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Q: i have a problem...i ALWAYS cry. i can cry whenever i want too. i just think cry, and i start crying. sometimes i cry when i'm not even sad, and i don't want too. it's actually really embarassing. idk why, i told my mom about this and she told me that something must be wrong and that i must be sad about something, because i told her that sometimes i started crying when i wasn't even sad. i think it's just like a stress release for me, but i'm ALWAYS stressed, and there's no way to change that, so it's really annoying. i mean i HAVE kind of been sad lately, but i've felt like this my whole life, and although i've always been an easy crier, i never cryed for no reason like i do now. i can make myself cry whenever i want, and sometimes i just feel like crying, even when nothing in particular is wrong. if something tiny goes wrong, i'll start crying. i don't know what to do! it's really embarassing, because people think i'm a baby, but i'm like um i don't even know why i'm crying right now i'm not even upset. like i'ts really embarassing, can someone please help me and tell me what to do to make myself stop crying? is there anything i can do physically or emotionally? and has this happened to anyone else before?

This happens 2 me.
i can also cry when i command myself too & yes if something little happens i do cry it feels like theres no way to keep it in. Dont beat yourself up over it tho. I mean what helps me is when i feel the tears coming i just look up for a while & it goes away,or i tell myself dont cry dont cry its okay & then i dont cry unless its really bad. im sorry i really dont know what else to tell you besides that your not the only one :]]

Q: what does it mean when someone shakes your hand and wiggles their finger in your palm? idk what catagorie to put it in either..

HA-HA-HA!
its like the penis & the girls part together as in "doing it or getting it wet"

Q: ok dont think im a slut cause im pretty far from it....but i do kinda feel like one cause i love my friends boyfriend and he has told me that if i really want him all i have to do is tell him and he would leave her for me. i think that is so mean to do though. i could never bring myself to do that to her. i love her as close as a sister and i have told her how i feel about him and showed her some of the txt messages that he sent me so she knows about it and she has talked to him about it and he denied that he would leave her. but we are getting pretty close and im scared to hurt her. another thing is that when i confessed to her she told me that she wasnt to worried that she trusted me and would never believe i would hurt her like that but its driving me insane i love him i really cant help it but i dont know what to do.........HELP

i think you should take some time & think who's more important?
1st of all if the guy is telling you he'd leave her 4 you but denying it 2 her face then i dont think he would or wants 2 loose her. If that was the case he wouldent have lied & said it was true 2 beggin with.
& your friend ;if shes a real friend & she knows your happiness is next to him & his is next to you then no matter how much it hurts her she would have 2 let him go.
but it pretty much comes down to you because you have 2 pick between whats more important...your friendship with this girl thats like a sister to you or the guy that you say you love. think wisely because eigther way one is to loose.

If i was you i would let the guy go & move on 2 someone whos free or at least someone whos not with one of your friends. I mean i know it would hurt YOU real bad but it sounds to me like hes fake his word isint anything.

its up to you tho goodluck

Q: what does 69 mean? i know it's a number but a lot of people say it has something to do with sex....??

69 haha.
when you flip over && give head to each other at the same time. if you look at it closely you could see the how the bodies would sort of be in that position.

Q: Ohkay,
My friend sophie,
she is INLOVE with my brother,
and my brother doesn't like her what so ever,
and shes always on to me how she likes him so much and all of that!!
Its so annoying.
and she wants to know what to do.
ive told her to move on but she just doesn't listen.
Shes fully obsessed, and says hes my life blah blah blah.
What can i tell her.
i mean,
my brother and her are always arguing and stuff.
its like OMG slap me.

Please helP!

ok. shes your friend & you might not wanna hurt her feelings but the best thing to do is tell her what your brother said. Tell her he's just not attracted to her like that & if that dosent work ask your brother 2 talk 2 her and let her know from his own mouth.
-in a way if they are always arguing maybe your brother does kind of like her & hes just not telling you. i know i used to HATE my boyfriend with a passion i couldent stand him & my brother would ask me if i liked him & i'd be like ewww hell no f* dat lol but after some time i finally admitted it & weve been 2gether for a yr.
ask him it wont hurt && wich ever the situation is your friend will STOP bugging YOU! :D
goodluck!

