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okay me and my almost boyfriend have been talking either on the phone or through aim for atleast 2 hours a day! we talk about EVERYTHING. its weird how open we can be to eachother.. well anyhoo we have talked and talked and talked until theres nothing to talk about anymore!! for the past couple of days we've just said "so what do you wanna talk about?" and "i dont know what do you wanna talk about?" we have nothing to talk about we have past relationships music sex movies.. we've talked about everything.. i need some interesting topics that arent so ordinary because i dont know what to talk about with him anymore!! and i dont want him to lose interest. help? (link)
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Hang out with him and talk about all the stuff you guys do. Go on a date, do something exciting, try something different, make some memories. It's not necessary to talk on the phone either; don't feel that you HAVE to talk to him every night. If you don't have anything to talk about and he doesn't have anything to talk about then there's really no reason to call. You guys would still have feelings for eachother right? That's all that really matters.
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this boy used to call me like everynight and IM me and stuff and then at school be MEAN and like really rude in front of his friends. Than this weekend , he called me to hangout with him and his friend.... I couldnt because I was going somewhere. Than that night at like 2 am he called me twice.
The next day, I went for a walk and he saw me and screamed my name out of the car window and called me like right after that , and then i went for another walk and i saw him and his friend and he like talked to me for like a split second and then kinda ignored me.
Then that night, I IMed him [i never really IM him] and I said "hey is it raining where you live"
He says " Did I say you could IM me?"
I said "ugh no?"
He says "then dont talk to me"
then he says
"haha jk, but yeah its raining"
and i felt like shit.
Whats going on??
[by the way he has a girlfriend and im 13] (link)
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....... this guy is just a total bipolar douchebag. If he calls you all the time maybe he likes you and just has a really... different way of showing it. Anywho, he might have some mental problems, so I'd advise you just stay away from him.
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17 female
ive know my best friend for about three years now, he's amazing. he's jut so funny and smart and caring. i realised about three months ago that i'd fallen in love with him but i haven't told him because i don't want to spoil our friendship. he's jsut the most amazing person ive every met and i want to tell him how i feel because its eating me up inside. so how do i tell him? (link)
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Play some made-up game that could make it seem less-awkward when you tell him and also give you an "out" just in case your plan backfires and he doesn't like you back. For example:
You: Hey let's play a game. Whoever can say the cutest thing in the end wins. You go first.
Boy: uhhhh what?
You: say something cute and I'll try to think of something cuter to say
Boy: uhhh ok. Bunnies
You: I love you
Boy: I love my mommy
You: I love you
Boy: you said that twice...
You: so?
iono, that's just what I'd do. Be creative though, feel free to think of something else different; just don't throw your emotions out there expecting that he likes you back the same way because he might not.
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i got like 2 huuugeee blisters on the back of my feet from the new flats i wore on the first day of school. and like even with other shoes on after a while they hurt. so what can i do to make them heal quicker/not hurt as much?? thanks! :] (link)
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wear slipper socks next time you decide to wear flats. They're made of a really thin elastic material a little thicker than nylon stockings and they're low enough to be unnoticeable when you wear flats. Another tip if you don't wan to buy slipper socks- try putting 2 or 3 layers of masking tape on your heel to minimize the fritcion between your skin and your shoes. Wait for your blisters to heal before you wear your flats again.
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I'm so confused. I've liked this guy for about 2 years, and over the summer I didn't see him at all. He's not in any of my classes, but at lunch, I sometimes look over at him. I try not to though. I say I don't like him, but I don't even know if I do! My friend said that he was talking about me before (he was like, "remember when I made her cry last year" to his friends) I think he was doing that to "impress" his friends because he never acted like that in front of me.
13/f (link)
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Do you think about him all the time? Does the thought of him just make your heart go thud? Can you imagine yourself getting old with him? Do corny love songs make sense to you?
If you answered yes to any of these, then you do like him even if only just a little bit.
Next time you see him start the convo like this "so I heard you were telling your friends about how you made me CRY last year! Gee thanks wow, you're such a freakin niceguy!" He'll feel hellza bad and at least that'll teach him to not talk behind your back :P
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13/f
Ok, I have just gotten out of a 1 year relationship with someone. [We'll call him Jay.] We are still best friends and all, but that isnt my problem. You see, I like this other guy now, and I think he likes me. But when I say I like someone else, Jay goes all sad on me and says stuff like, "I know you hate me and I understand that you want to be with another guy" Which isn't totally true. Because I still want to be Jay's friend. How do I tell him to back off without being mean? (link)
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Here's what I'd say if I were you
Jay, you're my friend and I love you, but seriously you need to give me some space. We're not in a relationship anymore and I don't want you to worry about me dealing with any more guys because it's going to happen. I don't hate you, you're a great guy, but we're only 13 and I want to meet new guys. Do you have a problem with that?
