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my friends expect me to do for them what they wont do for me
*kind of a lot of intro into my question, sorry*
my birthday is in the summer, and so is my best friends birthday. my other friends is coming up soon.
my half birthday was just a few days ago, and my friends half and my other friends real is coming up soon.
so we have been saying for a few years now that at school we would celebrate each others half birthdays (and real one for the other girl) since we dont get to celebrate with each other during the summer.
last year my friends did nothing for me, but i got them something, by no means was it anything big but it was still fun and cute and all
this year we have been talking about it for weeks. they have been saying that we need to do this and that for each other and really celebrate this year. when my day came up, nothing. nothing at all, just like the years before.
at the end of the day i subtly reminded them of what today was, just in case they had been planning stuff but forgot(which would have sucked anyways) but the next day i went into school and still nothing.
so it sucks that they did nothing for me again ok? right!?!? YES!
but then that same day they start talking about what im going to do for them, they're like you need to do this for 'so and so' and ill get her this.
and then 'so and so' is like, you should do that for 'missy miss' and i'll do this.
they are like saying that i should wrap their lockers and buy them balloons and presents and all this shit.
but they never did anything for me! NOT ONE SINGLE THING! NOT ONE SINGLE YEAR!
i mean, it terrible what they are trying to do to me but i dont want to be mean or rude to them...(even though they deserve it...)
--Should I just suck it up and be nice to them even though they really hurt my feelings?
--Or should I just do what they have been doing to me, ignore it?
--Oooor, Revenge! haha, just kidding.....sort of...
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Don't get them anything and when the day comes be like.. i didnt get anything. And tell them how that made you feel.
Or if you really want to tell them how you feel first and if they so oh, im soo sorry!! its on backorder(lol) or something like that you can get them something for their birthday's too so they don't get mad at your.
But if you feel revenge is the write thing, go ahead.
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I personally think that you should tell them how you feel. Say.. well why should i even buy you guys stuff when i never got anything for mine.
explain to them what they are doing to you because it obviously means something to you if your going to post it on the internet.
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Honestly, I'd just tell them you're putting a stop to the entire plan because it obviously isn't working out.
You can have this conversation with them if they bring it up or just wait till one of their days go by and nothing happens.
Just explain that you're not being petty, but that it either has to be the same for everyone or for no one at all. It just won't work if you're the one spending money and time and not getting anything in return. Be gracious but firm about it.
It's a great idea, except it leaves you out if it isn't done right.
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It is always better to have a friend than an enimie.If you make them feel like you like them and make them feel important they will be true friends.You don't want to loose them.You want to make them better friends.Showing them that you care about them and are interested in them and that you like them is the only way you can get them to do something for your half birthday.Try to have fun on her birthday.You can have fun on their half birthdays too.Hace fun decorating their locker and stuff.If they are tellng you what they want you to do on their birthday,they expect you to do the same.The only way to recieve is to give.Remind them about your birthday and maybe you can ask them to celebrate your birthday in advance after you celebrate theirs.The only way to have a true friend is to be one.
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