Q: I am 19/f.

I am from India.

My boyfriend is 18 and we are dating each other for nearly more than 1 year.
Initially the relationship was wonderful but lately we are fighting a lot.
In my past i had many frnds who r boys n now bcoz of dat he thinks dat i m a flirt n he doesn't even trust me.
Wen i say dat dey wer only my frnd n nothin more den dat he gets angry n starts arguing.
Now i dont even have many frnds n now days i avoid talkin 2 ne boy 4m ma class.
but still he doesn't trust me.
But he says dat he loves me a lot.
Even i love him a lot.
I don't want 2 leave him.

this sort of happens between me & my boyfriend but he does trust me a lil more.
i would advice you to talk 2 him about it & tell him try 2 make him understand where your coming from. If he still decides not to listen to you then you have to decide whats more important in the long run,your boyfriend or having guy friends.
its your choise & no matter how much you love him he cant decide wether you speak to someone or not! :))
goodluck!

Q: whats a good song to hint that i want to have sex with my boyfriend
but if he asks i want to deny it

haha. well this song is pretty straight forward
but you could just play it for him saying you like the song
its called "sex talk" by ms.sancha & silencer i think.
...[most of it is in english but some words are in spanish so if you guys arent spanish speakers *ehh* ://....]
listen to it tho i believe it would be real good for this ;]-

Q: okay im having so much touble writing a song. i have the idea of what i want it to be but i have no idea where to start. it's about a girl who likes a guy and theyre great friends. they talk a lot and would tell each other anything. she feels like she has a chance and regrets not doing anyting about it. she always thinks about him.
thats basicly it. if anyone has any ideas that could possibly help me i will gladly except them =D
thanks

well i came up with this song so hopefully it helps [if you like it please dont take it word by word:)]

-->being around him it's so great and ohh
i really like him,of that im so sure
it dosent matter if his hearts not mine
cuz by just talking to him i have the greatest time
[bridge]its so amazing how he's always on my mind
ohhh...
cant he see that i love him?
is he just that blind?
[chorus]its his eyes,his hair
his touch,his smile
the way he talks to me
it's the way he's great
i appreciate & he means so much 2 me
ohhh cant he see?
that i want him next 2 me.]
as im starring at the walls
i picture & imagine seeing him in the halls
& the conversations sometimes get so deep
it's like being in the ocean
i forget to breathe
& i feel mutualness
coming from this great attraction
i cant even concentrate
he's my biggest distraction
[bridge]...
[chorus]...x2

Q: wats folicure
a hairspray?
a gel
a cream
a what?
can i have apicture?
thanks =]

folicure ; they are pills that you take like 2wice a day,but they have the whole shampoo & conditioner line 4 it too i believe.
sure...:]
http://i81.photobucket.com/albums/j212/aprettygurl/0812080026.jpg

p.s. dunt mind dee numbers on dee pills i wrote those in 2 know what day 2 take them hehe:]

Q: whats a really good way to keep your hair healthy?
whats a really good product(s) i can use?
Is Purology a goood one?
I have damaged hair, how can i repair it without spending 100!!

please gimme more hair damaging treatment tips

i use folicure.
it has vitamins needed daily & well they are kind of nasty but i think it works && its only 10 dollars at sallys :]
...i dont know about purology ive never heard about it sorry ;/

Q: i like ur eyebrows =]

how do you do them like tat?

mine is pretty low i want it a lil high

kina like urs =]

try plucking the hairs on the bottom.
what i do is outline the shape i want && exactly were i want it [;;with a eyebrow pencil or a eyeliner.] while plucking the hairs from the bottom make sure you pluck them into curved shaped line...like in this picture you could see them better..
http://i81.photobucket.com/albums/j212/aprettygurl/deucesmmmiilikemuhlipslol.jpg

Q: http://a127.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/105/l_a3d956de87e4392362ffd477716df416.jpg

where can i buy a hair color box that will result black hair to the hair color of the girl on the left?

