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I am 15 years old and pregnant. my boyfriend is working two jobs. but we have been fighting alot. and we barly talk any more. my parents just got seperated a couple months ago. my dad got into the whole religious thing. my mom is always out at bars partying staying at guys house having guys stay the night i eel nelgeted and alone. im not sure how to deal with this please help
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Well you are very young to be having a baby. Once your baby is here, you will have a lot more stress than you have now. Way more than me- I am 28 and pregnant. But you have a much longer row to hoe than me. You are basically becoming an adult at age 15, though I'm sure you realize this already.
As for fighting with your boyfriend, mood swings probably have something to do with it. I've been through that with my husband too. The only thing I can tell you is what we do. If it really isn't worth fighting over, try not to. It really helps more than you think. You guys need to sit down and rationally talk out your problems. Tell him how you feel, ask him about how he feels. Try to get everything out on the table.
Also, do you have an obstetrician lined up? If not, you need to get one. I can't stress this enough as to how important this is. Discuss the problems you are having at home and with your boyfriend with him/her. They can and will help you!
With being pregnant so young, the separation of your parents, and the things your parents are doing, are not only stressful, but depressing. It is possible you are having problems with depression. (Which is not good- they say you will be more likely to go through bad postpartum depression if it begins during pregnancy.)
Being stressed and depressed will never do good in your relationship with your boyfriend. Including the fact that he is stressed too- he's going to be a father soon, and he's working two jobs. If he's having troubles with his family over this pregnancy, that doesn't help either.
Is he old enough to get a home for your near-future family? If he is, that is something he needs to work on. Not ranking on your mom, but you don't need the stress of her partying and having strange men over, and you don't want to raise a child in that environment.
If he isn't old enough, is there something your parents or his family would do to help you get into a home of your own? If not, try your county's SRS (Social Rehabilitation Service). They will help you to get on your feet in any way they can. You need a home, food, medical insurance, the list goes on. They may be able to help more than you realize.
It would probably also help if you had someone you can talk and relate to. There are many chat rooms for pregnant teens. You can get advice, support, or just someone to talk to who is, or has been, in your shoes. Just search teen pregnancy chat or pregnant teen chat rooms on the net and pick one that is best for you.
I hope this helps. Hang in there the best you can. Try to focus on yourself and your baby. You need to be sure not to neglect yourself. It's going to be hard, but be strong for your child. It is going to need your love and support more than you realize.
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Mood swings are prominent during a pregnancy and your boyfriend is just as overwhelmed in all this as you are. You need to talk about what you are going to do with this child. How you are going to raise it, what kind of discipline you feel is best for the child, are you going to get married...things like that. Your mom and dad are going through this with you, but different people deal with things in different ways. I am assuming your parents are probably in their thirties...about that time men tend to have mid life crisises. Just hang in their and communicate with your man. You are going to need eachother more than ever.
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ok know that in being pregnant your going to have mood issues and thats part of the fighting with your boyfriend.. try to keep him in your life as best as possible, itll be best for you and the baby.
as far as your mother goes... try just telling her how you feel and ask her to cut down on the partying....
i dont know what to tell you about your father... sorry
good luck though
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You are in a very hard place, there are many many many places for young mothers that need help, i dont know where you live so i can not give you any number but look around because they know what you are going through and can help, Talk to your mother and Father and explain to them how you are feeling.
Goodluck, Love Emily
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