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what should i tell him?
there's this guy patrick and me and him got really close over winter break... too close, we even made out... so then i told him that i didn't like him "like that", he acted really cool about it but then the next time i saw him he called me a fatass a bunch of times, said that he hated me, and threw my cell phone in the snow.
the next day he texted me on my cell and said hey whats up, so how're you, exc.
then after him doing this for about a month he told my friend that he hated me and i was a stuck up b****, and i f*** with people until i get what i want.
but, he still texts me and says that i'm beautiful and stuff... what should i say to him?
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My guess is that when the two of you got close and made out, it was a big deal to him. He probably got very hopeful about it only to have you dash his hopes against the rocks. Now he's got a love/hate thing going on for you, and he clearly lacks the maturity to deal with it.
The thing is, if you call him on it and point out how he's been kind and complimentary one minute and then spiteful and insulting the next, he's going to throw it right back in your face. He will point out how you made out with him and led him on, then stomped on his feelings. Maybe that's not the way you see it, and maybe it's not a fair way to describe it, but I can guarantee it's how he sees it.
So what to do? I suggest you DO call him on it. Then, when he tells you off for the reasons mentioned above, respond with three things:
(1) A sincere apology. Regardless of what's happened since then, what you did was wrong at the time. Maybe you've already apologized for it once, but do it again anyway.
(2) Point out that since that time, he has essentially been doing the same thing to you, so by rights you are now even. Offer to let bygones be bygones.
(3) Tell him if he wants to hate you, then you can't stop him, but he needs to stop texting you and acting all friendly only to bad-mouth you behind your back. If he protests, remind him of point #2 - he's spent the last month paying you back for your mistake, and you are even.
Hopefully, this will clear the air. If you still have problems with him, then you will simply need to distance yourself; block his messages, don't respond to his calls, and generally present the message that you are not interested in him on any level until he can grow up a little.
You may encounter some fallout over the situation; people that he talks to may look at you from his point of view instead of considering your side of things. In this case, honesty is your best policy. Make sure, if it comes up, that you give people your side of the events and acknowledge that while you did wrong, he's already punished you more than enough for it.
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Well for starters, i wont say your horrible for kissing him. these things happen, wether you liked him that way or not. sometimes you just get caught up in the moment and dont think. about the texts. he is obviously taking it badly. if i was in your position i would just say that i couldn't be friends with him anymore. it looks like the only thing you could do to make him be nice is date him and you said you didn't like him that way. unfortunately you cant be friends with a guy that likes you. i've tried many times and it doesn't work. even if he's nice about it you have to watch what you say! just tell him to leave you alone.
hope i helped!
angie
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i think that when you kissed him it ment a lot more to him then it did to you and that he wondered why you kissed him if you didnt like him. by the sounds of it he probly thinks you made a fool out of him and is a bit embarrassed that he thought it could be more.
maybe you should just talk to him about this and try to work it out together cos he oviously still likes you and is willing to forgive you.
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Well, you were wrong for making out with him when you knew you didnt like him like that. So, he probably is still mad that you kissed him and stuff when you didnt really like him. Other than that he seems pretty immature and ignorant. I would tell him to get a life and to talk to you when he gets mature...or i would just act like nothings wrong and keep talking to him..Youre choice.
Good luck
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Well, he's a dick, that's for sure. Text him back saying, something out of the blue, or bitchy, just to get back at him for all he put you through. Tell him something along the lines of, "Nothing much, with a guy, l8er." & Then if you treat him the way he treated you, it won't be as complex. Just ignore him, he obviously is a player and a liar, and you don't need him in your life. =]
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just tell him hes a bipolar prick and to leave you the hell alone. =] it worked for me before
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How about if you ask him why he keeps switching his behavior? If you don't get a straight answer out of him or if he continues this behavior, find another friend.
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