Maybe that's a little on the mean side, but if he's going to be a littly pussy about it then let him be. He'll just feel stupid about the whole ordeal later on in highschool when he looks back and wonders why he didn't see how good of a FRIEND you were.
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uhm, ok. i started smoking last january and i really didn't want to start but my friends were doing it and i didn't want to seem uncool. well, i kinda got hooked on it and smoked whenever possible. i got caught one day and swore i would never do it again but my friends still smoke around me and i find it harder and harder to turn away from taking a drag or something like that. how do i stay off smoking for good? (link)
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http://www.lungusa.org/atf/cf/%7B7A8D42C2-FCCA-4604-8ADE-7F5D5E762256%7D/dirty_lung1_hr.jpg
here's a picture of someone's lung. This is what happens when you smoke. I hope I helped you stop
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What do u think the percentage of a high skooler getting a new band together but we all play instruments and like going all the way like selling out stadiums are? im jw (link)
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1/1000000. I'd assume that you guys would have a better chance depending on how hard you worked at acheiving your dreams. They don't just simply come true. Go out there, awe some people, gain some fans, post up flyers, organise some shows, try your best. If you give it your all and you still aren't entirely "famous" then at least you can say you gave it your all.
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There's a guy I like, and he seems to like me, too. I mean, he compliments me a lot and hugs me every day, and things like that. My friends think he probably likes me.
Well, my problem is that I just got over this one guy who I really liked for a while, and he didn't like me back, so I'm scared to fall that hard for someone again because I don't want to get my heart broken again. I guess I'm kind of in denial that a guy could ever like me. I don't want to get my hopes up, just to be let down. What should I do about this? (link)
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Life wouldn't be worth living if you never took any risks. Don't completely just push away any feelings you have for a guy simply because you don't want to get hurt. If you want to make sure that he likes you then let him make the first move, that's what I do.
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well i got rejected yesterday by the guy i like cause my friend told my guy friend told him that i like him and stuff.
after that i asked my guy friend if he told him and he said yes and he said that the guy i like said hates me and my heart broke into million pieces bu i acted like nothing happened.
and after that i told my friend about i was rejected
and then she pat on my back and then she said"its ok it happens to a lot of people" do u think its a good thing that what she said?
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She's totally right; it does happen to a lot of people and there's really nothing you can do about it other than to try bettering yourself as a person.
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My friends tell me I have HUGE boobs and it makes me feel kind of insecure, I know they mean it as a compliment, but I still feel that way. I also have glasses and there's no hope for contacts. I don't want guys to look past my boobs and just see my glasses, or look past my glasses and just see my boobs. How can I hide my insecurites better, and let my personality shine through. Please advise me! (link)
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wear t-shirts that are less revealing, and glasses that are less noticeable when you're wearing them. Some of the cutest girls I know wear glasses and the truth is that they look funny when they take them off. If you're a nice person then you're personality will shine through reguardless of how big your boobs are or whether or not you wear glasses.
Oh btw, some guys will always just be obsessed with boobs and there's really nothing that us girls can do about it.
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Well, there are too boys in my grade that have major crushes on me. Unfortunately they are both major geeks. I know thats mean, but it's true. anyway they both keep asking me out and fighting over me, but i don't like eather of them. I told them both nicely that i don't like them , but they won't listen. Then i told them the mean way, but they still don't get the picture. Plz I ed HELP.The mental kind too.LoL :0) (link)
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The answer is quite easy- give them silent torture and the cold shoulder. If you ignore them they'll go away. Avoid them, pay no attention to them, don't even talk about them.
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I have moments in my life where I'm very suicidal. I've tried it twice before and my friends stopped me.
Right now I don't seem to have friends. I just went into high school and now we're all scattered and no one cares about me. My parents don't know any of this and I'm not planning to tell them.
But yea, I have constant back aches and I'm always tired. I can't concentrate on anything. I feel worthless and empty inside. I don't wanna feel this way and I wanna be happy but I just seem to push happiness away involuntarily!
Is there any way I can escape out of this?! (link)
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Hey I know how you feel and don't tell yourself that you don't have any friends because if you keep telling yourself that, then all your real friends will go away. If they've stopped you then they must really care about you. Life is precious, don't waste it. The best years of your life are yet to come. Highschool is da bomb and college is even better!