go to target or a cvs or something & look 4 a box with a blondish color but it has to say that its for "dark hair only" since your hair is black it wont go completely blonde but a orangish brownish color. after you use the same color about 2 times buy the color that matches the girls hair & since your hair will be lighter it should turn out that color.
if you dont want to go thru all that trouble && want it the first time i agree with the person below & i'd say bleach it & apply the color u want but bleach does mistreat your hair real bad it leaves it all stiff but only for about a couple of weeks then it starts coming back to normal :]

Q: i dated this guy for about 3 months, and then we took a weeklong break, and now we've been together for about 3-4 weeks.

but i really broke down after he said he wanted a break, and i bawled right in front of him and everything. so im starting to think this is a pity deal.

we have sex and he says he loves me and invites me over a lot but sometimes he acts like he really doesnt want to see me. like we had plans to hang out yesterday and he ended up going to a movie with some friends. and we had these plans for a week in advance because i was on vacation.i tried to act like it didnt bother me that much, but it did. a lot.

and then today he said he wanted to hang out tomorrow and now hes saying that he has MORE plans tomorrow and might not be able to.

am i just being obsessive/paranoid? or is he actually going out with me because he doesnt wanna see me cry/hurt my feelings?

umm if he's trying to only se you when he wants & is trying to keep you in his house instead of hanging with you somewhere else other than indoors,then maybe its not much of a pity deal...maybe its sex.
i think eigther he's using you just for sex when he wants it or he's with you like you say to not hurt you but eigther way you need to understand
your being hurt anyways.
make your choise & do whats best for you
:))
im sorry if it sounds mean ;//
b4 you do anything talk 2 him & ask him 2 be straight forward with you but be strong when your asking him because if you show weakness he might lie.

Q: http://cbimg9.com/scripts/08/07/1662a.jpg

how do i get my profile like that? like its kinda squashed but i also want to put a background behind the white background

get what i mean?

ask me more if yoo need more details . thanks!

i'd advice getting a "tiny default" it squishes everything together mostly && to put a background of your taste i'd say upload it to a photobucket or any image provider,find the "url" on the background code && replace it with the "url" of your desired picture.
its kind of complicated if u need any help get at me through myspace,i could help with the codes :)
-->www.myspace.com/40888226

Q: Has anyone ever tried it..do u really get money?? or is it a scam?

i tried it && it only kept making me fill out these applications & kept saying i didint make the cut to take the survey & to try some other sites for cash for survey but no luck ;; they started with the b/s that i didint qualify so in my opinion its just a waste of time.;/

Q: Well my boyfriend of a year & 3 months broke up with me June 1st. Im 15 & he was/is my first love. He was alot of my first & I was very happy with him , thing's got out of hand with all of the arguing and other things. I was so heart broken , cried everyday & it was tha worst time iv went through in my life! I still care so deeply about him , he doesn't seem to be taken it as hard as I am. Im doing alot better than I was , I don't cry alot .. im happy [ most of tha time ] & it doesn't bother me THAT BAD to not talk to him. but we go to tha same school , so I don't wanna go back ''/ Because i'll have to see him hanging around other girls & I don't want to have a bad school year because of it. Here are tha questions

-- Do you think he'll want me back or it will make him think seeing me everyday at school?

-- Wat are way's to get him to talk to me , instead of me talking to him?

-- How do you play " hard to get " .

May be silly but your answer's are GREATLY apprciated . Thanks

wow i can imagine the pain!
well first there is really no way to get him to come & talk 2 you unless he infact really comes up to you & yu'd have to wait & see. Maybe if you really would want to have him back you can push pride & everything aside & go speak 2 him. Just ask if he would consider going back with you or something && say you would be able to try & avoid the problems & arguments. If not then maybe seeing other people would be the best choise so you could both meet other relationships.
-You cant hide or change schools it's just some things you have to phase & put up with because there's no running from your problems afterall!

