregnancy, if you have it unprotected, [which I don't recommend], have her use birth control or get the morning after pill. But I suggest a condom. It feels better without it, but a condom's a good idea. =)
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All I can say is this: Wait until you are both fully ready. And when you decide on this, it would be wise to use birth control. Sex will doubtfully tear apart a strong relationship, but the stress of having a child too early in life may.
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Ok make sure you and her are both ready and since your NOT married YET i suggest using a condom if you don't want a kid quite yet. Don't make her force you to have sex or don't force her to have sex. When your both ready you may be hesitant but you will understand it later it proabably will not break up your realationship hope i helped you and good luck i suppose
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If you really think that having sex would tear down your relationship and since you know so little about sex, maybe you shouldn't be getting married. How old are you and your girlfriend and how long have you two been together?
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