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so confused
13/f
ok so i have this friend. we kind of have had an on again off again friendship.
we used to be best friends but then we got into a bunch of fites that basicly tore apart our friendship (she ended up just telling me she didnt want to be that close)
naturally, after that we were kind of in one mean fight after the other. we hated each other at points. eventually we settled into just "ok" friends (i.e. we almost never called each other and we hung out but only in groups never by ourselves). recently, we got into a really bad b**** fight. it lasted like two weeks. it would take way too long to explain what it was about, so i wont, but basicly she got annoyed with me and i got pissed at her at around the same time so we both started to hate each other.
she randomly imed me two nights ago and we worked it out. while we were talking i mentioned that one of our friends was supposed to sleepover on saturday but then she couldnt. so my friend kind of like invited herself (although my bringing the whole thing up was my invitation sort of). we hadnt done anything just the two of us in like six months, so i was pretty excited, i thought maybe this time it could actually work. well now it turns out she cant (she had a legitimete excuse). should i bring up with her that it would be cool if we could spend some more time together like we used to? its so complicated! please help! thanks all!
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suggest rescheduling the sleep over or invite her to do something else with you
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Hey. I am in the exact same situation as you, I am even the same age!
Me and my friend are going through the same things. Even know we have the same group of friends, I started to hang out with more of the... popular type? They didn't like her. So they always ignored her. I really like her, but I was really close with the other people too. She was having a really hard time getting to get used to, that I had other friends.
About every week, somehow online, we start some kind of argument. Its crazy. last week it was because I didn't talk to her in choir. The next week it was because she asked if she could sleep over and I said no, I was already sleeping over my other friends.
There was also a guy who liked me, but she liked him. He liked me because I was always arround when they would talk. When they broke up, he liekd me, it got messy! But we always worked things out, it was like the bond was too strong, we couldnt be apart!
We have really learned to work things out. At this age, kids tend to start fights?
But to answer your question, yes, i think it is EXTREMLY great you are trying to spend more time. Getting back your best friend is the best feeling ever. I know it! Hope I helped
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i'm going throught the same situation now with one of my close friends. its not the same as it use to be.. she is a different person & we never hang out as much as we use to. you should sit her down & tell her how you feel.. if she doesn't want to talk about i suggest you give her some space. let her know that you'll always be there for her no matter what & that you love her to death as a friend.
the other thing is, is that you & your friend are moving in different directions and sometimes.. the old friends you had before can't be as close as they were before. you get more friends, they get more friends & you realize that maybe you weren't as friendly or as close as you were before. good luck!
-Bess
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