If you need to find a way to relieve stress, pain, anger, etc, try doing sports or some form of art. It doesn't sound like much, but trust me it REALLY helps. Why would you want to beat on yourself when you can beat the crap outa someone else in sports? If you already play one, then pick up another because no one is very good at any school sports when they first join highschool teams. Art has been proven to relieve stress and even make you smarter. I don't know if I'm a very example of the "smarter" part, but I do know that it helps me relieve A LOT of stress. Try ceramics; I like punching the clay, it helps me relieve anger.
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hi. i liked this boy for a long time so one day i told him that i liked him. to my surprise, he liked me back. but one day my friend sent me a conversation saying tat i was just a temporary girlfriend..tat he'd dump me wen he got a real girl-friend. i feel devestated. i'm gonna dump him soon but i can't bear it. i love him sooo much. i really dunno what to do...how do i get over him? please don't say boyfriend becuase i'm not ready for another one right now. please someone help me out! i just need someone to talk to...someone to give me advice. thankx a lot. (link)
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Why don't you give him a taste of his own medicine and dump him as soon as you find someone better? Okay, I know you said not to say that, but seriously this guy needs to know that he's a major douchebag. Just make sure you look hellza pretty when you break up with him so he feels bad and regrets being such a manevolent bastard.
You deserve better than this guy, and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise.
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hey, im 16, gr. 12, crazy relationship wit this girl got more messed up and she gotta new bf, she wants to be friends stil cuz we were like best friends, so i cant do that cuz it hurts to hear or see her with him or her talk about it and stuff like that. itd be so easy if i never saw her but i see her everyday at school , shes even in some of my classes, i dont know wat to do, it hurts me to be around her but its killing me to be avoiding her. (link)
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I know how you feel and the truth is that nothing can really help except to just let time do the mending. I doubt that you guys will ever be as close as you were before, but if you keep on working at staying friends with her, things should work out fine.
Just don't ignore her completely because girls hate it when guys do that after a relationship.
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my friends and family say im fat and they always tease me about it when im only 103 lbs and am 5'3. I dont think Im fat but everyone else does. What do I do? (link)
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Screw them! What a bunch of douchebags. Seriously there is NOTHING wrong with being over weight. Just ignore it because being fat is totally awesome. Did you know that the ancient egyptians used to like... worship fat people because that indicated that they were healthy and well-nourished? Anyways, they're a bunch of retards and if you don't like it when they call you fat then just tell them. If they have any sense at all, they'd respect your feelings.
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I have an under-the-skin pimple on my forehead. It is really painful, red, and it sticks out too much to cover up (right in the middle of my forehead so my hair doesn't cover it). I've tried tea tree oil and other acne treatments but after three days it just seems to be getting worse. I don't have much money, but does anyone know any treatments, homemade or storebought, that could help? (link)
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Patience is the key to success. Just wait till it goes away, otherwise you might just make it worse or more noticeable. If you have acne problems, use proactive (I use it and it works miracles, no kidding). Toothpaste also helps.
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[16,f] So, in about 10 days I'm going to the gyno. I've never been and I really don't want to go. I know that part of the procedure is sticking metal instruments inside "there." Now, I'm not a virgin. I've only had sex a couple of times. My friend says that to judge what size instrument you need they ask if you're a virgin or not, and if not, they use larger instruments. I really don't want it to be any larger than it has to be. AT ALL. So my question is this, should I lie, and say I am? Or tell the truth? Or maybe just say I prefer a smaller one? Also, I know they question you about whether or not you are sexually active. Will they ask my mom to leave the room or what? Someone just please tell me what happens when you go and answer my questions. (link)
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Tell them the truth. If you lie, and they do the tests, they might think that something is wrong with your health or something. They're doctors, they know what they're doing and they just want to do what's best for you. Although I've never had that procedure, my mom says it doesn't hurt that badly; the worst part is the awkwardness of the whole procedure.
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Ok i've been trying not to call my boyfriend and see if he would ever call me,but he never had except once. But that was awhile back
So does he still like me are not????
How can I get him to like me more to????
6th grader (link)
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If it bothers you that he never calls you then tell him and see if he makes any changes. He might just be used to you calling him, so he expects you to do the calling instead of him. Don't overreact, I'm sure that he still loves you very much.
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ok so i have a boyfriend
who goes to another school
and like i really like him and stuff
but on friday we had this dance
and like it was like this huge grindfest
and like i grinded w/ other guys
and like it wasnt that big of a deal
is that considered like cheating on my bf?
xox thanks (link)
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I personally wouldn't consider it cheating. It's not like you made out with the other guys or slept with them. Don't worry about it, and if your bf freaks out then that's his problem. You didn't do anything wrong.
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