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First Gyno Appointment
[16,f] So, in about 10 days I'm going to the gyno. I've never been and I really don't want to go. I know that part of the procedure is sticking metal instruments inside "there." Now, I'm not a virgin. I've only had sex a couple of times. My friend says that to judge what size instrument you need they ask if you're a virgin or not, and if not, they use larger instruments. I really don't want it to be any larger than it has to be. AT ALL. So my question is this, should I lie, and say I am? Or tell the truth? Or maybe just say I prefer a smaller one? Also, I know they question you about whether or not you are sexually active. Will they ask my mom to leave the room or what? Someone just please tell me what happens when you go and answer my questions.
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Every thing is confidetial sweet heart your mom doesnt need to know nething and the instrument they use they use the same size for every one ... they will ask if you are sexually active tell the truth because thats the better thing to do ... i was just as scared as you are when I went ... just relax its really not that bad
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I can understand your nerves.
The doctor will ask if you are sexually active, but this is not to judge what size instrument to use. She'll know that from looking at you - some women are naturally larger or smaller, and chances are she would be gentle whether you were a virgin or not.
It's a good idea to have a conversation with your mom before you go to the doctor's. You can say you would prefer her to wait in the lounge area, as you will be half naked and in a compromising position.
You can also phone your doctor ahead of time to express your wish that the exam be done alone, and this can get him/her on your side with regards to your mother.
It's very, very important to tell your gyno the truth about sexual activity. This will let her know if there's a chance you'll need STD tests, as well as informing any advice she may offer about birth control or safe sex. If you're honest about your circumstances, you will receive better health care.
Remember, you can always tell your doctor that this is your first gyno exam and you are feeling nervous - you can even ask her to talk you through each step of the exam.
Things that will probably happen:
1. A conversation about your sexual activity.
2. She'll ask when your last period was.
3. She'll ask why you have made the appointment.
4. A cervical smear. This means she will insert a well-lubricated instrument called a speculum into your vagina. She will then swab a bit of cotton over your cervix. This should not hurt or be uncomfortable, though you may feel awkward.
5. She may insert one or two finger inside your vagina, and then push down on your tummy with her other hand to check for various problems.
6. A breast exam.
While it seems scary at first, there should be no physical pain. If you feel discomfort, let your doctor know.
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Tell them the truth. If you lie, and they do the tests, they might think that something is wrong with your health or something. They're doctors, they know what they're doing and they just want to do what's best for you. Although I've never had that procedure, my mom says it doesn't hurt that badly; the worst part is the awkwardness of the whole procedure.
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usually gynecologists working on teens know that they wish to keep many things private. the one i went to to get a pap smear(which is the only thing they'd do that would require using instruments)was very private, and took me in another room than my stepmom, and asked me all the questions, as far as i know- none of the answers got back to her, even though she had already known that i was sexually active. i definetely would not lie to them though. theyre only doing their job, and lies dont make it any easier for them. and no, they dont ask if youre a virgin or not so that theyll know what size to use!- thts bullcrap. its the same allover, and its really not that big. it might seem huge, but it really feels no different than a tampon. in all, the first visit is always the scariest, althoguh there's really not too much to worry about. just stay calm, and realize that no matter how weird it sounds- your doctor has looked at many more women than you before, and all of your concerns are nothing he/ she hasnt heard before.
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First off, they ask you if you are sexually active incase they want to run some STD tests or suggest getting on birth control. It's simply a question & something they'll take note of. It is NOT asked to know what size of "instruments" they will use for you.
As far as your mother - just have her wait in the waiting room while you go in for your appointment. If for some reason she ends up in the room with you, the gynecologist will ask her to leave so you can ask you some questions. Once she leaves, your gyno will ask if you're sexually active & other personal questions about your sexual history. You need to be honest with him/her because he/she is just looking out for your best interest. By law, everything that is discussed between you & your gyno is completely confedential unless it's life-threatening or you gave permission for it to be shared with your parents.
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I worked in a doctors office and let me assure you that your friend has it ALL wrong. The instrument the doctor uses is called a speculum. It is used to dilate the vagina so the doctor can examine your vagina and cervix, and do a pap smear.
It looks like a duck beak and they will use the smallest one. Don't worry about that. They come in all sizes and the doctor will know which one to use. They are used for many things including operations for female problems. Bigger ones may be needed to see better in those cases. That is the reason for various sizes.
They will ask if you are sexually active. They DO NOT ask so they can chew you out or choose a bigger speculum. :) They ask simply because if you are, they will give you info on birth control and STDs and make sure you know how to have safe sex. They will also answer any questions you may have. That is the ONLY reason. So, no need to lie about it. They will not tell your mom. Anything you discuss is between you and the doctor and nurses.
If you don't want mom in the room simply tell her that. Tell her being examined is embarrassing enough without her being in the room. That is something she will understand. It is a bit embarrassing but it doesn't hurt. Always was for me anyway. :)
If she insists on being in before or after, simply talk to the doctor about anything you want kept private during the exam or before she comes back in.
Here is a site that explains what happens during your exam. Hope it helps ease your mind some. You might look around on the site while there. You may find some things you want to discuss with the doctor or his nurse. If you want to ask something of them but are afraid you will get nervous and forget, write your questions down and give them to the doctor or nurse.
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I can tell you first hand they don't use different size instruments. If that was the case, we would all lie and say we wanted the smaller one lol. When they put this instrument in you, you only feel a little bit of pressure for about 10 seconds, the part that sucks is the instrument is cold! Yes if it's your first time, they will ask you if your sexually active, they will only do that if your mom is NOT in the room. Patients over 12 years of age are protected under the doctor-patient privelege act. This means you can tell you Dr. you have had sex with 250 people and he CAN'T tell your parents or he could loose his license to practice medicine and be sued by you. So whatever you tell him/her, don't worry...there only there to help you, not hurt you. Here is a website that might help you some.
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On a additional note, if your sexually active I would highly reccomend birth control if your not already on it. If you don't want your mom to know you got birth control, then ask for the shot, this way your not walking out the place with packets of birth control and the shot lasts for 3 months at the time. {Depo Provera}
Best of Luck to you and don't let your friends worry the hell outta' you about going to the Dr. I know it sucks having to go but this is your health were talking about here and what could be more important than that?
-Marine Wife
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