-playing hard to get? In love theres no time to waste playing games so my advice would be to handle it in a mature way & let things fall into place...:))
hope things work out

Q: http://www.coolchaser.com/layout/create_with_theme/21673

i saw a layout on a girls myspace like this, only the waves were on the outside of the other boxes, and the part where the waves are on now is just white..
i dont know where she got it and i tried googling moving water layouts, but please tell me if you know where i can find this layout =D thanks

i dont know where you can find it but i know how you can make it wich will be faster & easier...
look for a layout just like it but plain white boxes and right click and save the water moving thingy on these boxes. next you upload the water thing to a photobucket so you could get the url & in the other layout code look for where it says backgroundURL or something like that & replace that url with the water one.
the just save & you should have the layout like the one your descriving.
if you decide to do this but need any help just get at me at my myspace-->www.myspace.com/40888226
:]]

Q: what can i wear to a rodeo? its going to be my first date with this guy who works with me. i want to look casual and not over dressed like a cowboy hat

lol ok ,sorry the cowboy hat was funny.
anywho...yeah maybe just pants and a shirt will work but make sure the shirt has that kind of cowboy look in a way but cute and casual not all extra out there and maybe instead of boots pointy highheels to match? ;/
or well at mexico i went to a rodeo & i wore some short shorts with a kind of shirt like the one im telling you about but i did wear them kind of boots but cute ones not ugly extra alligator ones haha! && yess i had a hat to go along but of course that was mexico everyone is used to that haha jk :]]
umm other dates maybe the movies or going to the beach,an arcade,or idk somewhere with a nice view to walk along and talk...?
goodluck boo!

Q: Ok well this guy Daniel..
MANN.
i love himm.
But see were not togetherr..
And well i wanna tell him i like him and stuff but on the phone he hangs upp..
He broke up with me because well see idk whyy..
How do i talk to himm..??

ok well first not to sound rude or anything but if he hangs up he obviously dont wanna talk to you and most likely if he broke up with you for no reason within your mind then maybe he dosent like you anymore...?
feel free to disagree with me so if you think its something else mmmmm well if he dosent talk on the phone talk to him in person juss come at him & dont start by omg i love you no! just ask wassup and try to hold a good conversation so if it goes well ask him if you could ask him a question and just ask why was it that he broke up with you because you still like him and you were wondering if he did too or if that was the reason he's pushing you away
now if he dosent even speak to you in person write it down in a letter and give it to him or have someone give it to him.
goodluck boo!

Q: this guy n i feel in love over vacation, he left on my third day and il never see him again. we cant even talk cause his cell is broken and i talked to him on his step mom an sisters cells but they dont live with him. i love him and he realllly loves me but i just cant take a long distence relationship and i think we should break up but i cant even talk to him so i dont know what to do??? any help
he called me everynight until his mom n sisters left and now he has no way and i cant call him bc his cells broken. he said hed call me right when it gets fixed and hes gona make a myspace but he hasnt done either yet.
i told his sister me n him should probly break up but idk how we cant talk and she says he stil really loves me, im all he talked about on the plane i love him to but i cant take a long distence relasionship its tearing me up :(
what can i do? say whatever you think

okkk.
in my opinion your right,long distance relationships aren't the best ;//
i know i hate it when i go to mexx. && am apart from my baby even if its just a weekend hehe. i feel your desperation & pain but if you know for sure you aint never going to see him then maybe the best thing to do is tell his sister to let him know. Why would you hang on to someone who you cant hug/kiss and even worst speak too?
yeah it hurts bcuz you love him but theres always others although it may not seem like it at the moment.
Now if you will see him but not til like a long time tell him you guys should see other people just to see if you could make it thru at least til he comes back or something.
it's really up to you but between us i had a boyfriend who was 4 hours away and we went out for 6 months...girl i never spoke to him throughout those 6 months lol.
[[the difference is i didint like him at all;/]]
anywho....afterall you cant hold on to something thats invisible unless you put your best to what you know is invinsible.... pretty much do what your heart tells you!
if something goes on & you wanna talk hit me up
myspace-www.myspace.com/40888226
yahoo-dulce_niina
good luck boo :]]

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Wats up?! my name is laura people call me lauris or dee nee wich is short for dulce nina:]
i stay at south central & i can be hella ghetto but ima keep it good for this.
im usually pretty good at listening to peoples problems & i dont know exactly what to say at times or i may not say much at times but when i do it really means alot so feel free to drop me a question if youd like & i promise ill get back:]
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