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Backstabbing New Girl.
Theres a new girl at my school; Lizzie.
She seemed really sweet and over the past 2 weeks we've become [ or so i thought ] great friends.
The first day she got here, she asked me like who are good people to hang around, who to trust/not trust, who the populars are, who would get you in trouble, and what our school is like.
I told her in my school you can't trust anyone. I told her about a girl on our Team that is so stuck up and self-concieted and thinks she popular [ and shes deff. not ]And I told her my opionion about other people too. Well Lizzie ran off and told all those people what I had said about them and how not to trust me. This made me mad cause she specificly asked about these people then stabbed me in the back by telling them my opionion about them.
I don't wanna confront her about it though; I'd feel so embarressed. What should I do?
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You don't need to hang around or confront Lizzie about this situation. I think that I should tell you something that might help.
When you go and talk really bad about popular people, or just anyone, it makes you nearly as bad as you make them out to be. If you sit and hear people trash talking somebody, you think really low of them because they have nothing better to do than worry about hurting others' feelings. Don't be that person. When she asks about who not to trust, you can just simply say, "Well, you can trust me and my friends and hang with us if you want to. But I don't know other people enough to really tell you whether they are trustworthy or not." Even if that is not true, you need to say it and not start talking bad about anyone.
She was very wrong for doing what she did to you, but I think you can kind of learn a lesson from that. And remember, don't try to say that I'm keeping you from telling your opinion. I am telling you that there is a difference between an opinion, and just plain disrepectful gossip.
-TheTeenGirl
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ok i definately do NOT confront this new girl. No offense but she obviously didnt care about having a friendship with you and just wanted to be cool and fit it. If you confront her matters will just get worse because she'll see it getting to you and she'll probably just do something else obnoxious.
As for the girls you said bad stuff about. You probably should of been careful of who u said these thing to and say those things to only people you can TRUST. i mean she is knew and you hardly knew her so u cant really believe that she wont say anything. and i dont think you should apologize to those girls either. i mean you dont want to be friends with them obviously so it doesnt really matter.
I think you should just worry about who your real and true friends are and make sure you know who you can trust and who you cant
I hope i could help
Samantha
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I wouldn't confront her, it will only make matters worse. This new girl sounds like what I call a "pot stirrer" meaning she likes to stir up trouble and sit back and watch it happen. Don't give her the pleasure.
Everyone else will find this out in their own time and way. You won't have to do anything--except you might want to apologize to the people that you talked bad about. Admit you made a mistake, they will think better of you and less of her in the end. It takes a big person to admit they are wrong.
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Even though you don't want ot confront her, you should. Try writing her a note saying that you were just trying to help her adjust and going off telling people what was suppose to stay between you too..is not the way to make friends. Tell her you know it's gotta be hard switching to a new school but making enemies isn't going to make it easier. Be the mature one and she'll be put in her place. Who knows maybe she was just confused and didnt mean anything by it...and is still trying to make freinds...if she's not a total bitch to you..try being friendly. Good luck! ♥
caitie
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ook... not to point out the obvious or anything, but if you were talking about them like that and are actually embarassed about it then you really had it coming. you were being fake to them and rude to them. frankly, you were backstabbing them just as badly as she did to you. the only thing you really can do is apologize and say you were talking out of your ass to impress the new girl, then never talk about someone behind their back again, unless you say the exact same thing to their face. no point in being fake
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You should take your own advice and not trust people maybe?
No. I don't mean that.
What I do mean is that you shouldn't talk about people behind their backs even if you are directly asked.
The smart way to reply to her questions would have been to focus on the people she would want to know, the people you had a good things to say about, not the ones you were just looking to bitch out.
But the damage is done. I suppose you could just play the same deceitful game as everyone else and deny making the comments. My advice however, is to shrug it off. The people you said mean things about aren't people you want to be friends with anyways. So let it go and remember this next time someone asks you to talk about other people.
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Well, the only thing you really can do is confront her... There's really no other solution. Just tell her how angry it made you for her to do that to you. To me, (even though I don't know her) she doesn't sound like a very trusting person. Or she is just looking for friends and she thinks that by telling them what you think of them will make them like her more. (*hmm*)
And for what you said about the other people, its never good to talk about people behind their backs... unless its with someone you really know well, and trust... probably not the best thing to tell a new girl.
And as for the people who she said it to (if you care that they are mad at you) All you can do is say your sorry....
So basically just talk to the girl about it. Who knows... there might be more to the story than you know
Well I hope I helped :-)
~*Ashley*~
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